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    I think you should go to the store right now and buy some toothpaste, a toothbrush, and some floss, and some mouthwash.
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    Luciana, I was interested, so I looked at that post, and that was your reply to your poster in the link above.
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    Oh wow. I step away from the computer for a few hours and look what happens. Guys - please, let's stay on the original topic....
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    Oh yes, he is doing a lot more than most peoples' exes here are. Yes, it definitely sounds like he respects you a lot. Good - just focus on not freaking out anymore. I freak out too, but I tend to do it internally - or vent to other people, but typically not to my love interest. I know how it feels.... Ok, well, just keep up the good work on being light and friendly when you two talk. If you feel like you're about to freak out, just tell him something in the oven is burning, or someone is at the door, and tell him you'll talk to him later, and hang up. Better that you come on here to vent than to freak out at him.
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    I don't really think that there is a discreet place in an arcade. It's a public place, with tons of kids. I guess if you must, go to the area with the least popular games. But, since you two are both adults now, best to go home if you two feel the need for "alone time."
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    Good girl!!! I always figured, you read books to learn about physics, and books to learn about personal finance. I think that reading books about relationships is equally important.
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    Of course they want them to hook it up! Why else would they schedule 2 hours for lunch? It doesn't take that long to eat a sandwhich, chips, and a soda! 10,000 people.... the church is hoping for 5,000 marriages, along with 10,000-20,000 kids!
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    I agree with muneca - it seems like you are ruining your chances of a reconciliation on purpose. We've told you what to do, and he's told you what he needs, like muneca said, it's a simple equation, now follow it. Trust us, being a bit more unavailable will make you look better in his eyes, it won't drive him away. he's telling you he wants more space! So, give it to him! Go out, have a life. He can always leave a message on your machine if you are out. In fact, he will get curious, and maybe even a bit jealous if he sees you are not always available to take his calls and he'll wonder who you're with. Thats a good thing!!! Have you read the books on your reading list?
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    Well, sex in any public place is illegal. But, people don't think sex on the beach is so strange....
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    ah, well, different strokes for different folks. At least the graveyard is private.
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    "He doesn't chase?" what kind of a thing is that to say? Well, if he calls, just be non-chalant. If he says, "what are you doing tonight?" Tell him you already made other plans. Just see what his behavior is and how he makes you feel. Do you ultimately really want to be with a man who only calls you 3 hours in advance, and cancels plans at the last minute? I mean, is this really the kind of guy you are interested in?
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    hehehehe.... How can he not know there is a tornado? That's what those terrible sirens are for! scottish accent.... weird..... Ok, well, I've been told I do this too where I will sometimes go to a co-worker's office and stay too long chatting.... And then they go around telling everyone else that I'm too chatty instead of telling me that they need to get back to work. That isn't cool. I've reined myself in a lot now, to the point where I feel totally anti-social at times.... Anyways, my point is, maybe you can just tell him gently, "It's been really nice having you over, but now I have a million errands to run and I need to get to them. Call me when you would like to hang out again." And then show him to the door.
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    Does he tend to show up unannounced? I don't like it when people do that. Don't answer the door. Or answer it, and tell him you have the world's worst headache and you need to lay down in your room in the dark and you need absolute quiet. And then close the door. Maybe tell him gently that you'd rather he call before he comes over... so you know, you will be "decent" and have your your house clean for company.
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    Hmmm.... I'd back off and let him call you. Banquet.... like he just had 4 hours notice about the banquet? Something smells fishy.... I'd back off, see if he starts chasing after you.... if he doesn't, then forget about him.
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    hmmm..... From my perspective, there are "normal" eccentrics, and "strange" eccentrics. You seem to me to be a "normal" eccentric. I don't know where this guy fits. You know him better than we do. The gown fit you perfectly... and he wants photos... well... I'd keep an eye on him. Have you ever been to his place? Does he have a wall of photos in his bedroom or something?
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    So, wait, let's clarify. What exactly were your plans? What exactly did he say to you? If he said, "maybe we should hang out tomorrow, I'll call you..." You don't have concrete plans, but it still shows that he's not totally crazy about you. It's not really being stood up, as much as it is not getting a call. grrrr.... I'd back off and let this guy chase you. I personally don't like it when someone says "are you busy tonight?" Because I'm a grad student, and all my friends are grad students, and we have busy schedules, we tend to make plans with each other 3-4 days in advance. And if a guy is constantly calling asking for dates the same day (like this one guy was to me recently), I just want to say, "You are so dumb! Do you not know how to ask a girl out 2 or 3 days in advance? That's why you're single!!!!" Ok, sorry, I'm going off topic..... Anyways... I wouldn't call him - see what his next move is. If he suggests seeing you either the same day or the next, tell him as nicely and sweetly as you can that you've already made plans. Hopefully, he'll catch the drift that he can't just call you whenever he's bored and needs someone to hang out with. That isn't cool.
