goddess23

assuming you guys are a couple since you said your gf im assuming this isnt tooo young of a relationship (ya no wat i mean). now the thing is if you guys cant have a decent itneresting converstaion to be honest i think its a problem. i mean if you guys cant communicate well on either phone person or msn then that means theres a problem. your partner should be like your friend! okay for example in my case my bf is quite quiet and im very talkative so ill talk and he'll listen and give feedback and he also has alot to tell me, its just natural if you're genuinely interetsed in the other person. sometimes you just simply dont connect on that level and to be honest it wont last very long. really thers little you can do. you could try asking more questions to get her to talk more or osmething but i suggest just let it flow. hopefully soon you guys will be able to hit it off tha way otherwise one of you will get bored if not both of you. thats why its best if you start off as friends first like just talking

hey well you seem to have the right approach honestly. cuz if you go looking you'll never find, i mean granted you have to make some moves some effort but it is best to just let things flow. and realize that love isnt the most important thing however i know how it feels. i truly do, and love is exciting, however it never stays that way and you need to realize that no matter what relationhsip you enter be prepared for that excitment to die down--ALOT lol.

hey. hmm...tough issue (aries get bored easily sexually apparently, im an aries too lol) ANYWAYS lol its clear that this is not something that is just recently bothering you and when trying to fix the situation your partner isnt very enthusiastic. i mean i have a very small relation to this in the sense that even though there arent any actual issues but just when i ask my bf questions its always "i dunoo" or "its fine" and wow thats SO ANNOYING. i mean sometimes i think i would rather if the reply was negative! at least it would be an opinion! now considering your age its clear that this is probably a very serious relationship and a great one when it comes to the practical issues in life. so it is something you truly have to consider however i think its clear that you should AT LEAST SUGGEST A BREAK. dont tell her its because of that issue even though it is because frankly shes going to feel as if shes not satisfying you sexually (and i know thats sort of the truth but you have brought it up before so i just think leave that for now) and shes going to feel as if shes doing something WRONG SEXUALLY. which is not a good feeling for a girl, trust me! even with encouragement sometimes we can be very self conscious, its not just a guy thing. but suggest a break and say "we have been in this relationship for so long and its so comfortable, i love you very much but i need to find out if it has become the friendship love or if its romantic love." see what she says maybe she even feels like she needs to find out if this is right because you both are at the age where you're probably looking to settle down (just assuming) so talk about how you wanna find out if this is IT, if this is what you want and cannot live without. good luck!

yeah...thers not much you can do. as long as you trust him thats the main thing. but you should have a serious converstaion on how you feel about this issue and really see what he has to say. if hes not somewhat supportive or willing to compromise it might mean taking a breka.

COMPLETELY SHAVED??! sorry but doesnt that remind you of a 5 yr old, no offence i mean one of my gfs wants to do that but i just cant imagine how that could be sexxy!

listen...we all meet people we will be crazy over. but with all honesty not all of us will end up with the one we're crazy over because simply put it just isnt practical. there are reasons that it would just not work out. but i have met 2 ppl who i have been deeply in love with...one of them was perfection to me. i believe that we have a "one" for different stages in our life. this is my own lil theory so bare with me lol. i think that we will have someone truly special to us during our childhood, during our teen/high school years, during post secondary education, during alll the different stages until we finally enter a stage where we no longer change and we know who we are and that person becomes the one because they are the person you meet when you are finally you. does this make sense to anybody lol?

i used to think it was a man and woman rubbing against eachother or lying ontop of eachother naked. but then in puberty class in gr 5 i learned the penis ACTUALLY ENTERS THE VAGINA and till now whenever i hear about the intimate details of penetration i clench my vaginal muscles and cross my legs lol!

lol o wow....okay im 17 now and my bf is turning 16 soon. basically hes a year younger than me. and i have literally liked two guys in my life and hes one of them. i felt stupid for liking a younger guy but relaly i liked him way to much to let it bother me. and we had an amazing beautiful strong relationship better than any that i have witnessed in high school (one of balance) that lasted 9 months. and we sort of got back together agian but whatever. point is, we made a great couple and i liked him alot and i wnated him more than anyone. but lemme tell u problems: he was super shy cuz he was younger which got annoying i had to make all the decisions. socially it wasnt too difficlut however it can be. and not having the same classes n stuff can be annoying as well. but really a few yrs is nothing. but rite now it sort of is but dont wrory its not that big of a deal

okay to all of you who can just basically tell the poster "you're an idiot!", you're not thinking at all about what its like to like someone! but yes, its natural for you to flirt when the sig other is not there, and if she reciprocates then its natural for that to happen. however, make sure you dont cross any lines and be a flirty friend. this way its clear you are interested, yet isnt....lol. and it keeps within boundaries, and if later she feels that she can break up with that guy fine, and if she shows you that shes not comfortable with the flriting or just making it clear theres no chance then lay off. you can still be her friend, otherwise leave it alone. so play if off.

