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    It very much depends on how you look at it. You can take it negatively by going down that 'oh can he even conjure such a thought in his head' road. Or, you might even take it positively in that he is honest about it and he voiced it out to you first, instead of sneaking round your back to have an affair with Jane Doe. The choice is yours really, and it all boils down to one's attitude towards sex and fidelity in the end. We all have different boundaries.
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    To illustrate the laws of Karma better, I have included a link below for you kind folks to read. Hope it helps in clarifying your doubts. link removed
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    Suicide to me, is similar to murder in the first degree, only that you are doing it to oneself. We are all plagued with troubles of our own, the large and small of it. Varying degrees of problems. I once read that most people would commit suicide when the threshold of bearing with the pain has exceeded. But, it's in times like these that we must recall how important life is essentially, not just to ourselves but to those around us who love us too. Life, is a challenge, every single minute and second of it. If everyone were to give up when faced with troubles or some element of danger, I am sure the globe would be pretty much empty of humans by now. It's in our times of pain and suffering that we truly learn and evolve into a better person. Everything is transient and we should not take things too seriously. Learn that happiness is an option and please, do cherish yourself and the life that comes with it. My $0.02.
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    Highly unlikely. You could get a test kit from a drugstore and work your way from there, just to rest your doubts.
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    Hi SiliconPimp, It's a little difficult to place a hard and fast answer to your doubts. Sadly, one can only tell if it's a rebound after some time and it's almost impossible to confirm if it is one for now. One thing for sure is you need someone to fill that gaping void which your ex wife has left behind. Humans are designed to be social creatures and no one likes to be alone. But what you need to do is to give yourself time for recovery. Once you are sure that you have picked up the pieces, then move on with your life and find that someone new. Remember, you could end up generating more hurt than good to the other party if it's really a case of a rebound. Perhaps you might want to slow things down a little with her, while giving yourself time and space to heal.
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    I think it is more of a psychological problem rather than a physical one. Try to get him to relax more before sex and maybe to talk to him about it [not during sex of course ]. Perhaps he is also trying too hard to reach an orgasm instead of enjoying sex itself. Increase the lengths of your foreplay and see if it helps. All the best!
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    I agree with Gilgamesh on this one. You did not fully recover the first time round before you moved on to your marriage. It's wiser to break away from your ex for now. The reason why the past should be laid to rest is because it will only cause further complications when brought back to the present. We all could love someone at one point in time or the other, but there's always a time for loving and letting go. In this context, it's about time you let go of your past fantasies and cherish your husband for all you can. All the best to you Elite867.
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    Most probably. Talking about present relationships with one's ex can be a touchy subject. Don't read too much into it.
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    Hi ShuShu, There's a fine line between constructive criticism and plain sarcasm. You would be the best judge to tell if your boyfriend is bent on being sarcastic with you all the time, or he is just voicing his thoughts. If he belongs to the former, then you should really sit him down and ask him on what's bothering him. Mostly, when people choose to be difficult, a smile is rarely seen on their faces when they speak to you. Even if they do smile, it could be one of their ways of irking you further. Is he unhappy with certain issues in the relationships? Try and find out more. If he belongs to the latter, than there's really not much for concern. Be more open to his comments and understand that as individuals, everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Cheers.
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    Hi WestonYorkie, Do not fret. Things like these sometimes happen in a marriage, when the mundane seems to overwhelm everything and only the silence remains. There is much you can do to strike up your conversations with your spouse again. For example, bring her to the bookstore or the movies. I am sure that it will at least give you a starting point to begin with. Pay more attention to every detail of her words and body language too. Do not force a topic on her when she's not interested, it might just make matters worse. All the best.
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    All I can say is Amen to that. It is something I am trying to emphasize here over and over again.
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    Hi RadicalGuru, You might have yet to recover from the wounds of your marriage before you went into this new relationship. Residual emotions can wreak much havoc in your new partnerships if left unnoticed. That may explain why you are feeling this way even though things may be in place. Take some time out for yourself. Ensure that you have really gotten over your past before you tread on into the future. All the best.
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    Doesn't really matter to me actually. As long as it's not a tropical rainforest down there.
