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    hehehe... no it isn't me Sarah Michelle Gellar, AKA, "Buffy, the vampire slayer." But I'm also a blonde....
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    Rich - but he called to cancel because he's meeting either another girl or a group of people at a bar! Yeah mun, he's so hot in the photos, and he seems like a cool guy on the screen, but he called and cancelled our date 4 hours before it, and for someone else I find out! I don't think I can sit with him for 1 hour over drinks without thinking the entire time, "you are such a dumb *beep.*"
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    Really? Go? Because right now, I feel like just not showing up, and letting him figure it out at the bar..... while I sit at home and paint my toenails
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    Well, when he originally asked me out, he suggested any day on the weekend, or monday or wednesday. So, I said, monday or wednesday work. So, we decided on monday, until he called and asked if wednesday was still ok. My gut instinct says that he doesn't meet my IQ requirement
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    Well, actually... there's one small other piece of info... He e-mailed me on saturday saying that he would call me on sunday. But, I didn't hear from him until today and he didn't say anything like, "oh - I'm sorry I didn't call yesterday - something came up..." He just said, "I can't meet you tonight." So, I dunno.... I think he already has 2 strikes against him. This "teammate" must be some other woman, why else would he have talked to me for a few minutes until he figure out I wasn't the person he was trying to call? So, he broke plans with me to go on another date....? hrmmm..... Well, clearly, if we are on a dating site, we are dating other people, but he doesn't have to make it so clear that he's breaking plans with me for someone else! Just a really bad first impression!
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    So, I recently signed up for an internet dating site, and this guy J contacted me. We were supposed to go out tonight for drinks, but he called me 1 hour ago and said he couldn't make it. I said, "fine." Then, he said, how about wednesday night, and I said, "sure." Then, just, 2 minutes ago.... he called again. Here is the conversation: J: Hi! Me: Hi! J: So, it's the 4th of July. Me: Right..... J: So, it means that lots of places are closed tonight. I called that one bar, but they're closed. So, do you want to go to the A bar tonight instead...? Me: Uh.... I thought we planned on meeting on wednesday? J: Uhh.... oh no... Me: Um, are you trying to get ahold of someone else....? J: Yeah, oops... my teammate... Me: Ok... J: Ok then, uh, sorry! I'll see you wednesday! Me: Ok! Do you guys think I should still go on wednesday, despite the fact that he has proven himself to be a butt head? Or should I stand him up (not show up?) hehehe what do you all think?
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    Ditto to what raykay said. Even though being FWB means you can keep your private life private, I too think what he said was really disrespectful. It sounds like he's just worried about what his friends will say or think. It's not a healthy relationship. If he's really your friend and he likes spending time with you, then he wouldn't mind people seeing you two hanging out together. FWB won't work if someone has romantic feelings towards the other. If you're going into this hoping he will be your boyfriend one day, you may be waiting forever. FWB is just basically fooling around until one person finds someone they like better. Which is fine if all you're looking for is sex, but if he told you one day that he met a new girl and he really likes her, and he's done with you, would you feel hurt? Just some stuff to think about...
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    Hi Gradle - I have to second everything everyone before me said. Don't get mad at him when he suggests dinner, when you'd rather have dinner and drinks and a walk. You wouldn't get mad at a co-worker who only had time to get dinner, would you? Like Muneca said, dinner is better than sitting home by yourself.
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    hmm.... my ex-bf was also sincere about being annoyed by her attention, but that didn't stop him from dating her later.... I think you have to really talk to her. She may not be the type who wants to be rude to people in her apartment complex, but by keeping in touch with this guy, she's being rude to you. Don't forget that.
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    Hi Jai - Welcome to eNotalone. Reading your situation, I have 2 comments: 1) If he really wants to be with you again, and wants to break up with the new girl, then tell him that you won't date him again until he is officially free and single. Tell him "you're not that type of woman - to go after another woman's bf" (even if he is your ex!) Make it crystal clear to him that you won't tolerate anything less. I've seen situations like these where the guy "wants" to break things off with the live-in gf, but somehow... they always find a reason not to... I've seen women wait around for months, even years, and somehow, the guy gets to keep both women!!! And remember - he didn't have much of a problem breaking up with you, so why would breaking up with this girl be so hard... hmmm? 2) You're 25 - a grown adult. If your family doesn't like your choices, tough. It's your life, live it accordingly. That said, families sometimes don't like someone - with good reason! If you and this man do get back together, try to smooth things over so things are bareable during the holidays and whatnot. Good luck!
