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  1. Openminded
    Its topics like this that make me realize why I hate my ex-gf friends. They want your time, because they are single more than likely. However, as soon as they get a bf you will be second fiddle for them. Yet you cave into their pressure, and treat the guy like crap, even though its not his fault. Yet you will tell him it is his fault for demanding too much of your time and not giving you space. I think you can guess from my answer what I think of the whole thing.
  2. Openminded
    Just go for it. You stop to talk to him, and what happens? You think that everyone is going to make fun of you for talking to him?
  3. Openminded
    Find a good man for once. Dont hate the player, hate the game. Girls are going to want your man even after the guy marries you. Trick is to find a guy who only wants to be with you. Stop wasting your time and energy thinking about this loser, just get out and have fun. Once you find someone else, and show him no response... he will think about you again. Remember, revenge is a dish best served cold.
  4. Openminded
    I am not going to analyze your whole story, and I am really not thinking to start a flame war...but tell your mom this. How can she yell and complain to you, tell you that your not going to college or driving anymore, and overall treat you like crap...because shes late for her church meeting? If religion tells us anything, its to love and respect each other. That how we treat each other is one of the most, if not the most important things in life. Ask her why she goes to church, if shes not even willing to practice what they preach.
  5. Openminded
    I think i need to go to one. I dont think you need to worry that the shrink is going to tell you that you are losing your mind. Even if you are, hes supposed to try and make you think otherwise. Just relax and he will probably take care of the rest. Its his job to make you feel more comfortable, so dont waste money worrying.
  6. Openminded
    Dont worry, it gets a lot easier. Pretty soon the pain subsides, and someone else will come along. Someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated.
  7. Openminded
    You were asking for trouble hanging out with a girl who was seeing another man. What did you expect dating a girl who has cheated on her last 2 boyfriends? Its obvious you care about her more than she cares about you. If I were you Id be prepared for a breakup at a moments notice. Start meeting new people, and making new friends. She obviously is doing the same...
  8. Openminded
    Not much you can do about this one. If you try to stop her, she will push you away saying that you dont give her space to do the things she wants. However, time and time again situations like this lead to girls and guys cheating on their boy/girlfriends. Its all about trust, and if you dont have it your relationship is destined to fail anyway. If I was in your shoes, I would ask her if she would be okay with you going out with one of your exes. If shes okay with that, I would seriously think about doing it. Girls dont quite seem to understand the problems in some of their actions until it hits them right in the face. Sounds to me like your girlfriend doesnt care too much about your feelings, and thats a precursor to an ending of the relationship almost every time.
  9. Openminded
    Running. Seriously though, ab excercises really dont do very much good. If you want those abs to show you need to trim off the extra fat off covering them up. Dont expect to do 1000 crunches and be ripped in the midsection if you cant keep your bf low
  10. Openminded
    Could be a lot of things. Yes, he could be leading you on with no intentions. However, like you said he is such an honest/trustworthy individual. He doesnt want to hurt you, and wants you to understand. Think about this, if you were in his shoes and wanted to leave the door open for a possible future relationship, then how would you handle it? I think hes being very respectable, and leaving you alone as to not lead you on about it. Better than him screwing you over, treating you like garbage, to distance himself from you. Accept his decision, give him some space, but try to be available if he tries to contact you. Thats all i have to say.
  11. Openminded
    I know you dont want to hear this, but its easier to do no contact than it is to actually speak to you. Emotions just keep coming back if you continue to leave that door open. I learned my lesson from my first real relationship. Both sides have ulterior (sp) motives, and although you may want to have that person as a friend it rarely works. Every phone call with my first ex ended with a fight...that eventually led to never speakingn to her again. My second, just wanted to brag about how good her life is. How happy she is. Yeah yeah yeah....enough with that so i said dont call anymore. I know its best to just not communicate, and when the time is right start a friendship again. Otherwise, every time we talk its just going to be a fight...which it practically is now. I dont tell her anything about what im doing, or how my life is going. Which im sure irks her to no end, but at the same time I am sure she would be pissed if i pulled what shes doing. I think shes trying to prove to herself that her actions were justified.
  12. Openminded
    Check your Private Messages in a second.
  13. Openminded
    Your 22 years old... and it sounds like your friends are in high school. Let me guess, the friends who treat you this way are friends that you had while you stlil were in high school? You need to put yourself before everyone else, first and foremost. If this is bothering you as much as it appears to be...then you need to take actions to resolve them. You are old enough now, that you can choose where you live, and who you are companions with. Plastic surgery eh? Why would that matter? Sounds like a jealousy issue to me. Do you receive more attention from men than they do? Plastic surgery is becoming commonplace even amongst teenagers in the US. If thats a big deal to your friends than they are shallow. You need to stick up for yourself. They will respect you more for it in the long run. What you need to do is unload on them. Next time they mention something about you, feel free to let them know how you feel. If you have to, get personal with them. Next time someone says that you had plastic surgery tell them that you didnt, but if you had a @#$ like theirs you absolutely would have some done. You need to dish out a little yourself.
