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Yeah, seems like they want to keep you kinda on a string JUST IN CASE. Bad timing plays alot into it. I know that talking is the last think he wants to do after talking all day and listening the other part, but whats its come down to for me is, you make time for whats important and I know that I cant come first now. his school/work has to. Its really hard to build a relationship when it all started over long distance. I suppose you do need to start out as friends. Things will work themselves out in due time. Who knows what could happen in the mean time. I keep going back and forth on the issue. I think part of the heart ache is a bruised ego.

I think Ive known that all along but wanted to believe otherwise. I'm not putting my life on hold waiting for him. It just felt so right. In spite of my best efforts, I did get ahead of myself. Im baffled that talk is so cheap. Its a shame, if thats the case, that I bought every word he said. followed every lead. Its unusual for me to buy into what guys tell me. I really trusted him. But, I know what I need to do now which is move on. I cant hold my breath for him. Things happen for a reason. Lesson learned. Thanks for your advise!

LLcooleK, Thanks for your reply and support. BELIEVE me, I do know what you're going through and the piece of advice that has helped me the most in this whole situation is just let it be. By that I mean, dont push the issue with her. Give her her space to spend time with her friends. Even though you may want to see her at every waking moment, dont let her know that. Keep in touch with her but Dont let her know that you think about her often or wish she was there. Let her know that you too have a life outside of your relationship. The saying is true...."you dont know what you got til its gone". She should realize this soon . I promise, once she sees that she might not be that important in your life, she'll want it all back. I know that b/c I do the same thing. No girl wants to think they take second place to anything! and maybe you guys do need to spend some time apart to really see if you like each other. There just might be some body better and you would have never known that if you didnt take a break. (Thats advise I need to heed as well). Pining away for someone is the pits. Try to stay busy even if its not what you want to do, go out with your friends, read whatever to keep your mind occupied. Shes more than likely telling the truth about not wanting to alienate her friends. She is probably catching grief about it from them b/c she "dropped off the face of the earth." Ive been on both sides. It is really hard to be dumped by your friends for a guy. I hope everything works out for the best. Its a terrible feeling to not have anything solid to stand on. Time will tell though. I hope all this makes sense. Sometimes, when I get started, it doesnt stop.

Thank you!! That helps alot!

Hey y'all! Im new to this! I need some advise. I'll try to keep it brief, however, the situation is fairly detailed. Back in April of this year, a friend at work wanted to set me up with his friend (who lives 200 miles away). I decided to give it a shot and gave my friend my email address to give him. I had no expectations what so ever. We begin emailing back and forth and finally started talking on the phone and met in person a month later. Everything was perfect. We really took to likeing each other right off. I knew going in that he was working on his graduate degree and working full time at an internship. Over the summer, we saw each other about every weekend. The last time we saw each other, (right before he started everything back) he told me he didnt want me to think he was making excuses for not seeing me. we couldnt get serious but he liked where we were and he really liked me and how great I was but he couldnt juggle school work and make the necessary time for me and it would be like that even if I lived 3 minutes away. But we would still talk and see each other on long weekends and holidays. It wouldnt be fair for me and if someone asked me out, I should go. He didnt want to lead me on right now. He wasnt seeing anyone else though. I was honest and told him I liked him, wouldnt expect him to drop anything for me, was in no hurry. I absolutely believe hes overwhelmed. We had good conversations for about 2 weeks until he stopped calling. After about 2 weeks, I emailed him a quick email to see how everything was going and I knew he was busy. He replied a few days later and said it was really good to hear from me, he'll call me this weekend when he gets a chance and he's looking forward to hearing back from me among other things. I take this as he's still interested. I write back, and he writes back but it has dropped off. To know this guy, hes the most genuine honest trustworthy person you'll ever care to meet so I have no reason to believe he's lying to me. But Im getting mixed signals that I dont know what to do with. I havent heard his voice in about a month and a half. I have played my cards right in this relationship. Ive been honest, but didnt show too much too soon. I followed his lead. I guess I have a few questions. One being, is he really TOO busy or would he make the time for me if he cared (im not asking for much here, just a once a week convo)? He likes where we are? We're nothing like we were. Am I just lying to myself about this? Was he just trying to tell me Im not really worth his time? I'd go out with other guys if I was ready to. But Im not. To tell the truth, inside, I really felt like I wanted a future with this guy. How can it not be right? I did not bargain for him at all! My thoughts are taking me away. At first, I thought, if he doesnt want me, Im a prime catch, someone else will. Now, its got the best of me, and I feel rejected. Im giving him his space and not pushing. I'll take the hint if I dont hear from him. WHY do guys say these incredible things to girls if they dont mean it? If they are trying to save feelings, they only make it worse. Im so confused and would appreciate an honest opinion. Frankly, I would like to move on if its a lost cause but Im willing to keep the door open. Thank you all for your time. Im sorry I was so long winded.