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Lol i'm still in skool! It's easy once you let it all go. No one's gonna remember that you got rejected except for you and maybe her. O wait, lol, you're not even asking her out yet. It is EASY man, I dunno, pull some stupid stunt off like ask for the time or ask her about something in a particular subject like hey, i've seen you in this class blah blah and then continue the convo like how are you doing in *subject*, dont' you think the teachers an ass? etc etc etc. Does she have a bf... find that out for yourself. I personally dont' think its a good idea just to ask her out outta nowhere if you don't know her. Like I said, introduce yourself, make yourself known. Don't forget, flash that smile before you go and look confident. Happy Heb

By the sounds of it, you're not happy about this situation. I've neva been in your situation but I guess if I was, I'd ask. Or maybe try and catch him out since you've gone this far. Its not fair on you that he's not telling about what's going on... Happy Heb

Hey If she's really popular I find its usually best to either be friends first (pain and time consuming) or to make a impression you its actually a good idea to go with the jerkoff attitude (like not too much obviously) but you'd have to be cocky but funny at the sametime and not seem like you're trying to suck up onto her too much. If she's anything less then easy, talk about a mutual thing eg skool and then compliment her on something then thank her for the talk/help whateva and smile then walk away. That usually makes a impression. Happy Heb

Lol I wouldn't have much of a clue. I reckon no one's perfection and there's no such thing as perfection. However, I do believe that perfection can be judged upon how close something/someone is to it. But if you wanna kno which artist/actress etc etc I think is damn hot, I gotta say: Jessical Alba, Elisha Cuthbert, Katie Holmes, Sheri Appleby, Delta Goodrem and Holly Vallance. I think personality is way more important than looks. Looks can only get you so far but when you think about it, its the person you're going to be living with foreva in the end not the looks, looks change over time... My ideal personality would be someone who's caring, supportive, loyal and someone with a lil sense of adventure. Happy Heb

Yea, every 2nd or 3rd day. The muscles need time to tone, working on them breaks them up to build new ones. Toning is when it establishes itself. When you feel the pain and aching, that's when the process of toning is occurring. Happy Heb

I think its not a really good idea to make girls jealous. And lol good answer "Very much the same as what makes a guy jealous - bleeder. However sometimes girls do deserve it, very rarely though. Unforunately for you, I'm not gonna expand on bleeder's answer, trust me, its exactly that. The reason is becoz I'm kinda against it but think about it this way, to actually think about what makes you jealous puts you in that situation, thereforeeee, you'd know what you'd be doing to a girl. Hope that helped Happy Heb

lol yea I agree wif kel there. I can sense a suicidal feel to it. Yea give it to her! Make her realise what she's done, make her feel the guilt. However I do reckon that to write about suicide and stuff is actually ok. How many ppl actually go the distance and how many of us can end our lives willingly? The odds are against it. Plus I think writing and expressin feelings is a great way to get things out, and you usually feel slightly better after you have as we think so much when there's some sorta crisis going on that the only way for me to process those thoughts is to write them down as during the process of writing, you classify etc etc what's going on then you understand. Ok kinda hard to explain... Hey kel! Bye all Happy Heb

Hey caliboy I dunno hey, at times like this maybe you should think about what you want. Can you really afford to stay in a relationship with this girl and is she really worth it? Try and talk 2 her somemore and if you're still unhappy in the end just leave. I kno it'll be hard to decide and you'll probably stay around for ages trying but when the time comes, you'll know what to do. I personally and most of my friends don't believe on that the guy always have to pay. Its really not fair, some guys like to pay everynow and then as a gesture like we can really support them financial wise or we're just being gentlemen but seriously, I reckon it should be a half half thing or close to it. Others have a funny way of thinking that we're using it to buy a woman's time. Its kinda true, why do we really pay sometimes for things, to buy some time, girls go out with us to lunch, movies etc, if we're paying then in a way, we're paying for their time... Anyway, hope that helped u a slight bit. Happy Heb

Hey meontopofyou! Where are you? Hope you haven't killed yourself. To be honest, I think I'm missing you. Happy Heb

