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  1. Itsok
    There's nothing wrong with exploring your options. Just keep a clear mind. Remember he wanted nothing to do with you until he found out you were speaking to the new guy. That really is a warning in my mind, that "If I can't have you no one can!" mentality is really a turn off for me. Good luck with him, I hope it turns out the way you want it.
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    Don't approach her. Hopefully she will avoid you, but if not do your best to just stay strong, and don't talk to her by yourself. You may think talking everything through will bring some sort of closure but it doesn't. There are always things left unsaid, and you will regret speaking with her. You'll feel upset later on.
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    Honey, why on earth are you worried about hurting HIM? look at what he has done to you! Get rid of this horror of a man. Divorce him and move on with your life.
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    Hi friend, Sorry to hear you are so afraid of the future. It sounds like you feel deeply troubled and really need someone to turn to right now for some support. It sounds like a lot of people have told you "You can't do it! You can't make it!" They are wrong to judge you, and they are wrong to tell you that you will fail college, etc. Have you looked into alternative therapies for your problems? To be honest, it sounds like you are medicated too much for someone your age. You are on antipsychotics, lithium, etc and still upset all the time? Something isn't right there! I'm no doctor of course, but those medications are harsh on a person and taking that high of dosage has to have some effect over the years. Don't give up on yourself, and don't let anyone tell you that you can or can't do something. You are working on your second degree. You live in a nice place, and have a few close friends. Exercising helps. Have you tried altering your eating habits? You can do this, and you can make it. There is no reason you can't, you are proving them all wrong right now taking your second degree! Look into alternative therapies. Doctors like medications but they rarely like to solve the problem. Do you see a psychologist by the way? Definitely look into that. Don't worry, you are doing alright and you will be ok!
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    You have made the wrong decision in my opinion. Familiarity isn't always the right choice. This guy is obviously wrong for you, he's a complete jerk to you, and yet you're going back for more? You'll be posting on here within a month about what a jerk he is being again, and we'll all give you the same advice: drop his sorry ***! Next time you break up, make it a permanent one. He will change for now, and be back to normal soon.
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    I agree with everyone. Get yourself to the hospital. By the time you decide if it is poisonous or not, it could be too late. Better be safe than sorry. And by the way, you're 19 years old! Don't eat things you find outside!
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    Then there is nothing you can do but what you are doing now. She is letting this relationship get further and further apart. There is nothing wrong with you or how you love God. It's that SHE thinks there is, and that isn't fair and to be blunt it's not very Christian of her to judge you in that way. "Judge not, lest yee be judged."...
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    M you already go to church with her don't you? it's just that you don't "love God" the way she does right?
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    Sweeheart, i am so proud of you! You did it! Way to go!!!! I must emphasize that now is the time you must be the strongest you have ever been. Notice how you said you were leaving and suddenly he panicked? That's what everyone here is warning you about. It's all an act, period. he will not change, he will not become someone different, he will never ever stay the way he is now, it's only a ploy to get you to return. Nothing you do or don't do, say or don't say, no way you are or are not will EVER change him into the person you fell in love with. Why? Because that person does not exist. Huh? You say? Someone who is abusive is someone who is constantly putting on a dog and pony show to attract women like yourself. They then turn themselves into 'normal' once you have as little self esteem as they can give you so you will stay no matter what. darling, I'm unbelievably proud of you. It WILL get easier...
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    I guess it would be bad if you did the test and it said "you will die in 2.5 seconds."
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    Sometimes we dont realize what we have until we lose it. Very well said.
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    Ok, if you are 60-69 years old, 4 feet tall, a female who is 350 pounds and have everything marked as yes you have a 64% chance of dying. Pretty good odds considering you have cancer, congestive heart failure, chronic lung disease, you smoke, can't walk a few blocks, and have diabetes.
  13. Itsok
    Just tell her the truth, stand up for yourself and be prepared Remember you have done all you can to try to save this relationship and the ball is in her court now.
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    I do understand what you are saying Jonah. However, you have to be principled enough to realize that this is a much bigger issue than a 'white lie' over something little. Ok, let's say that you go out and have sex with some woman... Do you really think that you would ever stop? Do you really think your gf wouldn't know what is going on or has gone on eventually? Do you think it's fair to her, having been completely faithful to you? Do you not realize that all trust in the relationship would be gone from then on? I know you think if you go out and have sex with some other woman that your problems will be solved and you'll be ready to settle down. That is not the case. You will be highly attracted to this new woman and continue on an affair. Hormones fly at first, just like they did with your current girl, remember? That always fades, period. If you want immediate pleasures, if you want to have sex with other women, then definitely break up with your current girlfriend. It seems she has been waiting much too long for you as it is, and I am TRULY not trying to be rude in saying that you are too immature to have a committed relationship at this point. That's not your fault, and there's nothing you can do. You will have this urge until you fill it since it is so important to you. Unfortunately, the best thing to do is break up with your current girlfriend and have a few girls who KNOW what you are doing and are still willing to share you. Then be safe about it...and know that the emotional attachment you will eventually seek will not be fulfilled by these women who want the same as you: a no-strings attached sexual relationship.
