Themegchan

Hey all, haven't been on here in a while but I've been having a few problems lately, so I figured maybe I should visit. First of all, my biggest problem lately started about a month ago. I was at college preparing myself mentally for my biiiiig conducting final. My final in that class was that I had to get up in front of my entire chorus class and conduct them during an entire song, fermatas and all. I was so nervous I thought I was going to throw up. I remember going to the bathroom and - I know this will sound gross, but - I noticed blood on the tissue (it was #2 btw) and I was alittle constipated. Anyway, I didn't think much of it and after everything, I went home. Well, I felt sick...practically all night, and I figured it was just from the nervousness I felt earlier. The next night I called in sick to work cause I still felt bad, and my boyfriend got me some prune juice to make me go to the bathroom. Well, that night I drank a whole glass-ful, and it only made me feel sicker. Made me go to the bathroom like crazy, but I felt so sick. The next day I still felt horrible and I thought I was going to throw up. I ended up leaving work just before lunch. Well, a few days passed - I never threw up, but eventually I started to feel alittle better, and my bowel movements went back to normal. Not only that, but this all happened right before I had my period. Well, guess what. About two weeks ago, all this happened again. I felt sick about sunday and lost my appetite. Wasn't able to go to the bathroom until wednesday, and after I did, I felt really sick. I ended up going home, and it happened to be the night right before we started moving. My boyfriend's mom gave me some laxatives (which I'm NEVER taking again) and all it did to me was make me sort of go to the bathroom, but I felt extremely sick. I was up all night with a horrible pain in my back and stomach, and having to go to the bathroom every five minutes. The next day, it didn't stop. I went to work, sick as a dog, running to the bathroom, until my supervisor finally told me to leave and go get some ammodium. So I did, and that stopped the running to the bathroom, but I was back to the first problem. SO...after all that, I feel completely horrible. I felt nausious for days and I hardly felt hungry at all. Finally at about 1:30 in the morning on saturday, I couldn't take it and went to the emergency room. Well, they didn't find anything wrong and just told me to start eating more fiber enriched foods and drinking more. But somehow, I'm still worried about this. I've gone through my period already, but I'm still feeling sick, I'm hardly hungry, and I'm constipated. My lower back hurts and I feel fatigued, even though I get more than enough sleep. I've stopped eating frozen foods and drinking so much soda, and I'm eating fruits and such. I've talked to my boyfriend about this and he thinks it's nervous stomach. I worry constantly about everything you'd never think of worrying about. There is something always on my mind. But lately, the problem has just gotten so big that I can't help but worry and think it's more than just my nervousness. Can anyone help? Anyone have anything similiar to the symptoms I'm experiencing? The fact that this happens just before (and now after) my period has me worried the most...

