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Hi all There is a female that i did like at my uni and i actually hinted very heavily to her that i liked her and she definitely got the message. On one of my obvious compliments to her she said its 'impossible' too which i replied 'what do u mean impossible?' and then she replied saying 'its watever u want it to mean'. She then said that 'i did this on the train journey aswell' (very obvious flirting eg. me saying stuff like 'ur very attractive and i think whoever will get u will be very lucky'. I took all her reply as being its 'impossible' as a hint she definitely wasn't interested and i got over her (painful but i am over it now). She is 27 and i am 21. This all happened 6 months ago. Now i feel a little embarrassed talking to her. The problem is that on msn she initiates a conversation which started yesterday with 'hi happy valentines day' 'hope ur ok' 'got to go now ' ceeya xxxx (kisses) smiley face she inserted she then went on to say 'don't go breaking too many hearts today'. She also a month back invited me to go see a movie with her too which i rejected. My problem is i am over her now and it was very painful to realise that she rejected me before. So evrytime these conversations come up it brings back bad embarrassing memories. What does she mean and why is she doing this (knowing that she has rejected me?) Please comment girls i need ur help!!!!!!

Hi This is a question for the ladies out there. If ur at a club and a girl dances with you does this mean she finds you physically attractive or she just wants to dance. I was at a club and approached a group of ladies and one was smiling at me and we started dancing. She was dancing very close to me. Any comments from the ladies? I need to know????????

thanks nottoogreen. i think they may have been jealous bcause the very same guy said that he was shy. I also know that i want to go out with asian girls only (just a preference) so when i dance with non- asian girls the guilt trip intensifies.

i know and i think the girls enjoyed dancing with me. I think its because i come from an indian family that holds very traditional values and i dont want to offend my parents by doing things that i will regret. The embarrassment factor comes from i think that people never thought i was the kind of guy to go clubbing let alone dance with attractive girls. One of my classmates a day later saw me and said that 'i am the man' and i think he was poking fun rather rather than complimenting. The other 2 friends who were with him at the time immediately broke out into laughter. I feel so embarrassed. Also i dont want other girls at the uni to think i am some kind of player. Ladies do you think if a guy dances with lots of girls would u think lowly of him?

Hi all I usually dont go to night clubs but i did this time. I am a very good student and people have a very high regard for me. Well i am always quite shy. I started to dance with some girls at the club and i don't know why ever since that night if have felt this terrible guilt that is stopping me to work. I think the problem is that some from my uni saw me dancing with a couple of girls and they will tell everyone and my reputation will be hurt. The other thing is that i come from an extremely conservative family and i think that there are very hight expectations of me. I only danced with a couple of girls and nothing else but then: Why do i feel this massive guilt and embarrassement? I have to admit that it was the first time i actually danced with some attractive girls. I also feel that i was dancing a bit too intamately with them. I feel i must try and stop myself before i do something i regret. (i am a 21 year old male). Please reply i feel soo guilty and embarrassed at myself. Thanku

I was a late physical developer and always looked way young for my age. When i was 16-17 i was teased about how small looking i was. This dented my self-esteem soo much so, that now at 21 i am at uni and i have isolated myself from ppl and am crippling shy. I dont even leave my room to empty my room bcause i am afraid to see ppl. I also really liked this girl and told her indirectly and she rejected me. This hasn;t helped. I come from a hindu family which wouldn;t really allow me to have a girlfriend. I feel restricted almost. My mother told me as a joke that i should get cosmetic surgery for the bump on my nose. I feel i have a bad looking nose and i just generally feel unattractive looking in the mirror.

Hi all I am a 21 year old male and i feel that i am an ugly looking person. When ever i look in the mirror all i see is ugly. I always see bad features. I don't feel good looking. The problem stemmed from a year ago when a person compared me to a close friend and said that i was in his very words 'not good looking and girls don't like me' (this person was a male). This had a huge impact on me and now all i see is uglyness. I feel like crying right now. What i do also is go on the net and see good looking ppl and then feel down that i dont look like them. I also dont feel attractive to women. Someone plz reply and need help.

