Finch

Well.. you may disagree with me, but I wouldn't get involved with this girl past anything of a hook up. I've hooked up and met tons of girls like her. They usually have a lot of difficultly remaining faithful and you end up getting your heart crushed. Of course it varies with the person, but I just mention this due to the fact that she seems to have no real respect for you if she's constantly blowing you off for other guys. In my personal opinion she is probably just a really friendly person. I may be wrong, as I don't have any real knowledge about her.. but from my personal experience girls like her are just flirts.

Well you've done everything that you should have done, as for getting the morning after pill. Did the condom slip off during intercourse before he came? Did he come at all? Did anything leak out? Those are important variables that might help you answer your question. I'm not too sure about those pills that they gave you, but the morning after pill is like 70-80% effective, so that's definitely good that you took that. Other than that, all you have to do is wait. Things like this happen, and you just have to remain calm and I'm sure everything will be ok. I remember my ex-girlfriend was going to get on birth control and she said it becomes effective after a week or two.. so maybe you're worrying about nothing.

No, this isn't the first time she's had sex. This is my ex-girlfriend. We've had sex on many occasions and lost our virginity to each other. We still haven't slept with anybody else, so the rules out the STDs.

Well I first assumed that perhaps the angle was too sharp or something, and that's what caused the pain. I mean that's the only logical thing I could think of, and that may well be the case. However, she said that it hurt as soon as I went in and I always go in at that angle and we tried other various angles. Maybe she did something to herself last night? I don't know.. I just want to be sure that she isn't pregnant. That wouldn't be good and I think the chances of that are really really slim, minuscule.

Well I had sex with this girl about a week ago and everything since then has been fine. When we had sex she quickly pulled off my pants and I went inside her for like 20 seconds without a condom. Then I quickly stopped and put on a condom. I wasn't too worried about pre-cum because we just randomly had sex. I didn't have time to get excited and have pre-cum release. Normally it takes me about 5 minutes to get really horny and have pre-cum release. As of today, she is expecting her period to come in about a week and a half. Last night she told me that she had some minor pains in her abdomen and it hurt to walk, stand, talk, etc. She hasn't had any other symptoms other than that, which seemed very odd. Today she felt fine an the pain that she encountered last night went away in a few hours apparently. She came over to my house and we had sex today and she experienced a huge pain the moment that I went inside her. She didn't tell me that the pain was continuous so we continued to have sex and finally we stopped about 5 minutes later. She couldn't even stand or talk or anything.. she was on the verge of tears. She was in so much pain that as soon as she got home she threw up. I just got off the phone with her and she's feeling much better, but it still hurts a lot to move and such. She told me previously about a symptom of the fetus developing in the vagina which causes pain during sex.. however we both thought that was very unlikely considering that a fetus can't grow to become that painful in a week. Nevertheless, I'm just worried about her. You don't think that she could be pregnant do you? I don't think so, but I just wanted to hear some other opinions. We're going to go to planned parenthood tomorrow if her symptoms are still there.

It really depends on your natural scent and how those colognes mix into that. What may smell great on one person may not be the best on another.

Attraction encompasses way more than just your physical attributes. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Obviously she's attracted to you or she wouldn't be with you right now. Just keep up what you're doing.

That has happened to me a few times when I was sick. I don't think it's anything serious to be worrying about. If it does continue then you might want to seek out a doctor. Good luck.

Sex with the ex is a very confusing subject. I think that many girls believe that having sex with the ex will improve their relationship and get back the guy that they previously dated. In many cases, if not most, the guys are simply in it for the sex. Nothing more. That doesn't make them a bad person really.. but it just shows that most of the time men have a different point of few of sex with the ex then women do.

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I guess it'd depend on who you were asking.. for example if you're asking a younger guy who's still a virgin.. well then maybe. If you're in your in your early 20's you still might find people who care, but I think once you past 25 it'll be a rare case that you'll find somebody who will care. I know a lot of people who don't like to have sex with virgins since it's a little difficult sometimes and prefer if their g/fs had already had sex.

