Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb

Hey Sara's got a real good point! Sometimes we're just so self consious and paranoid about something that we start to see things that aren't necessarily true. You might have to ask urself something else too: are you happy with who she is and what you's as a couple represent? Happy Heb

Hmm now i'm starting to get an idea of what you feel. Are you insecure like me? Happy Heb

lol Cid, that's not a bad idea but hey if she's gonna do that and can, I'm pretty sure she'd have no problems talkin to her guy already, save her from the trouble, take the shortcut, the easy way, just talk to the guy already. Your strategy is interesting though Cid, I'd like to hear from you one day if you get over your shyness from that. Happy Heb

Hey I suppose that works, doing things slowly but surely. It kinda hurts even more when it doesn't work that way but yea if you don't feel up to it then don't push yourself. You obviously put a lot into this friendship to loose it even though I don't see how that is possible, she's still with you as friends even when she knos you like her, telling her directly the truth, well that'd take guts. Yea, play it safe if ur up to it. Don't let all that determination go 2 waste too soon though. 'luck Happy Heb

Well obviously you should try to save yourself from being in love with two people at the same time as its easy to decide now than later on and you usually save urself heaps of complications. But maybe it is a good idea, who knows what will happen in two years time and if you date someone else, it'll make it easier to forget her. However, if you truly love her with all your heart then I don't see why you'd have these wacky ideas about dating someone else while you are still in love with her. She'd obviously tell you not to wait but does she really mean it? Is two years of your life worth the rest of it together with the one you love? Think about it Happy Heb

I was thinking... if ur still following this I'd like to ask you why you vowed to never date a black girl if you urself is black too? Are you ashamed of your own race or is it just you've had enough of black girls? lol i just don't get it everyone's different and for me, a race of people doesn't mean that they are all the same or even have the same similarities. Happy Heb

me and my gf belong to different races. Ok we're not black and white but in a way, I can still relate to what you feel. I don't think at all that its weird and most people wouldn't either. Perhpas in older generations or more traditional people. FIrst understand that as long as you like her, who cares about what people think, and don't let them get to you, stand up for whats urs and if it ain't, it won't be. Happy Heb

We'll I've always thought about it like this. "Do it for the one you like and if you can't even talk to him and get to know him, how can you even like him like that? You should talk 2 him, loose your shyness not for you but for him since you like him so much and if you can't, then you obviously don't like him enough." Thats my thought anyway, if you think a little or open your mind up a bit, it'll be more meaningful and you can see why I said it. But yea, at the end of the day, its ur life, do what you want with it. Hope that helped Happy Heb

lol ok I'm a guy and true every1's diff but that's exactly what my gf got me for my b-day a music gift certificate and I understand that she didn't know what to get me and decided that it was probably better for me 2 get myself something with her money really. Now, for me that just didn't work coz a gift's a gift, you're suppose 2 GIVE me something not for me 2 get something with what you've given me, i dunno, its hard to explain but your his gf, he'll like whateva you get him even if its a certificate, i just reckon he'd like it more if it was something YOU got him, like it'd b more personal and worth more 2 him. Plus, how many people actually buy cds these days, I think the chances are that more people will have burnt cds with dowloaded songs. Sorry esprit if you feel i've offended you in anyway, its only my thoughts on gift certificates, especially music. I'm sure its a great idea anyway and some guy would probably love to get one from his gf. If your bf is young say teen or pre teen age then I'd recommend an accesorry if not a item of clothing. Clothing is usually hard especially if you haven't known him for long enough to know what size top purchase. Belts, chains, bracelets, ring? necklace or if he's into any sports something from that sport. Just remember, as long as its from you, he's not gonna hate ur gift. Happy Heb

Ok, this is why I don't like to assume things I reckon "screw it, that's find out". There's so many reasons, so many possibilities that even if you do get it, you really wouldn't know and it wouldn't make much of a difference until you knew the absolute answer. So this is what I recommend, its a win win situation (that's what it seems for me anyway). Ask her out, obviously you wanna be more than friends and if she rejects you at least she'll know you're interested for that "future someone" and sooner or later you'll be good friends again. You're great friends already from what i've heard so it shouldn't take long. By asking her out, you can also have a good reason of finding out what exactly she wants right now instead of just asking casually and subtly hinting that you're interested. What do you say? lets stop playing games? Happy Heb

Ok i'm assuming that she didn't buy it eventually. I'd be pretty cut myself, I'm willing to do this and you won't accept it. She might understand later on that you just wanted to follow the rule but its like she's giving you her love and you don't wanna accept it. Talk 2 her let her understand, I think that'd b the best way to go. Your choice wasn't wrong, that's what you wanted, you just need 2 think about how ppl will feel thats all, its still pretty much the same. Happy Heb

if I was her and giving out these signals it could be that she doesn't want to go out with anyone right now, not even you and she likes to be just friends with you, that's probably why she hasn't distanced herself. I think she could like you with the "not right now", its like keeping things open in a way. If you work on it lol, that's if you want her, keep it up, make her like you more and more and one day just pop up a question and ask her out. That's how I got my gf, we were kinda in the same situation. Happy Heb

