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  1. Sentohottie
    OK...What I'm going to say is going to sound silly, but its totally true!!! Look at how you are feeling as though you are on a scale.... -100______-50______0_______50________100 And right now, you are like -1,259,956 (or something)....just because you are feeling so down...and on a good day, you feel like maybe at -100, but you are still in the negatives...right? If you keep on trying....and keep on working....you will eventually have another time where on a good day, you will feel 1,259,956 on the positive side, and on a bad day, feel at positive 100. Life has its way of balancing things out....it always does. But you can't give up. (If you give up, then this theory doesn't work) The worse you feel, means that you should have more hope, because its that much more of a good day/life that you are eventually going to experience. In a way...I envy you Life will never give you so much, that you literally cannot take it any more. Its the depression that puts you that direction. Here is a suggestion, read some books by Dale Carnegie. The one I am looking at right now is "How to enjoy your life and your job" I know you probably aren't having issues with your job, but what the book reads actually applies to more than just your job, and I think applies to your situation. Here is the table of contents: 1. Find yourself, Be yourself, remember, there is no one else on earth like you. 2. Four good working habits that will help you prevent fatigue and worry 3. What makes you tired--and what you can do about it 4. How to banish the boredom that produces faigue worry, and resentment. 5. Would you take a million dollars for what you have? 6. Remember, no one ever kicks a dead doc. 7. Do this--and criticism can't hurt you 8. If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive 9. The big secret of dealing with people 10. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way. 11. Do this and you will be welcome anywhere 12. How to make people like you instantly 13. A sure way of Making enimies--and how to avoid it 14. The high road to a man's reason 15. The secret of Socrates 16. How to get co-operations 17. An appeal that everybody likes 18. How to criticize--and not be hated for it 19. talk about your own mistakes first 20. No one likes to take orders 21. Let the other man save his face Now I know this is long, and some of the chapters might sound criticizing to your situation, but a lot of what his books say has helped me through my depression (I was suicidal once too!!) Let me know if there is anything else I can offer. I feel like I have personally come a long way. I would love to help out in whatever way I can
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    If you are so concerned about not being a parent.....I, MYSELF, (with my husband of course) will look into adopting it. We weren't planning on having another child for another little while, but this is literally how strongly I feel about NOT killing these little miracles. And if this is what needs to be done in order for to keep this little creature alive (if she is pregnant of course) then by all means, I will do everything I can.
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    Alright, PLEASE hear me out. There are a ton of poeple out there that can't have a baby that would LOVE to adopt one if you are too young to be a parent. If she is pregnant, remember, you really are killing a life. Once there is a growing fetus, there is another life inside. That life could make some other couple that can't have babies VERY happy!!! I know of course the decision is yours, and I know this is a huge debate among a lot of people, but it still comes down to killing a helpless life. There is no way for that baby to defend itself. Think of the little fingers and little toes of another little tiny baby, that you are heatlessly wanting to be sucked away and tossed in a garbage can somewhere. REALLY, its THAT heartless. If she is pregnant, please reconsider abortion!!! PLEASE!!! And I GUARANTE....with ALL MY HEART that you will end up winning. IF you give it out for adoption, then you will make another family SUPER happy!! If you both decide to keep it, he/she will be the one thing you will REFUSE to give up, and I can GUARANTEE that. Even if you are young, you won't want to give her/him up!!! I am from a very christian family, and I got pregnant out of wedlock, but I"m telling you.........I would have NEVER got an abortion My favorite aunt has adopted 4 kids, and I don't know what our extended family would be like without them. I know this probably sounds like preaching.....but please talk to your gf and try to think of the baby. Don't be selfish about this....unless it is going to literally put your gf's life in danger, there is no reason that you need to kill the baby....yes even if you are 16. You guys made a mistake, and you need to take responsibility for your actions.
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    I"m not sure really. Usually office romances (from what I have seen) either work out right away, or they don't. My little brother is currently going through one as well. He works the same place as me and my husband, so maybe its just the company But seriously, I wouldn't worry about it too much if the relationship might last at all. If its one of those one nighters, then there would be issues, but it doesn't sound like that at all. If anything, its quite fun to be able to work with your boyfriend. It can almost bring you closer at times because you can spend more time with them. Let her know to make sure to take some time for herself every once in a while. Otherwise, that could make for another fight or issue.
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    My biggest concern is that you are still under the age of 18. This could cause issues if you DO decide to go out with this person. Just be careful!! Try to avoid the physical stuff unless you honestly and truly get into a serious relationship.
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    Just so you know as well....(I'm not just saying this for the situation) but my husband became my supervisor right before we got married. This is the funniest thing that you brought this up. It sounds identical to mine
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    Yikes!! I would have never guessed, considering you have some really good points in your posts. May I suggest that when you get in that mood, to get back on this forum, and start helping more people!!!! Then you can type your frustrations, post more things, and I'm sure someone who has the same issue will come along and see that they are not alone. (maybe it already has) The best way to deal with frustrations and fears, and ESPECIALLY types of depressing, is to help someone else. Then at least you won't feel guilty about it, and you will know that your energy was put into something productive.
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    Don't worry about it. I was listening to LoveLine once, and someone called up with that same issue, and they considered it a prank call because it wasn't possible.
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    Most definitely it could cause issues in the workplace. If the relationship isn't that stable I would suggest to make sure she isn't working in the same department, or anywhere SUPER close, as that could just cause more issues. But if this is something that she plans on keeping for a while, there really isn't harm in it.
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    That is so funny, that is actually how I met my husband believe it or not. We dated for like 2 years. We worked in the same department, and for the most part, had the exact same shift. We still work in the same place and we have been together like 4 years now. It really isn't so bad. The only thing that might cause a problem is not getting enough time to yourself. Or when there are fights, those kind of suck too, but it can be worked out.