Woah there.. calm down. You obviously have gotten the wrong impression of me. First off let's start with my saying I was a bad guy. I guess that's somewhat my fault since I said it, but I'm only a bad boy in certain aspects of my life/relationship. I'm by no regard a "nice guy" that will shower girls with endless compliments and drag his knees on the floor to get a girls approval. That is just pathetic and unmanly. That isn't attractive in a guy and I'm sure you would probably agree with that. I'm a bad boy in the sense that I am a confident male figure who won't put up with too much crap when it's uncalled for. I have a very sensitive aspect also. I help a lot of people with their problems. Nearly all of my friends come to me for emotional support when they need it. I'm the same with my girlfriends. Now about the sex. She is a smart girl and I've already described to her that I am not currently interested in a relationship. I have repeatedly told her that sex might not be a good idea for both of us, but she continues to insist on having sex. It's her choice not mine. I'm not a mind reader. I can't be 100% sure what she is thinking. As for her maybe having feelings for me again.. that is purely speculation. As I said before, I have no idea! I'm not a mind reader. As for life catching up to me because I'm a bad boy... lady, I'm not a serial killer or anything. I am a very nice guy with bad boy aspects. There is nothing wrong with that. I don't "feed off good girls" in order to feel good. When I go out I know exactly what I'm looking for. If I'm looking for a hook up, then I find girls who are looking for the hook up as well. If I'm going to look for a relationship, then I won't get involved with anybody who isn't looking for a relationship.

I understand you. My ex-girlfriend and I had broke up and continued to have sex just as much even after we broke up. We're still having sex today and we broke up sometime in March. I feel a little guilty about having sex with her since we aren't a couple, but I guess since it is mutual and I'm not seeing anybody it isn't wrong technically. She is not really seeing anybody, but there is this guy that she's been interested in. Nothing serious though. I'm basically the bad boy and this new guy is a "sweet nice guy". I mean he hasn't even made any moves on her yet. They've been "friendly" for about 2 months and he has barely kissed her. She's more into the sex than I am. Always asking if we're going to have sex and whatnot. I have a feeling that she started to have feelings for me again which isn't good. I'm very reluctant to have sex with her because of this but it's so hard to pass down sex. You know? I guess things are fine the way they are. She knows that I am not really interested in getting back together at the moment so as long as she knows my intentions there is nothing that I am doing wrong I suppose. Once I meet anybody else that I think might be serious I'll immediately end this sex relationship.

I think you are worrying way too much about this whole thing. Kissing should just be a normal sign of affection that you use without thinking. It's like hugging.. you don't plan out your strategy for hugging someone, do you? You just need to relax, be confident that you are the man, and move in for a kiss with this girl. She's your girlfriend! She's not going to reject you especially when she's complaining to her friends that you aren't kissing her enough! Next time instead of thinking just do it. You'll be much happier that way.

Yeah, that is pretty messed up making moves on another guys girlfriend. Some might say it's free game regardless, but I still don't think so, and a lot of other people are probably going to feel the same way at your school. I would wait for her to approach you regarding anything about a relationship instead of the other way around. It's just respectable for both her, you, and her boyfriend.

A week is generally the best recommendation for a waiting period.

This is all a matter of attraction. That is the only reason why you see these otherwise good girls with the "bad boys". I could go on and on, but basically "good girls" are influenced by the "trashy guys" because overall they are confident, strong, coc*ky, and funny. Girls are attracted to these traits, especially if they're always in contact with guys who are "nice guys" or guys who are too wussy to approach a girl and get her number or ask her for a date. Girls like strong men.

I wouldn't worry about it at all. The pill could cause her period to be delayed for up to several weeks from what I remember. If you were also using condoms all the time there would be no real reason to worry. I used to have sex with my ex-girlfriend a lot and we would worry about her getting pregnant so we bought the morning after pill. The morning after pill is very similar to birth control pills, however it is in a much stronger dosage. This delayed her period for about a week and a half. I would take a pregnancy test if you continue to worry about this, but like I said earlier, there really isn't too much cause to worry. Good luck!

