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BTW, there isnt a chance in hell that you'd contact her and it would make her want you back. trust me, been there too many times.

go running, exercise, work hard, save your cash, feel good about yourself, dont worry about her bud. theres plenty more women out there and many of them could be just right for you. do it all for yourself, youll be amazed at how you feel, and be it good or bad she will notice it, maybe it wont be too late. hit the bars, have a good time, play a sport, join a club, get your mind off her. its all you can do. make the best outta life man. GL

Gonna try to keep this short n simple. Ex is coming back thursday the 26th. weve been talking every few days. she asked me a few weeks ago to go on a small trip with her the 29th. stay overnight at the lake and bring my little brother hes 12, "im 24 shes 22 BTW". Weve seen each other a few times in the past 2.5 months, got along great both times, both of us miss each other, she is worried about things ending up the way they did with us last time after our 4.5yr relationship. I dont even want her back if shes "been" with anyone else in this time weve been apart "we broke up pretty much saying lets take some time apart and see what happens". I want her to want me back the way i want her. I dont want her to know how much i miss her. and again, if she has slept with anyone else i dont want her back. we agreed that this wasnt about that type of thing and i have been true to that. but i havent asked if she has done anything like tht and dont know how to or if i should. but i dont want to waste my time to find out she has, i could never let it go and i know that..... so... any tips? even if just on part of it. just want this all to go as smoothly as possible. TY

no, college students are all comin back now so my landlord wants to find a tenant while the markets hot. hes showin this place tonight. too late anyways, i went and signed a 6month lease on tht place the other day. I'm just gonna stick it out here for a little while longer. I dont want to push anything on her and things have been pretty decent between us lately, she calls a few times a week and she's real excited about the trip we're going on. originally i thought this was cruel of her and that she just wanted to see other people but i know how much she loved me and like she said the other day. if we make it through this it will make our relationship that much stronger. shes worth taking the chance, just hope what ever happens is for the best.

Well here goes, my girl and i had been together almost 5 yrs. things began to get pretty stale between us. when i graduated college she asked me to move to this town to be with her till she graduated. i spent a few months looking for a decent job in my fienld but found nothing. i settled for a decent paying job in a field quite unrelated to my major. I had been quite depressed, i blamed her for the situation i was in "not vocally, but emotionally". its my fault things fell apart. i let them, i was unhappy, but christ i love the hell outta this woman. neways. we broke up, i was fine with it, then 3 days later i realized we were so good together, we never fought, had so many common interests, and i just love the hell out of her. so i told her i wanted her back, she said "i cant, im afraid things would just end up like this again and maybe this is just the way you are" so for a month after that i did EVERYTHING i could to prove to her how much i love her and that i wanted to make things work. so my Bday rolled around a few weeks after and she called to say she wanted to see me, we hung out, had a great time, got teary-eyed and kissed. this just strung me out more. so i proceded to call her and tell her how much i needed her back. she pretty much shut me down.... Heres where things get weird. im miserable in this state i hate it here and there is nothing for me here but her, BUT she is home on vacation and has been since we broke up, she is coming back in 2 weeks and wants to see what happens when she gets back according to her. my lease here expires at the end of this month and i needed to make up my mind. stay here sign another lease and see what happens with this girl or move back to where i want to be and get on with my life.... but i want my life to move on with her, and honestly i think she wants to do the same, she called the other day and asked me to go on a trip we were planning be4 we broke up. so im torn to pieces, i dont want to be strung along anymore, i want to be happy, but i dont want to make the biggest mistake of my life by moving away and never seeing her again. so as of today i put a downpayment on a condo here (for rent) and told them i will sign the lease.,... i only have a few days left to truly make up my mind. If i decide to leave i will lose my security deposit (no big deal to me really) and i have a place i could stay in the area i want to live. should i stick around? is this girl toying with me? she says she wants to see how things go when we can see each other whenever we want. im so damn confused right now. man i love this girl but i dont know if this is a chance worth taking or if i will be kicking myself in the azz everyday after this for stayign here. sorry this was so long but please any input u got would be great.