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    After a good deal of soul-searching, I came to the conclusion yesterday that I might be depressed. I took an online survey and scored pretty high on the depression meter, so I went to my doctor today and he put me on Lexapro. He told me I might start to feel a little better in a week, would probably feel better in 3, and would almost certainly feel better in 6 weeks. However, 6 hours after my first dose, I am feeling incredible. I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted from my shoulders and I haven't had an emotion since then. Is it normal to see such fast results? Or am I possibly responding to the fact that I took a step toward doing SOMETHING about how I was feeling? I really don't feel like this is a mental change. I could physically feel the care just leaving me earlier, and it felt so wonderful. Appreciate any comments or advice.
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    I just had a 1 year LDR that had a 3 year total timeline. The distance was hard, but daily communication helped that a lot. I think the key to surviving a LDR is to make good use of the time you do have together. Appreciate that time and treat it accordingly. Don't bicker about petty things but just realize how nice it is to be able to spend a little bit of time together talking each day.
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    Yeah he said he gives me 75% odds of feeling better in 3 weeks, and 90% in 6 weeks. I just wish I had gone the day this happened so I'd be feeling better already.
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    Well, the doctor agreed that I am definitely depressed. I'm on Lexapro. Well see how that goes.
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    I have decided that I need to heal. I am sprialing out of control not only with this, but with other things in my life. My job and my schoolwork is suffering and everyone in my life is telling me I need help. So I am going to the doctor today to see about antidepressants. I really hope that helps, because I really need to be able to sleep again.
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    What is recon? Haven't heard that one before.
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    Based on his preferences, I would go for the day at the race course. I know that doesn't do much for you, but it will be incredible for him and he will surely appreciate it. Paris sounds wonderful too, but that sounds more like something you would like, and he probably wouldn't enjoy it as much. If this is truly a gift you want to give to him, for him, then the race track sounds perfect. Personally, *I* would prefer the trip to Paris....but I am not into cars.
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    Don't go. Nothing good will come of it. Just don't go.
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    Sos

    dnozzle replied to sandyv's topic in Suicide & Self-Harm

    Don't do that. Tomorrow will be better.
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    First and foremost, stop seeing her child until you are positive that your relationship with her is going to work. It is extremely traumatic and damaging for children to see their parent parading a string of boyfriends in and out of their lives. They see that pattern, and will repeat it when they grow up. Other than that, don't start up something new with someone until you have ended what you are already in. That's just not right.
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    He's just not into you.
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    Oh ok. In that case, yes I would email him and see what happens. I have been in that exact situation before, more than 15 years ago, and sometimes I still wonder what would have happened if I had just made the first move and asked her out when I found out she was quitting (we both had rules about not dating people we worked with at the time). Nothing ventured, nothing gained. But if you don't try, you might keep wondering what could have been.
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    I don't think differences in religion are inherantly bad, but if one person mocks the other person's beliefs, that is very bad. It shows a lack of respect. I think you should tell her very frankly how you feel about her comments, and ask that she not mock your beliefs like that anymore. Likewise, you should be respectful of her beliefs and give her the room to believe whatever she wants too.
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    I'd respond. Why not? You know she likes you and you obviously like her. Why be so shy about it? Just ask her out. She will say yes.
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    You know how they always say "it happens when you stop looking for it?" Well there is a lot of truth to that. I am a very insecure guy too. Way too insecure for my looks, since I have been told that I am quite handsome. But I still feel insecure talking to girls. Always have. Well, about a month after meeting my girlfriend, I noticed that women were coming out of the woodwork to talk to me and flirt with me and even ask me out. ME!!!! I couldn't believe it. I was a little bit flattered, and a little bit skeeved by it (because I am VERY monogamous and don't welcome flirtations when I am with someone), but mostly I was puzzled by it. Why were all these women suddenly so interested in me? Then it hit me: I had stopped looking. I was a secure, happy, confident male who had everything he wanted in life and it showed all over me. They were drawn to it like candy. Now I am NOT suggesting getting a girlfriend to attract other women. What I am suggesting is, stop looking on the inside. Be happy, confident, and secure on your own, and the women will come to you. And trust me when I say that when they do, they will be AGGRESSIVE about it. Sheeeesh!
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    Yep Koopa. You nailed all those symptoms. I went through this 2.5 weeks ago when my GF initiated NC with me. I didn't eat anything at all for 3 days, and since then it has been minimal. There are days here and there where I get a ravenous hunger and will eat like normal, and then a few more days of no appetite and wanting to barf. Sleep has also been affected. The first 4 nights or so I barely slept at all because she was in all my dreams. I would wake up thinking about her and not be able to go back to sleep the rest of the night. Thankfully, that has gotten a lot better. On the bright side, my grocery budget and waist line have been very thankful for this break. I am down 10 lbs since the breakup, and have only been to the store once. Plus, if she ever does decide to come back, I'm gonna be all buff and she won't even recognize me. So I guess there is always a silver lining if you look hard enough.
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    You've told her how you feel about her. That is the best you can do. Don't get trapped in the friend zone. Ask her out on a real date and tell her you want to start seeing her. At least then you will know.
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    Don't call him. Detach. And you might want to redefine your terms. He should call you only when he is ready to take you seriously. Him dying or seeing someone else has nothing to do with you or your needs. Look out for yourself and let him deal with himself.
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    I want to call her so bad. This just sucks. Somebody please give me some good reason why calling is a very bad idea. please.
  20. dnozzle
    I think you are worried too much about him and not enough about you. Let him go and start putting you back together.
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    You should probably not be dating someone new yet if you still have feelings like that for your ex. Do you want to burn this new guy? What happens if he falls for you and then finds out that you still want your ex? I think it is better to take a break in between relationships to grieve and heal before trying again. Otherwise you just bounce from one rebound to another and never really work on the issues you have to deal with. You just keep slapping band-aids on the broken heart.
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    Dude! She left your engagement to see another guy. Why would you WANT to get back with her? I would just ignore her and let her go. She is very much not worth your time.
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    Personally, I wouldn't do it. If she can stay away this long then she is pretty cold-hearted and I would not trust her by letting her back in. I would move on to something else.
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    Then you have to ask yourself if YOU can live with him the way he is right now. You cannot change people. If the answer to that is no, then you really should move on because he is not right for you.
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    Yes. That would make me feel very jerked around, and like you still saw me as good enough to eat with, but not to be emotionally involved with. That sounds like you want all the benefits of a boyfriend with none of the attachments. Bottom line, talk to him, but BE HONEST about what you need from this relationship and LISTEN to what he has to say about it too. If you make your needs known, he can decide whether or not he can meet them.
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