Finch

I know exactly what you guys are going through! I have been broken up with my ex-girlfriend for about 4 months now. After the break up I felt GREAT. I had never felt better in my life. I was going to Europe, partying with friends, working out, working, making tons of new friends, hooking up with girls, etc. I felt great, and I was 100% happy. Now, 4 months later, I feel so depressed as though I have been dumped. And I was the one dumping her 4 months ago. I resumed no contact the other day and I just miss her.. but I'm not sure if it's because I miss her or the lifestyle that we had. I miss doing some of things we used to do. Another thing that I recently found out.. she has this new love intrest. I can promise you I'm not jealous of him, but I'm jealous of the things they do. Because they were things that her and I used to do.. like stay up until the early hours of the morning talking on the phone, going out and seeing movies and having dinner, etc. I miss that more than anything.

You should be advised that it is going to smell and it will be uncomfortable for the both of you. It sounds like you are just really horny right now, but you should think about this a lot before you do it. It is rather messy. I had sex with my ex-girlfriend several times while she was on her period and I was soooooo horny, but when I pulled out and saw all that blood and the huge mess/smell I was instantly turned off and cleaned up and stopped. lol, so you might just want to think about that.

After much long spent introspective time I have think that most likely my attraction for her lies only in the fact that she knows me so well, loves me so much, and helps me so often. She is understanding of me despite my weaknesses, loving of me despite my cruelties, and uplifting of me when I need it the most. That is the only true reason why I do love her and think about her so much. I can go to her for ANYTHING and receive wholehearted sympathy and care. That is what I want the most, and that's why I long for her so much. She cares for me in ways that nobody else can ever care for me. I would never get back together with this girl. I do still love her, but I can't get back together with her. Not because she doesn't love me back, because she does too, but because I would be too ashamed to redeem or relationship after all the drama that took place. So the only logical step would be to resume the no contact and pursue other women. Right? What do you think?

Sometimes life deals an unfair hand for people. You just have to accept the bad along with the good. Despite this minor setback you still have your whole life ahead of you. I understand why you feel this way, and honestly I would feel that way too.. but you can't let that feeling continue on your life. True, being dumped by your future wife was probably one of the most harsh things you'll ever have to endure, but you can't let that decide how you are going to live the rest of your life. You have more important issues to dwell on than anger, confusion, and suicide. There is so much more things that you can focus on.. positively, such as getting your job back, getting a place to live, and finding new people. Just indulge yourself in life and move on from this past anguish. I know this might seem harsh, rather as a push of shut up and move on, however there isn't much you can do my friend. You can't turn back the hands on the clock so make the best of the future.

I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about 4 months ago and things after the breakup went smooth. She didn't handle it well at all considering that she was totally devastated. However I was happy to be out of a harsh relationship that was abusive to me in many aspects. I continued contact with her basically only because she wanted me to so badly. That wasn't a big deal to me, however, I did have to deal with a lot of drama that she created. Eventually several months later that drama began to be too much and interfered with my hook up life. She heard that I had hooked up with a past friend of hers, unknown to me that she was a previous friend of my ex, and my ex exploded. She was calling everyone telling about how I was a jerk and how this girl was a sl*t. It was incredible. I couldn't believe what was happening before me. That's when I decided to end all contact with her. After that things settled down in my life and so did the girls. When I broke up with my ex I found frequent girls ready to hook up and always enjoyed their company. Also, by hooking up I don't mean one night stands or anything... just fooling around. Anyway, after that one night of drama with my ex I haven't hooked up with anybody. That was nearly a month ago and right now I'm trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I have been thinking about my ex-girlfriend way too much. I even broke the no contact rule the other day because I wanted to speak to her. I think about her often but the thing is.. when I'm the phone with her I think to myself, "What am I doing?". I just don't enjoy her company on the phone as she acts WEIRD. She acts really distant sometimes and just odd behavior. She told me she needed to get off the phone and would call me back because she didn't want me to think that she was weird. So she calls me back an apologizes for acting weird.. then a few minutes later she starts acting strange again, lol. I know she isn't acting weird towards me because when I was talking to her she was requesting that maybe we hang out sometime when she gets back into town (she went to Mexico). That brings another question.. why is she acting so weird towards me? Anyway, so my question really is why am I doing this? I know that deep down I don't want my ex-girlfriend. That is a clear cut fact considering I feel no attraction for her both mentally/physically and I still have this deep regret of her. Besides, she already has a new love interest in mind apparently. He doesn't appear to be much of a man though, considering they have been "courting" for months and he has barely kissed her. He is also several years older than she is. Am I just doing this because I haven't really had the attention of anyone else to take my mind off of her? The problem is now I'm entering this depressed stage where I can't go out and meet girls because I feel worthless... I'm just totally confused. Can someone help me make sense of all of this? Thank you.