listen...the fact that you're not having sex and juts fooling around is probably more reason for her to be so nervous. because if you were having sex there would be protection, but without intercourse you guys probably dont use condoms or birth control. and go on any website, ask any sex educator, pregnancy is possible trhough dry sex/outercourse. now the chances are EXTREMELY LOW and if shes having such anxiety so often she need to use protection whenever you guys fool around so that she knows theres no chance. and for her to tlak to her doctor and get the FACTS, maybe even get a few morning after pills just incase. just dont share this with her: that you're starting to get impatient. honestly i totally see where you're ocming from even though im a girl, and i know its tough for you to deal with this but as a girl i also know what its like to countdown the days to your period and thats really scary so just be empathetic and tell her some of the above that i mentioned.

just wanted to add since i agree with all the other posters no need to go on as i usually do lol but WHAT IS IT ABOUT BFS GIVING EIGHTS TO US! my bf/ex watever he is gave me a 9 wen we were like IN LOVEEE and and 8 now like after we broke up. but that said wen we were head over heels in luv he gave me a 9 not a perfect 10. again same thing, it would be a lie! and honestly i wud give him a 9 (still!!)

hey i must say i disagree with the last poster. i think this saying is very true. yes its a simplified version, but its true. respecting yourself means knowing yourself and maintaining personal boundaries. thats why you need to know yourself and you need to respect yourself otherwise you wont know what is respect form others. basically you need to know what you want for people to give it to you.

ughhh...well im wondering hhow old this guy is. if this person is over 25 i think this is strange behavior. you say you have talked to him so really i think you should move on this guy seems realllly weird.

i dont get it? are you depressed about your personal love life and looking for advice? looking for someone to meet online? gotta be a lil more specific

hey all. im just feeling alil down right now and just wanted to get out a few things and post a few questions about other stuff too just a post lol. well first of all im starting to think that i will never find a guy who truly appreciates me. i mean if you guys know about my love life its been weird. the one bf that i dealt with for 9 months and now we're on this friends with benefits kind of relationship but hes so hot and cold its ridiculous. and im so stupid cuz i care about him so much andl ove him so much. i mean is it stupid to feel this way? to love someone who doesnt love you. or even see my first love, we were like best friend when we were little and then he went through the whole "i wanna b popular" faze and treated me really bad thru middle school. i loved him. the thing is I STILL LOVE HIM. i mean i may not be obsessed or whatever but i still remember his birthday and still say a prayer for him that wherever he is hes alright and he probably doesnt even remember me! is this just plai nstpuid?! am i the only one who does this??! now i have another question totally separate...this guy whos been flirting with me for years has been veryyy flirtatious lately but he has a gf...his gf doesnt live around here. do you think that i should let him flirt or is it kind of wrong to let him knowing he has a gf...? okay and one more lol...i met this guy a long time ago and had amazing converstaions with him but i never got his last name and i stupidly lost his number. i told him not to call me cuz my dad got pissed because this guy was like 22 and he said he emailed me but i never got any....is there any way i could find him?? any ideas??? thankss

first of all its normal to find masturbation more pleasing than sex because you get to know EXACTLY how to touch where to touch and everything else. so dont feel bad, and i wouldnt tell your bf either but i think you could just simply start masturbating infront of him. let him watch you, and maybe he could observe...

you know where i live the doctors office is totally confidential and you dont even need your rents. just make an appointment to see the doctor. go after school no need to tell anyone, honestly i wouldnt suggest getting adivce from your 15 yr old peers! just make an appointment and get it checked out. im not sure what it could be however it really doesnt sound too serious. i mean cmon, wat if you get in a situation with a girl where you wanna go farther but now have to think omg am i going to pass something on to her?? just get it done now.

i like my guys clean shaven and totally unpierced HOWEVER i think ONE EAR PIERCING CAN BE SUPER SEXXY. like i always pic my bf with one and i know he would look soo irrisistable. but i think two just doesnt work....i mean at least generally. ive seen one guy hwo looks gud with both. but ya i think it does kinda look gay but if you can pull it off den great!