Well if ur both really shy then you will understand how he feels. Just be yourself around him, keep limited eye contact with him but if you stop talking or he looks at you anytime, look into his eyes and flash a smile or something. Don't expect yourself to do too much as you are shy too. Don't worry, you don't have a lot to worry about at all since he's shy, he shouldn't expect too much out of conversations as he isn't doing is fair share of talking either. hope that helped. Happy Heb

lol I haven't heard of people sucessfully making their voices sound deeper except for the usual trying to sound deeper method, I didn't know that it could hurt eventually but I haven't tried it enough so yea sorry bud, can't help you much. Just think about it this way, everyone's got ups and downs, this probably is ur down so think of somethin ur good at and be proud of it. Happy Heb

Hey If you really want to follow your parents rule (its usually best to) then its just a month, why not wait, it'll make your first kiss even better! But if you don't care about them and wanna do things your way like you probably should anyway then do it but don't let them find out just yet. For kissing tips, one main thing you gotta remember is take it easy, don't tense up and don't freeze, others can be found in the French Kiss forum section. Happy Heb

Don't make her jealous for starters and becareful about the way you talk, you could be doing it unintentionally. Let her know that your the only girl right now and you care about her heaps. Tell her how you feel about all this and why it should bother her if you don't at all care about the others anymore. Hope that helped Happy Heb

I don't know what your problem is bud. If you really loved someone, you'd care for them more than you yourself. So what if she's not the best looking girl around so what, do you really like her or not? Maybe you just want her for some one night stand action I dunno but if she likes you and you don't like her, don't go out with her, it'll only cause complications. There's another thing you should think about, do you want real friends or respect from people who respect not only coz of who you represent but you urself as well. Happy Heb

Well don't worry so much bud, this is ur first time, you don't need 2 make it good, just simple and easy! The thing is being able 2 do it, not how you do it. Maybe you shouldn't ask her out yet if ur not ready or afriad of rejection, just maybe tell her how u feel about her or flirt with her for a while and see her reaction. But if u're gonna ask her out just keep it lightly like hey we've known each other for a while, i think we're great friends but I wanna take it one step further and go out with you, if it ain't gonna work out we can be friends again, u wanna give it a go? Something like that or whateva u come up with. Happy Heb

I think its a sterotyping thing and that people don't like change too. I see nothing wrong, as long as you two are happy and in love for real then screw everyone, you have the right to be happy. lol yeah, I wanna know more about that typo... Happy Heb

Yea, withdrawal definitely ain't the best way of birth control and most guys do prefer bareback no condom. Everyone's get things pretty much happenin here though. Give him more experience using a condom or start taking other forms of birth control. Do remember though, nothing is 100% guaranteed but sex is sex and we do need it, whateva it takes to get our satisfaction. Happy Heb

Yea, she could be wanting some closure with the calls or just dating someone else to make you jealous. Do find the nature of the messages. Happy Heb

I think you need 2 choose which one you love more, its not fair on either of them if you choose one eventually just becoz the other rejected you. Its not quite right to date someone coz they were ur plan b. THe person going out with your friend could still be in love with your friend even though they aren't allowed to date and you know you're not going to hurt her feelings so I'd ask her and probably tell her instead that you like her guy. If she doesn't like him no more then make the move... Happy Heb

Ok destructo man. THat's see, u sound really confused with things and it seems like there's a million thoughts going through ur head all at once. First you have to prioritize and take a step back from it all. Do you still love her or not. You say she always lie to you, now its definitely possible you still love her but why did you ignore her calls and everything, wouldn't that have served you right? You could've missed ur chance to be back with her. Now she could really be in love with someone else or just using him as a rebounder to get ur attention. She could still have feelings for you or she could just be wanting to get u back for what u did to her. Either way she's tearing you apart. You should definitely decided wether you want her back or not, it sounds like you do but its only now that she's with someone else you seem to want her, do you really? THere's nothing wrong with seeing someone else after a month, its kinda normal in a way especially when you want to get over someone fast. Take it slow and easy. Happy Heb

Hey. Enadevoli's got things pretty right. definitely be there for him even when he tells u not to. He's not going to listen to you (mostlikely) as much as u would want him to but keep drumming things into his head and eventually he should see it through. Let him know that you need him and people need him and that they're all there for him and show it. 'luck Happy heb

If you're doing them right, then they're definitely gettin a workout. Sometimes when you work on them already after a initial stage, u tend not to feel it so much anymore and feel other muscles working instead but the truth is, they're still getting the workout, just don't let it distract you. Happy Heb