I think when people are drunk they act off their most raw and basic emotions and forget the more complex feelings that they feel. This allows them to indulge in feelings such as your previous boyfriend described. I know I have been drunk several times and have admitted some terrible things to my ex-girlfriend that I would never have admitted sober because it just wouldn't make sense to me sober. You can be assured that he cares about you, but most likely there are more complex issues brewing deep down and this is what is preventing these raw feelings from coming out. That's just my theory.

There have been a lot of posts about this.. but typically the results have been a neat trim as opposed to totally shaven or a mountain of hair.

I suppose it could increase protection theoretically. I typically don't pull out, but you can if you want to.

From the perspective you have shown me I wouldn't spend time worrying about if you two were going to get back together or anything like that anymore. She's obviously easily influenced by her parents advice and maybe some other unknown issues that are going on. I would still keep friendship with her, but also let it be known that you aren't going to spend anymore time trying to rekindle a lost love. I would focus on more important issues such as work, friends, family, and finding a new girlfriend. You can't spend your whole life loving someone who doesn't want to be loved by you. I think you know that. The future can change things, but you can't cling to that hope. Move on my friend, and maybe if things go well you will be reunited with her because she'll truly understand how much she needs you when you are gone.

I say just be yourself. It's pointless to act differently. Of course you aren't going to jump right out and say I miss you and things such as that. You should just choose to omit that part, but other than that, I would act natural. Keep your cool and just be friendly, but not too friendly. When he calls act surprised but not too surprised. Good luck!

He might just regret having you there period, regardless of the circumstances. That's all I was trying to say.

I wouldn't imagine that she would, because that would be very unlikely considering that you washed your hands. However, it is possible to a small degree but I wouldn't count on it. It just depends how well you cleaned up your hands. How long you washed them, how much friction you put on your hands, etc. I mean if you just rinsed them, then that wouldn't be nearly as effective as washing them throughoutly for minutes.

Well it's obviously clear to me that you both seem to be having some minor spark of feelings for each other again. Why? Well first of all she really wants your attention and help if she's calling you, talking to you about her ex, wants you to go with her on this trip. She needs you to some degree. However, you need to make sure that she isn't just using you as some sort of rebound relationship guy. I would say just take things easy and let nature take its course. I imagine that you'll end up making an intimate move on her and she'll either accept or push you away because she isn't ready. I wouldn't guess that she would get upset if you tried to make a move on her unless she felt betrayed that you, her friend, was trying to get intimate with her during a troublesome time she is going through.

Well I'm thinking that maybe this guy just wants his space from you for whatever reason. I know personally I wouldn't want my ex-girlfriend coming over to my house or asking if she could all the time. I mean for one reason I wouldn't want to say no to her so it seems like I'm a bitter ex. I think this guy just wants to move on.

I agree with everyone else, the clit would be a much more logical place to start. This is for several reasons.. the G-Spot can be difficult to reach and could be painful if the girl is a virgin or extremely tight. The G-Spot isn't as pleasurable if you're new to it as opposed to the clit which is very easy to reach and stimulate. Maybe save this for a different time. Good luck.

I don't even know where to begin. I'm so drunk right now as I right this. I'm so depressed. My life seems to be falling to pieces. I'm nearly 18 and I can't even pull myself together. Right now my Grandmother is dying and that depresses the hell out of me.. and the rest out my life just seems worthless and meaningless to me. I just broke up with my girlfriend of a year and I have honestly no intention of getting back together with her FOREVER. But I just miss someone caring about me.. I'm in need of someone so badly. I met someone tonight named Becky who can relate to me 100%, but I'm sure she doesn't feel the same way about me as I do her. I just want to met a girl who can appreciate me as much as I can apperciate her. I just feel ugly and worthless at the moment. I'm sure nobody here is going to understand what i'm going through or know what to say.. but i just have to vent. I am so alone. I have so many friends, but few of them TURELY understand what i'm going through. Some of them would honestly give their lives for me.. but I just dont' know what to do... I am working out, making money what work, improving every aspect of my life but nothing seems like it can build me up enough to gain enough cofidence to go on. I long for a person, a woman, who I can just apprciate, love, and admire that can be mutal and be everything I have ever dreamed about but I know I"m just imagining things.

