Nifty_Swifty1

So what do see as weird about that? You hurt her. I'm sure if you were in the same situation you would do the same thing. I know I would.

Well, here's the deal. I've been dating my girl now for about a month. I can't be with her tonight, but I do get to see her tomorrow... right before I leave for CO until Monday. We live an hour apart and I only really get to see her on weekends. Now I'm going to miss this one. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on something I could do special for her on our first month anniversary before I leave. I really have no idea what to do, but I wan't to do something for her.

The fact that he was complaining to you about not having a valentine has big flashing signs that he's "fishing" and the most always that they are looking for something more than a friendship. If you don't let him push it, then things should come back down. Just let him have his fun for a bit. If it goes more than a day or two, then you may need to put a stop to it.

It's the challenge that makes is special bro. The extra effort to get it to her on Valintines day instead of 3 days after that gets them to cherish it all the more.

I can't be with my girlfriend today *tears*. I did come up with a good way to get her valentines gift to her though. I got her roommate to leave her car unlocked so that while I was on my way out I could hide it there, and tomorrow before she gets off of work it will "magically" appear on her bead for when she goes home. You wouldn't believe how hard it is to get your girlfriend to let you have "alone time" with her roommate.

I'm sorry, but I do find that quite funney... Did you find out anything... other than the password? I can't exactly tell you that it's normal. I don't know about whats going on with the guy, but my advice to you is to just let the guy go. That's something that people do out of obseshion, and that isn't what a good relationship is based on. Take it easy and just let things be for a while until you can get your head back on straight.

... so what was it that you did... that kind of sounds like the cryptic kind of thing you psycho in a movie would say after they killed someone. I trust that you didn't do that, but people cant really give advice if you only say that you did something for revenge.

Well, at the moment you aren't even dating, so it's a little early to worry about getting married. Take it one step at a time. In a good relationship the apprehension should lessen.

I know I have a different view of things, but I don't think that anyone should ever let a friendship go for any reason due to the way that I have come to view love… (I have a tendency to go way off the topic here, so if you are curious as to how I define love pm me). If she isn't going to be friendly, then that's her prerogative and anything you do to push that will just make you feel worse. Just let her go her own way and remind her from time to time that you're there for her. A lost friend always becomes an enemy.

Well, you watch everything. You have to know a lot about behavior though. I've been studying behavior for as long as I can remember… I probably should have gone to school to be a shrink… Everything people do tells you something.

Ask the girl out you tight wad. Valentines day is all about the date. Just suck it up and ask her already.

Find a different girl. Hitting you in the nads is definitely crossing the line.

I didn't think it was myself, but it came up the other night and severial of my friends gave me quite the disaproveing eye. I was just seeing what others thought.

well, if you're just wanting someone to talk to I sudjest calling 1-800-394-HOPE. they run Monday - Friday - 2PM - 9PM, Saturday - 10PM - Midnight, and Sunday - 7PM - 10PM it sounds like you want to stay rather anonymous, and this is a good way to do that. Like avman said, finding a youth minister would be better bet because then you would have someone that could really work with you.

It took a bit of work, but I think the scavenger hunt was probably the best… or at least the most fun. I had several presents for her at different locations each with clues on where the next on would be. It's amazing what store clerks are wiling to do for you. Of cores I was at he end standing on the bridge in the park with roses waiting to take her on the rest of the date.

I know this isn't any consolation, but you won't feel this way for ever. I had a horrible break up a year and a half ago, and though it took a year for me to get back on track I did get there. At the moment I'm courting a beautiful young lady that has treated me better in that last couple weeks than my ex ever did. It just takes time (more for some than others), but it will get better. Now as for you question as to whether or not to try for a third time… Someone that isn't able to hold a relationship together now wont be able to do it in the future. If he doesn't place that much value on you now then he won't later. Don't waste your time, and don't let him hurt you like that again.

I'm just wanting a couple opinions here. Is 17 to 21 that big of an age gap?

Well, the guy is ether a butt or just chose his words wrong. just to give this guy a bit of cover. His comment could have been more along the lines as to say that he was comfortable enough in the relationship that the contact isn't as important to him because he's confident in you. Now that I have said that, the not calling causes me to lean to the butt side of the spectrum, though I can understand the time and money issues.

It really doesn't matter. It's just about who you are and how you feel comfortable talking about people.

That really is a tuff situation that you find yourself in. On one hand you could be dealing with someone that is trying to take your guy, and you would half to stop that. I wouldn't do it in the way that sisterlynch suggested because I'm one of those guys that will run like hell from someone that acts like she's jealous, because that tells me that she doesn't trust me… A little possessive can be endearing though . Now on the other hand you could just be dealing with someone that is truly just a friend. I've spent most of my life being "one of the girls" so I do have a lot of girl friends that are truly just friends. As long as you have absolute confidence in your guy I wouldn't worry about it to much. The trip is pushing the envelope a little too much. I've gone on trips with my friends before, but it was as a group of friends (fyi spending a week end being the only guy in a house full of girls isn't as much fun as all you guys out there may think).

The sad fact is that for some people the reason is the effect that they will have on everyone around them. The thought that "they'll care then." It's a harsh fact, but it's the way things are. When you feel that no one cares you'll do extreme things to cause people to care. Weather you're there to experience the outpouring or not is beside the point.

Well, I'm just going to complain a bit. Mostly about myself, and the strange paradoxes I find myself in. First off is the fact that no mater how well a girl matches up with the conventional view of beauty I never find them attractive until I get to know them. Some of you may think that would be a good thing, but it's not. You always find yourself being smashed into the just friends category long before you really get to know someone, and for me that means that by the time I start finding someone attractive it's much to late. I many times wish I could be like everyone else and just find someone attractive right off the bat and be able to pursue a relationship before it's too late, but things just don't work out like that for the few people I do meet. The longer I'm alone, the more I loathe who I am. Why can't I have the connection with people that I see everyone else having. Going home every night to an empty house is the most unbearable feeling I can imagine. I can't call it my home because that isn't where my heart is. It's anywhere but there. I'll go out to the mall late at night just to be around people and away form the emptiness of my house. I'll sit in a bar by myself just to have those extra hours where I can hear someone's voice. Where I live is that last place on earth that I would want to be. I no longer sleep; I just wander around trying to find someone, anyone that will have something to do with me, but the simple fact that I have no one makes me look all the more desperate. I guess I'm not really looking for advice, but if anyone has something that could help feel free to give your advice. I was just complaning

Just play it like it's no big deal. If you try and do anything special you most of the time end up looking dumb ie. if you try and look at her all night, so just play it as it comes. Do have some aces up your sleeve just incase the conversation starts to slow down. If you have a question that you don't get to ask don't press it. Keep it and go back to it if you have to. Just have fun.

someone's persionality is what draws me to them. Girls that everyone says are gorgeous I don't find atractive until I get to know them. Now if anyone says that looks don't mater there lying, but for some of us it has verry little weight in the decishion.

if you think that's a good way to prevent pregneancy, then I need to tell you about a friend of mine who tried to do it that way... she now has 8 kids and only 2 of those were planed. It just dosn't work verry well.