  14. Openminded
    Ive always been a person who can have deep conversations about anything. Religion, relationships, anything philosophical. Its rare to meet someone who actually cares to discuss things on a deeper level. Only on rare occasions do I hear people discuss things (even on personal levels) about underlying issues. I consider my desire to delve into the deeper issues to be a flaw in some respects, because i have been told on numerous occasions that I overanalyze things. That I see things that arent really there because I am trying to logically conclude why something happened. However, I am a logical person...and thats a good thing. I want to think about things...i want to discuss things. I want to understand why things happened, especially in relationships. The only way to learn and evolve is to see problems and correct them. Yet some people would rather just bury their problems and not face them. Maybe its a fear of things coming back to haunt them if they open up...I really dont know. I do know that not discussing feelings is hazardous to my health. I bottled up my emotions after a break up with my first true love. I started having chest pains just thinking about her. Thing was, I was a healthy 20 year old who was physically fit.
  15. Openminded
    Dont act to make yourself fit in. If you have to act around your friends, then you're obviously not comfortable around them. If your not comfortable around your friends, of all people, then you need to make new "friends". I get along good with almost everybody, and i think a part of that is my easy going personality. I think your problem isnt so much with your friends, but maybe with yourself. You have to be comfortable with who you are before you can expect your friends to be. However, having friends that you think place certain expectations on you will certainly make you feel uncomfortable real quick. My situation is different than yours really. I think all my friends genuinely care about my well being. Problem is, they dont like to waste any of their time listening to my problems. Yet they always come to me whenever they have problems. It wasnt until very recently that I, like so many other people on this board, lost someone I loved. It isnt until then thhat you see who your true friends are. Some are there to support you, others tend to shy away.
  16. Openminded
    I love the fact that almost all of my friends come to me when they have problems with their relationships. I am always there to talk to them about it, which is fine. Problem is, do they stand to listen to me for even a few minutes when i have problems? Absolutely not. It really pisses me off. Thing is, I shouldnt be surprised by it. Im open with how i feel about things, and dont mind expressing myself. Which can often be a mixed blessing. Yes, it does help me get things off my chest, but i often leave my self open to pop shots by my so-called friends because they use my words against me. I find that the best people to open up to about personal things are just random people online. Sad, but true. It doesnt come back to hurt you, and often times they actually care to listen. Why?? I dont know. I care about my friends, but they dont know the first thing about supporting their friends. Im not just talkng about guys here either.
  17. Openminded
    Clarabelle, did the feelings come back after you separated from your husband or during the marriage? By the way, who ended the relationship?
  18. Openminded
    Um, thats great in theory...but I hardly equate someone who is "right" for me to being someone who cant leave me. Take for instance, abuse. Do you think that anyone who is "right" for you can be subjected to abuse and must stay? Your definition has merit but is clearly not correct. Not to say that someone who is "right" for you should leave at the drop of a hat. All good couples have to be able to resolve differences. However, I think lapses in reasoning, or control can leave two perfectly compatible people with doubt and concern.
  19. Openminded
    Questino #1. How many of you have lost someone that you thought was the one. By the way, you still have to feel this way even today. Question #2 How long were you dating for? Question #4 When did you start dating Question #3 Did you break up with them or did they break up with you? Question #5 Whos fault was it? (majority) Im really interested to hear about people who hvae been married, or are married who feel that they may have let the right person get away.
  20. Openminded
    I think he is interested but there is something behind the scenes that you arent seeing or know about. Possibly he is super shy, but its hard to tell. Quite possibly there is another woman in the picture. Maybe he left her place then came to yours? I know thats harsh, but things just arent adding up. Keep your eyes peeled and your ears open.
  21. Openminded
    Dont want to be mean, but i strongly believe that this is what my woman is going to do to me. You know what im going to tell her if she does..."go take a flying leap". If I am not important enough to you to stop you from walking away for just some fun...then you are obviously not worth wasting my time over. Id put my girlfriend/wife ahead of almost everything, and if she isnt willing to do the same then she wont be my gf/wife anymore.
  22. Openminded
    Why is it that guys who like sex a lot always find girls who dont, and vice versa. I always get into relationships where the girl wants it like 1 a week or something ridiculous. Where are the girls who want it at least 1 a day?
  23. Openminded
    I feel for you. Especially since you didn't even see it coming. Its obvious you really care for the guy. You need to pick yourself up though, and start doing things for yourself for the time being. Start off by making yourself as busy as possible. The more you have to do, the less you will think about him. Acting desperate will not make him come back. You need to be strong, and distant, but available if he wants to contact you. You need him to miss your company, so calling him doesnt help that. Slowly start calling him less and less, dont just ignore him for 2 weeks if you talk everyday. If he wants to come back, he will. Begging for him almost never works. If he does agree to come back when you beg, he will surely remember why he left in the first place. So let him come to realize what made you a special person on his own. There is nothing you can do to remedy this quickly. You just need to look strong, and caring...but not totally crushed. Let him know you still care for him, but dont get all emotional about it. Remain strong. Do things for yourself, and yourself only.
  24. Openminded
    Spoken like a man of experience. I agree with protex, except the fact that he may very want to get back together but doesnt have the nerve to bring it up. A lot of people have too much pride to admit their true feelings. He might be hoping you bring it up.
  25. Openminded
    However, you are perplexed. If you're not thinking long term, then go with either one. If you are, then you might be happier with the nonsimple-minded girl.
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