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    Hi Craven, It sounds promising, but you do not know her in depth as yet, so be cautious. Some girls are maestros at the flirting game. Be sure to separate the fake from the real if you do get to know her better. Yes, do give her a call and see how she responds. Keep us posted.
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    Short and sweet. Nice work Caldus.
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    I think it is perfectly alright to date someone with kids. One thing you might want to take note is, ensure that this person has already moved on with his or her life. Things can only get messier if their ex were to reappear into their lives. Do not expect the kids to take to you immediately, for patience and time is required to build trust and forge a bond. Other than that, good luck!
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    The mind is an important sexual tool as much as your penis is. If you want to prolong the timing of your intercourse, focus your thoughts on something not sexually related. Have fun!
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    Hi Sherryb_free, It is indeed hurtful to be loving someone who does not reciprocate one's love. The facts are there right in front of you to see and I believe that you should wise up and move on. For a man to be an alcoholic as well as one who's into drugs, spell big trouble. Not just for the sake of personal health, but the health of your relationship too. We cannot forget someone we used to love overnight. So do give yourself some time to overcome this. It is a long process, but once you have made up your mind to get on with your life, I am sure that nothing can stop you. A relationship can only blossom when two parties make it work. Not with one making the sacrifices and all. Be happy and know that your future promises to be a bright one, with a man who knows the difference between right and wrong. Cheers.
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    Good point. To me Ex's belong to the history books. They are good in the sense that they educate you, enriching your life in such a way that you know where you went wrong. Nothing more. If you meet someone new, just pull out that little history book, dust away the cobwebs and look up some info on your Ex's. That way, you know that you can tread carefully into a new relationship, slightly wiser from the fact that you know what or what not to do. Cheers.
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    That's bizarre! Chances of a girl getting pregnant during her period is very slim since she is not ovulating.
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    Good luck to your friend then.
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    Hi emmyoz, Wipe the slate clean again and start anew. Most of us do not have a perfect past. There will always be events which scars us at some point and it is up to ourselves to put it behind and to look beyond it. Your alchoholic husband, your relationships; it's time to let it go. Do not choose to be with someone now just because you need to have someone to lean on. A wrong man or a wrong relationship is a million times worse than being alone. Remember that. You are right about your children. Always put them first before anything else and this is coming to you from a dad himself. Your kids deserve the best and do not let them go through a timultuous childhood for it will only wreck their future ahead. You are vulnerable and you have to understand that it's very easy for you to "fall in love" for all the wrong reasons. For now, be strong and learn to stand on your feet again.
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    Yo Sisterlynch! How are you? Back to your question. It's hard to determine what people mean at times for everyone has a different definition of the same word. Crazy or weird might be used to describe a person who "seems out of the norm" or eccentric. Society has its own set of rules and anyone who does not conform would naturally be seen as crazy or "off". As for a schizophrenic, it's actually a mental condition where the sufferer has mulitple personas. Some people tend to misuse this word when they do not even know what it means. For me, I won't call someone a schizo unless he or she is truly one. Hope this helps.
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    Anal

    bleeder replied to robmeeks's topic in Sex and Romance

    I do not advocate anal sex, for a few primary reasons. One, our bodies are not designed for that and two, I still wonder how anyone can find pleasure in that. But the choice is yours. If you decide to go for it, please seek her approval first and be sure to wear a condom. Cheers.
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    Hi Fantasia2004, The hardest thing to accomplish after a breakup is to rediscover our self worth once again. As a couple, two people would be so indulgent in one another that most of our self confidence and esteem seem to have vapourised. It's good to know that you know the facts, that he is over you and you should start on this road of recovery yourself. Do not bother yourself with what he feels or thinks, it doesn't matter now. The deal is off and you are once again free to live your life, free as a bird and not to be dictated by anyone. Do not feel sorry for anything, for there's nothing to be sorry about. Relationships are like a roll of the dice, we never really know how it will turn out in the end. For now, start searching for that special purpose in your life again. Things you started out to find before you embarked on the relationship. For you can only live life to the max when you are being true to yourself. Be well!
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