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It's going to hurt just about any girl that hasn't had sex before or usually hasn't had sex in awhile. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Like everybody said, foreplay is an important element in eliminating pain she might experince. The more excitied she gets, the wetter she will get and the more her vaginal walls will expand, making it easier to slip in for you. You also might want to use lubricated condoms and maybe even buy some KY Jelly or something like that to help you out. Also, when you are starting out, go VERY slow because this is the time when she is tightest. She'll get more and more loose as you get further in, so after a few slow thrusts you'll be able to go as fast as you want probably. Your penis size is about a little above normal, so you're doing pretty good there. I wouldn't worry too much about it, she'll be able to adapt to whatever size you have. Good luck!

Hey, I wouldn't worry too much about that "problem". It's very normal for guys, especially if you're new to being intiment with your girlfriend or whomever. If you want to last longer it depends what you're doing.. I personally can never get off to head or handjobs, so I couldn't give you much tips there. If you want to last longer in sex, then just practice having sex and staying as long as you can. When you feel like you're going to cum, then stop or slow down for a minute or two and then continue. Also don't trust very quickly, because the more friction is going to make you get off faster.

Hmm, that's a really confusing situation to be put in. I'm not too sure what exactly this girl is doing. If she wasn't interested in you, she probably would have just ignored you totally or maybe would have even told you when you asked her to.. So I'm not sure. She also could just feel bad and doesn't want to hurt your feelings, who knows. The best way to find out is to finally go on a date with this girl. Then you can see exactly how this person is and generally you can tell when a girl is interested in you. So I guess that would be my first move if I were you, but I guess it would be a little difficult to get a date with her since she's so random sometimes.

Well I'm not too sure how old you and your girlfriend are, but I think you might want to further discuss some of the moral issues that she has with sexual intimacy. You guys have obviously been going out for a very long time and feelings to move on are VERY normal, especially after 11 months of just making out. She might be a little scared and reluctant to move on, so you might want to just assure her that you do love her and that you want to take things to the next level when she's ready because you do love her and you want to show her. If she's ready she'll talk to you more about it and probably have a more open mind about it and hopefully you guys can move on. Good luck.

I think he might just be hurt that you might not be happy for him, or he might not understand how badly it is that you do need him. He might think that you are just trying to take him back because you are jealous or another reason.. I can assume and assume, but it's hard to tell what the real reason is. I'm sorry that things didn't go well. He might just be upset and overreacted, but it appears to me that this hasn't been the first time that he has done this to you. It might not be a good idea putting so much responsibility in this one person who seems pretty undependable. It seems like you are pretty upset, and maybe you should talk to someone else that you are close to like a councilor, teacher, another friend, parent, priest, anyone here, etc. Maybe they will be able to help you get over whatever is bothering you. In the meantime, try to make things better with your friend, but I wouldn't expect too much out of him.

Hey, first of all don't worry! It will all come in time. You shouldn't feel the need to fee like an expert, especially on your first date with her. Things move slowly and the more and more you feel comfortable with her the easier things will come for you too. First of all it's important that you seem confident around her. Don't act too shy, but don't be too cocky. Just be yourself and things should go fine. Don't put on an act, because obviously she's going out with you because she likes YOUR personality, not someone else's. Kissing isn't a big deal. I remember when I was new to it.. I really sucked, but practice makes perfect. If you really want some major tips on it you can check out the kissing forum. Other than that, I really wouldn't worry about it. I worried about it a lot and I spent too much time worrying about it that I ignored the feelings that felt natural.. and that's bad. You just need to go with the flow, and it will come natural to you. If you're going to "make out", don't worry too much about it. Any kiss is special, no matter how it is. Just a tip, don't use too much tongue though.. barely use any. So anyway, I don't know what else to include. There is a ton of stuff about dating and everything, but I wouldn't worry too much about that. Just make sure you're yourself and that you're confident around her and things should go fine. Just have fun, that's the most important thing. Everything else is just minor details. If you have any specific questions, I'll be happy to answer them for you in a private message or here for you. Good luck!

