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Don't worry SuperDuper. Parents are suspicious most of the time. They are entitled to. I am sure that as long as you are not smoking, the truth would come into light someday. Scent from cigarette smoke has a way of staying on your clothes and hair. Smokers can lie about not smoking, but these factors would prove them otherwise. In time, your parents would know the truth. As mentioned, don't worry!
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Hi Jessy, The best way around this is to bring him home for dinner first. This would allow you to show him your home environment without putting unwanted pressure on him to move in. Let him see for himself, and judge from the way your mom converses with him over dinner etc. It is one effective way of winning him over without pressing him with the issue. Once he is comfortable with your mom's company, I am sure that he would see this as a golden opportunity to get out of the hellhole he is living in. I hope this helps, and a blessed New Year to you.
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That is a risk you'd have to take, especially when it comes to love. We can never get anywhere if chances are not taken. I can't say that your relationship would end with happily ever afters, but you cannot hold back on certain choices just because of the fear of failure. For concrete plans, you two would need to work out a way to get some cash for your daily needs. Working part time would be an option. I am sure that your parents would give their approval. Life is nothing without its hard knocks, so bite the bullet and face it. I am sure that if your boyfriend is sturdy and mature enough, there is nothing which the two of you cannot surmount. A Merry Christmas to you!
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Ah yes. To cut to the chase, no, being approached by ugly men doesn't automatically makes you ugly. Even good looking dudes with a bad approach would disgust anyone. All in all, tact and diplomacy would rule the day.
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This is my own personal quote. Thought up of this line some years back. "In Life We Love, In Love We Live". It pretty much sums up the essential role Love plays in our lives. A life without love can never be fullfilling as one with it.
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You've raised a good question Thatonegirl. This post got me laughing out loud though... No, you are not unattractive by any means. Problem with most guys, is that a lot of them have hardly heard of a thing called a mirror and sometimes they might have the illusion that they walk the walk like Brando and possess looks like Brad Pitt. I am not saying that "ugly" men should steer clear of beautiful women, some of them do have positive traits in other aspects, but the ones who pretend to look like the crème de le crème really cracks me up. Do not let your self confidence be wedged by such entities. An attractive woman attract all sorts. The next time anyone makes you uncomfortable, stand your ground and tell them to leave you alone. It is a simple right of being a human being, the choice to select your own company.
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Agreed. Just be yourself, for I am sure there will arise an opportunity where you guys can talk. Try to talk about him and find out more, for most guys' ego are naturally stroked when you talk about them. Pushing too hard would only make you seem desparate and unappealing. Be patient, and like what they say, good things come to all who wait. Good luck.
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Hi Teacup, I understand what you are trying to get accross. In fact, I believe that this kind of behaviour applies to both sexes, not just to men in particular. One great negative aspect of being human is to overlook the niceties done for us, and only to take into account the bad things which occur. I have experienced this personally, and have seen it happen time and again to many around me. It doesn't mean that you should hang up your gloves and stop being YOU. No, but the next time someone takes you for granted, make your stand clear and just play the bad girl role for once. Being nice to someone doesn't give them the right to pretend that you are invisible. As with what Newt has mentioned, not everyone thinks this way. To safeguard your own happiness, it is best to find someone who appreciates you for all that you are. Cheers.
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Waitin' On A Sunny Day, Bruce Springsteen.
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Yuppers, it sounds normal to me. As long as he doesn't get frisky at the inappropriate moments.
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Everyone's got a point. He does sound suspicious. Corner him and use your discernment to figure out if he is speaking any truth at all. You cannot move on in a relationship where trust is missing. It is one of the essentials.
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We can't get anywhere far with a full load on our back. It is time to place that burden down and move on with your life. Your ex is history, remember that. He has no hold over you whatsoever, and you don't owe him any explanations for your future relationships. Take the reins and take charge. On a sidenote, yes, we are at our most attractive when confidence is running high and when we keep a positive outlook. So keep that esteem burning!
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Rape is another form of murder. It really is. Not only do you kill someone's esteem in every aspect, but you kill their self worth along with everything else. Rapists not only possess a lack of self respect, they too bear none for others. No human soul can be more foul and baseless than a rapist. And justice for all.
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I agree with OceanEyes. She is pushing her limits, that's her game. She might even like it more when you really snap. I am not being a wet blanket, but do watch your steps with this girl, she might carry the game one step too far.
