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sorry but i must be frank. its three months hun. if this guy is like this now he isnt going to change. and he either loves you and is a jerk or doesnt love you and doesnt care. either way, its not good and i really think you're settling big time. this is just un necessary aggrivation. you DONT NEED IT. this is suppose to be the "i think you're perfect faze" not "the fighting is all your fault faze". you might want to tell him that clearly he isnt ready for a gf and you dont mind being just his friend, because right now it looks like thats what he needs.
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loll im gonna ask a question sort of about love. okay so thers this guy who ive been friends with for a pretty long time...about a year. but its been really intense...like we've gotten relaly close. hes been super caring, super sweet, i mean just an amazing guy. recently we ended up fooling around for the first time (he ended up stroking me). and it was arite but it felt awkward. that day we talked online and were like we just got carried away (i agreeed). i told him i hoped it wouldnt hurt the friendship. anyways...so time passed we're still pretty close but now hes turned into this somewhat of a jerk and when he is nice its in a very flirty way and hes very touchy with me and now its like because he sort of got that far with me now thats all he sees. and alot of my guy friends who have liked me, after i rejected them they became jerks. and this guy i didnt reject or anything but its gotten totally ruined. the thing is i really like him...alot. sometimes ifeel im in love with him. but the kiss sucked lol. and it makes me wonder if i just love him as a friend. im soo confused help!
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Ex being random/weird..
goddess23 replied to blackcat21's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
how old are you? im assuming you're young...but if this is your ex and you havnt spoken to him in so long im wondering how young you are lol. doesnt matter much but just helps the general idea. anyways...it does seem odd. but honestly why do you care? i mean obviously you've been doing well at nc for so long. at this point you should be pretty much over him. just give yourself the whatever attitude for now. honestly it does seem like strange behavior, however, it wasnt strong enough for you to make any real conclusions. honestly its the curse of being a girl--we overanalyse every single lil thing a guy does/says. dont stress it to much, unless he shows you any more strange signs i would say leave it alone. obviously, he made a much stronger statement blocking you then being in the same airspace as you considering you guys are in the same school. i dont understand...i mean do you guys have classes together? in any case right now its wayy to early to make any conclusions. -
hey. well the one guy ive been with...hes cum twice in one session. I think its normal. and blowjobs yeahh its nervewrecking but after the first couple of times you'll be more relaxed. just try and make sure your teeth dont scratch. and as far as cumming in your mouth its up to you what you do. the guy doesnt realllly care, the fact that you're doing such an act he knows is something that takes alot from you and he'll appreciate that. but dont worry about hurting him and communication is the key. later on talk about the experience, but for the first time dont put too much pressure on yourself. just relax (i know its harder to do than say) but try. just dont bite down or anything or let your teeth scratch it lol...other then that its fine dont stress about being "good" at it right now because its your first time and any first is awkward.
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omgg that poor girl!
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lol i just couldnt help laughing as i read some of the posts. makes me gigly. but yeah...ive heard of guys saying bad blowjobs or even bad sex. it shocked me! i mean its like they said they can be "not turned on" by either the girl or the actions. but i mean how can you tell? they still have an errection and orgasm! grr! but yeah...just dont bite down and mix up the actions those are the only two things that i think would make it less enjoyable.
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to be honest we never forget special people from our pasts. however, i do feel that it is very important to have fully moved on before dating someone new. what does that mean? when you know beyond doubt that if your ex came up to you and asked you to go out or whatever you know you would say no. that you dont want to have a relationshp with them. but that often doesnt happen lol.
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honestly its been a year. i think its imperative that you get your feelings out there. i mean at least if you do you can either start something or realize its time to move on because right now you have hope and hope is the worst thing (yes i know thtas totally weird but i think you get what i mean). you dont have to be completely direct yet. you could flirt with him BIG TIME and see if he reciprocates. if he does then you have good reason to ask him seriously how he feels about you. you could even be like "you know i used to like you alot" and see hwat he says. try and ease into some type of conversation because i think its been way to long to just be totally in love with this guy.
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to be quite honest, even if you're brought up that way, you need to be comfortable with the person. now perosnally i kiss people on the cheek when greeting them; my girls and my gay guy friend. i dont kiss my guy friends on the cheek despite the fact that IM VERY FLIRTATIOUS. so if someone is kissing you on the cheek to greet you, i would say it is a sign of flirting. however, do look for other signs before making any conclusions.
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listen. this is still A VERY EARLY BREAKUP. to be quite honest, if you were being fake in the relationsihp, to be quite honest you probably need some time to know who you ARE. i know that sounds completely whack, but trust me you need some time to yourself, know yourself and love yourself before you can be in a relationship and give part of yourself into it. look its only been a week and you need to take a break, try nc, seriously and see if you really cnat live without this guy. trust me it takes a long time to move on but with time it gets easier.
