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So yall don't think it's just her way of being friendly? She's a really friendly person and I haven't hung out with her enough to know how she acts around other people she's close with. I read some stuff she wrote about her boyfriend at the time and him and I seem to be completely opposite. I'm thinking she's looking for something different. Thanks for the help!

Last Friday I had a little party at my house and my friend brought over one of her girlfriends who just got out of a relationship. Her and I hit it off pretty well. We hung out most of the night just talking and flirting a little bit and we found out we had so much in common we both thought it was unreal. So Saturday comes along and I have another party at my place. Her and my friend came over again but this time it was kind of strange. Me and the girl I'm talking about were sitting by each other on the couch in the living room but I had to get up and leave the room for a minute. I come back and my friend told me that he asked the girl if her and I were going out and he told me that she laughed when he asked her that. Sunday we all wake up (they crashed at my place) and I ask them if they want to do something later and they said let's go swimming. So we went and all day while we're driving she's sitting up front with me while my friend sits in the back. After that we went to my neighbor's memorial day party. My friend drove her truck there but the girl wanted to ride with me in my car. While we're there my friend tells me that the girl thinks I'm cute... but cute in a way that she wants to pinch my cheeks. What's that mean??? After the neighbor's party I asked them both if they wanted to go to a club downtown and the girl told me that she was actually going to ask me later on if I would like to go out on a date with her to that club next weekend and then she started to blush. We all decided to go to the club that night but this girl's ex shows up after awhile and starts hassling her. I eventually yell at him and tell him to leave us alone. We decided to end the night kind of early after that happened. I guess what's really bugging me is how playful this girl is with me even in the short amount of time we've known each other. Her body language towards me is a plus, for example she touches my arm or leg whenever we're talking, and we both maintain eye contact while talking. A couple of times she's asked me if I want to make out. I know she's joking but I play along with it anyways in a joking manner as well. What do yall think about this? I know I should move slowly since she just got out of a relationship but should I pursue this at all?

Wow man. That really sucks. Did you try to get back with her afterwards? The same thing pretty much happened with me and my last ex. She was extremely shy and hardly ever talked but she was a sweet girl. We're still friends but I feel bad about breaking it off with her for those reasons. As for this girl now I haven't really pressured her and I deffinately won't. I've been taking things slowly just because I for one want to make sure I want to be with her. I don't want to move in too fast like I did with my last relationship.

Hey Vfunkera, thanks and a Merry Christmas to you too! To tell you the truth it seems to be something that happens somewhat sporadically. One day she'll be really talkative and the next she'll be really quiet. I know it's something that I shouldn't really worry about but I can't help it. I do know she feels comfortable around me just from some of the stuff that we've talked about and some of the things she's said and done to/for me. We both hint at each other about stuff related to a relationship and after around 5 months of talking I'm thinking it's about time I make a move on her towards something along those lines.

I'm 21 and she's 19

So should I ask her if she'd rather talk on the phone? I kind of figured if she did she would just call me. Maybe I should call her and just tell her that she seems more talkative on the phone... Any suggestions?

Some of you might have read my last post saying that I've dated this girl for a while now (we've gone out about 6 times now). My question though is how do I get her to be more talkative? When we're out together we talk quite a bit. Same with when we're on the phone. But lately when we've been online talking there's hardly any talking going on at all. If there is it's almost ALWAYS me initiating any type of conversation we have and most of the time it's short... as if she doesn't even want to talk. Another question I have is, should I confront her on this? I don't want to scare her off by asking her about it but is it the right thing to do?

Thanks you two. Your reassurance makes me feel much better about this ordeal. She invited me to spend New Years with her and her family so it shall be interesting to see how things go then. Thanks again! Michael

Hey guys & girls, I've been seeing this chick lately (we've gone out about 6 times now) and I think I might've made a fool of myself last night. Let's see what yall think. It starts off with this past Saturday night. Me and this same girl went out with my friend and his girlfriend to see this awesome display of Christmas lights that we have here in Austin,TX. The girl I was with took pictures of just about every display there with her digital camera. The whole night I was so damn tempted to at least try and hold her hand but I wussed out. Go figure! It was so obvious too as we were both walking really close together. Ok, so Sunday night I'm talking to her and it turns out she accidentally deleted all of those pictures she took! Obviously she was extremely upset about that so I told her I was going to take her again tomorrow night (Monday night) and needless to say that made her ecstatic. Now Monday night comes along. We hung out at the mall for a bit and then I took her to the lights again. The same thing comes along... we're walking close by each other but I wuss out YET again. Ugh! This is pathetic is it not? lol After that I took her to another really great spot here in Austin where this neighborhood gets together and strings lights up everywhere. Talk about beautiful. When we're walking through there she decides to hold onto my arm as we're walking. I'm thinking "Alright, I've got it made!". Now this is where it gets frusturating. Later that night when we get back to her place I walked her up to the door. I decide to do what my friend David suggested... go for a kiss on the cheek as she reaches to hug me. Only... I don't get the cheek. I missed just about completely but I think she knows what I tried to do because she had this surprised look on her face. It didn't appear to be a bad look though at all. Could someone please help me out here? Did I mess up? Should I just let it slide and see how she reacts to me now? Any suggestions or opinions are welcome on this.