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    Thank you Shiva and it was nice to be of help to someone. I think your thirties are the time people come around to the business of being adults and are a little more settled altogether. So maybe it will be a breeze. Enjoy Italy. Jeff
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    Well, I try to look at opportunities sometimes. Maybe you will be good for each other, career-wise also. Ten years is a long time, but it sounds as though you have preserved in your mind the things that really matter about a person, so... I'd follow my heart. You probably know him well enough where you can read the "vibes" so to speak for the prospect of a romance... Good luck and best wishes again. Jeff
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    Hello Shiva, I agree with Suesser Tod. It sounds like you really lost something there and would not really be happy if you don't at least resolve this. Maybe you'll get back together maybe not, but you will have strengthened your friendship and might feel better. Now... devil's advocate here... What if you go there and he does not want to get back together? Maybe... a little more phone calling, a little more communication, (like you have done here) would be a good idea first. Good luck and best wishes. Jeff
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    Hello Sunday13, I pretty much agree with Lady00. It would be good if you could get out, take up some new activities etc. Two months is a long enough time that I would assume there is no hope of getting back together. (Mayyybe after much more time, he might decide to get his act together, maybe.) But, I wouldn't wait or just keep lamenting even though I know it is hard to move on sometimes. Just my take on it. Good luck and sorry to hear about your situation. I hope things improve for you. Jeff
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    Well, the age gap is more substantial in your younger years and would diminish as you get older etc. ie: 20-30 that's 50% of the 20 year olds age. Although, looking at your list it occurs to me that most of them are generalizations. I'm thinking of a lady I used to date who was in her early 50s while I was just 40. She could be childish, selfish, unstable etc. you bet. Remember also that there is probably plenty of time to simply date without drawing so far ahead in the future... I say, forget the numbers and go with the person... Just my opinion. Good luck and best wishes. Jeff
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    carpal tunnel

    Jeffrey2095 replied to rocio's topic in Pregnancy

    It sounds like maybe your circulation is being restricted somehow. I use pillows too, but if I set myself up so my arm is a little higher than my heart it will go a bit numb. Maybe you could set yourself up so you are partially on your side and your back. I toss and turn also, but I always have. CT comes from clicking the mouse button and typing etc. (repetitive motion) (Oww, I've got a bit of that too.) Jeff
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    Hi LS, When I attended school a few years ago I had much the same experience. One thing, I was a little older than the average student I think. Also, I had just recently moved to the area and didn't really have any friends that way either. I tried for one thing to pick subjects where the age group might be a little closer to my own. (Like painting for instance had more people my age...) I seemed to start with a lot of electives at first. That way I could be among people with common intertests. (I also liked music and had that for another elective.) It afforded me more opportunity to make at least some friends instead of say taking all my general ed. at first and feeling all alone in those classes. I also looked at the bulletin board and campus website just to see what was going on. Hope things pick up for you. Jeff
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    Hi again Kriss, Say, are you sure we don't have the same relatives? (just kidding) I am doing pretty much the same with mine. I have made plenty of effort to extend myself and be nice... Leave em alone, in case I'm "smothering" them by writing once a month. (e-mail) My phone never rings unless it is a salesman... Just have to stick with friends and keep a chin up buddy. See ya' round the threads. Jeff
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    Hi Confused90, I have gotten much the same sometimes from people. Maybe they got the wrong impression of you... or you them too. The chances for misunderstanding and re-interpretation are always double you know. I have felt much the same way at times if that is any concellation. The Dale Carnegie book, "How To Win Friends and Influence People" has been a very popular standard for much of the last century. Well, perhaps you can find some good tips and experiences here at ENA, welcome. Jeff
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    Oh, I think it is very mixed up. Maybe too mixed up. From what you have stated here, I don't think it sounds like a very good arraingment for you. I would get out... including giving him the cell phone. He says in his heart he doesn't see getting back. You don't sound like you want to. Time for NC perhaps. Best wishes. Jeff
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    I can sympathise with you. What little family I have never get in touch with me unless I initiate it. If I didn't call at least every so often, I probably wouldn't have heard from them in several years or even a decade or more... Now, these are cousins so they are not close kin, and we live a few thousand miles apart...but it would be nice to hear from them, so to speak. Do you live far from them, and are they close kin? Best wishes. Jeff
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    Hello everyone, Gosh Charley, sorry to hear about your pneumonia! Glad you are feeling better guy. I have a small handful of friends that I have known for five years or more. And I had come to a situation where I considered absolute NC... mostly, from neglect as I saw it. They never take it upon themselves to e-mail me... it's only in response to one of mine... Christmas, Thanksgiving, never hear from 'em... we were like family once... Now, I guess they are too "busy" to spend a little time... maybe once a month or so... or, once every few months... or, Gee, maybe once a year... Hmmp, maybe after they finish their master's degree, just to let me know how it came out... Well, I guess this is how 25 years can "slip by"... Lonesome Jeff
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    Okay, Lets slow down for a minute here and put our heads together... btw... welcome to ENA where you are not alone... and I am sure there will be some great advice coming for you. Personally... this is a most difficult situation.... I guess you must stilll be yourself ya know. Gosh, if they can not accept you for the way you are... Best advice... hang out here at ENA for awhile.... Good advice coming for sure. Jeff R.