Here's my story: I moved out of my parents house in the middle of may of this year. It was an unexpected move though. One night I got tired of my brother's abuse and called my boyfriend to come and get me. He did and I spent the night. One night turned into weeks and then weeks turned into a month. I haven't been back since, except to get my mail and things I needed. Alittle background on my family: My parents never went to college...had no desire to. My dad worked two jobs for a long time because my mom didn't want to get a job. He was never home...ever. He maybe had one day off out of the week. My mom was as lazy as the nine hells. All she did was watch tv and yell for me or my brother to bring her a drink every now and then. Up until recently she was unemployed, but finally got herself a job at Walmart after we moved from Texas to Tennessee. Stuff started to calm down. My mother's temper wasn't as violent. But my brother was pushing me over the edge. He started treating me with disrespect. If something good happened to me, he acted like I was a horrible person. He verbally abused me and eventually started to physically hurt me. I told my parents, but they shrugged it off and said that he was only my little brother; They thought it was perfectly normal for siblings to quarrell. The tables had turned. Suddenly, I was wrong and he was right. The brother who use to be my best friend I started to fear. I know I did my share of provoking him, but it wasn't fair that I was treated like that. I started to get angry all the time. I was hurting myself alot. I got out of control. I went into rages that I had never experienced before...I was becoming like my mom...no, my mom's temper. I was stressed out all the time. I begged my dad to let me move out. I begged. But he said that I should stay home until I got out of high school. Now, last summer, I got a job at Subway, where I met my now boyfriend and fiance, William. At the time, I couldn't imagine myself with him, but eventually, we became very good friends. One day, he asked me to hang out with him sometime, and I agreed. However, later he told me that he really actually meant to ask me out. He was really nervous at the time, and I could tell! Me and Will eventually started dating, and we became very close. I had issues trying to decide if I loved him or not, but I know now more than anything. Just a few months into our relationship, we started talking about the prospect of marriage. It scared me at first, but the more I looked at it, the more it became clear that he'd make a loving husband and father, and now I want to be with him more than anything in the world! Eventually, I started staying the night at his home, where he lives with his two roommates, Jon and Jason. It's a nice home...a two story, four bedroom...the only thing that bugs me about it are Jon's cats, but he's getting rid of most of them today. He got a better job since he worked at Subway and he's going to get his GED in the fall. He use to be homeschooled, but something happened and the homeschooling place lost his record of graduation...Will tells me it's because his mom turned it in late. Will is a great guy who has a great head on his shoulders and wants a good life for himself. He's not into alot of sex or drinking or drugs or parties...all he wants is to go to college, study anthropology, and settle down with me in a nice home in Florida. He loves me and I love him. We both couldn't be more happy. He came into my life and completely erased all the bad feelings I had when I was at home. I don't get angry so much and I've calmed down. I feel happier. Then trouble started. I was falling behind in my classes because of lack of effort and my growing troubles with my family. I stopped caring. School became boring and useless to me...well, high school at least. I dreamed about going to college and taking music classes. I want to be a conductor, you see. I want to be the conductor of my own orchestra one day. I also love musical theatre, and I'm thinking of getting a degree in that as well. It felt like high school was a waste of time, and I didn't have any motivation to keep going. I tried all I could to bring my grade up, but my algebra teacher just wasn't willing to work with me. She was hardly willing to teach anymore (I hope she gets fired!). But I cannot blame my fate entirely on her. It was my fault as well. Moreso even. With just four days left of class to go, I had decided to drop out and get my GED. I wasn't going to graduate and my summer would have been ruined by summer school, which I didn't want to have to go through. I learned that I had a problem...it was intensly hard for me to focus on my studies. I decided the best thing to do was to take a break over the summer and learn to focus myself. I plan on getting my GED in the fall, and then continuing school in the spring. Why am I telling you all this? Because for some reason, my dad told my grandma about all this, and she blamed my failing entirely on Will! Everything was fine until I called her to wish her a happy birthday. She wouldn't stop telling me how utterly disappointed she was in me. She told me that I shouldn't be dating Will for what he did to me. It was all his fault that I failed high school. He was the one that influenced me to do it and stay at his house. All he cares about is sex sex sex and that's all he'll ever care about. In a few months he'll dump me for someone else and leave me all alone. I'll eventually meet some college guy and we'll get married when I'm 35. That's how it'll happen and that's how it should happen and that's that. She also told me that I was too young to know what I was doing and that I'll look back and tell her that she was all right and I was ALL wrong. I hate to be brutally honest, but that just pissed. me. off. She and my mom have said the same exact thing to me and I can't believe how closed-minded they are! The earliest I'm getting married is 20 and the latest will be 25. I've decided that since I was young because that's what I want. I've always wanted to settle down young, and since I found the guy I love, why shouldn't I? I think we've decided to get married next october. I'll be 20 then. He hasn't formally proposed, but that doesn't matter. I'll say yes no matter what. But anyway, ever since that talk I had with my grandma, I've been scared to talk with my family. I had a talk with my mom one day who tried to get me to come home and live there until I go off to college. I've decided that I will go to a local community college until I can afford a bigger one, then me and Will plan on moving to Florida and stay there for a year until we can get into FSU. I won't ever live in a dorm. I'll be with my husband. My mom STILL can't understand that. I told her my plans, but she doesn't get it. I won't BE coming home. I won't go away by myself to college. I won't do everything like SHE did it! I have yet to tell my parents of me and Will's silent engagement. I'm not sure how they'll take the news. Anyway, me and Will have planned to live in our own apartment come next summer. For now, I will live with him here with his roommates (no matter how much I don't like Jon). Everyone tells me that I should just go home, but I know they don't understand. What I want I can't have right away, and I've come to accept that. What I want is for me and Will to be married in our own home or apartment. We won't have that for a while though. I do feel bad about leaving my parents like that though, and it's been eating me up for a long time. I've agreed to go out with them to dinner tomorrow and spend the night. I'm afraid they'll try to talk me back into coming back home. I just don't want them to hate me. I don't want anyone in my family to hate me. Well, that's about all I have to say for now. Any comments or suggestions will be appreciated. If not, thanks for listening and blessed be.