Hey I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. First off, I believe she really did mean it when she said she really loves you and wants to be with you, but she probably had creeping doubts in her mind about wanting to see what else is out there. The doubts might've gotten stronger and thats when she probably realized it was time to leave. Of course its very hard when you love someone so much just changes their mind, but she must've had these thoughts for quite some time, people usually don't make these kinds of decisions just out of the blue. And its totally natural for you to feel so angry at her right now, because she did after all make that decision to leave after what she had told you. But like I said, she most likely did mean it, but those doubts just keep creeping in. You know how you feel so right about something but you have lingering doubts? She probably felt it was time to do something about it before the relationship got any further. I'm sure this decision really is hard on her..of course, because she cares about you, and I can understand how frustrating it is for you to hear that but she's being honest with you and even if it was a hard decision for her to make, she made the right one if she had these doubts. And you've had the experience of getting "out there" and finding out how hard it is, she needs to experience that for herself as well. Maybe she will find out its not at all what its cracked up to be, and come back. The grass is always greener on the other side, and sometimes people need to go and find out that it really isn't. On the other hand, she might enjoy being single. Everyones experience is different. In order to move on from this, try to keep busy, hang out with friends and do things that you didn't get a chance to do during your relationship. Don't focus on being angry and frustrated at her. Its normal to feel that way, but try to focus your energies on you right now. Nows the chance to do whatever you want before you get into another relationship, whether its with her or someone else. Doing these things will also help you with your loneliness. What helped me for example was hanging out with my friends (who I barely saw while in my relationship), I made new friends, I took walks, went to movies (yes by myself too), went to bookstores and coffee shops, etc..eventually you start to meet new people and make new friends. You might also find out new things about yourself that you enjoy. You are also very smart in not settling for just anyone who comes along. Rebounds rarely ever work. How long you should remain single is different for everyone. Obviously while you are still very hurt, its best to remain single for as long as you need to heal. The best time to start dating again is when you feel ready to, and you will know when that time is right. Until then you most likely won't even be interested in dating or getting to know someone else. Now if for some reason you meet someone really cool that you might want to get to know, the best way is to be friends with them first, without the notion that it may turn romantic. If you find yourself starting to develop feelings for that person and you want to spend more time with them, then you'll know its right to pursue something more. Theres no easy solution to stop loving someone, God knows I've tried, but unfortunately you can't control feelings or emotions. Time is what you need in order to heal, take time out for yourself. unfortunately theres not a lot you can do to stop the pain except to keep busy and try not to be alone a lot of the time. When people are in a relationship, they are used to being with someone all of the time, and when they break up, they are all of a sudden alone most of the time and its hard for them and it makes the break up even more painful. If you don't feel like going out, go anyways, you will feel a little better, it does help to take the focus off of the pain and on her. Its always hard to trust anyone after an experience like this but trust is earned..and communication is very important. Good luck.. PS try this: link removed Happy Heb

Hey Yea that happenes now and then, sometimes I think we're just really happy we start laughing, sometimes we think about something and we start laughing and sometimes we start laughing for absolutely no reason but I think that's coz we're happy. Happy Heb

lol, that's a new one! So stoned with gum, chick nearly choking and then seeking revenge by sticking gum in hair. Woah, it would've been a royal pain if he had long hair to get rid of the gum. When I was a kid I stuck blue tack in my hair 2 see how hard it'd be to get off, I ended up cutting a huge chunk out when I realised I couldn't and the blue tack was spreading rapidly. Happy Heb

Ok, I'm not too sure what you're going on about. But if I understand you, think logical! When your penis expands the foreskin is obviously not going to have enough space to retract as it will be way larger, thereforeeee it will just hav to do with whateva space it has available. There's no way to keep the skin down I dont' think. Happy Heb

