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  1. Val
    1. YES! 2. definitely, but not aways the same thing. I also like having his hands around my waist, massaging my lower back.
  2. Val
    Hey I know how you feel because my boyfriend's BEST FRIEND is a girl. It bothers me as well because they have known each other for years and she has met his parents (they like her) just like I have. However, I have not been with him for 3 yrs! Right now, I still have my guy friends and he still has his girl who r friends. A little jealousy, of course, is always present. But if and when my bf and i get serious (like marriage) his girls are going to have to go. After all, why would someone need a friend from the opposite sex when he\she has found THE ONE. The truth is girls and guys just can't ONLY be friends. In the long run, one will ultimately fall 4 the other. Don't get me wrong ur boyfriend may love you more than words could possibly ever describe but she, may end up falling 4 ur man just like it could easily be the other way around. My best advice to you is talk to him about it. But if ur afraid that he'll only see it as mere jealousy plan outings for hmmm lets see . . . just the TWO of you. If he truly loves you this japonese face should be flushed in no time.
  3. Val
    hey good poem! You should send it to some kind of contest. . . . .
  4. Val
    Up till now, I've always thought guys and girls could be "just" friends. However I find I'm not so sure anymore. Can a woman and a man (who are both heterosexual) be BEST FRIENDS? I am somewhat curious because the person i am interested in has a best friend who is a girl. Nothing sexual has ever occurred between them and she is now living with a boyfriend. But could it be that HE has feelings for her? After all, it is easy for us girls to consider men as friends but I have been told that guys are never "only" great friends with a girl and there's ALWAYS that lingerig thought that just maybe they might hit it off. Is this true? In a way it makes sense in the long run. I mean how many faithful husbands do you see with girls who are "just great friends?".
  5. Val
    Like I said before I know how you feel. I'm just getting over a break up myself and I hated to hear this but you'll feel better with time. Sorry to see you feel so down.
  6. Val
    Listen sweetheart, it hurts me to see that your in so much pain but u need to pull yourself together girl!!! He might not have planned to move before his trip but now he has and as difficult as that may be, you cannot put your life on hold because of it. Furthermore you really shouldn't worry about this "new girl" because after all, you don't even know if it is true. Why put yourself through even more stress when there is a great possibility of her meaning absolutely nothing to him. You said As far as the first week of July goes, (you mention he's coming to Toronto that week) he may call you. Actually any decent man with half a brain and any sense of logic and compassion should call you just to know how your doing. But if he doesn't just take it as a sign that he no longer wants to see you, nothing more nothing less. Hope you feel better soon and that everything works out 4 the best.
  7. Val
    A break up is always hard on both people of a relationship especially one that has lasted as long as yours. Evidently she has lingering feelings but that doesn't necessarily mean she wants you back. You honestly shouldn't be asking yourself why she keeps calling, just deal with it. She might be regretting the break up or simply be keeping you on the side for a "just in case I'd like to have him back" scenario. Eitherway, this is not and definitely WILL NOT let you get over her. You need to tell her that if she isn't willing to be your girlfriend again that you need her to stop calling. You don't have to be rude but BE FIRM because she obviously didn't understand the first time. Let her know that the ONLY reason why you don't wish to talk to her is because you need time for your feelings to disappear. And if she still calls you after this then she simply doesn't want to see you moving on. It's unfortunate, but I've seen many enjoy playing with their ex's feelings. If that's the case she will ultimately meet someone new and u'll be hurt even more. No contact really is the best way to go. Nonetheless, best of luck and hope to hear you guys get back together soon.
  8. Val
    Hey John, it's never too late for reconciliation, especially in your case where you haven't seen ANYONE since her and neither has she. However, don't put your life on hold. You can try gaining her trust back but that doesn't necessarily mean she'll ever date you again. She knows you still want her and are still interested yet if she doesn't come forward there's nothing you can do to make her. Stay on speeking terms (as friends) because by imposing things you guys use to do as lovers will only push her further away. If you want her trust back, your going to have to start over from the beginning, meaning restart a new friendship (a long one) and then maybe she'll consider you as a lover again. But that is a MAYBE. If it were me I wouldn't forgive you, but then again I've nebver been in a 4 yr relationship. What you did is something that should have NEVER, EVER happened and I can't even begin to imagine how much you hurt her which is why she may not forgive u 4 it. But even then isn't it better to have her as a friend than out of your life? Wish you the best of luck and hope you learned from all this.