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MySpace is very similar in its functions as compared to other sites like Friendster. The edge MySpace has over Friendster is that you get to link up with other bands and also get updates with their music. I see no harm in her talking with the so-called "nutty girl". But if your girlfriend responds to the guys who messages her there, I smell trouble brewing, and you should advise her firmly that you do not take this lightly. If she still insists on doing so, the choice is yours to make, if you want to carry on your life with a person of such standards. Cheers.
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Hi Sweetheart230, To me, your friend is someone who practices double-standards when it comes to principles. Do not take her too seriously for what she says is just out to hurt you. As long as you do whatever pleases your conscience, I see no need as to why she has to dictate your life. Be strong, and live your life your own way.
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I agree with what Volution mentioned. Do not let the age gap or his age put you off. If you must, judge him for what he is. Personality, maturity and honesty. I have encountered people in their 30's who behave like they are still weened by their mothers milk, and on the contrary, people in their 20's who exhibit more common sense and maturity. Yes, I do believe that true love is possible in relationships with large age gaps. Love, is blind to age, but embraces fidelity as well as faith. All the best.
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Thanks for the update Jadtt. It is not often that you can find a man who respects you, so, I think he is for keepers. Remember that the decision to have sex is your call, and no one can ever coerce you against your wishes. To love, doesn't equate to giving in to demands, unless it is done out of free will. All the best!
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I do agree with the rest. Try not to read too much into things, for what truly matters in the end is your self-confidence. Never stop believing in yourself even if the world wants to base their opinions on physical appearances. His family will see you as you are in time, do be patient. As long as your conviction in the relationship is strong, there isn't much you can worry about. You are pretty and you have a seemingly nice man. Enjoy the ride while you can!
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I am glad to hear that. Women are gifted with exceptional extra-sensory perceptions, ermm, I am not talking about seeing ghosts or what-not, but your sixth sense would come into play when you meet someone new. It may not always be a hundred percent right, but it gives you a fair judgement about that person, his intentions and all. Ah yes, that tingly feeling is very much part and parcel of our nature. It is hard to be attracted to someone without feeling a sensation as such. For now, enjoy your time with him and all my blessings to you!
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Has this happened to any of you ??
bleeder replied to TIGRONETTE's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
Hi Tigronette, RayKay has provided a good explanation on the meaning of a real rebound. Yes, rebound marriages are very common these days, and that goes for rebound relationships as well. In reality, no one can tell whether someone is experiencing a rebound but that person him/herself. We all have different healing capabilities. Some can take weeks, some would take months and some even take years. You should move on and forget about him totally. As much as you have been with him for 5 years, his actions have proven to you that it is not worth the effort to even think about him. Keep your sights on the horizon. As a sidenote, your avatar rocks Annie! -
You are on the right track Jadtt. No worries. I am glad to see that you are firm in your discourse, especially where your stand is concerned. Since he is 41, he would be mature and understanding enough (I hope) to accept your principles. You are right in saying that it has to be exclusive. Accept nothing less. Your relationship sounds like a promising one, so, do keep it burning bright. We have all heard of the term 'premature ejaculation', and I have personally coined a term 'premature sex'. Having sex in the early stages not only ruins a potential fulfilling relationship, but it sets a direction which many would only regret later. Keep us posted, and all my blessings to your new found relationship!
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Hi Jadtt, Yes, I do think that it is too early. Having sex too early in a relationship where no foundations have been built is as good as a kamikaze run. The worst case scenario would be him taking you for granted and from then on, it would be an uphill climb with you trying to salvage the relationship from anything more than a sex romp. So take it nice and slow for now. Sex is so much more fullfilling with someone you love, cherish and trust. Take care.
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Well Dogg, she may have replied to your mail out of courtesy. Do not read too much into it. If I were you, I'd find out the reason for the breakup pronto, then move on. It is the best way out.
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Hi Cinderelly, I can understand what you are going through. Firstly, I believe that your kids reaction to the new man in your life is normal. This is their first line of defence, towards anyone other than their biological father in this situation. But do not despair. I am sure that there is still hope, and also work to be done. I have a few questions though. Is your boyfriend doing anything to win over their trust? Is he doing anything to bond with them? Have you ever talked to your children as to what it is that they dislike so much about him? Some adults think that by doing simple things like buying material goods (e.g toys, gifts etc.) for children is sufficient enough to win them over. That is a very wrong mentality. I am not sure of your boyfriend's methods in understanding your children, but kids need lots of time and patience. In order to click with them, we'd have to think like them and figure out what makes them tick. This is a man you love, so I am sure that there must be some good in him which your children don't see for now. On your part, you'd need to speak to your kids and make them understand that Daddy and Mommy are no longer together, and in order for Mommy to be happy, you'd have to find a partner sooner or later. Keep us posted.