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Hey jdubs4485. I have a feeling you're a very insecure person, like many others and myself too. I don't believe in Long Distance Relationships (LDR) unless its only short term as I don't see just how they can work out. Being a month and a bit away from my girl drove me crazy but it's kinda a lesson to be learnt and it teaches you just how much you need that special someone around. Here are some tips for your LDR Communication Keeping in touch is important, but it doesn't necessarily have to be expensive. Talking on the phone is great but I recommend trying to alternate who's footing the bill. Short upbeat messages left on the answering machine are nice too - you can play them over, and over, and over.... I can't say enough about how important e-mail can be. It's faster than mail, and it's cheaper than the phone. You can get an e-mail account at most colleges prepaid by your tuition. Snail-mail is important, too. A handwritten letter, or a card "for no reason" can go a long way. Communication means talking about what's going on in your life, and how you're feeling about things. If you don't communicate, your SO(significant other) probably isn't going to read your mind. Communication also means listening! On a sub-topic, there are a lot of fun things you can send in the mail: Holiday related items, tapes with music mixes, cute things you find in gift shops, videos if you have the equipment, poetry (yours, or stuff you've found), and songs. My favorite is one of those blank puzzles that you can find in card shops or art stores - make a picture/message, and send a couple of pieces at a time with letters and cards. Cookies are cute, too, if you can manage it. Trust In order to pull off a LDR, you need to have a LOT of trust in your partner. If you don't, you may end up wasting a lot of time wondering where they are and who they're with. Insecurity isn't a good attribrute to drag into a LDR. And here's your main problem, there isn't really a lot you can do but trust this girl you're with, after all, she is someone you're looking into having around in the future, how can you not trust her and if you are unable to trust her, how can you even live with her? Respect If you are leaving your SO's home area to go to college, other studies, or job reasons, do form new friendships. At college especially, you're going to a new place, and forming a new life. SO's should respect the existence and time devoted to this new life. A new life doesn't mean you don't care about your partner anymore, it means you're are still a living, breathing, valuble person when they aren't around. It also cuts down on the ever-present "I-miss-you!" loneliness/longing. Respect your partner's decision to live a life which doesn't revolve solely around you. Honesty Be honest about how you feel about your relationship, and what's going on in your life. Again, mind reading is unusual. If your studies or job are keeping you busy, or if you're sick, tell you partner - it's easier to understand why you haven't e-mailed in a while, or why you seem cranky/moody. Don't forget to tell them about the good things happening in your life as well as the bad ones! In the unfortunate case you decide that the relationship isn't working - for goodness sake, don't just leave the other person in the dark, be honest with them. This doesn't mean being rude or thoughtless. Try to avoid telling them before major exams, or during finals. And don't leave it on an answering machine. Love and commitment are also important, but I think that goes without saying. Believing in true love/ destiny might help, too. As to visiting each other, it depends on the distance, your financial situation, and what kinds of public or private transportation methods are available to you. Who pays for who to go where when and how often can end up being a point of contention, so be careful. During visits, you may feel a bit awkward - sometimes I do, sometimes I don't - and things are still working. You may want to take things slow for the first few days. And in my experience, the goodbyes get a little bit easier each time. Parents can be a "problem" for many teens entering in to LDRs, especially those begun online. Remember that most of the time they are trying to do what they think is best. They've seen scary things on the news, and like anyplace else, the internet has its dangers. Parents don't always have a full grasp of all that the internet is, and they don't feel like it's something the have control over - this makes them want to protect you from it. Try to explain things to them, and try to be patient. Try to avoid going behind their backs - if they find out (and they have a knack for it) they feel even less in control, and that will make things worse for you. I've had parents ;-) , so feel free to e-mail and ask for advice regarding them. What about what other people think? Some people may think you are wasting time in attempting a LDR: "Why bother? It never works." (Wrong - Explore the web, successes exist). Other people think it is a very brave thing to do and will regard you highly because of it. However, it's not what other people think that should matter in deciding whether to enter into a LDR. It's what you and your partner mean to each other. Nonetheless, it is more helpful to have supportive friends. Remember,"Absense makes the heart grow fonder". or as some believe it "Absense makes the heart cheat" - and its true enough too! Happy Heb