hmm...well how exactly did you find out about this? is he open about it? see i think if its something he has hidden from you (from your post it seems that way) then it is something that you need to discuss with him. i mean im not sure exactly what this relationship is like....obviously to you it isnt suppose to be open so you need to be clear about the boundaries in your relationship. you dont need to END IT just discuss it

listen, i have no doubt in my mind that you really like her and hey she probably really likes you. and maturity i totally understand: you two could have the most amazing converstaions she could probably talk to you about real issues more than with anyone else her own age. (ive gone through it!!). however, the problem that arises with age gaps especially situated in the teen years vs. someone in their twenties is that your lifestyle is so different. shes thinking university, more sexually experienced and active, she prob has a job, car and a lot of freedom. she needs a bf who can "accommodate" that scheudale and same with you. now the issue that it is illegal as everyone mentioned is something to consider no doubt. i mean hey im 17 and very much interested in a guy whos 22 so its tough fro me to look at it as illegal interaction...age restrictions are REALLY STUPID (we can get married at 16! go to war at 18 but not drink till 19!) however they have them there. so it is best to try and follow that...so no sex. and as i said realize that this realtionship comes with real problems as i mentioned. not wiht maturity but iwth lifestyle. and yes to the public it will seem stragne that a woman of this age would be interested in a boy like you however my bf at the moment is 16 and me being 17 ppl call me a pedofile! so consider these issues.

hey all. well...im sorry to post a personal thing with this thread but its connected. im 17 and im a virgin. now my first bf (i was his first gf) and i went out for 9 months and loved eachother alot at the time. we broke up cuz he wanst sure anymore...and 6 months ltaer we decided to take it really slow bcuz we realzied that still really liked eachother. okay..so we've been doing that for 3 months now. but the thing is we're not like bf/gf...we are exclusive however his feelings are very hot and cold and we mainly meet to fool aorund. now i know its not SEXX but its still for that reason. and im just wondering if this sounds like a situation where HE has no feelings for me...because i know i have feelings for him but im just wondering...

lol...games I PLAY are limited. but you know calling sometimes but not always or msging him online sometimes not always. just showing him that im having a blast without him. sometimes ill flirt with guys when i know he can see from afar (in school). when we kiss i like to tease sometimes...but relaly i dont play too many games. he plays games wid me MUCH MORE lol.

look...i realize a lot of people here said NO WAY basically. now not that i disagree with them but i think ppl arent thinking about how you really feel. i do believe that you have real feelings for this other guy (and considering your age makes that even more probable). but...one perosn did mention break up with your current bf. now this is because its obvious you're not happy with him. so breka it off. as far as going with his friend, definitely dont do this immediately. take a break, and see if the reaosn you wanted to let go of your bf was a super attraction to this other guy and in reality your bf was great or if it was really a relationship that you didnt feel was good anymore. so breka up wid your bf because your not being fair. now the fact that this guy just SNEAKED A KISS is not a very good sign. but lets just say you two have something real. dont become his gf immediately. talk to him if you want but give it itime. give yourself time and tell that guy that. later on it might be okay ot date him. so take it slow.

hey guys well girls thanks for the replies! okay well...i will admit AT FIRST it did drive me crazy for like the first week i was completely confused. but as i said before i can say that i am happy yet i am prety sure that this is not IT. however, then i think well hmm...do i really wanna be with my future husband right now?? btw, we're both still virgins, oh and hes a year younger lol but yeah we get together to fool around...but we also just spend time together or chat online. its clear that there are feeligns and we both talk all the time about how it is exclusive...but yet it is also clear he doesnt want to commit. now the question about if i had a choic between a committed relationship and a non committed (like this) i really dont know. i feel as if it wouldnt mmatter. me and him were very committed and it was great and il oved every moment yet i can honestly say i dont really want that again right now (at this point im just tooo busy for a serious relationship). but im so scared about getting hurt or just hurting mmyself. thanks for your replies though, there were some reallly insightful comments that made me question myself. and after it all i think i can honestly say that at the moment i am content with myself and the situation. thank you all i must say there was something amazingly interesting and insightful in each post which is quite unusual!

hey everyone. listen...my bf and i are well...okay we went out before 9 months great relationship he got confused 6 months went by he liked me again and we decided to igve it another shot but very differently. and i can honestly say im happy with the way it is. its basically like friends with benefits except it is exclusive and there are realll feeligns involved. its not like a BF/GF relationship in the sense that we're not waiting at eacohther lockers or spending everyyy day after school together ya no ? but the thing is hes really confused. like hes so hot and cold and its like everytime we get together afterwards he doesnt really care. and it just goes through these highs and lows! i realllly like him i mean hes the only guy ive ever liked since elementry lol seriously! and theres something special there, we did once love eacohther and its obvious neither of us can let go yet its kind of dysfuctional! im just wondering, im happy with it its just that it hurts to know that he might be changing his mind everyday on how he feels about me. do you think i should just go wtih the flow because i know for my high school career this is ITT? i know this sounds horrible but i know if this ended tomorrow my lips wouldnt touch another guys until a new chapter in my life began. seriously! if you were in my shoes, what would you do??