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  1. Wow, I haven't checked in in ENA forever. I'm sorry!!! Things are fine. Job is going fine - no one has gotten laid off and we even got some bonuses, so that was nice. I feel really lucky right now. I haven't gotten covid but I gained the COVID 19, sigh. I am joining a weight loss research study soon - no drugs or surgery, it seems like a weight-watchers style program and they pay you, so lol, sounds good to me. My friend I wrote about above finally got the unemployment. It turns out, that it was my fault - I put down her address wrong. Like 132 Main Street instead of 123 Main street. However, the mail person never redirected the mail!! She's lived in the same house for 15 years and there is no 132 Main Street (it's a parking lot). Finally someone from the unemployment office called her and asked why she wasn't claiming the money, and she explained that she never got the letter with the PIN number, and then they figured out it was the wrong address. Anyway, she's getting the unemployment now and all the back stuff since March so she got a 4 figure check, which is great. Anyway, I'm just at home most of the time. I'm volunteering with a meals-on-wheels type organization, driving meals to people. And I'm at home with my new foster cat who is moving to his forever home next week. Just doing lots of paint by numbers. I got to swim during the summer, that was great, I am looking forward to the pool opening again. I hope you all are doing well.
  2. Honestly, he sounds like a jerk and you're better off without him. I am so sorry that he's acting like this. I think that the lockdown has in an interesting way shown what people are all about. Hugs, hang in there.
  3. Haha, I was about to say the same thing. It's like if someone asks what you did this afternoon, you don't tell them you took a massive poo even if that's the truth. Leave sex, bathroom stuff, other overly personal things out of it. It's ok to say we watched some movies and talked about our day and then we looked at cat photos on the internet or whatever.
  4. I feel uneasy about my own employment situation. However, the company assures us that no one is getting laid off at this time. So, that's good, just have to keep saving, just in case. I guess in private industry, they can let you go at any time, for any reason anyway. My company paid for me to take an online course this week, that was interesting. It's to gain a new skill set (new computer program/data analysis) that will be helpful in my job. And having it on my resume, just in case. You really can't stop learning.
  5. My friend asked me again tonight if I can come over on the weekend to help with unemployment forms - I said no, I obviously haven't done it right, she needs to ask someone, best someone who has successfully applied for unemployment to help her. I said I felt bad and guilty that I haven't been able to make it work for her. She said it's the government, not me, but still, I told her it makes me feel bad and that I want her to have someone better at this help her. She complained that everyone else is either too far away or they are inside and are not taking visitors/not going to peoples' houses. So she tried to guilt trip me but I held firm. I mean, I feel really badly about the unemployment situation and I've tried helping her by filing and refiling and sending resources her way - I even emailed our state senator asking them for help. I just can't do it anymore. I feel like at this rate, it's likely that she'll get her old job back before she gets unemployment money.
  6. Hi Seraphim - Hang in there. I hope that things are going well with you. I like the new play set you got the kids. My friend's son is turning... I don't know - 3 or 4 next weekend. I told her I'd drop something on her porch for him. I asked her what he is into these days (like Paw Patrol or whatever). She said "cheese." I'm like, "what - your son wants a cheese platter for his bday???" lol. I got him a cheese toy and a cheese book and I'll go to the store and get him some cheeses.
  7. Welcome to ENA. That relationship sounds very scary. I am sorry. I don't think you should continue it. If he's gotten violent like this, it's best to break it off. This is often what happens in abusive relationships - they can be very nice and charming but they can also be vicious. I am not based in australia but I think it would be a good idea to contact a domestic violence hotline and perhaps they can give you tips on how to leave him. Please be very careful. It is good that he is back in his home country, but it is scary that he said that you have no right to break up with him as he has made his plans around you. That's scary. You're your own person, you are not his possession. You can call off the relationship at any time, I am concerned for you how angry he got. And like you said, what if he had a knife close to him instead of a coat hanger??? yikes. hugs. Hang in there, please call a domestic abuse hotline.
  8. Hi Fudgie - I hope you are well. Yeah, I actually gave her my old laptop when I got a new one so that she could have a computer. But she never uses it. I guess she feels like she knows nothing. She needed to send an email and I was trying to talk her through how to do it on the phone and she couldn't even get past the login screen. :/ But she uses her phone and facebook just fine. Sigh. But at this point, I feel like a professional needs to step in because I'm just messing it up or not doing something in just the way they want. I don't know. I know with everyone applying for UC, they're looking for any reason to reject your claim. But not tell you. If this were happening to me at work, I would have just passed the case over to a more experienced person and been like, "I'm messing up, I'm not getting it right, please step in to help our customer." Because at this point, it's totally possible her job will reopen and call her back before the unemployment checks start coming in.