Hey I think its all possible, just depends on how horny the girl is, some chicks can have orgasms even just by kissing and getting real excited! Happy Heb

lol sure someone will miss you. We all make stupid mistakes here and there and even though sometimes life isn't as good as you want it to be but we all get our good and not as good days so just hang in there and the tide will pass. Don't be so depressed. Ok honestly, I wouldn't miss you and I ain't gonna lie because I don't know you at all but I would think that it was a shame that I never got to know you. You can fight or you can run. DO you really want to end your life now and miss out on all the things that have yet to come just because no one will miss you? You can change your attitude and say "screw them" because hey, if you want, you can have a great life without everyone else. Happy Heb

lol pickup lines seriously don't work, they'll get u a laugh tho. Com'on whitefang, ur just asking her out, not proposing, go with whateva feels right. It doesn't need 2 be perfect. LOL: "Well... hum.. could you please... hum.. go out... with me, if you don't mind and all that" Happy Heb

And its totally natural for you to feel so angry at her right now, because he did after all make that decision to leave after what he had told you. But like I said, he most likely did mean it, but those doubts just keep creeping in. You know how you feel so right about something but you have lingering doubts? He probably felt it was time to do something about it before the relationship got any further. I'm sure this decision really is hard on him..of course, because he cares about you, and I can understand how frustrating it is for you to hear that but he's being honest with you and even if it was a hard decision for her to make, he made the right one if he had these doubts. And you've had the experience of getting "out there" and finding out how hard it is, he needs to experience that for herself as well. Maybe he will find out its not at all what its cracked up to be, and come back. The grass is always greener on the other side, and sometimes people need to go and find out that it really isn't. On the other hand, he might enjoy being single. Everyones experience is different. In order to move on from this, try to keep busy, hang out with friends and do things that you didn't get a chance to do during your relationship. Don't focus on being angry and frustrated at her. Its normal to feel that way, but try to focus your energies on you right now. Nows the chance to do whatever you want before you get into another relationship, whether its with her or someone else. Doing these things will also help you with your loneliness. What helped me for example was hanging out with my friends (who I barely saw while in my relationship), I made new friends, I took walks, went to movies (yes by myself too), went to bookstores and coffee shops, etc..eventually you start to meet new people and make new friends. You might also find out new things about yourself that you enjoy. You are also very smart in not settling for just anyone who comes along. Rebounds rarely ever work. How long you should remain single is different for everyone. Obviously while you are still very hurt, its best to remain single for as long as you need to heal. The best time to start dating again is when you feel ready to, and you will know when that time is right. Until then you most likely won't even be interested in dating or getting to know someone else. Now if for some reason you meet someone really cool that you might want to get to know, the best way is to be friends with them first, without the notion that it may turn romantic. If you find yourself starting to develop feelings for that person and you want to spend more time with them, then you'll know its right to pursue something more. Theres no easy solution to stop loving someone, God knows I've tried, but unfortunately you can't control feelings or emotions. Time is what you need in order to heal, take time out for yourself. unfortunately theres not a lot you can do to stop the pain except to keep busy and try not to be alone a lot of the time. When people are in a relationship, they are used to being with someone all of the time, and when they break up, they are all of a sudden alone most of the time and its hard for them and it makes the break up even more painful. If you don't feel like going out, go anyways, you will feel a little better, it does help to take the focus off of the pain and on her. Its always hard to trust anyone after an experience like this but trust is earned..and communication is very important. Good luck.. Try this link too link removed Happy Heb