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    Hi Ericson Yeah, I agree with Awdree, it is bad form... Really sounds like something that would be done in school... Now... I have an inkling that she is "checking" with her friends maybe so to speak, as you two are getting back together... Hopefully, it will evaporate after not much longer... It's probably kind of annoying... But, it doesn't sound like a bad "sign" for your relationship, maybe good... (Oh, he's still so cute...) Maybe she doesn't realize she is doing this. Good luck and congratulations on getting back with her guy. All the best. Jeff
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    Hello Hailtothevictors, Personally, I would just call the one I liked. Too many ways to guess and be unsure what they are thinking, you know. Pick the one you like. Best wishes. Jeff
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    Yeah buddy, It is an excellent "copeing mechanism" and has worked well for me. No sense in dwelling on the attack itself, while it is happening. Now, I am not suggesting that you ignore the problem.. (A little difficult while you are in the middle of an attack, anyone would know that.) But, getting your mind diverted has at least kept it from escalating for me. Good luck with this, and you are not the only one by any strectch if that is some comfort. Best wishes. Jeff
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    I'm with Darkpumpkin and Shes2smart on this. A solo date would be preferential. Good luck and best wishes. Jeff
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    Hi gfein, You know what I used to do? I would close my eyes and imagine that I was petting my dog. Now, he's been dead for awhile, but I would just imagine he was there as usual. It would at least keep the anxiety from snowballing. The anxiety "attack" can bring extra anxiety too and feed itself. Jeff
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    Hi Deejay, Actually, it does just sound like bad luck... Also that you have been led on to some extent... (the married one) My gut tells me that perhaps, because it has been a year since your last gf that you might just be a little anxious... I would just keep on guy, eventually sometings gotta give. Jeff
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    I agree with Caro, A truly evil person would not be here with this self analysis, right? Okay... you did some bad things in your past... Now... do some extra good to make up for it. I once saw a sign that read: If you know what hurts you... then you know what hurts your brother too. You know the difference between good and evil... Choose good. Jeff
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    That sounds like a terrific first date Eagle. The Olive Garden looks so good I wish they had one nearby, and the movie, that will give you a nice topic to talk about and keep the ball rolling as far as conv. Sounds like you're gonna have fun. Jeff
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    Here are some images you can send in e-mails etc... link removed link removed Happy Valentines day ENA! Jeffrey
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    Hello Eagle, Well, good start man, congratulations! I don't know... (wish I did...) Maybe something very simple at first like coffee... A burger. something where you two will be able to spend some time alone... initial time, know what I mean? Something where the "date" is simple so you can concentrate on getting to know each other... Conversation the best thing, you know... Well... it's great to see someone jazzed around here and I wish you every luck and best wishes man. And, a double date is sometimes good too... you are among friends, and your friends can often help things along for you. Jeff
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    Well, remember, she might have slept with him after your breakup... I know you think, "how could she rebound so quickly". You've been suffering I can see. You stand every chance of being turned down... It's almost like 50-50 maybe... Now, do you want a 50% chance of getting her back... or NO chance? Might as well gamble, at the least eh? Also, you don't seem as though you would be better off until you have expressed yourself fully to her, you know. Sounds like a risk you're willing to take buddy. I'd go for it. Remember also, that you have a lot more time with her than the guy now... if that seemed like good quality time to you... it probably did to her too. Draw upon that for inspiration... Jeff
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    Yeah, that sounds right you know... V-day would be the wrong time for this, and it would give you just a little more time to put your feelings in order, you know. Gee, I hope it comes out well for you FA... Hang out and chat a while on it if you like... It might make you feel better. Jeffr
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