j.d.byrnes

If I loved this person i wouldn't need to do anything special at all. I would simply need to be with them. Have them near to me. It's incredibly comforting and peacful.

I think you should look at what you have. If you gained it so easily then you really shouldn't expect it to stay forever. Also, purely putting into account what you said on the post you seem to be somewhat shallow when reffering to girls. You may not be that way at all but I'm just saying that if you feel good about who you are then you shouldn't treat others like a "lesser girl" as you put it. That doesn't seem like a very good additude. And you shouldn't just ask girls out for the hell of it. Please try and enjoy what you have and appricaite it, don't start asking for more. Try and imporve upon yourself. While you may be a very good person you can always be better. Also, if you feel uncomfortable about your weight then maybe you should work out a little over the summer. Overall I'm just tryint to say, 1. Don't be shallow, think about how what kind of person you are and how you can improve, and I don't mean to be offensive in any way. 2. Don't expect everything to start going your way. Easy come, Easy go. Work for more. and 3. Enjoy it.

I'm really starting to wonder about the point of relationships. I mean, I can see the point in going out with people you enjoy the company of and find attractive and overalll just like, but to me the only person you could really go out on a realtionship is someone who you absolutely love, why just kid yourself by continuing a relationship that you know is eventually going to just break up? I don't know, it seems like a lot of people i know are just going out for the hell of it and then are really distraught when they break up. I'm a little confused. Can someone explain this to me?

I've been a particularly large rut for a little while and I was just wondering what makes everyone here happy, what allows you to love life and to keep going. I have a simple desire to be happy and am just looking for as many suggestions as I can get to try and be happy.

How can I learn to love the world for what it is and not for what it can be? How can I stop myself from thinking about wonderful things that aren't happening and try to appriciate more of what the world has to offer. It's killing me how reality is so unappealing. I just want to be happy but I can't do that if I constantly wish and fantasize, I just want some help.

I think it's pretty east to tell by the way that she acts that she's interested in you. I'd say give her a chance and go out with her. I also agree that you should probably try to go somewhere where her ex probably won't be, you don't want to get into that at the moment.

I'm sorry if I misinterpreted you. Though to quote you "Hey the dreaming about beautiful things that you can never be is almost the best thing you can possibly do." and then again you say in your reply to my reply "I don't want you to think of thoughts that you know will not work out or happen." I am confused by these seemingly conflicting statements, though I agree more with the second one at the moment. The only good really good thing that I think can happen to me is falling in love or possibly finding a passion in something I do. But the first is seemingly out of reach but I do put forth effort to make it happen yet it is fruitless as of yet. And the latter does not bring me any enjoyment or fullfillment so I really don't care to think about it, it's like a chore really, and I already know my potential so thinking about it and how I'm not fullfilling it just makes me feel bad.

As far as clinical depression goes, I have gone to a psychologist and a psychiatrist and neither of them think that I have clinical depression, they simply think that I am an unhappy person. Second of all, I didn't say that I am incapable of doing great things, quite the contrary, I have a lot of potential I am simply not taking advantage of it due to my lack in motivation. Third, I didn't say I was being selfish, I said I was being egotistical, which is different. If I'm egotistical it simply means that I think I'm either a special or unique person or full of myself. I do care about others. I feel bad a lot of the time because I know that I make other people feel bad and it eats me up inside. It's a terrible feeling. Just not a motivating one. Lastly, I dont have good relationships with anyone. I have never really shared my feelings openly with people and when I do share them they are confused that I feel bad about not doing what I should and yet I continue not to do it. I don't have good relationships with my family because I choose to. I do not greatly like my family. They aren't the kind of people I would go to for help, I apologize if that seems rude or insulting to them somehow but I find no comfort in them not for lack of their trying. And I haven't been able to feel good about an achievement in a very long time, simply because I haven't done anything that reaches my standards I have set for myself. I don't get motivation from my friends and family because I don't greatly care about what they think of me because I have an excellent idea of who I am and I do not need people to judge me. I am looking for alternative forms of motivation. I have also tried volunteering and similar activities and found no satisfaction in them.

Perhaps I did not make myself clear. When I'm unhappy I think about wonderful and beautiful things that I absolutely love. I think about the things i desire to happen. I think about finding love about ridiculous things like living in a fantasy world. But these things always make me unhappy because I don't have too much hope that they're going to happen. It's not that I think that they are impossible, It's just that I dont think it's likely they are going to happen, and that makes me sad. And the thing that requires the least effort and gives me the most immdeiate output is listening to music or thinking about life, they both make me feel pretty good or at least much more relaxed, but I can't get myself to do things I dont' enjoy, I already don't enjoy my life, taking away the only things that make me happy is just sucha terrible thing that I can never seem to get myself to do it and work. And the P.S. was just marking it away from the rest of the topic because it was just some random after-thought i found amusing.

Hello, I came accross this site randomly, in fact I dont even remember how I did, even though I'm sure it was only a few minutes ago, anyway. I decided to post here and see if anyone had any good advice for me. Well my problem is a common one, unhappiness. It comes from the stress in my life. Most of it is internal or internally rooted in my lack of purpose or motivation in life. I am completely capable of doing the things in life that I need to. Like school and everything, I just don't seem to be able to put the effort into it. This is lack of motivation seems to come from me finding no point if life. It's not that I don't think I can be happy, I have complete confidence that it's possible for me to be happy, It just isn't happening at the moment. It's just that not very much seems to make me happy anymore. I remember when I was younger, I can remember how I was so much more innocent and how I was just blissfully unaware and uncaring about any troubles, I was so happy and at peace. But that has been a while and now the only things that I find at all relaxing or that make me temporarily happy are listening to music, just thinking about life, and being with someone I love, which I can do anymore since I don't love anyone. I don't love my family, I don't find comfort in them, I'm simply living with them and letting them provide for me. I feel graditude but no love. And as far as any female that I might love, well, that hasn't happened so I'm still waiting. And listening to music and thinking don't reallly motivate you to work towards goals. Well without having motivation to do things you can guess how the rest of my life turns out. It's not that I want it to turn out that way, It's just that I'm too unhappy to care enough to do anything. I guess i spend most of my time lost in the emotions of the music I'm listening to and dreaming of incredibly wonderful and beautiful things that will never be. I know I shouldn't, it doesn't help anything, I just can't help myself, I guess I'm too caught up in the moment and too uncaring about anything else to fix my life, or even put up with the daily things. And to let you know, I don't believe in god. Please don't try to help me by telling me to find faith in god, I think I know how to do that on my own. I don't know if I believe in anything. The only reason I haven't killed myself is because I know that it wouldn't help anything. I'm not stupid enough to think that ending my life is going to take me to a better place. I just want relief now. I'm just a selfish, self-pitying, ignorant fool trying to make himself look special because he's so hopeless, Oh poor me, I know there are probably people out there in worse situations then me, even if there's the little voice of ego inside saying no there aren't, your so bad off, just pity yourself. I don't know. I guess something that might help my situation is a purpose. I'm just tired of waiting for one and I can't even muster up enough willl power to go look for one. Tell me whatever you want, I'm just in a sad mood at the moment so I'm probably going to go to bed, goodnight. P.S.- I thought this was kind of funny so I just decided to say that. javascript