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    Of course it's hard to part ways with someone you love so much, especially since you both got along so well before. Don't worry, the truth will show itself shortly and then you'll know what to do.
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    Wow, what a question! Unfortunately, the truth is if you are that desperate to have sex with someone else that you even consider cheating, you are not ready for a committed relationship with that person, or anyone. Many men say the same thing as you are saying now, and they cheat. Then the woman finds out and guess what? You're toast and will NEVER have her back again. Think this through before you make any huge actions. You have to decide if you want to be loved or if you want sex. There are plenty of women willing to offer their bodies, but few who offer their soul. Sadly, I think your girlfriend has been too good to you. If you were in a more turbulant relationship you would be too occupied trying to keep up the chase.
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    Of course there's a chance you could have an STD. You don't need to show symptoms in order to be a carrier. Go and get checked. You always should before switching partners. It's not fair to spread some sort of disease to an unsuspecting woman. There are many that can make a woman unable to have children. Not worth the risk. Be responsible.
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    She is stringing you along. She doesn't know what she wants, but she'd rather have you sitting on the sidelines than not at all. Point blank this is what is going to happen: this whole thing is going to unravel again, with her saying the usual you aren't religious enough for her or whatever. She will then break the relationship up again. Friend, the only reason she is doing this is because she wants you to change into something you are not. If you aren't going to fake that you are as into God as she is, it's time to cut contact and move forward. I am very religious and my boyfriend believes in God in a different way than I do. I have never considered breaking up an otherwise happy relationship because of this. Either she wants you or she doesn't. She is stringing you along and you're biting the carrot with a lot of force. If you don't end the relationship yourself now, I can guarantee you will feel sorry later. This is always going to be an unsolvable issue for the two of you, one that she will not budge over. I'm sorry.
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    Awh I'm so sorry to hear that happened. Yes God does work in mysterious ways, doesn't He? Very cool! I have also heard to give a baby cereal to make them sleep through the night because they get so hungry and wake up otherwise. Lesson learned! Thanks for the tip!
  20. Itsok
    It's a sad fact that women have to be unavailable to keep a man interested. They need the chase, or else you aren't as 'fun' anymore, and they lose interest. Stupid really.
  21. Itsok
    Preventative is best. I take one cranberry pill and one acidopholus pill everyday and have been free of bladder & yeast infections for nearly a year now. I used to have one or the other about once per month. I have heard of the yogurt tampon mix and it apparently works very well for a lot of people and is much more soothing than monistat or other medicated creams on highly inflamed areas. By the way, there are few yogurts that actually have the active cultures needed to prevent yeast infections. It must have ACTIVE cultures, which is why acidopholus works...it is the live bacteria present in yogurt.
  22. Itsok
    You need to get out NOW. Tell your family and friends. Go to the police station and file a complaint and say you want a restraining order in place today. They will escort him out of your home. Then change the locks and be prepared for him to phone you and bother you. Everytime this happens, phone the police and report him. The only way to get out of this is to make a clean cut. Don't wait anymore, you aren't doing yourself any favors. The time to act is NOW.
  23. Itsok
    In complete honesty, I don't think she's very serious about getting this relationship back together. She's certainly taking her sweet time thinking it through though. Doesn't she realize how heartless she is being, leaving you hanging? I think once she is baptized that will only further her belief that you are too far away from her in a religious aspect and she'll end the relationship. I really hope I'm wrong merickso, but that's just my 2 cents.
  24. Itsok
    My advice is to tell him that you don't want him to contact you anymore. It seems to me like he enjoys the idea of you two hanging on to one another for 'backup.' How rude of him to mention he doesn't have any feeling for this other girl but is yet dating her by the way. He must not take relationships very seriously. If you want to move forward, tell him that it's time to cut the safety net and not contact one another anymore.
  25. Itsok
    Oh my, I have a bad feeling for you. The way you have been talking, it seems that he is a cheat and this woman has confirmed it. I agree: go with your gut instinct. I think you already know the answer in your heart, and need to follow it.
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