When I broke up with my girlfriend for the first time it was very difficult for me to get over. I was infatuated with her, so I thought about her for a very long time, several months. After that I decided that I couldn't go on like that so I started working out, spending more time with friends and just overall having a good time. I think to get over your ex, you need to be absolutely content with the idea that it is over, then you can move on. Some things help to help you forget about it, and sometimes you can just get it out of your mind enough to where it is no big deal anymore.

I think it could be possible, but who knows. I'm not an actual doctor and have no real knowledge in the subject, but I couldn't imagine why it couldn't be possible with all the things that I am aware of. I mean I think it's certainly possible for a woman to achieve an orgasm with her mind.. so simply touching her in a sexual meaning after a certain amount of time could lead to an orgasm if this girl was horny enough.. It would be no easy task though. As someone else mentioned, breasts are an extremely sensitive region on some women, if not all. The horny you get, the more and more easy it is to stimulate a women to achieve an orgasm. I don't know if any of you have seen 40 days and 40 nights with Josh Hartnet (sp?), but in that movie he is unable to have sex for 40 days and he stimulates his girlfriend with a rose pedal and she has an orgasm just by that because she was so horny. But that was just a movie.. lol.

I think I am going to have to agree with XxXCherryliciousXxX. I don't think his sexual activity, at least that you listed, describes whether or not he is a straight or bi-sexual person. I also don't think that just because you're a "voluntary virgin" means you are also of a declared sexual group. That may just happen to be this persons standards. He might chose to wait until marriage, wait until he's in love, etc. It could be for a hundred different reasons. As for finding out your friends sexual preference.. I'm not too sure what I would do. That particular person might not feel comfortable disclosing information about that, fearing judgment even from his best of friends. I am not too sure if I can help you out there.. You could try asking, it doesn't hurt, but if he says he is one thing it may not exactly be the truth. Who knows. Good luck though..

Well that's a really complicated issue to touch on, and it should be different for each person. I guess the primary reason that you break up with a person is because the relationship is so unhappy that you two spend the majority of the time in bad issues than having a good time together. A relationship is suppose to be beneficial for both partners in the relationship. Of course this isn't true 100% of the time, but for the majority of the time it must be true. I understand that you're lonely right now, and probably depressed. But after coming out of a long relationship with a person like that it should be absolutely normal. I mean if you think about it, you shared a long term relationship together and you haven't had the feeling of being alone. No doubt you two spent a lot of time together, so you two no doubt depended on each other for some things. Now that she isn't there to depend on, you feel more alone than you ever have been. Well you need to understand that just because you are alone now, doesn't mean that you won't be in the future. I think you first need to move on past this previous relationship and then you will be able to date again. Personally, it doesn't sound like you have moved on from your previous relationship and you need to focus getting over that at the moment. Many people make the statement that you need to love yourself before you love anybody else, and I believe for the most part that is true. Break ups take time to heal, some take longer than others, but at one point or another they always heal. You should be okay. Try not to focus too much on the negative side of things and worry about things you miss with her. Instead, focus on things that will make you a happier person. Perhaps working out, spending extra time at work, etc. Improve yourself as best as you can, and the more you do the better you should feel and the closer to recovery you will be.

I can understand where you are coming from. I know how that is, to be going out with one girl and to have feelings for another. That is totally normal. However, if you believe they are strong enough for you to dump your girlfriend for her, you must seriously know how much you like this other girl. It sounds like to me that these two girls are totally different, and one hand you like your girlfriend and probably like some of her qualities, but you also like some of the other qualities that this other girl has too. Some people are different and you feel more comfortable with and can relate better with. Just because of this doesn't mean they are dateble people. You need to decide if you think this other girl would be dateble if you broke up with your current girlfriend and exactly what you are looking for in a girlfriend. There is also the issue that this other girl happens to be your bestfriends little sister. Well that is definitely an issue, and you need to talk about it to your bestfriend if you happen to break up with your girlfriend for this other girl. If my bestfriend did that to me, I wouldn't be happy about it at all.. but that might change if they talked to me about it first. Things are complicated and it really just comes down to what you are looking for in a girlfriend. If you know what you want, then you are already headed on the right path. Good luck!