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    Don't apologize to me. I just don't want to see you push him away for good. Maybe you can "rehearse" mentally in your head, being light and fun, but not being "relationshippy" or whatever. When I was losing weight with WeightWatchers, they taught us this technique. If we knew we were going to a birthday party, or to a buffet, they would tell us to, in the days before the event, to picture ourselves going to the salad bar, getting light dressing, getting a bit of lean meat, maybe some soup, and walking past the desserts and fried foods. Or, visualizing ourselves eating healthy, but sharing a dessert with a friend. Then, visualize how good about yourself you will feel when you walk out of there. You should try the same thing. Visualize J calling you, you pick up the phone, talk about your fun beach trip, and the cute new outfits you bought, and the new movie you saw. Then, he says he spent time with that couple, and you say, "oh, that sounds like a fun weekend!" and you change the subject. Picture how good you will feel that you didn't bring up relationship issues. It will be so much better if he brings them up - the conversation will be so much better.
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    No, don't get down on yourself. I've actually had something similar happen to me. I was good friends with this guy for 4 years, and we were also co-workers for a while. He was in a serious relationship for 2.5 years, but then they broke up. After being friends for 4 years, he started getting really flirty with me, and started asking me out and making moves on me. So, we went out a few times, and I started liking him, but it was a bit awkward for me, because I had never been interested in him before he came onto me. One night, he was supposed to come to my place after work just to hang out, and he never showed!!!! No phone call!!! That really made me mad, because when we were "just friends" for 4 years, he never once flaked on me, or just forgot. If he couldn't come over, he would call me. And now that we were dating, he wouldn't extend that courtesy anymore. Well, I called to say, "hey how's it going? why didn't you show up?" He said he was having a problem with a roommate. (What, so he couldn't give me a 30 second phone call?) So, I wrote him a long "you suck!" e-mail, and we've never spoken since. Yup, a 4 year friendship down the drain.... Now, back to your story. I don't think it's you. I think it's this guy's problem, and he has some serious growing up he needs to do.
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    Ok, a little creepy. He seems to like to collect photos of women wearing his ex-gfs gowns. I wonder if he has some weird ...uh... photo album, or wall covered with photos like these.... I understand where your mom is coming from, it seems like he has a crush on you, but it seems like your relationship with your hubby is strong, and you're not tempted, so I bet L's efforts will be in vain. Erm... I guess if I were you, I'd maybe distance myself from him a bit, definitely not be alone with him in your house. If for no other reason than he may have a crush on you, and you don't want him to think he has a chance. Good luck!
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    Innerstrength - I am wondering, what exactly is holding you back? You've written several posts over the last few months about this girl, and it's always the same thing. She gives these flirtatious signals, we here on eNotalone are saying 'she's interested, ask her out!!!' But, you don't. WHY? Honestly, from everything you've written, it seems that she is interested. However, taking so long to make a move is NOT in your favor. If you take forever, she will lose interest and move on. And by the time you get the guts to ask her out 2 years from now, she will be engaged to some other dude. Yes, if you take too long to make a move, some other guy will ask her out, and then you will have missed your chance. So, just pick up the phone and ask her if she has plans later this week!!!!!
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    Obviously, this is a problem in your relationship that has been troubling J for a while. I don't know why he didn't say something earlier. Perhaps he did tell you, but you didn't pick up on it. Gradle, this isn't what you want to hear, I'm sorry, but I think you have a looong way to go on getting over your "smothering" problem. You still have it, even though J has told you repeatedly it's a turn-off for him. When you see him or talk to him on the phone, you should not bring up ANYTHING relating to marriage, relationships, kids, future, etc etc etc. Especially no crying! I think he's starting to feel really guilty for breaking up with you, and that's not good, because if he feels guilty, then he feels like he isn't the right match for you, so you are driving him away. That's why when you see him or hear from him, you have to be the independent girl he likes.
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    I agree with 1899. I know tons of people who have met their spouses in church or in bible study class. I can't think of a better place, really, to meet your future husband or wife - you already know they have similar values as you. And besides, the church wants people to hook up - why else would they put 10,000 hormone-laden young people in one closed arena? So they can meet, get married, have tons and tons of babies, and propagate the religion! And you're sitting in your car!!!!
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    Well, no... when you two move, you can still talk on the phone once in a while. Remember - he needs the space. "Absense makes the heart grow fonder." Having you far away may make him miss you, or it may not. Time will tell. You never know, if he starts missing you, he may come to DC for a weekend to see you.... Just let him take the lead now...
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    No problem gradle - we just want to see things work out. Ok, well, this conversation with him is somewhat promising, except that you both are leaving so soon.... Just remember, let him do all the relationship talk initiating. Just keep saying to yourself that he likes you when you are "normal" so try to do the normal thing, even if it is an act.
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    Oh no! That's the worst possible thing you can do! That's what the 2 hour lunch break is for - to meet people!!! Well, on the last day, try to mingle with some people, ok? I don't know if this will help you, but sometimes, I'm more comfortable talking to guys I'm not attracted to because I don't get as nervous and I feel more confident. Maybe tomorrow, you can talk to some average-looking girls, just for practice... good luck!
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