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    annie24 replied to embilee's topic in Dating Advice

    I would be afraid to do that! I am heavier than I look, just the way that my body carries weight, I think the numbers would scare a guy off! Actualy, I was at the gym one time, in line to use the scale, and a woman from the swim team got on and had the same weight and height as me! but she was much slimmer looking as it was all muscle weight.
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    just call her up, chit chat, ask if she likes lost, if yes, ask if she wants to watch it with you. i think coffee first is good. i dont think you should say you are 'really flexible' on your schedule, as you aren't.
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    yeah, I agree! definitely a mixed message there!!!! or maybe not mixed at all, if you said going to his house = sex, well, that sure happened.
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    lied to

    annie24 replied to cheatedon's topic in Infidelity

    yeah, forget him. i think you're either together or you're not, and anything "in the middle" is just an invitation for trouble.... blah. who needs that?
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    hm, I am wondering if he hasn't stepped in because he is enjoying watching you two fight over him? I have been in that situation too.... he is getting a nice ego boost right now.....
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    lied to

    annie24 replied to cheatedon's topic in Infidelity

    that's kind of what I was thinking too...... it really is such a good deal, why would anyone get back together if they are getting all the benefits of a relationship, without any of the committment?
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    what did you say?
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    lied to

    annie24 replied to cheatedon's topic in Infidelity

    good points shika!!!! and why are you having sex with him if you aren't together? because if he WERE having sex with other women, he technically wouldn't be doing anything WRONG since you two are not "together."
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    i don't think that hate is a really good emotion, just because, what is the point? it's a very negative emotion and will just well up inside of you. and hating each other serves no purpose, really. you are not in a relationship with her, you are in a relationship with your boyfriend. what she does is irrelevant as long as your boyfriend is committed to you. you don't have to be her buddy, or even talk to her, but I don't see the point in wasting energy to "hate" her.
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    so is it that you are turned off by her, or you are just afraid what would happen if things didn't work out? because those are two different things! you don't have to be 100% sure at this stage that this is the woman for you. that's what dating is all about - getting to know one another. there is a very good book, "mars and venus on a date." the author makes a really good point, sometimes at an early stage, one person could feel, "oh, what if I am not the one for her? she seems to like me, but I am not so sure. maybe I should just break it off now so i won't hurt her later." and the author says that is a mistake. you should take the chance and get to know each other. then if you are SURE she is not the one for you, then break it off. but if you are still unsure, give things a shot. it sounds like right now, FEAR is driving your decision making process and that is not how it should be.
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    he owes her money though, you said?
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    hm, if she provided the money for his treatment, then my guess is yes, he does feel the need to reciprocate.....
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    great points caro!!! obviously, it is a bad precedent. if goddess' ex-bf comes upon hard times, should she spend the night at his house too? consellation is good, but not at the risk of ruining his current relationship. he can be supportive, and not spend the night in her bed.
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    ah, sorry, I misread that just a chump yeah, I can see why you did what you did.... but it can go horribly bad if she is a super patient type of girl and puts up with a lot of crap! as you can see on these threads, some people stay in crappy relationships for months and years!!! (Makes me wonder if that is in fact, why the bf or gf is acting like that - to make the other person break up with them!!!)you are lucky she had a low tolerance.
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    well, I think your mom is a bit biased in your favor but i think that you can be the classy, confident woman I know you are, and just kind of grit your teeth and smile. and if she calls again and you answer the phone, you can tell her briefly, "I am very sorry for your loss." your boyfriend will see that you are a woman of class. but I am wondering, why did they break up? how long ago? what were the terms of the breakup? oh, but on second thought, if your mom's psychic says your relationship is doomed, you should definitely leave him! (PS - sounds just like my mom!!!)
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    I don't think the OP meant it in a negative way, that she is not of the same race. just that an interracial relationship can be challenging, depending on where you live, and even more so if you don't have any interest in continuing to see that person!
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    yeah, that's pretty low! well, it happens, a lot of guys do that, start acting like jerks so that the women dump them and they don't have to be the bad guy and tell them, "I just don't feel that way about you." oh well, what's done is done. this isn't the first time in history this has ever happened - guy meets girl, guy pursues girl, girl gives in, guy loses interest. for some people, they get off on the thrill of the chase, and once the "submarine has docked" or whatever the chase is over and game over! Is she really so bad you just can't feel it for her anymore? if you think about it for a while, and your answer is still 'yes' then break it off with her. This is pretty much the reason i have a "4 month rule."
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    stop relying on IM to communicate with these women. get their numbers and call them and ask them out.
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    yes, i would normally agree, except he was with her for 5 years, which is kind of extenuating circumstances. if they dated for 5 months or 5 weeks, i would be like, "uh, why is she calling YOU?" i agree with caro, give it a chance, could turn out it was all innocent.
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    ok, then call her right now and ask about wednesday, if she says no to that day but would like to see you, suggest thursday or monday. i don't think she will think you are desperate. desperate would be going through every day of the week
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    ditto. ewwwww..... booty call. I think in the future, stay away from dates at houses until you've been with him for a while, known him in person, and just feel comfortable that he is genuinely interested. I hope you used a condom!!!!! there are really nasty diseases out there. and ditto to what kellbell said. chocolates and cds? too much "romance" too soon. very suspect.
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    DITTOOOOOOO!!!!!!! Take it all, stick it in the mailbox, and let USPS sort it out. that is what i do whenever I get mail at my place that isn't for me. it just goes right back in the mailbox. even better, just write on each of the envelopes, "Not at this address" and that is it, the postal service will sort it out right away. don't use this as an excuse to stay close to your ex.
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    well, they were together for 5 years. i can certainly understand why you don't feel comfortable with him getting too close to her, but at the same time, they were together for a while and he is just trying to console her. he must have known her brother also, so he must be feeling sad also. I agree, i think you should try to rise about everything. she just had a loss, try to understand. if you just lost your brother, you wouldn't want her doing cartwheels, right? and remember your boyfriend, this can't be easy on him either. do you trust him? i think a bit of consellation is good. but if this keeps going on for weeks or months, I would get concerned. who broke up with whom? good luck
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    why not find out your work schedule for the rest of this week, and then call her? if you just met her today, you might want to say, "hi - sorry this is such short notice, but do you want to watch LOST on wedesday together?" (if she is into that show - i'm obsessed by the way!) I don't think there is anything wrong at all with saying, 'hey - do you want to go out this week? I have the following days open....." and then try to coordinate your schedules. however, i don't know that watching tv together is a great first date, you want to be able to talk together. however, if you watched it, and then talked about it together afterwards, that would be good. I would be beyond annoyed though, if a guy tried to talk to me about lost while we were watching it!!!!!
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    oh yes, and please, no netspeak! write out words...
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