goddess23

well im not sure what you're inquiring about. i mean do you want to know if you should go on this trip? or do you want to know about how to deal with the trip when you go? about going on the trip, if you guys are friends and all, theres no harm, and with her little brother meaning its not like a couples trip. so thats fine. about the trip itself and about dealing with the whole situation, well....i realize you dont want to look like you want her back, but if its been awhile (you didnt specify how long you guys broke up), then you should talk to her about the two of you on this trip. i think this trip is a sign that she wants to pick up the relationship again, or maybe she just wants answers on the two of you. but you should talk to her so you know exactly whats going on. it wouldnt be so far fetched to ask her "soo, what have you been doing for the past __ months??!" and just act interested. not like a jealous bf waiting for answers but as two friends that just wanna have a cute fun yet deep talk. honestly at least this way you can know where you stand and stop just waiting around and let yourself decide "ok, we'll just be friends". either way, if you guys do end up talking and some real clarity or closure is gained then you should reveal your true feelings about missing her, and letting her know that you needed to know what was happening and where you stand so you can make a decision for yourself. it seems you guys had a talk about sleeping with other people as something that hsouldnt happen. but honestly a break is a break. it means you need to explore other possibilities and unless you both were very clear about this little rule, you shouldnt use sex as the measurement. i mean maybe she has had a deep connection with someone but hasnt slept with them. i mean sex is not necessarily the measure to use here. ofcourse its different and you might want to make sure shes tested for stds if you guys do decide to get back together. but thats a different thing. but i think this trip is a good idea, and a good oppertunity to get yourself some answers.

its a crush. at this stage its a crush. if you dont see her again for awhile it will ware off, i know it doesnt feel like that now, but it will. it happened with my current bf, i saw him after awhile and we just clicked, and i couldnt stop thinking about him for a month, and then we were in the same school so it developed. but before that, same thing happened but we didnt see eachother for awhile and it just went away. so right now it is a crush.

theres no need to make it part of your agenda. when the time is right, it will naturally come up in conversation. and that means either you or her can bring it up. it may just spring up, i know its weird to say, but she may tell a funny story about her childhood, and then you could ask a relating question and it would just go from there. its gr8 that you want to do that, open up. alot of people my age dont do that with their partners, they take every moment to f*** in a corner lol. with my bf, we have talked about everything from family to sex. and it was hard for him, because he hasnt had the best childhood, he doesnt open up to people, so i was very happy and felt privledged to be that person he could trust like that. it really isnt something you need to tell yourself "i must know to be with her", theres no pressure, this is what people mean by measuing friendship or relationships by time. because these little conversations come up now and then after time. when you're in the mood, it will just happen, trust me.

hey! well first of all, everybodys different. i mean my bf is like that--thinks hes gonna spend the rest of his life with me. but not every guy is like that, and even if he doesnt think about it, doesnt mean he doesnt love you. the thing is, when you love someone its hard to imagine yourself with anyone else, but you dont necessarily truly think rest of your life. i know its confusing, but its true. i mean thinking about a definite future is not necessary as a sign of true love. ill admit most guys probably do think about being with a girl in the future if he really loves her, but he may not think "bridal dress and engagement ring". why you feel that way, yes probably because you love him. although, some people just really like someone and can fantasize. so it really isnt necessarily a true key, it all depends on the people. i know how you feel, its allll so confusing. but its obvious you're worrying now because life is going in a new direction. dont stress about it if he hasnt thought that far in. he may just be going with the flow, and expecting it to just keep going. so him loving you is all you need, and if he doesnt think long term, dont freak out about it. but most people do think somewhat into the future, because when they see themselves 10 years from now, hopefully they see you still part of that life.

hmm...well if shes your gf, then twice a week is not enough. with my bf we see eachother all the time in school, spend an hour after school, spend about in total 1-2 hours online at night, so its a little different. ill admit, neither gender likes to be smothered. they start to pull away, and thats why i would advise anyone to keep your own lives. because if you do break up at least your not like "what do i do now??!". too much cuddling...hmm...i dunoooo....i guess it could be if you do it at the wrong time, in the wrong place. i love the fact that we dont do anything infront of people, meaning theres less oppertunity and its more intense. ya, dont be too clingy, ever, never a good idea.

