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  1. goddess23
    hey. well im a virgin, but somehow know alot about sex lol. first of all about your questions, its very normal to feel like this. relax, if you love eachother, then you're not going to be BAD. what makes you good is not necessarily how long you can last. if you know that with intercourse you dont last long, focus on foreplay FOR HER before getting into it. give her oral, finger her, and even prep her for those. that way she can be satisfied from that. about her cumming, no theres no way to really tell, most girls do cum, but its such a small amount, its impossible to tell unless your in the middle of oral or something. but just look at her facial expressions and such, that will give you an even better answer. about continuing after you ejaculate, you can, probably not intercourse, but you could still pleasure her in other ways, however, when you cum, you usually will not reallly want to. so thats why its best if you pleasure her first, lots of foreplay.
  2. goddess23
    although i cannot verify the once a cheater always a cheater thing since ive never been in that situation, i can tell you that from your post, you would be punishing yourself by staying with him. first of all, you said yourself, that the relationship hasnt been all that great for a COUPLE OF YEARS, thats enough to tell you to end it. and the fact that he was cheating for 6 months. i think hes more sorry that he got caught then regretful. if it was a one time thing i might let it go. but a 6 month affair means he must have had an amzing connection with this person. you would be putting yourself down in more ways than one to go back with this person. it seems that you have some type of obligations keeping you in this relationshp. are there children? is it the sharing of finances? it seems like theres something else keeping you there, and ofcourse the length of the relationship makes if feel comfortable. but it hasnt been good, if you can, get out of it!! this is not healthy for you.
  3. goddess23
    has your sex life been a little boring lately? maybe she felt it needed to be spiced up and if it is a fantasy that you have mentioned to her then she probably did it to make you happy. but i dont know your relationship, i wouldnt call it cheating in this case, it wasnt like she went and slept with her friend behind your back, it was like a threesome, which if you mentioned you would enjoy then she probably thought it would be a good idea. in a WAY its cheating, but i wouldnt go that far, it seems like something she did for you. however, you know your wife, and you know how you feel. if it did bother you, you should talk to her about it, but dont accuse her of cheating of anything. i think this situation is not one that needs to be dealt with through conflict. if it bothered you, tell her that you just dont feel comfortable with something like that, and see what she has to say. i think this is an innocent mix up.
  4. goddess23
    i dont think any generation is to blame or is worse then others. i will admit that our generation is probably lazier due to the advances in technology. but i have to disagree with peanut. i mean the idea that we are more selfish? that if we dont get things right away and such. sounds like we're 3 year olds. i dont believe our GENERATION is like that, there may be individuals like that from all generations, but i woudnt say our generation is generally like that. about our parents making sacrifices, dont you think when we have children we will do the same?? yes parents have done alot for us, but i think we would do the same. i think its a little overboard to catagorize any generation in a way, because i think its just a matter of being more open, or being forced to be more open about many issues. the idea of relationships, i think its all an individual thing, nothing to do with the era we live in. as you said peanut, that you are different, your partner may be different but it has nothing to do with the generation, you both (im assuming) are from the same one lol. our values are changing, not necessarily becoming wrong. maybe its the place i live, maybe its the culture im from, but i just dont see what you all see.
  5. goddess23
    im no expert but first of all the chemicals could make a difference, the anxiety your feeling could be effecting your period as well. after one day i would just relax, calm down, if you didnt miss any pill then theres nothing to worry about. your body is definitely going to have some kind of effect from the different pill, so this might be one of the ways it does this. alot of women dont realize that even on the pill, stress, anxiety, eating habits, they can still effect your period as well. so dont worry about it.
  6. goddess23
    Well it seems like you already know lol. this is not just being friendly he obviously wants your attention and you're obviously looking very deep into every little sign. hes definitely flirting, if he does this wiht just you then he probably likes you. i dont know what you want from this but if you like him you should send him back some signals. but ya its all in fun, but yes he is flirting.
  7. goddess23
    hey. i agree things have changed, although i dont think everything that has changed means our values are slipping, i mean i feel that some things that have changed have been for the better. about people living together before marraige and such, i think because of times changing meaning peoples lifestyles, this has become normal. in the old days, its not like at 18 you go to school and live on your own, you would stay at home and work or get married, so the oppertunity or convenience of living with someone else just didnt seem necessary. the virginity issue, its like the whole world has become more sexually open about it. honestly, theres this show called my first time, and there are some old people that talk about their experiences of losing their virginity (BEFORE MARRAIGE). it may be a LITTLE more common, first of all because of contraceptives, as well as the openess and exposure of sex to us. but in the old days people did it, but it wasnt talked about or broadcasted in a fairly positive light. there are exceptions, i mean i dont know about your backround, but it seems north america has always been the more open nation about it. my parents were both virgins as well but it was more the culture and where they lived. and its quite the same today in those countries. so i really dont think that todays generation has lost its values, there are exceptions, but i wouldnt generally say that. i think that it is more open, and that it is more casual, but not necessarily more common. the gay thing, i think its about people realizing that judging is just wrong no matter what the issue. i personally dont think its right, that it goes against nature, whereas sex before marraige really doesnt when you think about it. but i would like to keep my virginity until marraige although i dont think its wrong if you do before as long as you know in your heart you do the right thing. yes times have changed, and to the naked eye, it may seem like its a loss of character in the generation but i think it has alot to do with the way life has changed as well, making it alot more grey then just black and white.