Hey Yea during a long-term relationship, we often have thoughts about cheating as we usually loose that rush adrenaline felt during earlier stages of relationships and often wonder what it might be like with someone else. I'm against on cheating due to many reasons: Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD's): As with all sexual relationships, STD's are a serious threat to both you and your significant other. We all know about the effects of HIV and AIDS, but there are ranges of other STD's that will alter your lifestyle in a heartbeat. Chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, gonorrhea and herpes are just a few diseases that will not only ruin your existing relationship, but will become a major obstacle with many future relationships. So before you go off with your booty call, since it is next to impossible to tell if they are carrying anything, wrap it up. For more information on STD's, check out our STDs section. If you don't care about yourself, at least have the compassion for the person you are putting at risk. Loss of Trust: You may think that this is irrelevant to you because he/she "isn’t going to catch you". Okay, you can think like that, but what if the impossible happens. Getting caught by your significant other will lead to dozens of problems, both short and long-term. First of all, he/she can very well leave your butt on the spot. Relationships are built on trust and breaking that bond is often irreversible. But if he/she really loves you and decides to maintain the relationship, then you have some interesting problems for the road ahead. How does getting questioned about everything you do sound? Or even better, knowing that your significant other could hold your screw up above your head for the remainder of your relationship? Let us give you a quick answer here; it will suck. Loss of Respect: This ties in with the loss of trust in a relationship because if you cannot keep your pants on when you are with someone, you are a sorry piece of work. Most people with healthy relationships believe not only in respecting their spouse, but also believing and respecting one's self. Without this key element, he/she will be questioning if it is really worth their time to continue staying with you. Furthermore, you integrity as a quality person will be jeopardized. If you get dumped, who are you going to try for next? Oh her/him? Sorry, he/she heard about your exploits and is not going to touch you with a ten-foot pole. Believe me when i say, "word gets around". Happy Heb

Hey lol, give it sometime. Its probably not as bad as you think. Everyone has arguments and we all say really stupid things that we don't exactly mean when we're pissed off. Happy Heb

LOL, if a guy starts 2 bleed, there's gotta be something seriously wrong with him! Ok The hymen is a thin, fleshy membrane that in some girls and young women is found at the opening to the vagina. It has a central perforation, which can be round or elongated, through which menstrual blood will flow. It is also called "maidenhead". For a long time, it was believed that an intact hymen was evidence of a girl's virginity, as the hymen posed a barrier to sexual intercourse. Although, it is true that some girls who are still virgins have no hymen at all. In addition, there have been some cases in which girls who have had several sexual intercources had an intact Hymen. The hyman is located about 2 inches into a girls vigina, during sexual intercourse, this is usually broken if the guy goes in far enough. Girls who do have a hymen can break their hymen in a number of differerent ways, many times without even knowing it. Some of the non-sexual ways in which a hymen will tear are: 1. Through an accident or injury. 2. Horseback riding, bicycling, high jumping, gymnastics or similar sports. 3. Insertion of finger or instrument by doctor during pelvic exam. 4. Tampon insertion. etc.. Since an intact hymen can be stretched and split by an erect penis during sexual intercourse, a woman may feel momentary discomfort and may bleed. Should either persist, a doctor should be consulted. On the other hand, there may be no blood or pain involved at all when the hymen is torn. Everyone's different so the loss of blood varies from a few drops to an excessive amount. However, if the bleeding does not stop, you may want some medical advice. Happy Heb

Hey Wolfy Sounds like you want this ex back. Maybe it is time to leave the relationship. Give her a call, what happened between you and ur high school sweetheart and how come you's don't contact each other anymore? Don't regret things and don't turn back time. Time's untouchable for now, the past can't be change but the future can... Happy Heb