Every time we see each other she always comes and talks to me exclusively. When we are having a conversation our elbows touch for the entire conversation and sometimes she moves and her knee so that it touches mine and when shes sitting next to me she always slightly slants her body inwards toward me as if it to get closer. U ladies are soo complicated to read lol Whats going on ?

i have hinted that i like her by saying that she is really attractive and compliments on her hair and so forth. I think i dont have the guts to say anything because i am scared about what she might think of me and then never talk to me and think lowly of me. I am an insecure person and dont know how to handle this.

ur right, its not healthy. I have been really depressed because of this situation. I have liked her for a year. I must stop thinking about her but my heart just gets carried away. It feels like a breakup but i am not in a relationship with her. I don;t know how to stop because i have tried and i forget about her for a week or so and then we meet at uni or something and i find myself in the same situation again and again. It is like torture. I want to concentrate on my studies but i can;t because i keep thinking about her. I feel like crying. This is pathetic. I think the main reason is that this is the first girl that i like and i think she likes me for who i am. I am quite a shy and quiet person and find it hard to open up to ppl. When will this thing end? I want to cry Plz reply

Hi guys I have been friends with this girl for a year and a half. I am crazy about her and its driving me insane. The feelings just increase everytime i see her. Its even got to the point where i check my msn hourly to see if she is online so i can talk to her. I really like her. She is 25 and i am 20. She has hinted to me that she likes me. She has invited me to watch a movie with her with some other friends. She has leaned her head on my shoulder for an entire train journey. She tells me that 'alot of girls like guys like you?', On msn she has even sent me a smiley kiss! When we are sitting next to each other our elbows are touching for almost the entire conversation. Recently we went home together and we went together wihout any of our friends. I couldn't help myself i complimented her to the last second we were together she also complimented me a little. We shared things that neither of us had shared with anyone eg. our childhood nicknames. She even said how much time flew on that journey. After the journey on msn she gave me her cell number because her old sim card went missing. Does this mean she likes me>? She has also told me that i am marriage material and have a great personality and also that if she had a sister she would let her marry me. After that whenever i see her, she seems a little distant and she seems in an awkward position. I haven't told her directly that i am interested in her than more than just a friend but i have made it clear with the heavy flirty signals i have sent haven't i? What do u guys think? Is she backing off saying that she wants to be just friends? OR Does she like me but isn't sure i do? The problem is i think about her all the time and its takes over most of my day. I wonder about what she is doing at this very moment in time. I also keep thinking about the times we were together. I cannot stop thinking about her. I have tried to stop thinking about her but i just can't. I keep checking my msn to see if she is online on an hourly basis. Surely this is not healthy. I have a huge crush on her but i don't want to lose this friendship if i am wrong. The obsession with her has got so bad that i think its verging on depression. For example on the day i came back home i was depressed and very very sad because she had told me that she had kissed another guy at a public function but she said that she was drunk and regretted it. I asked her whether she liked him or not and she replied that he was a nice guy but he was only 18-19 and that she was 25 and that she didn't like him. But then she said that age doesn't really matter. She also said that that she couldn;t have the type of conversations that she has with me with someone like him. I like her soo much and i am very depressed because it kills me everytime i see her. I always think about her. She is the first person i think of in the morning and the last person at night. She is such a genuine and kind hearted person. What should i do? Plz help. Ladies comments appreciated

