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  1. annie24
    Cool! I like how things are going with C! Nah... don't tell J about C... what's the point? I'd wait at least another day until you call J back... at least until his friend is gone. Call him tomorrow night or something... go out for that run! have a great night!
  2. annie24
    erm.... "new tricks" in bed, phone calls.... it doesn't sound good. I think the strongest piece of evidence is that you feel that something isn't right. Your gut is usually right.... I don't buy the story of his thumb being slammed in the door. It sounds to me like this is a trick he's learned from another woman.... I would read some articles on infidelity here, see what they say, how you should approach the situation.... I'm sorry! For your sake, I really do hope the car-door slamming story is the truth!!!
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    Have you tried spending an "afternoon of beauty" or something with her? Like, go to the department store, have the makeup counter girl give her a free makeover, and buy some lipstick or something? Maybe go and try on clothes together? Why is this man still with her? It sounds like you are being a good friend and have tried so much to help her, but she can really only help herself.
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    Egads.... So, what have you tried so far? I remember you said in an earlier post you lost a lot of weight - have you tried sharing your tips with her? I bet you probably have though.... Yeah, it's funny how her ears and back don't bother her friday and saturday nights at the club.... She kinda sounds like a person who really really doesn't want to be happy! It sounds like she actually enjoys being miserable. I don't really know what you can do about it. I'm assuming you've already suggested she wear a bra and more flattering clothing, and try to get a job. Maybe she needs some anti-depressants....? I dunno....
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    Hi - I've found that the only way to lose weight off the stomach is just really to watch what you eat. For myself, I can lose weights off other parts of my body just by exercise, but for as you know, the stomach for us ladies is a lot harder to lose.... Yeah, that's it. Eat healthier, do crunches and other core-building exercises. In the mean time, choose flattering tops and dresses that hide your tummy. Good luck!
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    Hi - I don't think it's really anything you did wrong. I think it just all may be "too much too soon." You two have spent A LOT of time together in the past few days. Try backing off for a few days. Make yourself scarce. Hopefully, he'll be begging you to come out with him on a real date soon! PS - You may consider not always giving into last minute requests to see him. It creates a bad habit PPS - Set up your own account here on eNotalone!
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    Not if you just drop off the stuff and leave. No conversation, just, "Here's your stuff. bye." And you walk away. I think holding onto it looks more like you are keeping it to keep him in your life, so you have a reason to contact him later on. Or, you can drop his stuff off at his work.
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    Hey - I'm sorry to hear about the breakup. I think you should put all his stuff in a box and send him an e-mail that says, 'I'm going to come over briefly and drop your things off. Which of the following times would be best: Monday 8 PM, Tuesday 7 PM, or Sunday 5 PM?" Or, like Darkblue said, you can give it to a mutual friend. As for the photo, I wouldn't take it. I'd tell my friend that we broke up, and that the mutual friend should keep the photo. good luck!
  9. annie24
    He mentioned in an earlier e-mail that he likes to play baseball on weekends. When I asked if he was trying to call someone else, I think "teammate" was the first thing that popped in his head.
  10. annie24
    Wow - I am watching this on CNN also. My thoughts and prayers are with the people of London.
  11. annie24
    NO!!! Don't say that!!!! If you do decide to call him, just be light and friendly. Be cool. So, he hasn't asked you for your number? hrmm..... You know, everytime a guy gives me his number, I give him mine too. Then, I let him call me. It's just been my experience if you are always the one calling a guy, chances are, he's not romantically interested in you, and he always has "good reasons" why he can't hang out. I honestly don't think he's too nervous to call, because you've called him 3x and you've been warm, so I doubt that he's like, "Oh - I am so afraid to call her because I might get rejected!" But, if you feel this is something you need to do - to ask him out, go ahead.
  12. annie24
    Oh honey, don't worry - Most guys will be ESPECIALLY happy to make out with you if you aren't looking for a relationship I'm sure that he'd be happy to be your "transitional guy." As for the "date", that's a good sign. I know it's hard, try not to read too much into it. I don't think he's "practicing", I think he's just trying to show good manners. Enjoy it! (But, chances are... he will probably try to start dating when he moves to SF, so try to prepare yourself mentally for that.)
  13. annie24
    well, in this day of caller ID and cell phones, you can get the number right away of the person calling you. It's one thing to always call your best friend because of some circumstance, but if it's relatively new in the friendship (and QT wants more than a friendship), then being the one to do 100% of the calling isn't a great idea. Besides - he's completely capable of saying when you call, "hey - what's your number also so I can give you a call sometime?" A person who is only a taker, and not a giver? That's not a good person to chase after!
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    Ok, so how many times has he called you back? Because if we are talking about "friends," my friends and I call each other pretty equally, so, no, it's not bothersome. But, if you notice you are always calling him, but he never calls you, perhaps he is not romantically interested in you.