  9. I'm very good at overextending myself and offering too many things. I finally said NO. I mean, this is stupid. There is a liquor store where you can order online and do curbside pickup, so that's what I did. But I was thinking to do that once a month, not every week. Also, they have a store literally down the block that sells bottles of beer. Granted, it's more expensive than buying a case of beer, but yeah, I'm not doing liquor trips every 3 days. Especially when I don't need any myself. Oh gosh. I'm so annoyed. So I have been helping a friend who lost her job apply for unemployment. She's 20 years older and not good with computers, so she has always had others fill out online stuff. For the last 6 weeks, we've been struggling with the unemployment, we hear nothing, and then 3 weeks later get an email that something is missing... write back right away, then hear back another 3 weeks later that something else is missing when we have in fact, sent it. It is beyond maddening. And honestly, I'm not a professional in this field either. She just got a very rude email tonight from a lady at the unemployment office, saying we did not send something even though we did. My friend is upset. understandably. And i'm kind of at the end of my rope too. I just gave my friend the phone numbers of the resources of some local legal assistance. The problem will be getting through the lines. But argh. I feel for her. But I'm also super frustrated at having to keep submitting and resubmitting the same forms, and then I feel guilty because maybe I filled out something wrong and now she isn't getting paid? I'm also frustrated in that she hasn't taken more initiative herself. I guess she trusts me. But ultimately, I mean, she has to do it. I don't have her passwords or SS number memorized so I have to go to her place, and keep going back, and honestly it's getting so frustrating. She should have the professional help her because I'm not getting it right. Ugh. My lesson is that 20 years from now, there will be some new technology and I will have to work to learn how to use it and stay with the times.
  10. How is everyone doing? I'm looking forward to when antibody tests get full clearance by the FDA, I'd love to know if I'm immune. So far my job seems stable, but who knows what will happen in a few months. :/ On the plus side, I'm still getting emails from recruiters on LinkedIn, so some places look like they are hiring. I've been running around doing errands for others - which is fun and rewarding, I want to help my friends without cars or with health conditions, but sometimes annoying. I did a liquor run over the weekend, and then 3 days later, my friend asked if I can get more beer. Like, no, I just went. You drank all your beer already? geez. If I go to the store, I really want it to be everything you need for a long time, not like pick me up these two things (unless I am planning to go for myself). But I have enough food/TP/liquor for quite a while here. Several weeks or months even.
  11. So.... I'm not sure if you will be less over-worked as a social worker. They seem to have a lot going on too. I would talk to your manager about if it's possible to balance the workload, but I'm not sure you can do that during a pandemic. :( Is there another wing you can be transferred to? Sorry, I don't know a ton about nursing, but I am sure you are being overworked at this time. Is there an additional certification that you can get that would help you get transferred to a less-busy wing?
  12. Ugh, I am really sorry. This is awful. I agree with the others - go to a lawyer and get a custody agreement drawn up. And yes, going to the GP and talking to a therapist will really help. I am sorry you are dealing with this, the cheating sucks. :( hang in there.
  13. I don't get the impression that he was a player either. I think for some people, having sex means that the relationship is getting more serious, whereas for others, having sex is a fun thing to do, but doesn't mean a relationship is in the cards right away. If you got too intense early on (that was I think an intense conversation after 2 dates), he may have decided it was too much drama for him and backed off. Or he was still corresponding with other women and wanted to see "what else is out there." In any case, sorry it didn't work out.
  14. Is it possible that his Instagram and Facebook names are not real? For example, if he told you his name is "Larry David" but that's actually his first and middle name (not last name?). Or he went to your university but dropped out? It's hard to know unless you meet.... In any case, I don't know about dating in a pandemic... you don't know who he is exposed to and what other women he is seeing...
  15. How are you all doing in lockdown?? I'm doing ok. I'm working from home, having meetings and phone calls and emails. That part is pretty normal. We're going to have a work happy hour from home, cameras on soon. (Most of our meetings are currently cameras off). I feel lucky that I have a job I can do more or less from home. Most customers do not want us there, so I'm communicating with them through email or calls. I hope we do not get laid off. They are telling us no one is getting laid off, but I'm still nervous, their tune may change in 3 months. At home, my place is quite clean. I need to organize office papers better. I have a good deal of food, I also get a meal delivery service, so I have fresh food too. I don't think I'm sick, but I get paranoid whenever I have a slight sore throat or a sneeze. It's allergy season too though. I've delivered food and meds to a friend who is potentially sick (she'll find out in a few days). I'm giving rides to people without cars to the store. My manicurist is in a tough spot - she and her husband are not working not (he works in a restaurant). I went over to her house yesterday to bring her some groceries and get my nails done. I know we're supposed to be socially distancing, but at the same time, they're getting 0 income. If I can help out, even a little, I'll try. She's having a few select clients at her place. I have an acquaintance who is a doctor in Italy. She is completely exhausted, I read her facebook posts and I feel so bad. I wish I could help more.
