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  1. Smokeycat
    Hey everyone, yesterday I wrote about how my ex bf (we were together for 3 years) told me how annoyed he's getting with his new gf of about 2 months. He has known her for about 2 months as well so I figured this is a rebound relationship. Well that was confirmed today...about a half an hour ago. I talked to my ex just a while ago and he told me that he was REALLY getting very annoyed with his new gf b/c she ALWAYS wants to be with him. As he and I always tell each other "absense makes the heart grow fonder." It seems as though we always break up for a while...take a break...and then fall in love again. We made some pretty big googly eyes today during class. Anyways, he also told me that he was thinking of breaking up with her in a few weeks or less if she keeps this up...wants to make sure it's the right thing and figure out the right way to break up with her b/c she will probably suspect it had to do with me. He also told me that he was still in love with me and he hadn't mentioned this the other night but he really missed being with me. He commented that he'd expect us to get back together before this summer. I think he said this summer as to not make me feel pressured b/c the way he talks he sounds like he wants me back much earlier than this summer. He asked me to call him later. I really love him and vice versa. Sometimes I get confused as to whether he's my soulmate or not...we can never ignore each other and we're always on each other's minds. I'm young and not very worried about this right now cause I just wanna have fun...but it just makes me wonder ya know. Anyways I'd just like some general comments if you can provide them! Any advice is appreciated!
  2. Smokeycat
    I'm not trying to be rude at all but if you've only been going out for a month and you "THINK" you love each other...you probably don't really love them you're just in like not love. I don't believe it's possible to fall in love with someone so fast. True love takes time. No offense though!
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    hey I can give you a definite answer on how sperm tastes...it's flat out disgusting. It's not so much the taste but the texture of it that grosses me out. I do it for the guy b/c I only do that stuff if I love him...and if I love him I like to make him happy...so...hope that helped!
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    hey thanks for the advice...yet there are some little things you've said that are not quite that way. His gf did know about the whole baby situation. He's not allowed to call my house b/c my mom hates him since she knows that we've...ya know. At school, I RARELY talk to him unless he talks to me FIRST. He ASKS me to call him. He and this girl have only known each other for about 2 months and have been going out for almost that long. I seriously believe this is a rebound relationship. I truly believe that he loves me. Also, she's not giving him any b/c I know how she is. I'm "friends" with her...ya know friends to keep the peace. Anyways, he was happy with her at first but I think he compares her to me. I don't think he'd cheat on me...he never has before...because I can satisfy him. She can't. So...maybe that helped clear some things up....if any more advice can be given based on this info...please provide me with all the help b/c I'm confused. (I'm not getting too emotionally wrapped up in this and I'm MUCH stronger than I was...I act like I don't care about him and he loves it) But does it seem like he wants me back or is he just telling me this?
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    Hi everyone, This can be answered by anyone who has read my past posts about my situation with my ex or by users who haven't...I'd just really like ANY sort of advice if possible. To sum up things for the users who don't know: I broke up with my ex in July he got a new gf and he's cheated on her twice with me since then. Lately he keeps asking me to call him more and more....which leads me up to this. The other night he told me that he loved me...which he hasn't said in quite a while and the reason for that being is because he said he didn't want to say that to me since he has a gf. Anyways, the next night we talk again and his gf is over. He goes outside and tells me that he's really becoming annoyed with her b/c she's ALWAYS over. He said he was really getting tired of it and also mentioned how I "never did that." well, he asks me to call him back later that night and I do. He reveals more to me by telling me that he doesn't know how much longer he can take of her and may break up with her. After saying that we had a really flirty conversation like we used to have when going out. (we went out for 3 years) Anyways, here's my question to the reader: What could I possibly read and get out of this info? Does it seem like he's hinting to me or is it just that he feels so open to me and needs to let these feelings out? Please help me out...ANY advice is greatly appreciated! THANKS!
