BluGurl1980

I would definitely go. I mean he sounded interested. Besides it is a bar- so if he isnt interested there are going to be other guys you can get to know. I mean you could go planning on meeting him and actually meet another guy you like awhole lot better- as for your friends having dates- they were single at one time as well- i am sure they will understand and will not think of you as a loser if they are real friends. At all else- going out has to be more fun that sitting at home wondering what would have happened.

I grew up the same way. i was the oldest- thereforeeee I was supposed to be perfect. I got good grades, and so on. My younger brother was the exact opposite- and my parents let him by with murder while I would get in trouble for the littleest things. I mean I can remember then telling me at one point that even thought I got the good grades (that they expected and demanded i get)- i had no right to assume that i could go out and do stuff with friends. I hated it. Then I went away to college and realized that my parents favortism of my little brother gave me an independence that alot of my friends dont have. I guess as horrible as it sounded- being treated like the 2nd rate child actually made me better prepared for being on my own. and the irony- i am finishing up grad school while my lil brother is still living at home deciding what to do with his life.

nah i dont mind you asking at all- thanks. I guess i had given this gay thing some thought and got to thinking- if we are having sex from behind- and with his interest in anal sex- do you think he could be fantaiszing about being with a guy.

I really am trying to be understanding about this whole issue. And here is a lil more info that might help.I run and try to stay in shape, and people including my bf tell me i am attractive. And I cant think of any thing that i have done to change myself lately. Dont get me wrong- he is a really great guy. He isnt mean to me, and tries to take care of me. It is just this whole intimacy & sexual thing. I am not obsessed with sex- just have a healthy sex drive. I mean if he is sick i feel bad for him. But I guess I am getting tired of hearing "i have a headache" because I will offer to go get him tylenol or soemthing for it- and he doenst want to take any. I mean if you have a headache why not take soemthing to make it go away. Awhile back i tried to see how long it would take for him to approach the idea of having sex with me- a lil over 2 weeks. Then it was because the topic of threesomes came up- and he started talking about us being with another guy. YES THAT REALLY FREAKS ME OUT!!! i did ask what he would like to happen after he watched a guy have sex with me- and he said he would let whatever happened happen. ( is that hidden for he would be up for having sex with the guy as well?) But he has also talked of having another girl- but mainly it is about another guy. I am very openminded. And at one time we had an very adventurous sex life, yet there were the romantic passionate moments. I have no probs being tied up for vise versa- neither did he. I tried to tie him up the other day wearing very little- and yet again he didnt feel good. I have no problem with sex dogdgstype- but that has become the ONLY way he wants to have sex. I guess the worst part is I have wondered if he is interetsed in sex with a guy. I guess the reason for that is I was talking to a lady i work with about the guy my bf is getting the business off of. She mentioned that there were a lot of rumors about this businessman being bisexual and having sex with college boys. So i mentioned this to my bf- he went OFF. Like he started telling me I should never repeat gossip and all of this stuff. And was really pissed. Oh yea- alot of these problems slowly started after he took his new job- and suddenly a couple of months later he is buying the business. I guess I am just really scared that after 3 years I am the wrong type for my bf. I am just really depressed over it. He says that him acting this way is just his way of dealing with stress. But I would think being close to someone you care about would help. I realize i have wrote alot- but if you have any more questions- pm me. I am ready to do just about anything, i have even considered moving out to see if his feeling with change.

Over the past couple of months my boyfriend of 3 years has been changing sexually. I have asked him what is wrong and he says nothing- or that the is stressed. But I dont really understand how that can explain the changes. He used to be a intimate passionate guy. Kissing, cuddling, and making love. Now things are slightly different.... He hardly wants to have sex- he says he always has a headache or is nauseaed. And if all else he says he jsut doesnt want to. He is 23- is that normal? He used to want to have sex daily. Another things is that he has stopped kissing me as much. It is also mainly peck kisses. During sex there is no kissing. I guess this is the part that really started bothering me. When we do mess around he wants me to face away from him- with my back against his chest- he says it is easier for him. He also has gotten really into sex doggystyle and also seems to be more interested in anal sex than regular sex. I guess that is making me feel like he is not attracted to me anymore= he tells me it is not so- but i feel insecure. Also he has stopped giving me oral sex- but expects I should give him oral sex. I thoguth well maybe it was a mood- he hasnt given me oral sex in abt 2 months. also he has gotten to where he wants to take a vibrator to make me cum before sex. then he has sex and is done is what literally seems like 2 minutes- because we have sex so infrequently. Then suddenly he is in a dont touch me mood. He used to be the complete opposite. Also he confided in me that he fantaises about watching another guy have sex with me and having a threesome with another guy. I dont think he is cheating on me- lol- i know all girls say that. But I really dont. I know he is buying a new business and is stressed over that- but that doesnt account for a complete diff approach to sex. The other thing is these things happen EVERYTIME- it hasnt been just once or twice. I mean I would love to just have one romantic night- i am not closed minded to trying new things- but I want to be made feel special and cared for. And would love to know maybe how I can talk to him or something. I would love any and all advice cause I dont really have anyone around me that I can talk to about- this would be just too good of gossip to pass up. =) Thanks for reading.