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  1. Yes if they say it's backdated to your six month point then they will give you an extra check or more money in your check to make up the difference. This is pretty common especially in larger companies where things move slowly and they can't always get stuff done right on the date it is supposed to happen. I've done that for my staff and made it retroactive to a certain agreed on date so they get what amounts to a little bonus in their next check.
  2. I had mine out two years ago and still have problems with spicy foods. Also high fat foods cause me issues but not as bad as the first year. If you've only had it out two weeks ago your body is still adjusting and healing. So some issues are to be expected. Keep your fat level low (it doesn't have to be non fat) and meals smaller. I took some digestive enzymes supplements for awhile to help me but I don't need them anymore. It's a journey and a process to figure out what your new body can handle so be patient and give it time to heal.
  3. Unconditional love does not mean you support or condone everything that they do. You can believe your child needs serious help, or deserves prison time for what they have done - yet still love them. Family members of those who have committed heinous crimes still suffer because they are trying to come to terms with what their loved one has done. That's not to say I'm comparing their suffering with the victims or the victim's families - merely that all are suffering for different reasons.
  4. Well maybe it's time to be looking for a new job. Nothing wrong with that if you aren't happy where you are.
  5. Hi friend. I'm very sorry to hear about your horse. I know how important they are to you and it's the hardest decision to have to make. I can't really answer what's going on in your mind but just want you to know that you are a good person and have a lot of love to give. I'm sure you did what you thought was best for your relationship. *hugs*
  6. Yes, I know we've had this debate before. But I will keep encouraging you to get help and not try to go through this alone. It's my way
  7. Well my friend, you have to let people in so that they can help you. This isn't something you have to go through alone. You need a support team working for you and helping you fight for the life you deserve. You are a wonderful person who happens to need some help. That's all. That doesn't say anything about you other then you need some assistance. And we all do from time to time. We aren't meant to go through everything without support. Whether that's emotional, medical, mental health, or whatever. If you are at a point where you are "stuck" in a cycle then lets get you some help to get "unstuck". You don't just grow out of some things. Some things will take some intervention and help. There is nothing wrong with that at all.
  8. *waves* Hi there! Chin up my friend. I wish we could all win the lottery and not have to worry about work and money.
  9. Congrats on the new love. I hope everything works out for you and you are happy!
  10. Its a painful decision to make but you know it's the right thing to do. You are a compassionate person and that's why this hurts so much. Rejoice in the time you had together and know that you gave these horses a very loving home. Hang in there.
  11. Hey my friend. Sorry to see you back under such circumstances. I know this is a terrible decision to make and unfortunately all of us who have animals must make it at some point. Only you will know what's right - you know Velvet best. I don't even know what to say about the wedding. I just want you to find happiness and be at peace with everything. Whoever that's with and wherever that is the time will come for you. You keep hanging in there.
  12. I'm really sorry Bella. I know how hard it is to be stuck in a bad place while trying to do the least damage possible. You are in my thoughts even if I don't have words of wisdom for you.
  13. Bella you have to do what you feel is right for you and your son. I can only imagine the whirlwind of emotions you are feeling right now. You need to look back at the history of things between you and your husband to judge whether you believe he will really change and is sincere - or whether this is just another technique he has used on you in the past. I don't know which one it is but take the time you need to decide for yourself.
  14. Aw Bella. I'm so sorry there were complications. Big hugs from your ENA friends.
  15. This ^^^^ is all true. There are no absolutes here. A lot is going to depend on the situation. If Bella desires supervised visitation and her husband agrees to this, then there won't be lengthly evaluations, treatment plans, and big fights. If she and her husband are on complete opposite pages well that's a whole other story. Then you can bet there will be a lot of investigation into the allegations. Bella has a great head on her shoulders and I know she'll do the right thing for her child. Lets hope her husband comes to his senses and does not pursue a fruitless course of action here - but there are no guarantees.
  16. Bella I'm so glad the surgery is over and you are on the road to recovery. I hope you feel better very soon.
  17. I really suggest you DON'T get involved in this and let law enforcement types do the job. You know enough already to realize you need to leave. So that's plenty. Tell your attorney about all this and they will consult with you about whether involving law enforcement to do these sorts of secretive observations is the way to go. You don't want him suddenly figuring out what you've been doing and then magically erase all evidence of it. Then you're left with him claiming he was totally innocent but his obsessive controlling wife installed a keylogger on his machine! If he's a convincing liar he might pull that off to a court. Or worse what if he becomes violent when he catches you. No I really recommend you don't go down that path. You are already doing the right thing for you and your son.
  18. Oh goodness my friend. I think you are doing the right thing. I think this is probably the final straw and there's little chance he's going to just "get better" from this. Before leaving the house or doing any confronting I'd really recommend you talk to an attorney first. I know you want to make things easier but honestly you should get legal advice and understand the implications of any decisions you make first. Then you can make the most informed decision that is right for you and your son. Then you won't be surprised or do something which can mess up your future. Some state laws are weird about certain things so get informed first. It's so hard when emotions are running high but you need to be cool headed about this. Big hugs!!
  19. This is the best part of your post I think. So nice to see you happy!
  20. Sorry to hear about Velvet's leg but you will give him a great life as a trail horse. I think it was meant to be that Velvet was with you.
  21. Sounds like life gave you some gifts today.
  22. Good luck on the surgery. Think positive thoughts!!
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