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    I agree that guys are much less mature than us girls...so the age difference is really not there mentally. But PHYSICALLY...you need to watch out. Those boys have many hormones and if you're not willing to do things...you shouldn't be b/c you're 13 please don't give in...they're more mature in a physical sense. Be very careful. Make sure if you don't want to do anything sexual with them they know it...BE CLEAR...SAY NO...if you say anything other than a firm NO they hear "yes"!
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    hey everyone, As many of you know I was with a guy for 3 years and was madly in love with him as he was with me. We broke up in early July (I dumped him) b/c of various reasons but still loved him. 2 weeks later he found someone else and is currently dating her. Since then, he and I have had sex twice behind her back. I became pregnant but sadly lost the baby...we told his gf that I was a little over a month pregnant since they had only been going out for one month at the time. He told me that he loves me but wants to be with her right now. I love him with all my heart as I know he does. We had sex this past Monday and we kissed passionately as I dropped him back off at home...he looked at me as he always has. This week at school, however, was strange. He was just in this terrible pissy mood. A few weeks before he was smiling with his gf and laughing and now she's flirty with him yet he stands there pissed off looking. (I'd be pissed too if my gf/bf made me ride in the back seat of their car everyday and had their friend sit up front) I called him and asked if he was ok and he said he was fine...he sounded fine too. I'm just a little confused as I think he is too. I don't necessarily think that's he's having sex with me just out of lust. I don't think he "wants to have his cake and eat it too." I think in some weird way he's trying to show me what we had and how I let it go. I know once he sees what's out there he'll want me back b/c I told him he'd never find a love like mine every again...do you think maybe he's realized that? My friends say they don't think he'll tolerate her for another month. I'd just like some imput on what could be going through his mind. PLEASE anyone...give me some advice on how to deal with this, try to get him back, or read his emotions. I really honestly just need some general advice. I've been through a lot. Thanks I greatly appreciate it!
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    Hi everyone, For those of you who know me and about my sabatical I took b/c I was stressed out over my pregnancy I have some good news and bad news. The bad news is that I'm about 99% positive that I've miscarraiged. This is very painful yet not very shocking to me since I have a disease called enodmetriosis...doesn't need to be explained if you don't know what it is but...you should just know that it's hard for me to keep a baby muchless even get pregnant. Anyways, I'm sad yet happy since I'm young and single. I still have my ex's love and friendship and that will help me get through this. So for the good news...I'll be on tryin to help people with their problems as much as I can. Private message me for anything or IM me on AIM. Thanks for all the advice I've received from fellow members of enotalone. I appreciate all your help. I'll get through this...my child is waiting in heaven for me.
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    I think that writing out a letter on e-mail would be better since you can type so much at once and send it. You can make it more personal instead of AIM and the person will have more time to think about an answer compared to AIM. Why can't you tell that person you're sorry on the phone or better yet...face to face?
  10. Smokeycat
    To everyone who's helped me with my problems in my pasts posts thank you so much. To all the users who I've responded to and kept up with their issues...I'd just like you to know that I'm taking somewhat of a "sabatical" in advice giving. If anyone, not just users I have helped in the past, needs any FAST advice feel free to IM me on AOL instant messenger. I'm very open to all subjects and I'd just like people to know I'm here even though I'm not on enotalone. Pregnancy is taking a toll on my body and mind. If you have any SERIOUS problems and need fast advice PLEASE im me b/c I'd be more than happy to help. Thanks for the time you took to read this and I hope to be back on again soon.
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    run your fingers through her hair...I love that when I kiss so I'm sure any girl...and any guy...would love that also. If you're kissing her standing up, hold both of her hands...it's sweet. Hope that helped a little!
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    Personally, I think he just wants to relax and see they party girl in you. You're more relaxed and laid back when you're drunk. I don't think he's after sex. My advice is drink with him but don't get so drunk you don't know what's goin on...make him think you're drunk when he is...see what happens. Hope I helped!