Your situation sounds very similar to the one that my ex-girlfriend and I had gone through. We had dated for about a year and things started to go sour around December. We then proceeded to break up in March. When we finally broke up there wasn't really much of a difference. We still hung out all the time, talked on the phone for hours, and were affectionate. At first it was ok because I felt a new sense of freedom that I had lacked for so long. I figured out that my ex was just too much. She was always around me, always calling me, and when we weren't together she wanted to be together. That is flattering and all, however, a guy needs his space. So when she started doing this even AFTER we broke up I decided that it was too much and I became distant. I didn't end our friendship or anything like that, but I stop calling as much, didn't hang out with her as much, and we both gave each other a little bit of space. It didn't really work out though, as she continued to get involved in my personal affairs and interrupted a possible relationship with this girl that I was sort of involved with. That's when I decided I didn't want to speak to her at all anymore. I established no contact for about a month and then started talking to her about 2 weeks ago. When we first started talking it was fine because she claimed that she didn't "have feelings for me anymore" and wasn't clingy or too affectionate or anything like that. In fact, I was almost drawn to her because she acted like I didn't matter to her that way anymore. However, finally she broke down and recently she confessed that she was still in love with me. This was right before she started acting really clingy and everything. After all of this drama I think I have finally figured out that a guy just really wants to be loved, however not smothered. He doesn't mind being on the phone with you for several hours every once in awhile but everyday is a little too much. Sometimes guys just want their freedom. The ability to do what they want without hurting the ones that they love by telling them that sometimes they just want to get off the phone or they want to stay home or go out with their friends. My advice to you would to drop the whole "I want you back desperately" situation and act like you're doing fine, even if you're not. You need to not be calling him all the time. Let him call you. You need to act basically like he isn't the center of your universe, because he isn't. If you do that, he will maybe feel a little more comfortable with you and who knows what will happen after that.

My ex-girlfriend is hanging out with me a lot and however she isn't really dating anybody. She is interested in this other guy though.. The thing you have to remember that sometimes Ex's can be really good friends, and sometimes ex's are more than friends. So that is something to take into caution. However, you have no other choice but to believe her unless you hear differently. You might as well let them hang out as much as they want. It's better that you find out that she isn't interested in you sooner than later. And if you don't find out later, you know that they are just good friends.

Hey Cutler, I used to feel like that all the time. Then I realized that you don't have to be rich, you don't have to be a nice guy, you don't have to be a super model, you don't have to be any one of those things. You just have to love yourself and exude that love with confidence. Take a look at this article. It might change a lot of your prospectives on things. I'm sure some will disagree with some of the things said, and some I disagree with myself, but it's still a very important thing to take into consideration. Please take a look, I assure you that it will help you feel better and give you hope once again. link removed (I'm referring to the article within the first post) Good luck, and I hope I helped you out in some way.

I think that the dumpers will contact the other person whenever they are ready to. There isn't a set rule that the dumper has to be the one contacting the other person. I contacted my ex, who I dumped 4 months ago, about a week ago. I really shouldn't have, as it sparked a lot of emotions in my life, but it is much better now.

Note on the fingering... some girls are going to be really really tight and any hard, fast, or deep motions are going to be painful. For inexperienced girls I would recommend that you just play around with the clit.

There is a lot of speculation around here, and the truth of the matter is that none of us have the answers. We can only speculate. You need to confront your boyfriend because the answers lie with him, and only with him. If he is reluctant to confide in you then you must take action and let it be known that this is an issue that isn't going to rest. As a guy, I have had doggy style sex quite often and it wasn't because I loved the other person any less. In fact, I loved that person very much. Same with the oral sex.. I never enjoyed oral and as much as I loved her, I only did it several times throughout our entire relationship. If you two cannot resolve things between yourselfs then it might be advisable to contact professional help and seek counseling. However, let it be known that he might be extremely uncomfortable with that and this could provoke more issues. Hopefully everything works out. Good luck.

It will be special. I wouldn't worry about that.. unless you guys are just in the relationship for sex. Think of it this way.. the first kiss with somebody knew is usually special, why wouldn't sex? At some point most people you are going to date aren't going to be virgins anymore, does that mean that sex is going to be unimportant to your future partners? No.