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agreed, that body language is difficult to interpret in a number of circumstances. however, actions speak louder than words, and it doesnt take a rocket scientist to understand "hmm...this person just aint feeling me". even if someone is shy, they will not PULL AWAY unless you did somehting inappropiate. body language is very important, but we can never give ourself advice, right? so sometimes interpretting these VERY SIMPLE SIGNS becomes an anayltical 2 hours. as long as your HONEST WITH YOURSELF (which isnt always easy), body language is a clear sign of how someone feels unless their mood is REALLY not good because they just went through a traumatic experience. but other than that, body language is the best indicator.
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agreed! she seems confused (i was recently in the exact same situation). but dont push her, shes confused and she needs to be done with this guy. look flirting is harmless and you can flirt to a limited degree, however dont make any moves. when you know its over between them, only then can you really put any moves on her. and its fine to ask her about her bf and how she feels about you-put it out on the table, and see how shes really feeling.
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eek. i recently had a kiss where my mouth was inside his and i hated it! it really depends on the individuals and to be honest as long as you REALLY LIKE THE PERSON the kiss is usually great. but techniques: start slow. light kissing is necessary before something intense and throat probing. simple things that show you care like brushing her hair out of her face or kissing her on other areas of her face is a great way to make her feel special. as for actual kissing, make sure no slobbering. not appealing,so keep control on the saliva and swallow lol...um what else...change it periodically otherwise it gets boring and suck on her tongue...thats kewl. lol.
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sound romantic and hot. i mean it really depends on what kind of girl she is (in terms of if she feels the same way). in any case i think it would be totally fine to call her and its very possible that this could lead to something. dont feel shy be yourself (we can tell) and have a good time. give her a call and be specific. wait a day or two. just call when you have time!
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hey all. okay...so well its been a long time but long story short my first bf who i was with for about a year and a half...the relationshp is finally over. i mean...to be honest we may still end up making out one day just for the hell of it lol but yeah its over. the thing is...i reallly loved him and he was SUPER ATTRACTIVE. the thing is...i still LUST FOR HIM. im largely over him, honeslty but then i see him in the hall and my heart pumps a little faster as if we never went out and hes a celebrity! is this normal? how long do you think about your ex, especially in a sexual manner after breaking up??
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well from your post my advice would be to tell her how you feel. this girl really did feel for you and you were the one to cause the breakup for the most part. at this point the person shes seeing is probably a very early relationship. better to tell her now before its too late. now ofcourse im not in this relationship and i cannot know the best thing but that would be my two cents. if she loves you, she would be glad to know that you feel the same way. and if she doesnt at least you can take it with a grain of salt and know its time to move on and not waste time on false hopes.
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hey. well its tough at this age. i mean i recently got my license but its rare occasions that i get the car. i mean honeslty im always with my parents and i have so much school work theres barely time for a social life. but i still do movies or dinner with friends. or we went to screamers for halloween which was loads of fun. and had the car an all but its tough. you could try all ages (clubs) but rents can be a problem. it realllly depends on your parents and your friends but not having a social life is COMPLETELY normal at this confusing, fustrating age.
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hi all. okay so i could use some advice. well...theres this guy who i have been friends with for about a year. we are VERY CLOSE i mean we were like best friends almost but there was ALOT of flirting and to be honest a lot was from him. he is super caring and loving and i really like him but i was honeslty confused about how i felt about him and if i would want to be with him in another way. well...the other day he was at my house and he started to touch me there through my jeans and i felt awkward but i didnt stop it and he eventually put his hand down my pants. we kissed for about a half a minute but that was it (horrible kiss btw lol). i mean afterwards i felt completely weirded out. i think he did too. that night online he msged me saying he wants to go back to just being friends and what not. and i totally agreed and said i want that too which i do. but now its like the dynamic of our friendship has changed and it is a bit awkward still. i mean we were very flirtatious and now we can barely look eachother in the eye for too long. what should i do? i told him that i really want him as my friend but its just changed. do you think that it ruined the friendship? did he only want "that" from the friendship (now that hes being a little cold)? or is it just too early (this happened 2 days ago). any advice would be helpful, any opinions. thanks alot.
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hi. to be honest i dont feel that i must be married to before losing my virginity. to me its more about being true to myself and being in a committed, healthy, loving and in love relationship. and love doesnt happen quickly (thats another post lol). so to me its not about marriage, but it is a very important thing that should be held on to until you KNOW IN YOUR HEART its right. if you feel you MIGHT POSSIBLY have regrets, then dont do it. simple as that for me.