wow thanku for ur kind and well crafted and honest replies. I am realising that feelings are an everyday occurrence. I was very angry with my father for allowing his mother to speak to me like that. I am realising now that this 25yr old girl has had an immense effect on me. She is my first real crush and the first female to have complimented me and been kind to me. But i cannot let go of her. i feel like crying sometimes and this emotion goes inward and displaces onto other ppl. I really like this girl. I have tried to stop thinking about her but my whole day revolves around her. The 6 hr journey i spent with her was when time truly stood still for me. This girl is the real reason for my depressive bout. I am unable to let go of her. I see her occasionally. I get extremely jealous when she talks about other males. Why am i feeling like this? This is my problem and it is this which depresses me. romantic sweetheart,smallworld and antilove thanku for ur heart felt responses. Ur great ppl and so are the rest of the ppl on this board. Why can i not forget her? Why does my day revolve around thinking about her? I like her soo much but i am not sure if she does? vbmenu_register("postmenu_981707", true);

thanks for the reply friend. I hope this bout of depression passes. I dont know why this is happenng to me. I hope that it passes will keep posting. Any other replies greatly appreciated.

Hi guys Amazing this is my problem. I have been friends with this girl for a year and a half. I am crazy about her and its driving me insane. The feelings just increase everytime i see her. Its even got to the point where i check my msn hourly to see if she is online so i can talk to her. I really like her. She is 25 and i am 20. She has hinted to me that she likes me. She has invited me to watch her movie with her with some other friends. She has leaned her head on my shoulder for an entire train journey. She tells me that 'alot of girls like guys like you?', On msn she has even sent me a smiley kiss! When we are sitting next to each other our elbows are touching for almost the entire conversation. Recently we went home together and we went together wihout any of our friends. I couldn't help myself i complimented her to the last second we were together she also complimented me a little. We shared things that neither of us had shared with anyone eg. our childhood nicknames. She even said how much time flew on that journey. After the journey on msn she gave me her cell number because her old sim card went missing. Does this mean she likes me>? She has also told me that i am marriage material and have a great personality and also that if she had a sister she would let her marry me. After that whenever i see her, she seems a little distant and she seems in an awkward posirion. I haven;t told her directly that i am interested in her than more than just a friend but i have made it clear with the heavy flirty signals i have sent? What do u guys think? Is she backing off saying that she wants to be just friends?

Hi I am writing as the thoughts come to my head. So forgive me if it sounds jumbled. I am student at university on a tough course. I feel i have entered a new and dangerous type of depression. I used to get depressed like this before but this time it seems like i cant get put of this mood. I feel i am going through a lot of mental and physical changes. I am a 20 yr old male. I know i have everything i want in my life but still i feel low. I am worried about myself because the things i used to do feel happy and good about myself no longer make me happy. Today my best friend passed an exam before i did. I congratulated him and then he said that i have just wasted my time and chilled for the past month and thats why i have not done the exam yet. I felt soo BLOODY ANGRY I COULD HAVE..... anyway. I then replied and said don't say those kind of things to me they just stress me out. I am soo angry. I feel my good friend of a year and a half is arrogant and insensitive. NOONE cares about me. He is goin on a trip without me. I told him to w8 for me but he said that he was bored and that he wanted to go. I mean wat the hell, i would have waited for him. As for my exam. Well i am goin to sit it in the next couple of weeks. I hope i dont fail, i would be even more depressed then i am now (even though thats hard to imagine.) Thats one aspect of my life. Theres also other issues. Theres this girl that i like but i am 20 and she 25. She keeps sending me these mixed signals. I was on a train journey, it was me and her only. I couldn't help myself. I kept on complimenting her and flattering her because i think she is a great person and so generous, kind and beautiful. She complimented me a few times and said that i was 'marriage material' and that if she had a younger sister she would let her marry me. On MSN she flirts with me by sending those kisses (smilie thingys). Now when i see her she doesn't talk to me that much. I feel i have no chance and that i am a completely unattractive man. 2nd issue in my complicated life. I went home for the weekend. At home my grandma made personal comments on the way my hair looked and that i should my hairstyle. She then proceeded to compare me with my cousins. I WAS SOO MAD. That knocked my already low self-esteem and confidence to a new low. I hope i pass this exam. Please reply. I feel as if something is wrong with me and i can;t get out of this depressed phase of life. If anyone cares plz reply Thanks