Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb

Hey I dunno it's really hard to say. I'm a guy and there's no definate way to know I'm totally interested in you unless I say so really. Like I'll smile, contact you etc but purely on a friend basis and I'll have no problems with that. However the eye thing might have a point but that depends on wether you think there's a difference between being attracted and interested to someone. Heb

Hey Ems, well don't let it get to you. You have a new guy unless you're over him then don't worry. I'm not sure what he wants either and only he knows really. He can be making you jealous (if he's not over you) or he's just trying to get you to move on, there's so many possibilities. Like I said, it's up to you. Heb

Hmm sounds like a breakup you're not over yet. It's a pretty ok poem I guess. Interesting nevertheless. Hope you get better soon! Heb

Well if you've been like this for such a long time then perhaps it's because you want to somehow and the fact that people try to help and it hasn't worked doesn't sound too good either. However it is good that you want to fix this problem of yours, it will by no means an easy task based on my perception of you but the point is everything is possible. But lol, I'm a really positive person and I think here lies the problem, you sound way too negative. Just think about the positive things everytime something bad happens, take a step back and think about the good sides of it. Like everytime something bad happens just think "cool, glad that happened then instead of another time" or "yay that gives me a few more hours before something else bad happens" you know, things like that... Smile, think positive and you'll be fine. Like I always say: Happiness isn't a summary of your situation, but a function of your outlook on life. You can't be sad unless you let yourself to be. - Remember that! Heb

Sorry, never experienced it before but I'll toss in my thoughts. Isn't it possible for something to develop from close friendships? yes I believe so... There's your answer then. I reckon if you both wanna get back together then they'll be a way. That's just my thoughts. Heb

Hey Rusty_boi, Heb here. We meet again. You know the answer already man! If you want her and no one else then what the heck are you doing think about giving up? Fight for love and draw power from it, you'd be surprised just how much it holds. Obviously you've still got a chance or she's just greedy but either way if you still have strong feelings for her and don't exactly wanna loose them yet then go for it wait. I waited for my gf, lol she wasn't sure if she wanted a bf when I asked her out she told me not to wait but that's coz she's really caring and anyway so i waited and half a year later we got 2getha and have been ever since. That's just to give you some hope, you'll need it. Heb

lol man you don't need luck! That's more than you can handle. Heb

Well first question you should be asking yourself is wether or not you love this guy, if you do fully then what's your problem? Why not support him, I mean he's recently lost his job, that's not easy right? On a side note, you should talk and ask him but if he's sensitive he might get a bit angry so take it easy Hope that helps Heb

Like everyone's said, lubrication is a must. And remember do take it easy with your weapon! Sweetharmony has a good point with positions and being tense but I think the main thing is for her to be relaxed and if she doesn't want it cause it hurts don't enforce it, let it slip. Heb

Hey com'on. How do you know he was with someone else? As you said, you haven't had sex for a while, and there can be numerous reasons for that, both good and bad and the inbetween. Maybe he got rid of them coz like you said, he's a loving guy and he probably cares about you and doesn't want you to worry. I mean sure, us guys don't mind masturbating and everyone else wouldn't either if we haven't had sex right? Heb

Woah, you blewit gurl! Ok that doesn't matter, because with every setback, there's a lesson to be learnt. In this case, even though it is true that guys are supposed to initiate the contact and make the first move but then again, gurls are supposed to stay at home and cook dinner all day aren't they? Things change and if you really want something, you should take it into your own hands, next time, don't be too shy, if 20 minutes pass by and no one makes a move then go up to him. You can't even be sure if he was attracted to you or not. Sometimes I look into a chick's eyes all the time and I might have not a lot of attraction, just seems fun. Other times guys might look away, not because they don't like you maybe they're just really shy so you never know, you gotta ask if you wanna know for sure. Just remember, seize the opportunity, make no regrets. Heb