First off, your death would not make your parents go, "oh, we should have listened to our daughter." it would make them really sad. I witnessed one of my classmates from chorus be burried by her parents a few weeks ago. She was killed in a car accident cause she wasn't wearing a seatbelt and the person driving her was drunk. Her funeral was sad and her parents cried endlessly. The point is, don't do that to your parents if you love them! Secondly, there are ways to finish high school...I have one and a half credits left to graduate, and there's no way I can graduate by this year. My options for me are I can go to summer school, another year of school, or get my GED. I've chosen to get my GED because it's alot less stress on me and alot less time-consuming.

Hello, all. It's been a while since I've been here with my usual boyfriend problems. But today I am writing about a different kind of problem. I am 18 and a senior in high school. Graduation is in two weeks, and I am failing two of my classes needed to graduate. I've done everything I can to pull one of those grades up (I just started failing the other). I was in a recovery credit program and for a while I thought that I could graduate. But everything has gone downhill. My last full day of school before finals is next tuesday, in just one week. I have yet to complete half of my recovery credit (in having done it for 3 weeks now) and I have a 46 in my half credit Economy class. I'm doing everything I can to bring that grade up, but I fear I will not have my recovery credit done before graduation. I will talk to my councelor tomorrow to see if I can finish it in the summer, but I fear the worst. I refuse to go to summer school or another year of high school. I am stressed out to the point where I just want to jump off a cliff and I know if I go another year I will never get any rest. My plan is that if I don't finish highschool I will get my GED in the summer or fall, and then start community college in the spring. That way I will be able to take a much needed break. But...is a GED looked down on? I've heard that a GED does not look as good as a diploma. And yet, I've heard that it won't matter once I've completed a few years at a community college and transfer to a university. All I really want to do in life is conduct an orchestra and be a homemaker. Does proof of a high school education matter all that much?

....Six years!??? I think it's safe to say that it's not working out, especially after he said he didn't have time to miss you while you were away. To me, it doesn't sound like you two have a very loving relationship... To be together for six years and still not know whether or not he's the one is a very long time. Me and my boyfriend have been dating a month and are almost certain we want to get married one day. If he's not sure yet, dump him and find someone else.

Thank you, guys, for the advice. After talking with my friend earlier today, she said that it was normal to have doubtful feelings in a relationship, and so did my boyfriend when I talked to him about it. I thought about this all day, and finally figured that me and Will have a very good relationship. He's someone that I can go to when I'm feeling sad or worried and he brings me comfort. He helps me and talks things out with me alot. When I first told him about my doubts (back in the beginning of our relationship), he told me to not give up just yet. When I told this to my ex in our relationship, he simply replied, "yeah, I feel that way too. Do you think we should break up?" It was very easy to figure out then who really cared about me and who didn't. I enjoy being with Will. I love going to dinner with him and being around him. I imagine what it would be like if we lived together and I really like the idea! It's just sometimes, I'm not sure. Maybe I am scared of commitment. I seriously don't know what the future holds for us, but I hope it's something good, which is why I want to stick around long enough to find out. After all, we promised to go to prom together! Thanks again. ^^

