I hope someone can help me with my dilema. I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. He and his son, who is 10 just moved in with me. My boyfriend has shared custody and a tumulteous relationship with his ex and at time with me. They were together for 9 years and have been broken up for five. It has always been hard for me to accept that he has a child with someone else but I have tried very hard and love his son. There was a photo album at his bed that me and his son looked at over a year an a half ago-nearly every picture was of his ex and I was very upset that he had it in such plain view. I told him how much upset me and he got angry and said " he had a life before" and why does it bother me so much because he loves me.
When we recently moved in together we unpacked a bunch of boxes of books, he had left me to do the rest of the unpacking and said he was fine with it. Right on the top of a crate full of things were several hundred pictures with nearly a hundred of her and 10 or so love letters and cards.
I don't understand why he keeps this stuff when he sees how much it hurts me-he refuses to see why I am upset and says that all that matters is the here and now. If so why does he need to keep them in such an obvious place and why can't he get rid of them. Am I just being irrational? I do love him dearly but have a problem with someone that seems to get so angry at me when I get upset over this. What should I do? I think that this could definetly be the end for us