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    Wow, that is a long time...kudos!! Not many people can get that far in a relationship However, it sounds like she is just a slow mover in relationships. She might love you, but is really uncomfortable with that type of thing. I still think the same kind of respect I mentioned before still applies. Not saying you haven't tried it or anything, but no matter how far you are in a relationship, you can never have too much of it. I hope this helps. I know you are in a tough situation, especially if you really care for her, which it sounds like you do.
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    Try having some flowers sent to her If I were in her shoes, that would definitely pluck a heart string.
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    If you look for reasons to find that she is cheating on you, chances are you will find them. Not because she IS cheating on you, but its because you are actively looking for them. Don't be so eager to find how she might be cheating on you.
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    I would suggest in this situation, to be patient and consistent. If you really like her, then she will slowly start letting you in her "bubble." There is obviously something really wrong, and she doesn't have a very high self-esteem. Do some research on how to improve self esteem, and work with her on it. Compliment her on how she looks good. If she has to do some sort of presentation, make sure you let her know you believe in her.
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    If you love him that much, you will wait. Of course I'm not saying like 10 years or anything, but at some point, he will start feeling for you what you are feeling for him.....or it will die away. There is no way to sit on the fence. Either the relationship is getting better, or its getting worse.
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    I'll be honest, and blunt. She is being shallow if all she thinks a ring is more important than your relationship. Not a good sign at all. What is her reasoning for putting it off if she doesn't have this ring? Does it have sentimental value to her. She can't use the excuse that it will mean more if you get it because you can love her just as much with a $1000 ring. Make sure she is really the one you want to be with...cause this could cause issues in the future.
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    I'll be honest, and blunt. She is being shallow if all she thinks a ring is more important than your relationship. Not a good sign at all. What is her reasoning for putting it off if she doesn't have this ring? Does it have sentimental value to her. She can't use the excuse that it will mean more if you get it because you can love her just as much with a $1000 ring. Make sure she is really the one you want to be with...cause this could cause issues in the future.
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    Karting?? That is a new term Anyway, I would suggest keeping the "walk" for another time. Do something easy, like a movie. Marek has a point that you are going to have to talk to her on this walk, and its not easy to do that when you don't know eachother very well. Maybe you can do a group thing to make it less ackward. Go paintballing, or Laser tag with a bunch of friends who all have dates. Or maybe a comedy club, that would definitely have some conversations afterwards.
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    I would think that because you have had time to heal, that when it does happen, you will have a quicker recovery rate. But prepare yourself for feeling a little hurt at the least. Its never nice to see someone you cared about in the arms of someone else. But the pain will die eventually if you let it.
  20. Sentohottie
    I don't want you to think that I am going against you on this, but in order to get respect, you need to have a bit more self control. Respect her, and let her try making the first move. Even when she does, try to keep it short, but show her you still care. A relationship will last a lot longer if you make sure the friend part of it is achieved before you start focusing on the physical aspect of it. So here's the advice. If you get kissing her, get control, and pull away very gently, even maybe a kiss on the forehead or nose (super cute by the way) and a compliment to to finalize the short make-out session. This will show that you are not focusing on being turned on, but you just enjoy her as a human being.
  21. Sentohottie
    I understand that it has a negative affect on you, however, that is no reason to just let it go. Even the most innocent and loyal person can still cheat if the opportunity is presented just right, and especially if the relationship isn't strong. (I'm not saying your's isn't) But by asking her to tighten her bounderies a bit, I"m sure she is going to have a hard time with that. IF you care for her that much, you will be willing to work it out, even if it makes you sick inside. You can't let that feeling get in the way of a great relationship.
  22. Sentohottie
    Would it be fair to ask for a comprimise. When she falls to her weakness, she probably goes through a huge guilt trip. Maybe when you catch her, she can agree not to get mad at you, because you only care for her at that point. At that point, talk over it some more. Try to figure out what would help her be more strong in resisting it. Would she be willing to talk to a counselor of some sort? I mean...this is affecting her physical body!! Its not something to just let go if you care! And that is exactly what you are doing. I'm sorry if this isn't helping, I'm just trying to put myself in her shoes and think of what would help me.
  23. Sentohottie
    It sounds like you have your proof. If you aren't sure, then let it go and wait for the next time around if it happens. Dwelling on the issue could only make it worse. If you are looking for ways that he COULD cheat on you, more than likely you will find a bunch of things that look suspicious, but this is the case with just about everyone. I agree with avman. Just let it go for now.
  24. Sentohottie
    Since you are both in the relationship, you are both responsible. I would personally say that she isn't testing your bounderies, but she has her own bounderies already set. If she is really in love with you, you need to sit down and figure out some boundries. Shey may SWEAR that she will never cheat on you, but if cheating is just centimeters away....then its more of a temptation than what it should be. Let her know that her bounderies are a little out of your league. Work on a comprimise where you stretch your limits, and she pulls hers back a bit.
  25. Sentohottie
    It sounds like you honestly sincerely love her. That is right where you need to be. I don't know if this is what you did while in these fights, but make sure to repeat that you love her over and over. I have never done drugs, but it doesn't take a genius to figure out that if she is addicted, that she will find the money to get more...even if she says she doesn't have the money. Maybe you can find out WHY she is doing this. If it really is stress then try to figure out where the stress is coming from. Smoking anything at all is hazardous!! Something you can easily get some information to show her what she is doing to her body. Don't make this about you, but about her. Show her that you only love her. But what she is doing is ruining her future. As a best friend, that is part of your job.
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