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    I agree with Chai. The thing about stalkers (and that's what he kind of sounds like), is that if they call you 40 times, and you pick up on the 41st call, they know that as long as they call you 41 times, you will evenutally pick up. Block his number, don't pick up. If you have to, go to the police. Good luck
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    If she's as annoyed by him as she says she is, she needs to grow some backbone and tell him to buzz off! There's no reason for her to be nice to him. If he calls, she shouldn't pick up. If he drops by her place, she should tell him she's busy and he should go home. Ok, I don't mean to freak you out, but back in high school, my bf was always complaining about this girl that was crazy about him. She would call him all the time, find reasons to be near him, always ask for rides home... He would complain to me, and I'd say to him, "if you don't like her, don't answer her calls, don't talk to her, tell her you have a gf!" (She knew about me - and hated me!) But, he was always like, "I don't want to be rude!!!" I'd say, "It's not being rude - it's having your own boundaries and telling her to move on!" Well, after a few months of this, I figured out that he liked the extra attention (having 2 women fighting over him), and he started dating her soon after we broke up. I dunno --- I've always been good at giving guys the cold shoulder if I'm not interested in them. I sometimes get annoyed by people who can't do the same due to my high school experience. If she really doesn't like him, she needs to learn how to be firm. Otherwise, I would say that she is enjoying this attention from the 21 year old, and really doesn't want it to stop, even if she says she does.
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    Why won't he change it since he knows you have it???? Does he also know that you've been checking his e-mails regularly? How long ago did you two break up? How long were you together?
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    You MUST stop checking his e-mails. It's not doing anything positive for you, and it's also totally wrong and illegal. Do whatever you have to do to stop. You may even consider writing an "anonymous" note to him saying that someone has his password, and he should change it! He is getting married, everything is over and done with. Like Life said, time to move on. Drinking isn't a good way to deal with the pain either. You drink, and your problems are still there, if not worse! You have to take steps to really heal from this heartbreak. Remember, you were alright before you met him, and you'll be fine afterwards. Good luck!
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    I'm sorry - I don't mean to sound judgemental, I'm just trying to offer some outside perspective. I do have to agree with the others, 2 broken engagements sounds a little fishy. I dunno - he may like you, but from what you have written, there doesn't seem to be any overwhelming evidence that he is interested in you romantically. Just my 2 cents.
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    Well, the harm it's doing is that it's occupying your time that can be spent on other, more important things out. Or, spent dating a man who will actually do stuff like call you and ask you out. This guy is a bartender. If he's being friendly, then he's doing his job. I'm sure that he knows how to ask for a woman's phone number. If he is interested, that's what he will do. But, to answer your question, I don't see anything about the statement, "I've been engaged twice" that indicates any romantic interest. It's just a statement.
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    Jetta - I think you're reading too deeply into things. I think if he were interested in you, he would have asked you out right now. Or, perhaps, he has something going on in his life and it's just not the right time for him to ask you out. In any case, it may be time to forget about him... even though the detective game can be fun, it's not really getting you anywhere, is it?
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    You know, just be thankful that you didn't marry him and have tons of kids with him, and then had him say, "the s just fell into my lap." Yeah, that's great. Like, he just slipped and fell and his *beep* fell into another woman's *beep*. He sounds like a real winner! Yes, over time, the pain will lessen. It's ok - you'll find someone more worthy. Good luck!
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    Hey Gradle - how's your weekend going?
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    Are you really being altrusitic, or are you just afraid she'll say something like, "I can't stand you!" I think that closure is important, I know that I would wonder and it would always bug me until I knew what happened. I remember being 9 years old and my piano teacher told me to find a new instructor. She was getting older, and wanted to scale back her work-load, and quite frankly, I wasn't one of her favorite students (she didn't say that, but I remember thinking it....) She actually said she wanted to focus her attention on a small handful of students. Well, whatever. I didn't like her much anyways, and I found a new teacher I liked better....
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    Yes, I too think it was unprofessional of her not to give you a reason. I think you should call her, tell her you "lost" the list of other therapists, and you'd like her to mail you another list. Also, ask her why she won't be your therapist anymore.
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    Yes, don't take it personally. Like Ayekasong said, she may be quitting her job, got fired, or perhaps she needs to scale back her patient load due to personal reasons. Or maybe, over the 3 months of therapy, she just doesn't feel like she's getting through to you, and thinks maybe someone with a different style may help you more. In any case, don't feel rejected. She's just trying to help you out. She wouldn't have given you a list of others if she thought you were hopeless. I would get that sheet of paper again. Try giving someone else a call... good luck!
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    Yes, I have to agree with Muneca about the 5x per week thing...
  24. annie24
    awwww.... it sounds like you have nothing to worry about! Just enjoy things.... I bet when he is ready, he'll say the "L" word.
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    Geeezzz... just because you eat salad doesn't mean you have an eating disorder!!! I hope they aren't weird people! Like dave said, eat normally. Try to dress conservatively, try not to talk about politics or religion, don't make out with your bf in front of them.... you know, normal stuff. Just be yourself. Your bf likes you, and you're invited on vacation, so they must like you to some degree. Don't stress!
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