Hey I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. First off, I believe he really did mean it when he said he really loves you and wants to be with you, but he probably had creeping doubts in his mind about wanting to see what else is out there. The doubts might've gotten stronger and thats when he probably realized it was time to leave. Of course its very hard when you love someone so much just changes their mind, but he must've had these thoughts for quite some time, people usually don't make these kinds of decisions just out of the blue. And its totally natural for you to feel so angry at him right now, because he did after all make that decision to leave after what he had told you. But like I said, he most likely did mean it, but those doubts just keep creeping in. You know how you feel so right about something but you have lingering doubts? He probably felt it was time to do something about it before the relationship got any further. I'm sure this decision really is hard on him..of course, because he cares about you, and I can understand how frustrating it is for you to hear that but he's being honest with you and even if it was a hard decision for him to make, he made the right one if he had these doubts. And you've had the experience of getting "out there" and finding out how hard it is, he needs to experience that for herself as well. Maybe he will find out its not at all what its cracked up to be, and come back. The grass is always greener on the other side, and sometimes people need to go and find out that it really isn't. On the other hand, he might enjoy being single. Everyones experience is different. In order to move on from this, try to keep busy, hang out with friends and do things that you didn't get a chance to do during your relationship. Don't focus on being angry and frustrated at her. Its normal to feel that way, but try to focus your energies on you right now. Nows the chance to do whatever you want before you get into another relationship, whether its with her or someone else. Doing these things will also help you with your loneliness. What helped me for example was hanging out with my friends (who I barely saw while in my relationship), I made new friends, I took walks, went to movies (yes by myself too), went to bookstores and coffee shops, etc..eventually you start to meet new people and make new friends. You might also find out new things about yourself that you enjoy. You are also very smart in not settling for just anyone who comes along. Rebounds rarely ever work. How long you should remain single is different for everyone. Obviously while you are still very hurt, its best to remain single for as long as you need to heal. The best time to start dating again is when you feel ready to, and you will know when that time is right. Until then you most likely won't even be interested in dating or getting to know someone else. Now if for some reason you meet someone really cool that you might want to get to know, the best way is to be friends with them first, without the notion that it may turn romantic. If you find yourself starting to develop feelings for that person and you want to spend more time with them, then you'll know its right to pursue something more. Theres no easy solution to stop loving someone, God knows I've tried, but unfortunately you can't control feelings or emotions. Time is what you need in order to heal, take time out for yourself. unfortunately theres not a lot you can do to stop the pain except to keep busy and try not to be alone a lot of the time. When people are in a relationship, they are used to being with someone all of the time, and when they break up, they are all of a sudden alone most of the time and its hard for them and it makes the break up even more painful. If you don't feel like going out, go anyways, you will feel a little better, it does help to take the focus off of the pain and on her. Its always hard to trust anyone after an experience like this but trust is earned..and communication is very important. I don't think your ex finding anyone will make a difference (too much) when you want to move on, you will, no matter what. Heb

Hey Woah 9 hours, what you doin, pleasure marathon? No wonder it died. nah jks hmm well that's a new one. I guess maybe it just went all of a sudden but you were way to tense when it happened instead of relaxing. Next time try lettin it go, kissin and just totally calming down again and it should come up. If you're a virgin, you shouldn't be exactly having erectional problems. Did this happened before or after the insertion? Heb

Hey lol that stuff's 2 hollywood for me. Unless you know a lot about that person prior 2 meeting him/her, it's not really possible. It'd be more infatuation. Heb

Hey. First up, I'd like to welcome you to enotalone on behalf of everyone. I'm sure u've taken a nice step towards finding support and advice from many people of various ages from around the world which will be around for a while. Isn't life all about takin chances? you shouldn't think about things, just do it because you know, chances are you'll never be able to predict the future. But life's just too short, screw thinkin twice. What if she's just feelin what u're feelin, someone's gotta spill it out sonner or later, sure u might screw ur friendship ova for a while but at least he'll kno and u might get a chance in the future. Like me, I was in the same situation and now me and my really good friend's togetha. You don't really have a friendship right now, well not a deep bond yet so it's a great way of finding out things about people as when you're going out with someone, you learn so much more about them as you would friends, plus, what have you got to loose? I think it's just you thinkin too much and worrying about things before they surpass but I suppose, sometimes people like to be prepared even though there's just way too many possiblities lol "ooh.. the possibilities" - some sorta toy ad catchphrase. Anyway, right back to this, even if u do worry, somethin else you might not b prepared for might occur, then wouldn't it have been a waste of time? I think you should tell, coz you know it's definitely the best way i reckon. Because that way you wouldn't waste your time, if she says no, u'll know what she feels sooner and plus, even if she says no, at least she knows you like her and now so she could reconsider. Don't think twice. Go for it. Like I said, life's way too short once you get down to it. Heb

I think it's a great poem, she'll love it. Any guy writing a poem for a girl will impress her. Heb