  15. annie24
    Unfortunately, yes, a lot of the time, when a guy is getting ready to break up with you, he will find reasons to be "busy." I think that the best thing you can do in this situation is to back off from him. let him miss you. Don't call him, let him call you and want to talk to you. This may rekindle his interest, or he may just let you walk away. If you keep calling him, he may start to feel smothered, and that isn't good - he's going to want space from you. Start getting "busy" yourself - spend more time with your friends and your hobbies. Let him call you and miss you! good luck
  16. annie24
    Well, maybe J might be a bit jealous, but ultimately, he's still broken up with you. Well, you see he changed his friendster message... he's trying to move on also. It's ok - you'll have so much fun in DC when you move there.... you'll have plenty of fun.
  17. annie24
    You haven't moved out of the house you share with your ex-husband, have you? I would most certainly be hesitant to date someone who is still living with their ex. Perhaps that's what he's waiting for.... Or, maybe he's waiting until you've been divorced for 6 months.... who knows what kinds of "rules" he has in his head....
  18. annie24
    Trust your gut instinct. It sounds like he does have some interest in you, other circumstances may be stopping him from making a move on you. Of course, your recent divorce might make him not want to get involved with you so soon. Can you blame him? Maybe he's hesitant about dating a woman with children. Maybe he has some own issues in his life, or he is "talking" to an ex-gf right now. You don't really know. In any case, I wouldn't force the issue with him. I've been in a situation before where I sensed a guy liked me, but he wouldn't make a move on me, so finally I made a move on him, and we dated for a few months, but things just weren't right... they just didn't feel right, and we broke up. I think he had a lot on his mind at the time (school/job problems) and he didn't like me enough to really look past his own issues. Which is why I don't recommend forcing the issue.
  19. annie24
    You can try reading some books like, "How to win friends and influence people." You can also try talking less, and listening more to what others have to say. When you get hyper, just take a calming breath. As for the fashion and femininity, you can read some beauty magazines, and pick out a few things you like, and try it out. Or, go to a shop and ask a saleslady to help you chose some classic, feminine outfits that will last you for a few years. It's just - you're going through that phase, where you're not quite comfortable in your own skin. Hell, even I'm not comfortable in my own skin quite yet - it takes a while.
  20. annie24
    He's reading these posts? I hate it when the partners do that! Anyways, I've heard of a funny story on Oprah, where a woman sent out "we're engaged!" announcement when they got engaged. I don't remember what happened, but the man cheated on his fiancee before the wedding, and she found out, so she sent out, "Single again!" announcements to the people who were to attend the wedding. It had a cute poem inside, something like, "It turned out my prince charming was really a toad, when he asked me to marry him, I gave him the wrong finger." Don't worry about what your acquaintances will say. Yes, I guess there will be gossip, but that's unavoidable - it's just what people do. You never know - when word gets out that you are back on the market, someone may set you up with their friend, or someone may even ask you out himself Don't worry - you'll get back on your feet. Work extra hard at your job, find a new place, you and your daughter will be just fine. Good luck.
  21. annie24
    *sigh* I hate it when you guys make me do the right thing. Ok, I just sent him a 1 sentence e-mail saying I'm no longer interested. On the flip side, if I were ever to seriously date him, I would find out pretty quickly if he's cheating on me, as he is apparently incapable of covering his tracks!
  22. annie24
    We're not recommending she actually talk to him! It's more like, NOT talking to him. Like, not picking up the phone, not answering the door, etc. His taking her for rides, and all that stuff... he's trying to play the role of the bf, and that's your job! What she needs to tell him is that she already has a bf, and that he should find a girl his own age to persue. I don't think you're overreacting - I was in your shoes a few years back.... if anything, I think I UNDERREACTED! As soon as that girl started closing in on my bf, and he didn't tell her to buzz off right away, I should have dumped him right then and there, instead of dealing with that crap for 4 months.... Think about it - if the creepy janitor or someone in her building kept hitting on her, but it made her uncomfortable, she would either tell him to go away, or she'd have her parents tell the janitor to leave their daughter alone!
  23. annie24
    I remember when I applied to Harvard, I sent them a letter telling them how much I really wanted to go to the University of Michigan. Oops! I got the envelope mixed up! I realized this mistake in the middle of the night, I called Harvard, and they said, "Oh, this sort of thing happens ALL time time! Send us another letter, but we may or may not put it in our file." So, I sent another letter, but I didn't get in. Oh well... it was a long-shot anyways.... My gut is saying "don't go." And forget to tell him "I can't make it..."
  24. annie24
    Oh muneca - you know that I'm dating other guys! I know that he is also seeing other women - after all, we are all on a dating site! It's just... yes, I do feel insulted, even though I know it's not personal, as he doesn't know me. He cancels a date 4 hours in advance, and then I find out that he is cancelling for another date, this "teammate...?" Like Ilse said, he must not know this "teammate" very well if he can't recognize her voice over the phone.... Caldus, I think if I don't show up, he'll figure out pretty quickly why I'm not there... I think it might even do him some good - to sit at the bar with his beer and contemplate how, in the future, he will make sure which phone number he is dialing.... Ironically, his profile says he is "good at multitasking."
  25. annie24
    Of course he has my photo! He is the one who approached me online and asked me out....
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