lol well it seems most guys do like the look and feel of it. i personally dont really like it enough to go through such pain. too bad for my bf lol, maybe it is because im young i feel sooo ouch about it lol, but its just that area is so sensitive i cant imagine what waxing that would be like. but word of adivice, lol, my friend one day she did a home waxing kit thingy, and before trimming her pubic hair waxed it---little pores of blood. she said it was agony, but ya, if you have the money to keep it up, and feel the pain is tolerable, and you do it because its something you really like, then do it. but i personally dont feel that its necessary. as long as its trimmed and kept clean for hygine, then theres not much to worry about. i really dont think too many guys care, but it seems to be a turn on for most of the posters here.

seriously being 16 has little to do with it, especially considering the person who posted is pretty young too. and the guy that says "i like you" is not necessarily the guy we'll go for, but im saying eventually he will need to say it if anything is going to happen. i keep saying, you dont do it from the get go, but eventually those words need to be said if a girl is going to consider anything.

hey thank you so much for your opinions. honestly, like him being away, i knew he wouldnt be keeping in touch, i was extremely busy myself, family and wedding stuff, so it was crazy, and i didnt really miss him which kind of worried me. i mean if i felt that way, he probably did too. but ya, the week before was realllly strange. its just making me go insane. but dontknowwhattodo, wow, ya those are red flags for you. honestly in my relationship its not really a red flag, but its just starting to worry me that i havnt even seen him around or ANYTHING. like i see his friends around the area, so if he were here i would probably see him. im actually more worried about where he is than anything. but ya i think i will ask him about what happened. like ill ask him when he came back, and if it was awhile ago then he'll definitely have to do some explaining. i dont even want to call him though, i think thats his job. when he comes back, i mean considering i wasnt sure when he was suppose to come back. but ya best of luck with your guy, and i wish myself good luck to lol. but ya, i think he should've made more of an effort to try and send me just one email so i know when he left, when hes coming back and how hes doing. thanx everyone, i appreciate all replies, and more are welcome.

hey i just wanted to say that with my first bf (im his first gf as well)who ive been with for quite awhile now, 8 months, we've both kept our own lives, we're not like twins conjoined at the head which is how alot of couples around us are. they only last so long. and i have to say that it does keep the fire going, but because hes the same way as me, i sometiems feel unappreciated, and when i see the way other couples are ALWAYS TOGETHER F*******, it makes me feel as if we're losing it. i know its not true, but sometimes i just feel that way, and the idea of keeping my own interests im happy about, but it doesnt necessarily bring the best results. he may do the same and depending on the person you are will still feel unappreciated.

OUCCCHHHHH, sorry just the thought makes me cross my legs lol. but seriously, the strip is the only one i would even a CONSDIER! waxing it all off makes you look as if you're a 5 year old!! thats not sexy AT ALL! its disgusting, i think some guys might be scared in this society to see something like that. the strip of hair is still arite, but i dont think its very nice, i think just having it cleaned up is good. pubic hair is a sign of puberty, sexual maturity. how can you want to get rid of that? well thats my opinion, but one of my best friends says once she grows up, she wants to get every grain removed, i was like ewww, but everyone is different, but why go through that type of pain (ofcourse it hurts, the skin around there is extremely sensitive--for a reason lol) for something truly un necessary, even to society.

my post comes from experience!! seriously im a girl, dont you think i know what a girl wants!! yes we like a little chase, and a few games, but i think 9/10 girls will say they need the verbal confirmation eventually. we dont necessarily need to be with someone we're not sure we TRULY have. do you have any idea how much torture it is? and her accepting you presense is a way for you to find out if she likes you. but dealing with your feelings towards her, look for encouraging signs, flirt, play, but eventually get your feeligns out there, for anything to happen, they will eventually have to be put out in the open. how can ANYTHING happen if you never really tell her you like her?? seriusly, some of you really are giving ridiculous advice!