I don't think it's a bad idea, but I think that bad things can come from this. Of course that's possible with everything, however, considering that you both just broke up and possibly still have feelings for each other can have you ending up the night rather surprisingly. You might become affectionate with her again, might desire her again, or she might do the same. I'm just saying be sure that this is what you want because this dinner can stir up some undesirable feelings between you two.

Yeah, you're seriously thinking about it way too much. It's not a big deal, honestly. Just relax and do whatever you're feeling like at the moment. She'll stop you if it's something that she isn't comfortable doing. I wouldn't worry about that part.. Just relax, it will come natural and don't expect to be a pro at it right away.

I'm sure your boyfriend is just being modest about this whole topic so it doesn't seem like he is preverted or using you for oral sex. I couldn't tell you if he didn't enjoy it or not, but that is something that you should ask him.

I honestly couldn't tell you why your girlfriend is acting this way. It could be for a lot of reasons ranging from stress at work, home, etc.. to she is just feeling depressed. If you truly want to know what is going on with her you are going to have to ask and confront this issue. You can't avoid it anymore and you have to be honest with her, otherwise you aren't going to get anywhere. If she is loving and understanding, she'll understand where you are coming from and listen to you. Hopefully she'll have a reason to explain why she has been acting differently as well and perhaps a solution for it. You love this woman very much, and you two have a long history together. It doesn't sound to me like you just want to give up on her, so don't do that. Try everything you can. You need to figure out how to solve this issue. Maybe it's a matter of her wanting space, feeling inadequate in the relationship or as a person, etc. You need to figure out and make sure you are providing everything you can for her as a boyfriend, but make sure it's the right thing you are providing.

I'm sure she was just "turning up the heat". There are many aspects and forms of kissing. You experienced the French Kiss, which is quite popular. As long as you enjoyed it, I wouldn't doubt that you won't be experiencing more of this in the future. It sounds like both of you are having a good time developing this relationship. Good luck in the future.

This exact same thing happened with my ex-girlfriend. I was a horrible kisser because I had never done it before. I had no idea what I was doing and she didn't do anything to help. It was so bad that she would make up lies to avoid to kiss me or just totally avoid it. That hurt the worse. I knew I wasn't a good kisser, but how am I supposed to improve if I can't even get any practice. I would have liked for her to try and help me with it. Of course I would be embrassed at first, but it wouldn't be that bad. I would quickly get over it and appreciate the fact that she was willing to help me and improve things. Instead she made me feel stupid and I got worse and worse each time I kissed because I would tense up worrying that she wouldn't enjoy kissing me. Oh well.. I would take your boyfriend aside and try and train him. At first I wouldn't let him become aware that you were trying to train him, but if that doesn't work then just tell him that you want to help him. In the long run it will improve things drastically for both of you, I'm sure.

I wouldn't insert anything like a pen or even fruit into your vagina. There are horror stories at hospitals of young women coming in with objects stuck in their vagina. These objects range from some of the weirdest things you could imagine. I would suggest if you're going to be inserting anything other than your fingers, that you make sure it is a firm object that will not break or bend horribly. I'm not a girl, so I couldn't recommend any objects for you to use, but I'm sure you'll think of something. In the meantime I'm sure there is nothing wrong with using your fingers. Some girls use shower heads and are reportably quite pleasurable.

Like someone else has said, it really depends on the relationship. I can vary a lot for everybody's. It just depends on why you broke up, how long you two were together, how much in love you were, etc. When I broke up with my girlfriend about 2 months ago it was a long, turbulent, and sometimes stressful relationship. Don't get me wrong, there were some pretty great parts too. After breaking up I felt relieved. I felt so much happier that it was over, but just because I was relieved didn't mean that I didn't care for that person anymore. I still cared/care for her very much, it's just it was a relief to not have to go through all that BS anymore, or so I thought. Even after the breakup we still fought and acted like we were going out, but finally that ended just recently. Now I miss her a little bit more, and become jealous when she goes out with other guys, but overall I believe it's just a good thing that we broke up.

It's simple.. you've already been rubbing down there. Now take the next step and just undo her pants. If she doesn't want you to do it, she'll start to act a little weird or even stop you. That's when you know to stop. If she doesn't do anything, then keep going and you could even ask her if it's ok to finger her. Fingering isn't that hard.. just be gentle (since she's a virgin, she'll be tight and any rough contact can be potentially painful). It's rather simple.. no need to graph out a diagram or anything.