  8. goddess23
    lol, you sound alot like my bf. but he is really shy, i mean everything makes him turn RED, and he always says how hes STILL shy around me (this is after 8 months lol). so yes i would say that most girls would take this as shy, but it sounds more like "i really dont care" lol. my bf is both, but you seem to be just the i really dont care one. but about your question, yes most people would take this as shy.
  9. goddess23
    gawd, this is what scares me about my bf. he just turned 15, and we've been dealing for 8 months and love eachother alot. but compared to the beginning, he doesnt email me nemore, other then that nothings really changed, but that sorta bothers me. because i know hes young and that he might just one day change his mind about how he feels about me. the only thing you can do is talk to her about how you're feeling. it is good to think about how you feel, but it seems like you know what you're feeling already. who knows, maybe her feelings have worn off as well. the fact about her past behaviors means she has real problems, and that you cannot be responsible for her erratic mind. you need to follow your heart, if she tries anything like that you CANNOT blame yourself, because you really wouldnt be responsible. so that you cannot use as a factor in your mind. now about my bf, does the fact he doesnt email me anymore mean anything?? also, he was on vacation for a month, and i think hes cmoing back today, but it scared me because i didnt miss him that much, like i know i love him and i know when he comes back im going to be soo happy, but its like i was so busy i just didnt really sit there and WISH HE WAS HERE RIGHT NOW!! and it scares me that he might have been the same way, but honestly i know that these things fading away is natural, but the way your feeling is serious. you need to talk to her.
  10. goddess23
    hey. okay, my bf is my first bf and we've been together for 8 months now, and we didnt do anything sexual other then kissing until after 6 months. and he does go pretty far with it, hes a guy and gets carried away, i let it go pretty far, but im definitely not ready for sex, and he knows that we've had multiple hour long conversations on the topic. i told him that i dont want to be fingered, that oral sex is the boundry that he should use. but he does get carried away, and i sometimes do have to say "we have no protection". and he knows not to cross certain lines. so as a girl i know that i let my guy go pretty far as well and if we didnt talk about it we would probably be having sex by now. so you need to talk to her about sex, and how she feels about it, and you mentioned that you have talked about it, but i think you should go into more detail, but i dont think you should just do it if the moment comes. if she told you shes not ready then respect that and dont just get caught up in the moment. trust me it is sooo hard to say "ok...we should stop", trust me we WANT to, but someone has to responsible, and i have to say when thats it. so talk to her about it again, tell her that you're not sure if you should go further and that you want to talk to her about it. she'll be very happy that she has a bf who cares. but honestly a 2 week relationship at 15 shouldnt even be as far as it already is and it does sound like just lust. but you need to make those decisions and be responsible about things. but i know how hard it is for me to, and im a VERY RESPONSIBLE person, so maybe she just gets caught up in the moment herself.
  11. goddess23
    first of all, you either dont like your current bf in that way (which is why you're trying to justify your feelings) or you genuinely dont need a relationship AT ALL right now. the fact that you're interested in your ex again means that you do want a relationship just not one that is so serious. but the only fair thing you can do right now is breakup with your current bf. you can take some time to think about you, and if you really want to get back with your ex, which i wouldnt recommend right away. you need some time for yourself. but ya, you need to tell your bf your not ready for such a serious relationship right now, and that you need to be there for your family as well. and take some time, think about if you really want to persue something with your ex, but my guess is that he is more appealing right now because again your looking for justification of your feelings.
  12. goddess23
    he disagrees with the fact that some of you mentioned that the physical attraction will later come. i put up a long post, and still agree with every word. but as i said the confusion that hit me is sparks without the physical, but ya just keep reading my post lol cuz i really believe in what i posted. but you need to know yourself and figure out how you really feel.
  13. goddess23
    i find that just using my hands and very lightly touching my clit is a good way to get started, and use my fingers and hands to do what feels good and right. however, ive never actually fingered myself, but im young, doesnt take ALOTT lol. and thinking about ACTUAL personal experiences is much better than watching people screw on tv or something, or stupid pics of only naked girls. gotta get into the frame of mind.