I have a wonderful boyfriend. Not exactly prince charming, more like the lovable Shrek kind of guy. His big and cuddly and loves me so much. He's even talked about marrying me, which I'm ok with. He'd do anything for me and he's proven this to me several times. I absolutely love being around him. But...lately, I've gotten the feeling that I should break up with him. This is somewhat normal with me, as I got this feeling in my last relationship, but now I'm seriously considering it. He's far more mature and loving than my last relationship, and I can't really find anything wrong with him...except maybe that he likes to cuddle too much, actually to the point where I don't get much work done when I'm around him. When I last approached him about breaking up, he seriously almost started crying. It's like, I don't want to break up, but sometimes I do. I don't get it. So how do you know when to break up with someone? Especially someone as loving as him? Thanks in advance.

I've got a major problem on my hands, guys. There's this guy at work who has a major crush on me, and now, I'm starting to like him. I was uncomfortable at first, but now I think it's getting easier to deal with. At the same time, I was introduced to this guy by one of my friends and I went out with him on sunday night. He turned out to be amazing and everything I've ever wanted in a guy! He's cute and smart and funny and mature! And to make things all the more awesom-er, he likes me! The problem is that he's leaving in january for college, but I still like him. Anyway, so now I've gotten myself in this situation where I like two guys and eventually, I'm going to have to make a decision on who I really like and want to go out with. I can't decide. I don't know how to decide. I like them both alot! And I'd feel horrible if I broke the other's heart! This is not fun. Someone help? Please?

I know how you feel. My first kiss was well...scary. And it ended up not to be what I expected. After that, I was afraid to kiss my next boyfriend....he'd try to lift my chin to kiss me, and I'd look the other way, or hide my head. I was real shy. But then I decided to just get comfortable and everything was fine after that. And my definition of "making out" doesn't have to involve tongue, but it's more than just a simple kiss.

This would probably be a question alot of you have.... How do you tell someone you like them? We've all been taught ways to handle a breakup with someone or what to do on a date, but what is the right way to start the relationship? Most people don't one day just go "poof" and start dating each other. We've seen it happen in anime and tv shows. One moment they'll be talking to each other as friends, and suddenly they're kissing. How romantic. Most of the time in reality, however, we've got to actually communicate with the people we like, as cliched as it sounds. What I mean by that is we've got to tell them, in one way or another, that we like them. I've been told many many ways to do this and go about this. Let them come to you, write them a note, don't let a friend tell them, etc. etc. But is there really a right way to tell someone you like them? My story is that I like this guy and I've got a feeling he likes me, but we're both shy. He's never had a gf cause his parents won't let him date until he's 16, so I assume he has absolutely no experience with this stuff. How would I go about telling him I like him without scaring him off? Suggestions?

Heh. It's not as bad as you think really. They both liked each other before I even came into the picture, so I'm guessing I was alittle late there and maybe I couldn't do anything about that. Jack is a harsh, tell-the-truth-whether-you-like-it-or-not person, and when he "lectured" me on my suicidal thoughts, he did it cause he cared. I still go to him when I have a problem. When me and my ex broke up, I went to him to talk about my feelings and he listened and offered me advice. The girl he's going out with now, ok, I don't really like. She's nice (I mean, she threw him a surprise bday party and stuff), but I can't see why he's dating her. He cares about me and I care about him, but I guess he just doesn't see being in a relationship with me. It would be great if maybe it happened one day, but truthfully, I don't think it will, and I'm perfectly fine with him being one of my best friends. He's hot, but I'll get over it.