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Annoying Sayings About Break Ups
goddess23 replied to ONE SXXY LADY's topic in Getting Back Together
hi. well i may be young, and maybe naive. however i disagree with a large amount. i agree that a relationship does require a lot of work, however for a lot of people on this forum who are under 25 probably not interested in marriage and busy with school and settling a career a relationship simply cannot be very high maintenence and i think thats why often young relatinships dont end in marriage. now was far as break up cliches go, i think a lot of them have earned their right in the world, and frankly they help put a persons life back into perspective. for example "you're better off without them". now when i personally give this advice i remind them that ive been there and i know darn well that it doesnt feel that way and as the dumpee you feel completely betrayed and foolish. however, this is true and it reminds the dumpee that they are a great person and are better off without that person because that person makes them feel like this (usually in a crying or fetal position!). and yes, that saying that if someone really loved you and cared for you they would be with you! its not rocket science! and its unrealistic and fooling oneself to believe that the person does love them but simply cannot make any sacrifices or be with them because of other situations. sometimes life is simple, we just make it complex (especially girls). we analyse every word that the guy told us to come to a very vague conclusion! and about dashing hopes. THE ONE THING THAT HELPED ME MOVE ON WAS TO LOSE HOPE. because when you have hope you will not move on and constantly ask yourself what if. that time could be better spent healing and moving forward with life instead of dwelling on the idea that they might get back together (even if there is a possibility). and break ups. they say that when the going gets tough you get too fustrated to deal with the situation. i doubt that 10 breakups during that 2 year relationship really say "we are marriage material!". but hey thats my two cents. -
hey well i sound alot like your gf. i mean in the sense that at first he was very loving and very into me and what not he would talk about marraige and everything and it was great but as time passed my love grew while his somewhat declined. and its sometimes he truly loves me and other times he doesnt. and he broke up with me because he just felt guilty that it simply wasnt matching up. and frankly, if you're feeling this way, i think it is time to let go of it. not to mention that in your situation there are ALOT OF OTHER things that are causing problems or stressing the both of you out such as the long distance and the arguments. i would suggest truly talking to her because i can tell you as the dumpee, i was hurt no doubt but i was happier knowing the truth, not being lead on. and you know what, maybe right now you think you're sparing her pain but you're not, you are leading her on. now grated, you yourself are confused (my bf at the time was too, because there were no problems and he did still care about me) but unless this feels like just A SHORT faze, then its better to let go. and later, maybe things will change you guys will chagne you might get back together or just stay friends or maybe not. but no matter what you have to FOLLOW YOUR HEART. you guys are YOUNG, hey we're not really meant to meet the ONEEE yet. this is my theory: the reason we usually settle down later and find the "ONE" is because we are constantly changing and usualllly by the time we hit our mid 20s or 30s, we KNOW WHO WE ARE, and then we can know what we want. give it time see how you feel but dont drag it out too much because its unfair to both of you
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NO you dont wnat to smother this guy and this way it keeps you both with your own lives. you shouldnt feel DEPENDANT on them too much. granted, it would be nice that you guys do make plans at least once on the weekend at least every 2 weeks. but i wouldnt stress it too much. chill for now. it is too soon
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hey thanks ofr the replies. well, to be honest these feelings towards my bf have been there for awhile. okay i understand i cant go for the friend...damnnn but should i just go with the flow with my bf. i do have feelings for him, what i dont like is that i dont think his feelisng are nearly as strong as mine.
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straight up sex matters. if not sex, the chemistry, sexual chemistry. it is what separates a friendship from a relationship. whether its just kissing and fondling or hardcore sex, any type of sexual relationship is what defines it as being more than jsut a friendship. and in a marriage, when you're wiht this person for the rest of your life and are suppose to stay faithful to them, the sex better be damn good. thats why it can be a dealbreaker. now sex is good based on the feelings you ahve for eachother, its not the skills so thats why you can be abstinant before marraige and not say "well i havee to know if we're compatible in bed" although it is somewhat valid lol. and how often you want to have sex is somewhat also part of sexaul compatiblilty. but yeah sex does matter, or a better term, sexual chemistry is what matters.
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hey all. well i need some advice. some wise words. basically HELP lol. well as some of you might know about my lil love love basically its been this one guy for about 2 yrs it was greatt we went out for 9 months he went on vacation came back confused we broke up. got back otgether 6 months later and now have been together for almost 7 months. he used to really love me. i mean i could feel it he would verbalize it i mean the whole works. this time around it has been different...some aspects good some bad. but he definitely is not romantic anymore, and i love him deeply but theres something missing in him. im starting to feel like i dont even love him anymore because he simply does not love me. and i will always care about him but at the same time...how much can a girl takee? now he has a friend and we met got close over time and hes really cool really funny really sweet the whole works. we are really close and its just gotten better with each passing day. the thing is...he flirts with me like crazy and hes says stuff that makes me think its more than a "ur hot" kinda crush. i actually like him a lil bit...but if i did break up wid my bf could i even go for this guy? am i leading him on? what should i do?? any advice or opinions are greatly appreciated