hey i dont mind hearing it. i posted for honest replies and i appreciate your input. like as i said, in some ways i understand him not emailing me cuz his mom might get suspcious or something (hes 15...so still tite with parents). but its the time now, or more so the week before he left. and ya i do want to tell him about it, i think i will but it was his birthday and i dont want to nag him about anything either, like should i wait for awhile? hes never been good with calling or emailing. like we talk allll the time online and we see eachother alot, but his parents keep us from talking on the phone and the emails just dont come for awhile now. so this trip i wasnt really expecting it, but i was hurt that out of the blue i didnt hear from him the week before he left. now it woudnt surprise me if he left early, but it thats the case he wouldve been back for awhile now. but ya i think i will talk to him about it, because it did bother me, more so the week before then the time he was away, and now not knowing when hes even coming back. i wanted to plan something for his birthday, but right now, i feel as if whats the point if i dont even know when to do it. any more comments are greatly appreciated!!

hey, i think i might have just been scarred for life when it comes to this, but when i was a kid, i remember i went with my aunt who got it done, and she screamed-alot. the strip got stuck, and it was just horrible. honestly, i dont think a brazillian is sexy, trim it or waxing some, but not like one lil strip down the middle. i dunoo, i just dont like it...and i dont think most guys really care either as long as its kept well for hygenic reasons.

this decision could affect alot. it seems that finanacially as well as in other areas its tough. i dont think a separation is needed, i think you both should talk about how to make the situation better. from your post, i wouldnt recommend a separation, you both need eachother more than ever. you should however tell her that if she doesnt start changing her attitude about things, that you will be forced to leave, because her behavior is starting to become destructive. maybe conselling, if thats an option. otherwise, i would try to stick it out a bit longer and see if anything can be done before going to such drastic measures. you married her for the good and the bad.

lol...ya im missing him alot right now but it could be pms. cuz the weird thing is the whole month he was away i didnt miss him THAT MUCH. but now its driving me crazy. but i mean should i give him the benefit of the doubt that he was too busy to send me an email or should i be mad, and show him that it bothered me?

hey. ya i agree with dhf, that you should ask yourself how you feel about this issue. about him meaning it, if he isnt ready to say it in person he probably doesnt. or maybe hes just waiting for the right moment, on the verge. dont push anything, the moment will come. im a really mature 16 year old (my current bf of 8 months is also my first), and i know that i am in love, and so is he. its not age that really defines it, but the people you are. its nothing to stress about, he definitely cares about you alot, and he may feel that he does love you but isnt sure himself which is why he hasnt said it in person yet. my bf started it online and stuff too. and one day the moment was right when he dropped me home from school and he whispered it in my ear. it was soo perfect. so he probably does, i woudnt worry about his sincerity but as everyone said, he may not be sure of what love really is.

i agree its interesting, but my crush who is now my bf used to give me tons of mixed messages that kept me guessing, and i was going to just give up. i finally couldnt take it anymore and told him how i felt so he finally told me and asked me out. honestly the chase is fun, but dont carry it for too long, you should let her know for sure how you feel otherwise she wont be sure and wont know how to react herself. honestly why wouldnt you want to tell her, yes flirt and have some fun with it first, see if shes interested and such, but eventually the definite verbal confirmation is what a girl realllly needs. we know that guys dont like to always express their feelings but we realllly need you to sometimes.

hey everyone. okay, im feeling a whole array of emotions right now, and i would like some opinions. my bf of 8 months whom im veryy close to went on vacation last month. this is what happened, we saw eachother quite a few times, had a blast, talked alot online and everything. july 7, he was online, msged me, but i was away and that was the last time i saw him online. he told me he was suppose to go on the 16th, but i didnt hear from him AT ALL that whole week before he left. i called his house like the day b4 he was suppose to leave, but nobody picked up. so that time went by, he told me it was suppose to be for a month meaning this monday that just went by he shouldve been back. now its the 19th, soon to be the 20th, and i dont know what to think. he hasnt been online or anything. i havtn gotten annnnny news from him. he went really far, and he would have to go to an internet cafe and everything, so i know his mom is really weird and its fine, but what could this be? do you think he would ignore me? i dont want to call him, i mean he should right? i dont know what to do.i almost feel as if he may not even come back. his mom is crazy that way. but i just dont know if i should call, if i should do nothing, theres not much i can do. and when he does come back how should i react? its just worrying me now. plz help, im feeling so confused and scared.

just because he used to look at some girls boobs and looking at your age, im assuming hes around that, meaning him looking is VERY NORMAL. now the fact that he respects you and doesnt really do that with you is not because he isnt attracted to you but because he truly does respect you. and im sure he does think about you sexually as well, but its not all he looks at. you guys are a couple, and you shouldnt be worried about this. who knows, maybe your friend was trying to make you feel a little uneasy. it could be just because shes jealous of you having a relationship. i dont know what kind of friend she is, but that is not necessarily true. even if it is, its not something to freak out about.