Ok, I've liked this guy for....a really long time now, but I already know he doesn't like me back, and he's got a girlfriend. It started when I joined TSA back in my junior year and I met him....this guy's name, for easier reference, is Jack. Now Jack is pretty much everything I've always wanted in a guy. He's cute AND he's a nerd, who likes computers and anime and all that stuff. He's mature and he's sweet and sincere, and seriously I can't find any flaws in him except that maybe he's alittle annoying sometimes, but still, he's what I think would be the perfect guy for me. Well I did all the wrong things to tell him I liked him. First I told one of my friends that I had a crush on him and asked her if she could ask if he liked anybody. Big bad mistake. He thought this was strange and looked at his buddy list and thought maybe I had gotten her to ask (bingo, he was right). But he didn't stop there. He actually googled my screen name and found my livejournal, where I had been hawking about him and my crush on him. He read that for about two months until I found out.... Really embarressing. But to make a long story short, he rejected me then, and gave me a lecture on my depression and suicidal thoughts. To make things worse (on me anyway), the friend I had told I liked him turned out to like him, and he liked her back.... It took a while, but I moved on, or I thought I moved on. I found someone else who I went out with for 2 months, but then he broke up with me, and I just didn't admire him as much as I admired Jack... I realized last night, after I went to a surprise party for Jack, that I still had feelings for him. Seeing him with that friend, seeing them cuddling and all, still hurt, but just not as much. I also asked Jack why he rejected me a while back, and he told me that it was mainly my personality (the depressed and suicidal side of me) and cause he liked someone else. Other than that, he told me that I had quite a few traits that he wanted in a girl, but I'm guessing my depression and the girl he liked kind of smothered that out. I had a dream about him last night, and I've had this dream before actually. He acts really sweet towards me, and hugs me and holds me. In the dream I had last night he even kissed me. It was then I think I realized I'm not over him. I know none of you can see the future, so you can't tell me what's going to happen. It would be great if you could though. I do think that I blew any little chance I had with him. You know why I think I blew it? Cause I was depressed over a guy. I fell into depression because some guy stopped talking to me, and that was the beginning of my suicidal thoughts and depression. I was too stupid to pull myself out of it. And I should have said something to him sooner. Or at least, showed him that I cared. But maybe I couldn't do anything about that after all. I'm working on it though. I'm trying to make myself better, not for him or anyone else, but for myself. A depressed, mopey person isn't an attractive person. Well, that's all. Any advice you could give me would be appreciated, but I don't see how you could give me advice, really. Just a warning: If you're someone who has suicidal thoughts and gets depressed really easily and basically hates themselves, stop. Get help. Pitying yourself and all that doesn't help anything and it certainly didn't help me. And if you care about someone, show them. You never know if you'll lose them or not.

I'm trying to get over an ex, but I'm indecisive about things right now. See, I want to move on, but at the same time I have hope that he'll get back together with me in the future. See, there's this guy that has been really friendly towards me lately. I'm beginning to think he likes me and if he did, I wouldn't have anything against it. He's fun to talk to and I enjoy it alot. But at the same time, I miss my ex and I'm still hoping we'll get back together. And at the same time, I never wanna speak to him again. I'm not sure what to do, and the decision's been driving me crazy. I wanna wait and see what happens with my ex, but I don't wanna dwell on it forever. And how soon is too soon to get back into dating? Maybe even just casual dating? Thanks again.

Right now I'm kind of wondering whether or not to be friends with my ex, but I do want him back. I was friends with my last ex for a while, although it was painful. He turned out to be a total jerk, and the reason he broke up with me he said was cause he wasn't ready for a relationship, and got into one just weeks later. I stayed friends with him, but we got into a fight near the last days of school. I kept in contact with him sometime during the summer, but not much. Then he finally blocked me, and all I have to say to that is good riddance. I'm just hoping my "new" ex doesn't end up being the jerk he was...

I'm not a parent yet, but it sounds to me like you're doing the right thing. First of all, if he's spoiled and his parents let him get away with anything, you should probably talk to them about it. Secondly, continue disciplining him cause that's probably the only way he'll learn. If he's going to be spending time with you, he's going to live under your rules. Don't expect his parents to be ok with it though. I remember one time my aunt disciplined my brother for something, and my parents got REALLY mad and stormed out of the house. Of course, that was a different situation, where they were in the house, and they are different people. Just remember that his parents may not take it lightly, but that is why you should talk to them. If they don't listen, that's their choice.