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I would try the whole not seeing each other very much- but we dont really see each other alot. I work first shift and he works 2nd. We spend abt a hour a day together and then some weekends together. So dont really know how to make that work any better. I am leaving for a week in May to go to the Caribbean with my best girl friend. Guess that will give him some extra time apart from me. I am turned on by the idea of having a threesome. I asked who he had in mind- lol- but he told me that he didnt have anyone in mind but that he had heard some show on tv bring it up and that it brought up fantasies. He says that he thinks he would be turned on to watch someone else be with me. Not sure how that works. I have learned that if I bring up having a threesome he gets extrememly turned on. We used to have a great sex life but it has dulled- mainly because he says he is too tired or doenst feel good enuf to have sex. Think this could be his way of trying to fix that- cause he keeps acting like he is doing it for me. And telling me that he wants me to enjoy myself. Which to me sounds too good to be true. Or maybe he wants to experiment. I have learned that to mention threesomes turns him on- so does porn. So I have been using those to turn him on. Guess we could use a lil experiementing. But I gave him the go ahead to look for a guy- I am curious who he would pick and think I could get a better idea of things based on if this was his best friend or just some aquaintace that he wanted to meet for sex only. Just still confused. and I just dont want to mess things up further.

I am confused. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. We were engaged then one day I pointed out that he did not try to make time for me. And suggested that maybe he wasn't ready. I was not expecting to hear "your right" So for the past few months we are still living together just not engaged anymore. Lately he hasn't been interested in sex. When I say not interested, I mean we can go 2 weeks with out having sex. ( I am attractive and work out and take care of my body so I haven't physically changed) I don't think he is cheating I don't have any other signs that point to that- and my gut tells me he is not. Or it did. About a week ago he brought up the idea that our sex life needed spice and asked me if I would have a threesome with him. He wants it to be with two guys. Guess it caught me off guard cause don't guys normally want two girls? So I am just feeling really confused. Need any and all advice. I mean I love him dearly and he is always sweet and good to me and this is the first thing to come up in 2 years- Just don't know how to deal.