  14. goddess23
    ahh, thank you red, thats what i needed an honest opinion. ya i know the knife thing is nice if you know the guy would like one. as well i was thinking hes kinda young for one. so ya...now ill decide between the bball or colonge, thank you very much. i was just wondering if either was tacky. see, he lives right next to the courts, and i know him and his friends play, but i dunno if he has his own ball or not. and i heard a nice one is about $25-30. so i figure ill just add a movie pass cuz theres this one theatre he likes to go to with his friends. but ya i was just wondering if it sounds a little tacky....so hopefully it isnt lol. but that makes me feel a bit better. and about the condom thing, well...it was for our six month i kinda let the physical go a little further, but not sex sex ofcourse, too young. but ya i sorta already went as far as im gonna go for our 6 month anniversary. but ya, again, anymore ideas are totally welcome, i would love to hear about anything that most of you really thought was sweet or something. because, honestly as a girl, it just feels like theres almost nothing that is a for sure deal when it comes to gifts for guys.
  15. goddess23
    hmmm....pocket knife never even thought of that...it sounds good, just i would never picture something like that for him. well he loves bball so i was thinking to get him a nice bball and movie pass or something. something he could use and would like. i dont want to get him clothes, hes pretty picky about his clothes. he does like colonge, so i was thinking to get him one, but i think its not really personal. and right now with back to school a gift certificate he could use but it would have no sentimental value at all. but the pocket knife...i gotta think about that one now...the thing is our school doesnt allow em and stuff...like it might be a hassle for him to keep it on him all the time. but thats nota bad idea, thanx. i would appreciate anymore feedback, as well about the bball and movie pass thanx!!
  16. goddess23
    a 17 year old wanting to screw a 15 year old is not disgusting. thats barely any age difference. my bf is a year and 4 months younger, b/c im born earlier in the year (march), so when i turn 17 march he'll still be 15, and wont turn 16 till that july, 4 months later. honestly 2 years is NOTHINGGGGG, 15 year olds are basically fully developed really. thats nothing to think about, that kind of age diff is nothing.
  17. goddess23
    lol i know you're not trying to be conceited. anyways, about how you feel about this woman. now generally i would just say that it cannot work without the physical attraction, i feel its the physical+emotional that equals the spark and so called "MAGIC!!". but you seem to feel that without the physical attraction to her. i mean, i have a friend that im so like a twin of, and we get along great, but the physical attraction and sparks just dont fly. it seems that right now you're at a stage in your life, hate to say it but mid life crisis, where the attractive part is REALLLLY important to you right now. especially since you're not ready for LOVE, just lust really. i think if you know you just cant see a real future or relationship with her, that you should not tell her anything really just make sure not to send any flirtatious signals, and let her be that friend you really need. however, you mentioned kissing which means you cant just switch now to "friend" mode. you should tell her that you really are not ready for a relationship at this point, and that your really fresh from divorce, and tell her that you would just rather have a friend than a partner. honestly the way it sounds, you know already you cannot really commit to her, unfortunately to YOU shes not attractive. because we know that to a 50 year old male, she might be the hottest thanggg, lol but to you she just doesnt float your boat. its okay, its natural, but it does confuse me the sparks. you really need to decide if that physical is something you can really overlook. honestly you should be with someone you think is absolutely beautiful. but it just seems right now, she just doesnt fit it for you. it does seem wrong, but it really isnt. and if anyone says differently than they're probably being hypocrite because to everyone, to some degree, the physical does matter, its just to different people, attractive is differnt. i think really think about how you feel and try to let her down in the way i mentioned. plz keep me posted, bye.
  18. goddess23
    honestly at times i believe star signs. and there may be some things that are true, however, i dont think that it is responsible for love connections. that a scorpio and a leo just dont go, while a scorpio and aries do (just making these up as i go lol). although i think some people really do fit their characteristics in the horoscopes and if two people fit their horoscope but are not suppose to get along, it may be somewhat true, but it doesnt mean that you guys are destined to be enemies. its just for fun, and maybe it does have some truth, but i dont think it can make or break a marraige or anything.
  19. goddess23
    hey everyone. i really need some help. okay, my bf went on vacation, and hes coming back like realllllly soon. his birthday was on the 31st of july, but i just dont know what to get him!! he turned 15...and hes not exactly one of those sentimental kinda guys. and hes a guy. i mean its not like jewellery or flowers or NETHING will do lol. i just want to know out there for guys around that age, what would you appreciate?? i have a few ideas in my head, but i would really like to know about gifts you have received that you really liked or something. i plan on spending about $40...also we've been dating for 8 intense months, how much should i spend?