  9. Val
    I'm glad to see you have the courage to sit down and express your feelings to your girlfriend. What you plan to tell her is great, definitely go for it. But realize that what she may not respond with what you wish to hear. You seem like a fine gentlemen with great respect for women and I don't think she realizes how lucky she is to have someone as caring and devoted. The only thing you can hope is that she'll do what she promises tonight but it will only be something exposed in the long run. There's not much advice to be given except that your doing the right thing. Hope everything works out.
  10. Val
    awww you really shouldn't feel so down. Rejection, bad break ups, and being lied to, happens to all of us. Trust me I know, (read my post "Are All Guys Jerks?") Yes it's undesirable and the hurt we feel is more than any words could EVER describe. You don't mention what the girl did to you but unfortunately, there are many insensitve and egocentric people out there. However, you can't let THEM be the final chapter of your life! Go out and do something different. Join the gym or somekind of commercial youth group. If you hate ur life, change your old habits. It really isn't as hard as it looks. I'm only telling you this as someone who's gone through depression and am now as happy as ever to be here. Life was god's gift to you. By rejecting life you in reality rejecting god himself. On a furhter note, you will meet someone new and you will love that much again. I don't think it's so much HER you miss more the RELATIONSHIP, which are completely two different things. Hope you feel better soon,
  11. Val
    Emma, I hope you realize that sometimes people make mistakes they regret for the rest of their lives. You come accross as such a sincere and considerate sweetheart. Unfortunately, ur man does not seem to possess the same qualities. You may be sitting there contemnplating what would be best for the two of you (and this unborn child) but all the while HE is only concerned how this could affect HIS life and HIS future. I can't tell you what it is you should do, as the decision is really up to you. But I will say this, my mother almost had an abortion when she fell pregnant of me (she was after all only 20) and I can't express in words how happy I am to be here today and I appreciate EVERYTHING she has EVER done for me. You said just don't feel I can have an abortion and why should I" Don't let yourself be pressured into doing something u may regret the rest of your life. You can't turn back the clock in the long run. . . . Hope this helps.
  12. Val
    Although it may sometimes seem like many only date for fun, it really isn't the case. Afterall no one likes actually ending a relationship. I guess it's because we all secretly hope to find that one person we'll love forever. Don't get me wrong, there a few exceptions but as you get older you look further ahead and date people you can see yourself with in the long run. Also keep in mind that a third person ponit of view on a relationship will always be different than those IN the relationship. So when you see lovers heading towards the DEAD END, they may not even be realizing it themselves.
  13. Val
    First of all does she know you used to date her friend? If not it would definitely be wise to tell her and then would be a good time to inform her on past mistakes. . . . However if she is aware and now has feelings for you then it obviously doesn't bother her. Personally, you shouldn't bring up ur ex/her friend unless ur girl does. After all she really isn't the one on ur mind ne more. If the sparks are flying between the two of you I say give it a go. What have you got to lose? However I caution such relationships. They often end badly with a mix of envy, jealousy and sometimes resentment. Sad but I've seen it happen from time to time. Best of luck and hope this helps,
  14. Val
    No, don't end things right now. You'll see how you feel and will think more clearly while he's away. You might realize that you don't love him as much as you seem to think. Plus don't let the fact that he's older pressure you into doing things you do not feel comfortable with. I myself am 17 and was debating a relationship with a MUCH older man not too long ago. I now realized how important my teenage years are. We don't have to worry all about mortgage loans, taxes, electricity bills etc. and why should we?! After all, you don't want to look back when you 32 thinking you've missed out on an important part of your life. Another thing, (u said ur mother didn't like him) whatever you do make sure to maintain a precious relationship with her. Trust me, she is one of the only people who will ALWAYS be there for you when you need it the most.
  15. Val
    He's probably only keeping these letters as memories. Irratating as hell, I know. But I agree with magda just put them in the garage. Just for further info. . . . my friend's parents divorced when she was in her early teens. The stepmother saw the ex-wife as much as twice a week. Point being, you will definitely be seeing this woman for the rest of your life and so will your bf. She will always somewhat have a presense in the household but don't let that bother you because he loves you now.
  16. Val
    Oh don't worry about it. If she really liked you she'll contact you again.