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    There was a point made...you know...even if you don't think it's true there is at LEAST one person who's world would end if you took your life. To the world you are one person, to one person you are the world. I've attempted suicide before but I've become a better person fighting it. I've learned many of life's lessons. We're all here for a reason...we all serve a better purpose than to live and die. You just have to find it and find yourself. Life is a challenge...why not take it? Too many people take the easy way out.
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    Life always seems HORRIBLE to people and that there is no solution to their problems. It isn't true. If you let these thoughts control you're mind...sure you'll never get out of depression and suicidal thoughts. Also, most suicidal attempts aren't successful the first time. So most likely, you'll hurt a LOT more after the first attempt. You're worth more. Focus on the good things. Chill out, put on some music, lay down, and think of NOTHING. It always helps me. And if you really need to cut...do it somewhere safe like on your thigh away from veins.
  15. Smokeycat
    This morning I explained to my ex how I haven't felt well over the past few days and I thought that maybe it was just a bug I was fighting. I told him that it just felt weird and since we didn't have unprotected sex I got curious and took a pregnancy test just to make sure and just for the hell of it. What could it hurt if you're not sure? I told him the result was positive and explained how I believe my birth control wasn't working. He remembered me mentioning I didn't feel well that day we had sex before we did. I have endometriosis so if I ovulate I feel a little sick...the way I felt that morning. He was so stunned at the results as I was, he just sat there and stared at the ground...thinking. I told him that I was scared and I began to cry a little. We're both only 17 and Seniors in high school. He told me before we plan anything and tell his new gf...tomorrow they'll be going out for 1 month...that I should take another test and also wait for my period. I agreed. He called me 2 hours ago and was talking about how this situation won't be good for our child b/c we're not together. I believe his gf will break up with him if I am INDEED pregnant, which I believe b/c I feel it. I just don't know whether it'll be best for my child to try again under this stress. I love him and he loves me. I'm just not sure. Pregnancy is SO CONFUSING, especially this young. He told me he threw up and he's sick to his stomach. No one else knows about this...none of our friends...especially his. I'm just so confused. Any advice on how to deal with this situation and pregnancy in general? I need some help!
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    I am saying this partly b/c I'm pro-life and VERY anti-abortion and partly b/c...it's just a very bad medical procedure. I've done research on abortion. If the doctors tell you that the baby in you cannot feel a thing...it's total CRAP. The child will feel more pain than you during the procedure. They can live hours after as well...suffering. It's not good for a woman to have an abortion b/c it can lead to SERIOUS depression. You can get many infections and even have parts of your baby left inside of you. Adoption is the best way to go in my eyes. Not all adoptions are success stories of course, but sometimes you have to do it to give your baby the righ it has...to have a life. You can't predict what your child's life will be like but you can list yourself so that your child may find you when they're older and maybe you'll be reunited one day. Your baby deserves their life...children are innocent they shouldn't have their lives taken away.
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    Drink lots of water...it helps for some girls. I helped me but the bad thing about it was that I made MANY trips to the bathroom. But water seems to make the blood come out more...sooner. Be active too...this also reduces cramps. Get some exercise and it should help with any problems.
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    that's so NOT true. I was nervous my first kiss. I was 14 and I was really in love with this guy and vice versa. Our kiss was so amazing we were both blown away. He described it as fireworks going off in his brain. We've known each other for 5 years, went out for 3 and now I'm carrying his baby. So don't get discouraged...many first kisses are phenomenal!!!