Well, I'll try and understand where you are coming from without making any judgments. First of all, all people have needs and priorities. If you believe that your need for sexual intimacy is a priority, then maybe this girl isn't the one for you. I know that you like this girl a lot, but some times people don't share the same morals about sex as you do. I went out with a girl for about 6 months and it took her 5 months to give me a hand job and head. My girlfriend and I had sex before she gave me a hand job and head just because she was scared to do it. She was scared because she thought she wasn't going to be able to pleasure me like I am able to pleasure her. You have to understand that she might not be ready to do some of the things you are wanting to do yet, and you have to respect that. If you don't believe that you can wait, then it is best that maybe you break up with her and find a person who meets your needs. I hope that made sense. Good luck.

In my honest opinion you have absolutly nothing to worry about cakes! I mean think about it, you are currently taking birth control (which prevents pregnancy 98%), you had underware on (despite how skimpy it was), and it is VERY VERY VERY unlikely that any pre-cum did get on you, let alone inside you... I think it's safe to say that you're fine. I wouldn't worry about it at all.

Alright, well you have to understand his prospective of this whole issue. First of all, he is probably no doubt really stoked about this new love interest that he has. I mean this is an exciting thing for everybody, especially when you aren't always getting involved in relationships all the time. It sounds like they're getting really close fast too. I'm not saying that just because he found someone new is an excuse to "ditch" you, especially when you need him most. It's just an explanation of why he has. It should also help you to understand that he defiantly doesn't care about you any less, it's just that he's too excited to see the damage he is actually doing. You have to explain to your friend exactly how you feel, without excluding anything. Then maybe he'll understand what you're going through and realize that he has sort of abandoned you lately, and from the description of him that you gave me, he will not want that.

I think girls sometime take things more personal then us guys tend to, so you might want to make it extremely clear to her that you weren't having a bad time and very much enjoyed your time with her and possibly want to do it again. Since you haven't hung out with her before, it's normal to be shy since you like her and feel a little pressured, but she might not understand that you're a shy person yet.. so it's best to let her know as best as you can. I know you two will become more and more comfortable with each other the more that you hang out, so good luck!

Some girls are very odd indeed. I think that it is possible that this girl may have a crush on you, but may not be sure whether or not she does for herself. She could also be a flirt. Who knows.. I'm sorry, I hope things get better with her. If you have some serious interest in her, you might ask her what exactly she does feel about you and then go from there. Good luck!

Hey, Tomorrow I'm going to go on a date into the mountains with my girlfriend. We weren't exactly sure what to do since there isn't much to do where we live, so I was wondering what we should do when we're up there. I know you don't have a general knowledge of the place.. but just give me some ideas if you can. I'd really appreciate it. We're going to chill for a few hours, so maybe if the mountain thing gets boring we can go back down and do something else in the city.. but what? Give me some ideas people.. please. Thanks.

I definitely think that you can get this guy back, but out of respect to everyone you should wait until he decides more about what he wants to do. If he's happy with the relationship that he currently is in, then you shouldn't even bring up the subject of getting back together. I also think you need to talk more to your current boyfriend. If you don't like him at all, then you really need to let him know this. It's unfair to him to think that he's in a happy relationship with someone.

Well to explain more about these guys.. they are constantly bugging her about getting back together. They still want to hook up with her, and she intends to go to some parties with them sometime soon so that has me worried. Infact, one of the guys asked her to Homecoming dance today, but she declined because she was with me obviously. I think she's kind of leading these guys on, so that has me worried. I like this other girl because she picks up qualities that my current GF lacks. She's just all around great, but her personality isn't exactly matching as my gf and mine. I'm going to tell her this weekend.. so can anyone give me the best advice of letting this girl know what's going on? Should I just be straight forward with her?

