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  1. annie24
    hmmm... yes, that is a confusing conversation.... I have the same questions hope does....
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    erm... yes, I agree with mysteryman. Now that you're 18, you should try to be a bit more discreet. You're not a kid anymore....
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    What about during the talks? When you go in to sit down, sit next to a woman you find attractive. Maybe before the talk/speech/prayer begins, ask her where she's from, or ask if you can borrow a pen. Or, at lunch, when you are in line, start chatting with the girl next to you (if you find her attractive). Just friendly banter, nice weather, etc. Then, if things go well, you can ask her if she'd like to eat lunch with you. Good luck and have fun!
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    Yes, just be firm. I don't know why guys ask about exes.... I dated a guy who asked me once, and I was like, "do you REALLY want to know...?" and he said, "No." and that was the end of that conversation. Yes, tell this guy if you think you'll be intimate with him. As for your condition, have you done some googling about it? Perhaps there is a specialist somewhere that can take care of it. Did you get a second opinion....? Good luck!
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    There is no good reason to stand someone up. The only reason I could possibly think of is that he had to rush his grandfather to the hospital or something, but even then, he could have called you once the doctors started to operate on grandpa. I think standing someone up is TOTALLY not ok, and it's a complete deal-breaker for me. It's totally rude and disrespectful. With the advent of cell-phones, there is no reason not to call and have a 30 second conversation. The last time I stood someone up was last year, and that was because I was in the hospital, getting my leg put into a cast because I broke a bone. Of course, I called as soon as I got out of the emergency room. That said, ignore him. Go out on another date with him only if he shows up at your apartment with 2 dozen roses, chocolates, and lots and lots of "I'm sorrys!" Don't call him and ask him "what's up?" Nope. He's the one who was a jerk. All you need to know is that this guy didn't care enough to call you, so why should you call him and let him know that you're ok with people walking all over you. I mean, think about it - you would never consider doing that to your co-worker, neighbor, or friend. You would call or send them a quick e-mail saying that plans changed. So why are some people so quick to forgive being stood up by a date? It's just bad bad bad behavior. Forget about him. There are so many other men out there that won't waste your time like this. Ok, obviously, you can see that I am very passionate about this topic. Have you ever heard the saying, "You teach people how to treat you?" Well, if he does call you a few days later, and he doesn't mention standing you up, and you wind up dating him, he'll know that he can walk all over you, and cancel dates with you at the last second, and you won't mind.
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    I was sort of thinking that too.... but I don't know how far away he lives from you, so it may not be possible to "not drive by." My last ex lived 1 block away from me, so I actually went out of my way to avoid his place. Not to make you paranoid or upset or whatever, but just because the light is on doesn't mean that he's home alone, watching his TV or on his computer. He could have company over.... That's why I'd try to avoid his house, if you can....
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    Hi - Well, in discussing your past relationship, say something vague, like, "I like to keep my past in the past." Or, "It's all done with - I wish them well, but have no desire to talk about them." Or, "You grow and move on from every relationship." I think people wanting to know about the exes is some kind of sick and weird thing, because once you tell them, they're going to get jealous and keep replaying things in their head.... Don't let him push you. Tell him as much as you feel comfortable with. As for having these past relationships make you feel sick, try to come to terms with them. Remember, every relationship is a gift, you learn and mature from every relationship you are in, even if they were not great. As for your skin problem, can you have the doctor take care of it this summer? Go to a dermatologist. Tell your dude about the skin problem before you go swimming, just bring it up casually, so he won't be surprised. Good luck with everything!!!
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    Yes, you two aren't bf/gf anymore, so like you would to a co-worker, when you see him, hand him the cash for the ticket. He may refuse to take it, that would be nice, but still offer to pay. I know what you mean! I've been on a skirt frenzy too. Keep it up! Like someone else posted, make sure to be light and fun for all of us who don't have this opportunity! Make us proud!
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    Ah yes, I should clarify. When someone says it's over, you have to just take them at their word and conduct yourself like it is over. Move on fast. But, of course, people do change their minds and come crying back. However, you're not doing yourself any favors waiting around for that day. In my personal experience, I've had ex-bfs come back when I really detached myself and really moved on with my life and I made peace with the end of the relationship.
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    Yes, like RayKay said, I can't imagine why she would book this appointment unless she thought you were sexually active. If a woman is a virgin and under 18, there is no need to go the the gynecologist.
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    Yes, he at least wants to be friends. Ok, so tomorrow, go and be as cool as possible. Do NOT bring up any relationship talk or whatever, and don't mention anything about committment, and marriage, even if you just want to mention that your old friend from high school is getting married. NO! Stay clear of that. Just go, have fun, be light.