  16. Hang in there. My work is telling us May 1, minimum.
  17. Is she still married? Why does her husband not care?
  18. oh yikes, I haven't updated in forever. No real updates. I've been beyond busy with work and now fostering another cat. My allergies are ok so far. I got him because I saw some mice in my new place and thought a temp foster would help. He's a useless cat though. No mouse catching, just snoozing on the couch. After a life of being a street cat, you can tell he is enjoying the indoor life. I spend time with friends, including guys, but no chemistry or romance, just friendship. That's ok, I barely have a moment of rest these days. I had to work everyday and I had, I don't know, a terrible cold or the flu but it was awful. I went to a birthday party last night for a friend and saw two pretty opposite love/dating stories. One woman at the party is a single mom of two teens, her husband passed away last year. She's trying out online dating and she has been corresponding with a rich doctor. He lives about 20 miles away from her. He suggested they get dinner and he texted her to see if she was going to spend the night at his place after dinner. She was like, "that's kind of presumptuous for a first date." He said it was because he didn't want her to drink and drive, and she said she would have max two drinks with dinner so she would be ok to drive home. And she hasn't heard from him since. Such a shame, she seems like a nice lady, a widow, and has to deal with this crap. I'm sure lots of other women would go for it, and I'm sure the doctor knows that as well. On the other hand, the birthday "girl" (she's in her 50s, lol), told me in the kitchen that her husband told her earlier in the day he hasn't gotten her a present yet but he would. Her real birthday was actually last week and she sounded really disappointed. I asked if she was mad at him, she said no (he had done a ton of cooking and cleaning for her party). But she was disappointed. Anyway, she opened all of her presents and at the very end, he came up from the basement with a bag and a card. It was a very sweet card with lots of lovely sentiments for his wife. She opened the bag, inside was a little box, and inside that was a beautiful ring. They don't have much money so I know he must have saved a long time for this beautiful ring. We all started crying. It was really sweet to see that kind of love between them.
  19. oh yuck. that's pretty bad. Anyway, you gave it a try. Hugs. Hope you find a good match.
  20. My 2 cents.... I think some people try to avoid the pain and hurt of a breakup by trying to just jump into something new. I don't think that's a great idea, but a lot of people do it. He could take a few months instead alone to think and heal. Ultimately, he's going to go on a date with some woman expecting a single guy, not a hurting fresh out of a relationship guy, and she'll be confused and hurt too. IMHO.
  21. I moved to a new apartment this week. It's been exhausting - the packing and the moving and the unpacking. But today, I came home and parked in front of my complex while unloading my groceries and there was a young man, strangling his girlfriend right outside the main doors. I confronted him, told him to stop, this was not ok. he yelled at me that this was his girlfriend, and to mind my own business. I was so angry. I was watching them while I was unloading my car and getting the cart. I told security and she laughed it off, said this is typical for them. :o If I see them again, I will call the police. This guy is such scum, strangling his girlfriend, she is half his size (not that it is ok even if they are the same size). I emailed my apartment management company, and they seem to be taking it more seriously than the security person, said they will review the video tapes to see if they know who it is. I called a domestic violence hotline for tips for what to do if I see this again. They also told me that once strangulation is involved, the chances he will murder her increase 7 times. :o
  22. I wouldn't read into it - Lots of people will continue to update their profiles while dating and before entering a relationship. It's an annoying part of online dating that you see this and are aware of it. But even if you met organically and real life, he can still be calling/talking to several different women while dating you and trying to decide whether to continue dating or not.
  23. You two don't really sound compatible. Neither person is wrong, just you two aren't a great match. Like the others said - that's the purpose of dating. You can't really know if a person is "perfect" for you after 2 weeks.
  24. Yes, i agree, please go to your college counselor. They may have free services. I don't know if this helps you or not - but many people feel the same way you do right now. College isn't the best time of everyone's life. Lots of people have acne and feel self-conscious and unhappy during college. Actually, accutane does have bad mental health side effects so maybe it is good that you stopped. Eventually, your acne will go away. I used to get bad acne and I went to get facials often and that helped (though it was expensive). I think a lot of young people feel not so confident and that they don't fit in. Just keep trying your best, I am sure that you're not as ugly as you think you are, and the acne will stop. Focus on your studies, be friendly, maybe find some friends and form a study group. You WILL have a girlfriend! It's going to happen for you. Please hang in there, it will be ok.
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