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems. The condition is most often described as being an inability to delay ejaculation to a point when it is mutually desirable for both partners. The definition of when ejaculation is premature is subjective. While some men have trouble controlling their orgasm upon entry, others consider 5-10 minutes of copulation too little time. How long a man is able to last is not the important factor in diagnosing premature ejaculation. The crucial issue is if a man is satisfied with the length of coitus. Most men have experienced this problem at some time in their life. Premature ejaculation was once thought to be caused by drugs or certain infections such as urethritis, but popular wisdom suggests it is more psychological in nature. The exact cause of the condition, however, still remains a mystery. Premature ejaculation often occurs during the first experiences with sex, and in this case is most commonly attributed to anxiety. The majority of men gradually learn to control their orgasm, and have no lasting effect. Some men will develop a longer-term anxiety toward sex, which can cause a prolonged experience with premature ejaculation. Sexual behavior is also a factor. The longer the period since last ejaculating, the quicker young men typically reach orgasm. Younger men tend to ejaculate more quickly than older men, as experience seems to be associated with ejaculatory control. What can I do to delay ejaculation? Desensitizing creams are products that can lessen the sensations felt by men during intercourse so that they can last longer. Pleasure Balm is a good, mild and safe desensitizing cream that only requires a small amount be applied. Masters and Johnson method The best way to fighting premature ejaculation is learning how to identify and control the sensations leading up to orgasm. The Masters and Johnson method does just that. The Masters and Johnson method requires a great deal of patience and practice, but is very effective. Follow the steps below. You may want to start with masturbation. Begin by bringing yourself to a point relatively close to climax, and stop, allowing yourself to relax before starting again. Each time you do this, bring yourself closer and closer to orgasm until you cannot control it any longer. You may want to practice with the aid of a lubricant. I recommend trying Astroglide. Repeating this procedure a number of times on different occasions will help you learn where your point of climax is. Once you have an idea about your "point of no return" you should be able to direct stimulation from your partner leading up to orgasm. The best way to practice this method is with a caring lover, although you can try to prepare by yourself. With your partner, engage in non-coital stimulation (like masturbation or oral sex) and gradually allow yourself to reach that point just before ejaculation. At that point, signal your partner to stop (often this is done with a light squeeze or sound) and allow yourself to partially lose your erection. Repeat these steps several times to get the hang of it. You should practice these steps for several days before you attempt intercourse. Once you are ready to try intercourse, lay on your back and direct your partner to slowly allow you to penetrate. As soon as you feel that you are about to climax, signal to your partner or give a gentle push upward. Relax for a bit, then begin again. You should soon be able to control your ejaculation and enjoy having sex. Although the method is extremely effective, it could take weeks before you get it just right. Remember, be patient and try not to put too much pressure on the situation. If you don’t get it the first time, shrug it off and remember that you are working towards something that takes time. If you still have trouble, don’t hesitate to contact a sex therapist for guidance. Simulation technique Some men can successfully increase their control with the Masters and Johnson method, but have a very difficult time maintaining control once a partner enters the scene. Of course it's normal that you're going to be more aroused when your lover is present. If this is the situation you find yourself in, here's what can help: Add a 'simulation' step between the masturbation and intercourse phases discussed above. This will help you learn to control a higher sense of arousal than is possible with simple masturbation, and you get to do it in private without worrying about what your partner is thinking. There are a lot of products out there that simulate real intercourse. I recommend that you get a toy such as the CyberSnatch with a nice, high quality lubricant such as Astroglide.This will help simulate the sensations of real intercourse. To heighten your arousal, get a virtual sex DVD. These are interactive sexual videos that will help you simulate a real sexual encounter. If you don't have a DVD player, any erotic video should do the trick. Follow the same steps as the masturbation stage of the Masters and Johnson method using one of these videos and the CyberSnatch Once you can control your ejaculation in this simulation, then move on to intercourse with a partner. Squeeze technique The squeeze technique is really just a variation of the Masters and Johnson method, except that the assisting partner squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before the point of climax to essentially cancel the orgasm. The "squeeze" forces blood out of the penis and reduces the erection. You may want to use the squeeze technique if the Masters and Johnson method alone is not working. Other techniques Masturbation is a technique used by many young men to increase their level of control. It is thought that masturbation before sexual activity will lessen the amount of desire a man feels thereby increasing control. This technique is not very effective, however, as level of arousal is only part of what contributes to the condition. Condoms are an effective means of reducing the amount of stimulation experienced during sex. Some men find that a condom helps them prevent premature ejaculation by lowering their arousal. If one condom does not decrease the stimulation enough, then put on one more. Condoms provide excellent protection against STDs and pregnancy, so they’re certainly worth a try. A good Sexual positions can affect a man's ability to control his ejaculation. The typical "missionary" position (on top of your partner) is not the best position while attempting to control ejaculation. Try laying on your back, allowing the partner to control copulation. In this position you are more relaxed, and can guide your partner easily. Happy Heb

lol, don't quite agree with creid coz I don't see how he's gonna chase after you if he's the one who's spilling the problems out... I reckon you should just give him some space, totally slow down, ask him what the heck he wants coz you're really sick of playing stupid games. (hey that's what i'd say). Happy Heb