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    Hi - Well, here's the thing....doctors are bound by confidentiality rules, so what you could do is tell the doctor when your mom is out of the room for the exam that you aren't a virgin. Tell your mom you'd rather she not be in the room for your exam. Your doctor can't tell your mom.... good luck!
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    So are you two still going?
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    Also, please don't listen to your friend about how "you should have called J on his birthday." Nu-uh... Nope. As the ex-girlfriend, you already did way more than necessary (and I would say, appropriate) by getting him a gift and stopping by to give him a card. For an ex, one card, or one phone call, or one e-mail is appropriate, and that is it. Any more than that, and you'd just be confirming J's sentiments that you are smothering him... Smothering.... I've had an ex from high school call me that before. It was the fact that I called him everyday that really bugged him. We had very few "dates" because he was always "too busy" (what a load of crap - high school kids are NOT that busy). Oh yeah, and he cheated on me with an "ugly girl. Anyways, I was madly in love with him, but he didn't share my feelings, so I eventually got sick of him, and did NC, and went off to college. 2.5 years later, out of the blue, he called me telling me how much he loved me, missed me, that I was the best, most caring gf ever, blah blah blah.... It was quite satisfying for me to tell him, "I moved on years ago... so should you!"
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    Listen to Hope and Muneca. Don't call him. He has your number, if he wants to go with you, he'll call, and if he doesn't, oh well. Don't you have acquaintances with whom you say, "Oh - let's do lunch someday..." but you don't really mean it. Yeah.... it just may have been something he said in passing, but didn't really mean it...... *sigh* Men like the thrill of the chase. They get a kick out of it. Think about it - isn't it so much more satisfying when they ask you out and say that they want to see you, instead of calling a guy and having him say, "uhhh... ok.... I guess I don't have other plans....." Have fun with the cute new guy, ok?
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    Good job!!! I am so proud of you!!! Imagine how many other 16 year old girls he's kissed because "he couldn't help it...." I'm glad that you're telling him it's NOT OK!!!
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    I think that's the lamest excuse to break up with someone, ever. If you like someone, then hanging out with them is supposed to relieve the stress and pressures of work and the ex-wife. Remember - when you like someone, you want to spend time with them because it makes you happy. Something else is going on. He sounds very back and forth. Like, he wants to meet, but when you suggest meeting, he gets "busy." I personally don't believe in mixed signals. My guess is that he likes you, but not enough, and not as much as you'd like for him to like you. And who wants to deal with that crap?
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    Not my type?

    annie24 replied to NN2's topic in Dating Advice

    I think it means they're shallow. I disagree. I agree strongly with what RayKay and shes2smart wrote. It just means that you're not interested in getting romantically involved with the person because of one thing or another. I've told smart, good-looking guys that they weren't my type because I just didn't think that we would be a good match. I'm sure that they would make good boyfriends.... for someone else.
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    CONGRATS!!!!
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    It's ok that you had a crazy day, but the important thing is that you didn't call. You showed great self-restraint. Keep it up!
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    CONGRATS!!!
  22. annie24
    Hey hon - it's ok, today will be over in a few hours. You'll feel better tomorrow. Go rent a movie tonight or something. Yes, it is unfortunate - the things that go along with being an ex.... I felt that way too, with my last relationship.... we had a lot of mutual friends (but they were mostly his friends), so he got to keep them after we broke up, and I wasn't invited to their parties anymore.... That's why it's important to have your own friend base. You know, I've hear a million stories of someone getting their heart broken, only to meet someone a million times better soon afterwards! I think that RayKay's story is one of those. I just met someone recently who really knocked my socks off! I don't even care about the ex anymore!!! Isn't that great? Chin up, ok?
  23. annie24
    Luciana - now would be a good time to maybe take some night classes, you know, get some more skills so you can find a better job to support yourself and your daughter with.
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    Luciana - I am so happy to hear you feel more empowered after talking to the lawyer. Like you said, 25 years of experience, and they know something when something doesn't smell right. I can't believe that he is not sleeping at your place! Honestly, with the lawyers, one-sided documents, and the hiding, it sounds more like you are going through a divorce, not a marriage. Yes, you are right, he will lose much more. And you will gain so much more by finding a man who will be your partner in every way. You said that you are a fit, good-looking, and exciting woman. I bet that many men would desire to be in a relationship with you. It's not like this is your "last chance at love." My mom remarried at 63! Your friends and family will be more understanding than you think. I think everyone would rather the wedding be cancelled 1 month before than to go through a messy divorce later. Or hell, even running away like the woman from Georgia did! Don't worry, your parents have plane tickets, they can visit you anyways in your new apartment! Good luck!
  25. annie24
    Honestly, you can even go to the police. It's sexual assault. (But I would tell grandpa first, see what he thinks should be done).
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