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  1. kungfumaster
    its destined to fail. jealousy ultimately comes from being insecure in oneself - i mean, since both of you are insecure, it might be okay for a while, but once one of you gains some security and confidence, that person will probably tire of the insecure (nonconfident) person and just leave.
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    i think if its just recently that you broke up, it might be a good thing to write the story - it might be like a "cleansing" thing for you - its a good way to experience grief, which is essential to healing. if its been a while, and you've alreadly healed alot, then, yah - i'd be worried about resurfacing bad feelings too. but the thing is, if feelings resurface, then it means you haven't healed yet! so both ways, i think you should do it, i.e., if you haven't healed, this will help you heal. if you have healed, then you might get a movie out of this! hah!
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    congrats mattj.
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    never been in one, so can't say. my guess though its too complicated, so i won't even touch it.
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    i don't know if this applies to your particular situtation, but for me, if i know i won't get any kissing action so to speak, i tend to feel tired and just want to call the date a night and maybe try again another night. so, to his surprise, there was going to be some kissing action, so he woke up so to speak.
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    she wants to marry you! j/k! no but seriously, i agree with the two posters above. yah - just continue to talk to her and get a better feel of how she feels about you
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    i agree with sidehop. yah - these are signs that he's just not interested anymore - why?? don't have a clue. found someone else?? don't know.
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    he is mad. but really, what do you expect? when people are really mad, don't take too much of what they say seriously - yah, 9 times out of 10, its just to hurt the other person. those people who are mad, and can talk openly and calmly and use "I" messages, you can listen to them.
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    good question - if someone said no to me, it would mean no forever - unless they had a reaaaaaaaalllllyyy good reason. i would just assume the relationship is over.
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    congrats Liquidius, it takes some courage and wisdom to actually admit that. you are doing good. you are on your way to healing. i hope you find the following helpful - it was really nice and was written by pattsky:
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    she likes yah!! just go up and talk to her - just say hi, my name is ....., how are ou today?? come on man - life is short - stop asking questions - go and do!!
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    i think when someone is drunk, he or she says what i call is the "ideal truth", not the "realistic truth". what i mean, is that, when someone is drunk (i've done this once with my first ex), they tend to say what they hope for, but in reality, they know its really hard to achieve. show, when she says she loves you, indeed she does, but that love can never be realized because its just unrealistic so to speak, e.g., you guys are just incompatible in one way or another, you guys are on different paths in your lives - whatever. when someone is drunk, one tends to put their ex/partner on a pedestal, and never sees any faults - thats why i call it and "idealistic truth". so, i agree with the above - trust what a sober speech 10 times out of 10 from a drunken speech.
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    did HE actually SAY he will call you back in 30 minutes or did YOU just TELL him to call him back in 30 min? if you just told him, and he didn't say yes, then maybe he feels you should call him back. after all, he did call you first, and you were the one who was busy, so, its like a give and take - you know what i mean - he called you, now you call him. if he DID say he'll call you back, well - maybe something happened? these things always use to happen when i was in my ldr - my parents or friends would call, so i couldn't call her back in 30 minutes, and i'd just phone back and apologize. but really, since he did phone you first, and you said you were busy, IMO, you should be the one phoning him back - not the other way around.
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    Hey Dragonfly, Yah - I know how you feel, and hey - don't be so hard on yourself. My ex of 2 years did exactly the same as your ex did to you - i.e., broke up with us out of nowhere, and found someone else really quickly. Yah - whenever I think of those "shady" excuses she gave me for talking to her later, now I think back and I just feel bad, so I don't want to think about it anymore. Its a slippery road, and it leads to nowhere, so just try to move on... we'll never learn the whole truth I think. Also, what I mean by not being so hard on yourself is that, I think that you puting off dating again and "serious" relationships is good - until you are healed that you should start "looking" again. But, its not to say, you can't date and make guy friends, or even have a "rebound" - as long as both parties know that it is indeed a rebound type of thing, I think it is okay and very beneficial actually. To be honest, I've had a couple of those (but it didn't really involve any physical intimacy - but there was physical chemistry) - but still, it felt like a relationship, and we both just knew it was just a short term thing, so when we separated, no one was hurt, and it was great having her around when I was healing because she would let me vent. Anyways - hang in there - and come and vent here whenever - this place is great for that! Take care. Kung fu
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    yah - its possible. its possible he's just being supernice to you too?? who knows, maybe he's just getting out of a relationship, and just wants some female companionship??
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    regret1, the thing is, if he dumps you or gets you jealous, then it will be too late!! you realize what you have now - why do you want to lose it?? for most of us, its too late... i mean, we don't realize what we have until we lose it, but you see what you have right? or do you? maybe, just picture your life without him - can you do it?? can you see yourself happy without him - truly? (don't think about what other's think - just yourself). take care and good luck.
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    you have to tell us what he likes to do, what his hobbies are, does he like to watch movies? does he like clothes - if he has some hobby, get him something in the lines of that... if he likes to watch baseball (MLB), get him 2 good seats to a game and you both can go... something like that, you know.
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    that's a good one Tetsuo_Shima! oh - i have one in the same lines as above - but maybe everyones done this already - sneaking in when you gf is taking a shower and making love to her! aeeeeeeeeyyyy!
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    so, did you try to explain this to her?? did you guys sit down and have a talk it over?? why do you feel uncomfortable and out of place though? okay, i can understand if it was a lot of money.
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    sounds like you are just lonely and just need to try to open up to people - i know its easier said then done, but just try to open up to people - i swear, its a really good thing. sure some people will reject you, but to those who don't, then they are the special ones... take care k.
  21. kungfumaster
    why don't you want to go to the prom with her?
  22. kungfumaster
    at her parents place, 22, gf, i loved her, WOW! that felt ausome - can we do it again? why are you running to the bathroom?
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    korea and china?? okay. are you guys asian? anyways, i've never actually had a gf who was in anyway creative when it comes to sex. okay, maybe my recent one. the only thing that pops into my head is sexy lingerie, and making love in the most inoppurtune time, when both of you are really horny (like when her grandmother is making dinner in the other room! hah!). maybe role playing - that's probably a good one.
  24. kungfumaster
    yah - there's definitely something wrong here. i think he hasn't gotten over the ex yet. if he says loves you, its not true IMO. the last thing someone should think about when they love you and is in a commited relationship is the ex - maybe once in a while, like some event triggers a memory, but not continually contacting them and telling her he misses her. that's just plain b. you know what.
  25. kungfumaster
    there's no real formula to talking to strangers - i mean, if you spent all you life on it, every second of every day, observing people, experimenting, sure - there could be something to be said, or even someone can make a science out of it, but really, there's really no way to have a fool proof plan. the way i approach it is i talk about anything that comes to mind and just be myself - if they run off in horror, they run off in horror - what the hey - if they're friendly and chatty, even better.
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