Alright, well I just recently got back together with my ex girlfriend. We broke up over the summer, and just recently got back together. We are VERY happy at the moment. She and I both realized that we love being with each other and we are happy most with each other. There is a few issues that I'm dealing with. I hope you will read this and reply, despite it being long because I really need some advice right now. Thanks in advance! First off, she hooked up with several guys over the summer, which I would have expected. She's a decent looking girl, and she was wanting some kind of action. I'm just worried right now that these guys are going to influence her slowly to break up or cheat on me or something. She isn't the kind of girl to cheat, but I heard rumors during the summer that she had. Anyway, the real issue is that now that school is going on, she often talks to them still and hangs out with them. How do I get over this fear that she is going to leave me again and get with these guys who she hooked up with and might have feelings for? Secondly there is this other girl who I was seeing before I got back together with my ex. We weren't going out or anything, but our relationship was definitely headed in that direction. She's a great girl and I would have gone out with her, but I love my current girlfriend and that's why we got back together. She doesn't know that I'm with my girlfriend right now and we've hung out once since then. She really really likes me, and I like her too, however I'm not going to cheat on my girlfriend. I would just confront her right off, but the problem is that she is friends with my best friends girlfriend. So I'm worried that there is going to be a chain reaction of some sorts. What is the best way to deal with this? Lastly, I want to get a little more physical with my girlfriend. We make out a lot, and that's good, and we obviously care about each other. I heard she wanted to make a move on me the other night when we hung out, but she didn't because she said something like she was just happy being there with me and didn't want to ruin the moment. I'm happy with that, but eventually I want to get somewhat physical. I haven't done anything with a girl other than make out. Should I begin by feeling her up on dates (touching w/ clothes on, the breasts, groan, etc?), and if I feel in the mood should I attempt to finger her? I do want to eventually finger her, so what are some good techniques for this? Any advice in this area is really appreciated. Sex, her and I aren't ready for, so we wouldn't move on to that yet. Thanks so much for reading. I hope you have some helpful replys. Thanks!

Alright, here's the story.. I went out with this girl for about 3 months. We had the best time together, we really did. We both were all giddy around each other and we seemed like a perfect match. Infact, everybody at our school commented on how much we were so great for each other and how we were better than most relationships. Anyway, I went out of town for 2 weeks and I called her about every other day and talked for about 5 minutes. One thing about my ex girlfriend is that she tends to freak out about stupid things and get all worried about them. Anyway, something popped up in her head that maybe we shouldn't go out anymore, so 2 hours after I got back from my vacation she dumped me.. I was heartbroken for about a month and a half.. I was torn apart. I started to get over her and think of her less and less everyday. However school just started and now I see her serveral times everyday at least. A few nights ago she came up to me and told me that she "Missed me a lot and still had feelings for me." She also added in that she "knew how much she hurt me and felt horrible for this." She also said that she "never wanted to hurt me like that again". So I thought.. hmm alright, well this my chance to make or break her. I thought long and hard.. the more I thought, the more I fell in love with her again. So I talked to her again and I told her that I still have feelings for her and I missed her very much. After that we didn't talk for a few days because she got in a car accident.. When we spoke again she told me once more that she missed me A LOT, however she didn't want to hurt me again. She said that she still had feelings for this one guy she hooked up with over the summer. So right now we're kind of in limbo. I heard that she didn't want to date anyone today, but last night she talked to one of her VERY close friends and that friend (who I would trust my life with) told me that she said that she didn't know if she should get back together with me because she was worried about freaking out about stupid things, still had a crush on this other guy, and didn't know what to do. My friend asked her if she would go out with me sometime soon, and she said yes. So my question is what do I do! I know I'm stupid for trying to get back together with her, but that's what I decided I want to do. I want to know if there is anything I can do to win her back more quickly and to prevent her mind from wondering off to thinking maybe she's fine with this other guy she's sort of interested in. This guy isn't going to do anything with her most likely, since he already has a girlfriend.. but my ex still has feelings for him. I'm sorry about the long post, but things are complicated and I really need to know what to do! Please help me out anyway you can... thanks!