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I have a simple question: What are the hints guys send to girls they might be interested in but have never even talked to before? Smiles? Eye contact?

Thanks guys! I'll see him this week and tell you how it turned out. Guys always tell me the same thing, to overcome my shyness and talk to the guy, since most of them like girls that take the next step and appreciate if we do so. Thanks again! God bless!

Hi everyone! I have a question. There is this guy I see everyday before one of my classes and we seem to have a lot of eye contact. I've noticed that when he can, he tries to look at me. Now, I look at him and smile and he smiles back. He's really attractive and also is in a symphonic band, which it's cool, because I like music. Anyway, I really want to get to know him, but I don't know how to approach him the first time and not come accross as "desperate" or "awkward," because he's not even in any of my classes, he's just someone I see every day. How should I start talking to him? I'm a very outgoing person; I just don't know how to start a conversation with someone I don't even know or share anything in common yet. Should I just keep smiling or just start a conversation? Any advice? Thanks!

I will take your advice and see what happens. I'm just scared to make him uncomfortable. And no... shy guys are not necessarily nice, I think. My exboyfriend was really shy, which I thought was really cute and he is everything but nice. I know this guy is one of the "nice ones", because of what I know about him. If I would've known just a bit about my ex, I would've never even paid attention to him.

Well, I ask because I know this guy has been looking at me and he knows that I'm the girl that likes him back and I've already made the first move. I talked to him and he was EXTREMELY NERVOUS (no eye contact, etc), and when I say hi to him in the hall or something like that he does the same exact thing (no eye contact whatsoever). Still, he keeps looking at me and passes in front of where I am a lot (when really he doesn't have to). My question is: Is he waiting for me to make the next move again (talk to him, etc)? Or he is just plain not interested? This guy is thought to be a very nice guy and he comes accross as rude to me, and I KNOW he doesn't do it with everyone, so I'm just very curious why he acts like that with me and why can't he be normal? Is it because he's intimidated?

Ok... so there is this girl that you've been looking at and you might be attracted to... someone comes to you and tells you that "there is a girl infatuated with you and wants to get to know you, but doesn't know if you're in a relationship..." Suddenly, it happens that this girl you've been looking at comes to you out of nowhere and talks to you and, in fact, she makes reference to the guy who had told you before about "this girl"... then you figure it out! This is the girl! Question: Do you feel more shy (not making eye contact with her, being nervous, not saying much when being around her) because you know this might be the girl that likes you? Or Do you feel more comfortable and go for it?

No... Confidence is how you project yourself to others. It shows how much you respect yourself and take care f yourself and, thereforeeee, how much you would respect and care for others. Confidence (or self-respect) doesn't just fall from the sky; it is something you build slowly. If you don't have it, then if you ever find a girlfriend you will be really unhappy, because you will always feel insecure and a lesser person. I'm telling you this, because my exboyfriend was sort of like that and we were really unhappy, even though we had fun being with each other and all, it's just that he didn't have any confidence in himself; thereforeeee, he was always insecure of me, when he really was only insecure of himself... Think about it, and you will only be able to achieve it if you try to do so. If you repeat to yourself that you will never be confident of who you are, you never will. Best of luck.

At last someone brought the subject up. Well, since I'm not American and I've only been here for 5 years, it's been quite shocking for me the whole dating thing. Because I get all these guys "asking me out", and I thought they were just being nice and went with them, when I realized they were trying to kiss me or stuff like that... well yes, that was awkward! Well, I really don't feel comfortable with such a thing. Back home, we used to just hang out as groups, where you got to know the person you were attracted to and then through other people's opinions (and help!) you were able to figure out if this person liked you or not. If they did, then you "went out on a date", but after you already knew the person. Of course, if the two people don't know each other that well, but both are very outgoing and have that natural chemistry going on, then it's all right! Personally, I feel more comfortable when I guy I don't know that much just casually talks to me or invites me to get some coffee (but always keeping it casual) and then later on anything more formal. On the other hand, if a friend I've been knowing for quite some time and we've had that chemistry, flirting, and the whole nine yards... and he asks me for a nice dinner to get together and stuff... well that's always nice!