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    I took a pregnancy test today and the outcome was positive. It's my ex's child and he has a new gf of about one month now. I'm 8 days pregnant. Obviously this tells you he cheated on her. I'd just like some advice on how to be prepared on the outcome and maybe how I should handle it. I know that he'll have to tell her but he may lie as to the time frame. If he does that she'll be able to figure it out eventually that it isn't correct b/c of the trimesters and counting the months, how much I show, etc. I'm hoping that he'll tell her the truth b/c I'd feel terrible if my baby was a part of a big lie...my child is innocent. I really would like to be with my ex and try again...I know it's possible that he'll agree. But I'm still scared of the outcome. I really would like some help b/c I'm so confused and having all these extra hormones being created at the current time in me isn't helping! Do you think I should suggest (if his reaction is good) we get back together or do you think I should just let him think and tell his gf before I mention that? HELP PLEASE! ---[added by secret_agent_man from a follow up post]--- PLEASE REPLY TO THIS ANYONE b/c I have to do it tom. morning at my school!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE! THANKS!
  20. Smokeycat
    NOOO don't take them TODAY! If you started your period today this isn't the Sunday AFTER your period is it? I'm on birth control. You take them next sunday! Omg don't start them today girl! I hope you didn't start. I usually start my period 3 or 4 days after my pills run out for the month. Just for fair warning you may feel...pregnant...nauseas and mood swings...at first but don't worry lol. Remember to take them in the same time of the day EVERY day. If you take them in the afternoon always take them in the afternoon. Don't take them in the morning once, then evening...they won't work.
  21. Smokeycat
    I'm sorry to hear about that and it's very hard to get rid of an ex. He may have a girlfriend but if it's his first gf since he and YOUR girlfriend split up, he may just be with his girl b/c he's on rebound. He may not be completely over your gf. My ex and I are really close and are still friends even though he has a gf. She doesn't know that we hang out and things...he's cheated on her with me...so you may want to express your feelings about this situation to your gf. Maybe you could try to get her to talk to her ex and ask him to be nice to you since she's nice to his gf (If she is lol). If I were your gf I would tell him that if he truly cares about me and wants to remain friends I would want him to respect my new bf. Share your feelings with her...you can't solve this by yourself and she has to basically take the action since SHE is the one connected to this jerk. Good Luck!
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    we had sex last Monday almost a week in the morning.
  23. Smokeycat
    My bf of 3 years and I broke up in the beginning of July. Two weeks later he began dating another girl yet he cheated on her with me. We had unprotected sex. I've had pregnancy scares before and all were negative so this time I didn't worry about the possibility. Well...I've been having many of symptoms of being pregnant. I am on the pill for endometriosis...a disease where there is a lack of endometrium in my uterus which is very painful. The pill helps ease this. Before I even had sex I hadn't been feeling good down there as if maybe my pills weren't working this month...I've heard of it happening. I think there is a great possibility that I'm pregnant but it's only been a week and I've just started all these symptoms: nausea, puking, constipation, EXTREMELlY tired, headaches, and VERY bad mood swings. I don't know when I should mention these things to my ex. I think it's best that maybe I wait another week and take a pregnancy test if the symptoms remain...if I'm positive then I'd tell him but only him and my best friend. I'm also scared that I could lose a baby since of my problem. If anyone has been through a situation like this or can help all advice is GREATLY appreciated!
  24. Smokeycat
    Why not just go over to her place and visit? Maybe you could try to hang out as friends and rebuild your foundation. Sometimes that's what you have to do...start all over again. Just be her friend for now and when things seem good ask her out again!
  25. Smokeycat
    Depression seems to be a tough problem to solve...I don't think it ever completely goes away. I believe we all have an amount of depression in us...just a slight sadness that is always there. I am VERY emotional and my emotions are very extreme. When I'm happy..you sure as hell can see it. Same goes for being depressed but i can hide that. Cutting is not something I'm proud of but it's the only vent I have. I just can't cry anymore...I've cried every night this week and many nights this month. I know that things will get better but as for now...this is all I have. I love and respect myself but sometimes my emotions just overcome that...I follow my heart and not my mind which brings me into pits of misery. It's strange to say but sometimes I find joy in being in pain. It is one hell of a rollercoaster ride.
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