Hillary1991

Ok, I'm older than all of you. You must listen. YOu need to talk to someone. If your parents know you've tried this several times and aren't taking action, talk to a counselor at school. Do it for YOURSELF. Don't live like that - it sounds miserable. Don't be lazy or wait. Talk to a counselor. It doesn't sound like your parents are doing very much or maybe they don't know the extent. Your life will change COMPLETELY post high school Trust me. Whatever school pressures or peers are making you upset - it will only get better down the road. Once you're done with school. I know that may seem like ages away but you are sooooo young and just make a promise to yourself to wait it out. In the meantime. PLEASE talk to a counselor. If you off'd yourself, it would be such a waste. Your life has yet to begin.....

That's a tough one. I think the fact he called her on Valentine's Day is a bit odd. Also the fact that she has not been straight up with you about their past. Have you asked her point blank, "have you two dated before?" or since you know she called him you could ask, "have you called him?". You know the answer to these questions. If she tells little white lies about it, it could be a problem. If it is purely friends, she should have nothing to hide. However, if she is upfront, why don't you say you'd like to get to know her "friend" too and suggest you three hang out! It should help the anxiety and he would see you two together!

I would like to take a poll. When a woman hits a certain age, is it better to have been married and divorced as opposed to never married? Meaning, if a woman in her 30's is out dating, does the public think "she's never been married, what's wrong with her?" or more so "She's divorced? What went wrong?". I know both apply but which one has more of the stigma? Also, at what age do you think this applies? 30? 35? 40? I would absolutely love to hear your opinion! Thanks!

I echo everyone else's sentiments that going to a doctor would make a world of difference. Medication for this rough time! Let me tell you this though..... I'm 32 and your life TOTALLY changes from what it was in high school. I don't know what has beat you down but you are so young and have so much to look forward to. Try not to be hard on yourself and turn towards those who care for you!

First of all, she sounds terrible! Her little insults are her issues - no reflection on you. You do not have to change for her at all but I did feel compelled to give you a little tip that I have been turned on to. I get REALLY pale in the winter and if you apply it correctly, some of the self tanners on your face give you a little boost. Do NOT overdo it but a thin layer gives you that glow like you've been out in the sun for an afternoon. It's worth it and I'm a huge fan!

My mother is 71 and believed that my brother was stealing from her. I know that he did not and she probably misplaced things as per normal. Then she said my sister stole something and most recently she thinks my father is forging checks in her name. None of this is happening. She takes minimal drugs that I have checked out and that's not it. I'm thinking it's alzheimers. I"m pretty clear on what I need to do but wondering if anyone else has gone through this with an elderly family member. If so, I would be interested to hear the story and stages that it went through. While she does forget things, she is really sharp on retaining anything she reads or sees on news. Just this strange paranoia. Also, she has not always been this suspicious - it is new within the past few years.....

I have a similar situation going on to. (posting on friendship and friends). I know the feeling of not being able to let it go and thinking about it all the time. Early on, my boyfriend and I used to argue b/c I would come at him defensively or crying out of frustration. Once I took a calm tone, it did wonders. It was after she called him multiple times while we were watching his hometeam's baseball game that I calmly said, "you need to know that I'm getting to the end of my rope on this" "tired of feeling this way" etc. We discussed it, he really listened, and cut her off. Same thing though - know he would never be interested in getting with her but you hate feeling so angry and just annoyed at their persistance. I was never jealous either and you feel like you're put in the position of being "that girl" who freaks out. It sucks but it will soon pass! Don't let her interfere b/c it sounds like he is taking steps to cut her out. If she stalks out his cell number, that's her being desperate and wacky. He didn't do anything wrong there so don't make him feel attacked by you. He's put in a weird position as well and you want him to be honest w/ you about what's going on!

I have to agree with some of the other postings. Why are you so curious if she is interested? REgardless, even if it's harmless flirting, you should stay away from her. Sure it's not tempting now b/c you've only hung out with her once but she's proven she'll cross the line. I wouldn't put yourself in a position to be alone with her again. Even if you don't do anything, it might cause a raised eyebrow from your wife eventually.

I have many guy friends. You can tell if they go out of their way to be with you. For instance, if you invite them along somewhere but it might be a little inconvenient for them to go, if they are into you .... they find a way!

I've been seeing my boyfriend for a year now. His good girl friend was dating someone but I just always sensed she had feelings for my boyfriend. She lives in another city and they would talk/hang out once a month. When her boyfriend dumped her, she began rekindling the friendship with my boyfriend. They would talk 3 times a week, she was aggressive calling all the time, suggested that they take a trip together, was in town while I was away and wanted to crash at our house, needing a shoulder to cry on etc. I tried to get to know her and give her a chance but she made a couple of nasty possesive comments to me. I have tons of guy friends and she simply has done some inappropriate things I would NEVER do if they were dating someone. Maybe she is just lonely and going through a hard time. I feel my boyfriend does not like her that way so I shouldn't care. I need to hear from people who have been in her shoes. I want to understand/forgive but can't forget the way she's acted towards me in the past. Maybe she just wasn't thinking?