  17. Val
    Hey Katie, don't stress over this. My parents are just like yours and yes I've often gotten penalized for such things. The fact is your parents are proud of you. Bring ur grades back up and u'll be fine. Be optimistic though, u might not even have gotten c's after all. Best of luck (and keeep ur marks up girl!)
  18. Val
    No I don't believe that someone is EVER to young to love. But I do KNOW that falling in love at a young age is ultimately asking for a heartbreak. Sad but often true. So Just be careful.
  19. Val
    Don't stress, go to the party, you'll have fun. Just remember be yourself and what happens happens.
  20. Val
    I'm seventeen years old and just recently met a handsome young man. Our first date was a blast as was the second. The connection is there. . . that we know. However he's turning 25 next month. Till this day, I have always been optimistic about the entire "Age doesn't matter" controversies, I've even convinced some of my friends to date older men. But who am I kidding? If were 25 I sure as hell wouldn't date a seventeen year old. But I can't ignore the fact that I am starting to have feelings for this guy and he definitely made his interest in me very clear. I guess I'm little concerned because of the fact that he IS older and I've always been told by friends and family (especially PARENTS) that a relationship with an immense age dif can never work. Is this true? Would it be possible he's only into me because he finds me young and attractive? Is it awkward that he'd be after me in the first place? This is really all new to me. . . I've only had one boyfriend. thx for your help.
  21. Val
    I myself am a senior in High School and I've often seen others break up for different partners. From what I can see she is definitely NOT doing this for attention. Chances are she may be unhappy with her boyfriend at the moment and might be analysing the way you respond to her flirting. When I fell head over heals for my best friend, I was afraid of telling him for fear of how it could change our close relationship. Just gradually bring up your feelings in a conversation sometime, since your that close friends it shouldn't be that hard and she'll definitely understand.
  22. Val
    ya I agree with sweetharmony this guy is a jerk
  23. Val
    I honestly feel like my world has come crashing down. About 3 weeks ago my boyfriend left on a 4 day trip. He said he'll miss me and that he loved me more than ne thing in the world and I thought everything was fine. When he came back, he broke up with me saying he has met another girl and that she makes him feel . . . different. He then tells me it has been a month now that he's been wanting to break up, that he started finding me less attractive but not physically, (which i really don't understand what that means). Furthermore i lost my virginity to him about a month ago(and he says that's about the time he wanted to break up) I feel horrible, stupid, and used. I mean how could I not have seen it coming? I knew him for 4 months before we went out together. Now it's been 2 weeks since the break up and I'm still devastated and I just saw him today with the girl he met on the trip (who goes to my school by the way). When I said hello to him today he simply ignored me and whispered something in that girl's ear that made them both laugh. I came home and cried more than the past 2 weeks put together. Is this the way relationships go? Are guys really like that? Does he still have feelings 4 me? I'm really confused and all the while many "What if questions are lingering in my head." I guess i just want to know what it is i did wrong before seeing him in my 1st year of college next year.
  24. Val
    Hey Ed, Ur first line really grabbed my attention because just last year I felt the EXACT same way as you. I believed that there was nothing in my life worth living for because melancholy was everywhere before me. I had NO self-esteem. Everything I did seemed pointless, meaningless and yes I felt idiotic with myself, idiotic for the actions I did and thoughts I regularily had. . . . . I needed a reality check and so do u ED! WAKE UP! You are 37 years old and still so young. The fact that you actually took the time to come on line and check "SUCH ISSUES" is a clear cry for ur life. You don't really want to end ur life because or else you would have simply done it just like i would have. The feelings you have are there for a reason. Something in ur life is bothering you and I'm sure even you urself are not completely sure what it is. Go out and do something different, whether it be going to the gym for the first time or joining a tennis club. Change ur old habits. Your problems are probably just coming from mere everyday routin bordem. I'm only telling you this as someone who cares. It's now a year later and to this day i can't exactly finger point what it was that made me feel the way you do right now. But one thing is for sure, I have new friends (with a much better social life), I joined the gym and I've become quite the tennis athlete.When I look back to last yearI cry, not out of pain or anger but out of pure contentment because staying here was the best decision I have EVER made! ~I know you can get through what ur feeling right now because I did and we're never faced with ne thing in our lives that we can't handle.
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