Hi
Thanx for your replies, it is good to know people are listening.
It is difficult to describe the feeling of having a social phobia. The best way I can put it to you is this: Y'know that godawful feeling one gets in the pit of their stomach before going into an important job interview, or taking an exam one hasn't revised for? I get that same feeling when I simply go to the post office or get on a bus. I don't know why, and I wish I could turn it off and just relax. I know that it's stupid to feel this way about what are essentially everyday events, but it's just the way it is. I have found that alchohol can help on the very rare occasions when or if I meet new people, and I have used it in the past to calm my nerves. Maybe I'm just frightened of getting hurt, though I don't know why that would be as I've never known anyone well enough to be hurt by them.
I don't really feel isolated, as being on my own just seems normal to me, but there is some deep, dark thing knawing away at my insides. I can try and put on a brave face in compulsory, unavoidable social situations like when I was in school, but if I was to be invited out somewhere the phobia would take hold of my choice and I would say no. It began in my mid-teens and I thought it was just me being a misfit in school, but as I 've gotten older, its stayed with me, pulling me down with it.
Maybe it's my general depressive and quiet nature that just got out of hand. Whatever, I know that talking about it like this helps.
Phill