  20. goddess23
    Well it seems to make you feel uncomfortable, so the best thing to do is to talk to her. tell her that you were surprised and didnt know how to react when it happened, and that you werent all "ew" about it because shes your friend and it wasnt a bad thing, but that you really dont want to hurt the friendship in any way. that you still respect her, and your fine with her sexuality just not in the same boat, and dont want to persue anything.
  21. goddess23
    flirting is like the first base of cheating if your making a conscious effort to let this person know you're into them romantically. flirting is not just trying to make friends, its a way of trying to get someone's attention. i personally am a flirtatious person in my personality. meaning, i laugh and giggle and lightly touch and compliment alllll my friends, guy or girl. its just me, and sometimes it can be taken as flirting. but when i really flirt, trust me its serious lol, so if i FLIRTED with some guy then its just not right.
  22. goddess23
    flirting like that consciously is cheating. making a friend can be done in other ways. complimenting a girls breast size and mentioning how to hook up is not necessary to "make a friend". now how to go on from here? come on, do you really need to ask? you both want the same thing, on the same page so whats the problem. go on dates, have sex if you both are comfortable, and do the fling thing. who knows maybe you guys will want to commit later on, because honestly whats the point otherwise. but for now you guys want the same thing, so just keep it going. go have fun, but wait, you never mentioned if you broke up with you gf!! hopefully thats not an issue....
  23. goddess23
    i honestly believe that EVERY girl/woman fantasizes about being with another girl/woman. we connect in every way, and its just one of those typical fantasies. i would say you're still straight it is just a kiss, wanting to explore it is not wrong, its very natural. not to say that its not possible to be bi or les, but at the moment i wouldnt worry too much about it. unless the urge to be with other girls all the time starts to occur, then it might be an issue to think about seriously but right now, you were just curious. not pulling away is fine, its nothing to stress about. i have fantasies about being with other girls, but its just a fantasy, not something that i really think about or feel i NEED to do. but i would like to explore or experiment one day with it. but hey hopefully im with my bf forever and wont even have to. but ya, i would like to hear if other girls feel the same way, that it is a fantasy that most of you have. experimenting is not a sign that you are les/gay/bi, but if it becomes something you always want to do, or feel starts to overwhelm your thoughts then its something to think about. but now this gf of yours is close, and if you dont want to get into something serious with her then you should talk to her, but if you feel that experimenting a little more (since it was JUST A KISS lol) is something you would like to do then you guys should talk about it. see how she feels, if she really is bi or whatever and wants a relationship with a girl.
  24. goddess23
    im feeling blue, i know how you feel. guys seem to change their minds so quickly. although i will say that girls my age do too. i think thats why these teen relationships rarely last, people dont know the true meaning of love. honestly im so scared, my bf is 15, and we're both eachothers firsts everything. im one of those super mature people, and im fine with being with him forever. and he says such sweet things too, but sometimes i think hes so young and that hes a guy that one day he'll just decide "ive only kissed one girl, wtf??!" and want to do the same thing. thats my biggest fear, that he will fall out of love. try and just remember that you had a wonderful lasting relationship that usually doesnt take place at our age, and you have precious memories to last a lifetime. and maybe it will be for the best if you guys do end up parting ways, it opens new doors for both of you, and you both will always be special to one another. try and not feel blue lol. and its not even over, and im glad you're gonna take "our" advice, at this point it is for the best. i know im young, but ive always been the relationship specialist, and from what you posted, this is what you both need.
  25. goddess23
    i just want to say that im a very flirtatious girl. as in my personality is often mistaken for flirting. trust me, when i FLIRT, i reallllllly flirt, but for me complimenting or touching lightly or eye contact is how i treat ALL my friends. girl or guy. i compliment people if theres something i notice, and i think it makes people feel good. you know us as people, we never remember the people we compliment, but think about it, you could probably in your mind remember at least 80% of compliments you have gotten. my bf, now him, i flirted with seriously when we were in the liking stage. so he knows that my flirting is serious lol. and he knows my personality is just like that (just like my mom lol) and one day i asked him "do i flirt?" and he said "yes, but i know you're not REALLY flirting, and i love you and dont want you to change". now im not saying that all girls are like me, but consider the relationship you have with these girls. if they are your friends, they could just like you as their friend and like things about you. now girls who actually flrit when they have a bf i think just want the attention. just want to feel as if they're still desirable or something. either way they shouldnt. but i just watned to tell my story because some girls are really like me, i know i am lol. and btw, why do you say only girls, guys do it too, ive witnessed it, but i assume they think im flriting too lol. but still, guys with gfs flirt as well so dont make it a gender general when in reality it refers to both genders.
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