Try some of these: Basic crunches for abdominal muscles: Lie on the floor with hands behind your head, elbows flared out and knees bent with feet on floor. Press the lower back to the floor. Contract abdominal muscles, using the muscles to pull shoulders upward toward the ceiling. Lower your body. Repeat up to 15 times. Diagonal crunches -- Lie on the floor with hands behind your head, elbows flared out and knees bent with feet on floor. Place the left ankle over the right knee. Raise and slightly twist to bring right shoulder toward left knee. Do not move elbows. Lower and repeat. Repeat up to 15 times and then switch sides. Work for transverse abdominis (works lower abdominals) -- Place hands under buttocks, with back pressed against the floor. Lift legs about 10 inches off of the floor. Do small scissor-kicks slowly. This exercise may be more difficult. Beginners should do fewer repetitions. Those with back problems should lift legs higher to ensure back stays on the floor. You may replace this exercise with a pelvic tilt. To perform a pelvic tilt -- Lie on the floor, knees bent, back flat. Slowly tuck buttocks up and contract. Release. Repeat up to 15 times. Heb

lol that's weird. Maybe he's doing it for a friend? Woah that doesn't happen much, a threesome with two guys, most guys love two chicks. Well think if you actually want to do it, having sex with a stranger is not exactly the safest thing and would be quite awkward so yea if you don't wanna then don't feel pressured. Heb

Ok try some of these. I don't know too many but u should look it up, ask around etc for some more. Labial Massage Place a well lubricated hand over her labia, fingers pointing towards her anus. Pull up toward the navel and alternate hands. Explore the inner and outer lips with your fingers. Pull gently on one lip and then the other. Rub the outer lips gently between your forefinger and thumb, then the inner lips. A-One and A-Two and a-Three Try inserting your first two fingers into her vagina, then arch your thumb back 'hitch-hiker' style and thrust in until your thumb rests against her clitoris. Now wriggle, twist, thrust, and vibrate your hand to drive her wild. Close But No Cigar If your partner has a particular spot that they like to have licked or caressed, try doing so very close to but not quite on that spot. This trick will make them take longer to reach their orgasm, but they will likely have a much stronger, more powerful orgasm when they finally do. Push Here to Start Gently insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she's ready, insert a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus (Don't insert it). Press against her anus while you move your fingers inside her vagina. Tap Dancing Place the palm of your hand on her mons (the mound where her pubic hair is), and rest your fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her thigh. Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your hand in a tiny circular motion. Your palm should not slide too much over her skin during this process. Rather, her skin should move underneath it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until you have given her ten taps. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds. Then repeat the whole routine over and over. Cervix Clock A woman's cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of her vagina. The cervix feels like a little dome of tissue, and may also have a small cleft in the middle, like your chin. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding the cervix. Some women may enjoy this and want you to do it more often; others won't. From the Outside Lay your free hand over the lower part of your partner's abdomen. Experiment by applying different kinds of pressure with the top hand while fingers from your other hand are inside her vagina. Gentle Touch and Tickle Tickle the clitoris extremely lightly. Healing Thrust Some women might need and want good, hard, deep, vigorous thrusting penetration. Be sure to keep her relaxed - don't let her get tensed. Pinch and Pull Gently pinch and pull on the clitoris. Rock Around the Clit With your forefinger make tiny circles, stopping at every 'hour'. Temple Gate Tease With one finger, tickle her vaginal opening as lightly as possible. Tour de France Orbit your forefinger around between her inner and outer labia from perineum to above her clitoris. Triple Digit Pet Use your three longest fingers, with your middle finger gliding along the outside of her vaginal opening and your other two fingers running along the area where her thigh meets her labia. Twist and Shout Using one or more fingers, massage in and out while twisting at the wrist. Heb

Hey It's really hard 2 tell. He can honestly just want to be friends again, want something back from you or he could like you. It kinda is a good sign coz at least he wants to hear from you again. Are you over him? Get back to me Heb

lol I'm not exactly sure what you mean but. Sexual flirting is a good good start, everytime he talks about something relate it to sex. Like e.g sauce - did u squeeze it out, har far did it shoot etc. Or ask him how often he masterbates etc lol, u can even ask him to show it 2 u if ur plannin on gettin somewhere. Heb

Hey aha, sorry I wasn't there either but I'm glad that you got good feedback, that's a integral part of this site. Perhaps you should post up the link, you might get more feedback. Heb

lol just remember, it's cool. Do it as much as you want man. Happy Heb

Hey. First up, I'd like to welcome you to enotalone on behalf of everyone. I'm sure u've taken a nice step towards finding support and advice from many people of various ages from around the world which will be around for a while. I'm glad you look better now. But understand this Christian, looks aren't everything, you basically just have to look ok and you can get a chick in 9's and 10's. I don't look that good and I can still go out with attractive chicks. You just need to understand looks ain't everything and if you can't get these chicks then maybe you need to lower your standards coz not eveygirl ranked 9 and 10 will go out with ANY guy. Just be happy with yourself first, or how can you be happy about someone else? Hope it works out for you Heb

Well if you're totally over him and you know he is too you then a call would be quite nice. Howevera thoughtful card would be a fine alternative. I'm sorry about the breakup but I'm glad to hear that you're fine now. Heb