im 16 now, and my first kiss was with my first bf who was even my first dance. so my first kiss was just like a month b4 i turned 16. but, ive known him since gr 8, and i spent alot of time getting to know him as a friend and 2 months into dating finally kissed. i feel that i reallllly need to connect and love someone to date them or kiss them much less go far sexually. i know the pressure you're feeling but try to ignore it. i recently started exploring more sexual things such as oral, but we've been dating for 8 months now. this isnt the typical teen relationship. at 14 and 15, even at my age (most people) change their interests quickly, dont have any idea of what real commitment and care for another is. dont be scared about being a $lut, but more about knowing in your heart you have no regrets. you should realllly know the person before getting involved with them, emotionally or physically. and i agree that i love the fact that my bf and i are eachothers firsts that make it so much more special. if you kiss or make or get sexual with every guy you "date" for 2 weeks people will label you as a $lut, and you yourself will feel violated. know who you are, set your own ideas of when you would be comfortable with it, and make sure you know who you let all that hapen with.

right now, definitely give her the benefit of the doubt. i mean is there any possible reason she would be AVOIDING you? seriously?? if not then you really should relax, im sure shes busy, maybe just not in the mood to talk because now its starting to sink in. but if you guys see eachother in school and all, dont freak out about it. youve already called twice, so leave it alone, let her call when shes ready or maybe she'll be online or something. just relax, seriously! lol

first of all the fact he probably isnt experienced means its fine. now in my case, my current bf is my first and im his first gf. we had liked eachother for awhile, but i couldnt take it anymore so i told him i liked him. ofcourse you could flirt and see if he says anything, if not then just let him know. i was just like "hey you know i like you" and hes like "who dared you?" and im like "nobody lol..." and hes like "are you serious?" and im like "ya" and then our friends came. so i was like *beep*. but he liked me so one day he walked me home and told me he liked me and asked me out. so for me it ended up well. its no big deal to tell him you like him. and you didnt mention if you're experienced or not. but telling someone you like them should just feel like a relief. you'll feel sooo much better. its not like you have to send em a card or anything. and the idea of sending a friend isnt always the best. but a note or something works as well. i think just playing truth or dare or something is a great way to break the ice as well, even just you and him online or something so its totally just you and him. dont stress about it, its all fun.

ahhh i never said its a good thing. read it over man! i know you were thinking to get responses from ppl more in your age group, but i think that would only give you one perspective. the television shows, yes its true what you're saying, but it seems like technology is the main culprit for all these changes. metal detectors in school, dont you think some kids kept a knife or something in their bag? but its technology that has made it more obvious these things are happening. and btw, those type of issues are very rare. as i said before, it seems like the area i live in or the culture that im surrounded by may affect my opinion, but for me these issues are very rare. and although i admit it is more common, i dont think you can blame our parents, or us as humans. its more the circumstances that technology and lifestyle has brought that make these things more common. like today the average age to get your period is 12, while when my mother was growing up, most girls got it alot later, it seems like everything is fast forwarding. just re read my posts PLZZZZZ, read it CAREFULLY.

hey i didnt mean to insult you, it was just i disagreed with your post. the idea of my age, i agree that age does change the way you see the world, but i really am one of the most mature 16 year olds you'll meet. even i realize that times have changed since i was in elementry, and things are changing, people are changing. it seems everything is happening at a younger and younger age. but dont you see some of the points in my previous posts? i almost feel as if you're disreguarding my opinion because of my age. i dont know what to say, i really am sorry if you felt insulted, but it wasnt meant as an insult, but as an opinion. i encourage to re read it, as i will yours. im not saying that nothing has changed, but it just seems a little harsh to make assumptions and generalizations about any generation.

i really dont know what it could be, but you should see your doctor about it. if you've been engaing in sexual intercourse or something maybe its an std, but i realllly dont know. the best thing to do is to ask your doctor. have you asked you dad or somone?? i know its hard, but you should check with a doctor, or maybe just try searching online for possible answers. dont worry too much, but you should get it checked out just to make sure.