Hi y'all, Well, I graduate this spring from college and already have a job after I get out. I've already taken all my hard classes and this semester everything is going on pretty smoothly. However, I feel sad and depressed as if I'm afraid to get out there and leave my college friends and I guess college in general. I've worked in this company before as a co-op, so I know how the environment is, I guess I'm just scared that I might be the only young person around or the pressures this job might ask for. My friends tell me to look at the good things of graduating, like having more time to do things (since chemical engineering didn't really leave us any time free at all), such as working out, doing things around the house... etc.... I mean... Is it only me, or is this a normal thing? Thanks.

Whatever you do, BE CONFIDENT. WE LIKE THAT. If you all talk on the phone a lot, just ask her to go and drink some coffee together or something casual, not dinner or anything so she won't feel pressured. Just try to think of the most casual opportunity and ask her to come along with you. If she responds positively, then it will be a matter of you two doing the same over and over and you will boost your confidence progressively. Then, when you feel good about what is going on, be honest with her and VERY CONFIDENT.

Hi, First of all, what girls are attracted to the most is a guy's confidence, because what we want is to feel protected and that is simply projected through a guy's confidence. It does not sound like you are shy, because you have sense of humor; probably, you just haven't found the right person, or someone that has the same things in common as you, or simply someone that you feel comfortable around (that's the most important thing). There is nothing wrong with being virgin, not have kissed, etc., some girls even like that, because they feel special (of course, as long as you keep acting as you know what you're doing, remember we like confidence). As long as you are honest, funny (and you already have that), and project confidence, you are good to go. However, do keep in mind that there is no right or wrong way to do things. Don't feel bad because you haven't found the right person. Some of us, have stayed single for over two years, and enjoying it, because it's the only way we can learn and appreciate when that special person comes around. Don't force things, they will come your way. Good luck!

Thank you all! I'll really try to be patient and be cool around him and make him feel comfortable. I'll let you know how it turns out! I appreciate your help! Thanks! Kat.

Hi everyone, I am FREAKING OUT, because I really like this guy who I only see at school everyday but never had met or talked to Well, I started finding out about him through other people that knew him, and everybody said that 1. He was a very nice guy 2. Very intelligent (he is a math grad student). 3. Very good christian 4. However, some people tell me that he has no common sense whatsoever. 5. Still plays XBox at 27 (not that it's bad), 6. And that he is not the promiscuous kind of guy. He is just a very nice guy. Anyway, a friend of mine told him that there was a girl that liked him and he turned really curious, blushed, and really wanted to know who she was. I decided last week I had to talk to him, because the only thing he knew how to do was to pass in front of my office and give me the "look", but never tried to talk. Well, I talked to him out of the blue and he was REALLY nervous, he was looking everywhere and everyone but me and sometimes looked at me and talked normally, but didn't stop moving. The fact is that by this moment, he already knew that I'm the girl that likes him. Anyway, we had a nice short conversation and haven't talked to him directly since then, but he always passes in front of my office and keeps looking at me, but suddenly runs away. Then, I see him in the halls and I say "hi", but I notice that he gets REALLY REALLY nervous and doesn't look at me WHATSOEVER, and takes some time to reply back, but eventually does. In addition to that, today I passed in front of his office and asked him a couple of questions but he kept looking at his book and only looked at me slightly and started covering his face with his cap... I mean WHAT IN THE WORLD?!? So now, I feel really stupid, I feel like he's avoiding me or something. Everybody tells me that he's not avoiding me, that he just might be shy and I should keep trying, but man, can someone be THIS SHY??!?! What did I do wrong? Am I intimidating him? I just want to know him! I need help!!! Sorry for being so long ChemE.