Openminded

Its topics like this that make me realize why I hate my ex-gf friends. They want your time, because they are single more than likely. However, as soon as they get a bf you will be second fiddle for them. Yet you cave into their pressure, and treat the guy like crap, even though its not his fault. Yet you will tell him it is his fault for demanding too much of your time and not giving you space. I think you can guess from my answer what I think of the whole thing.

Just go for it. You stop to talk to him, and what happens? You think that everyone is going to make fun of you for talking to him?

Find a good man for once. Dont hate the player, hate the game. Girls are going to want your man even after the guy marries you. Trick is to find a guy who only wants to be with you. Stop wasting your time and energy thinking about this loser, just get out and have fun. Once you find someone else, and show him no response... he will think about you again. Remember, revenge is a dish best served cold.

I am not going to analyze your whole story, and I am really not thinking to start a flame war...but tell your mom this. How can she yell and complain to you, tell you that your not going to college or driving anymore, and overall treat you like crap...because shes late for her church meeting? If religion tells us anything, its to love and respect each other. That how we treat each other is one of the most, if not the most important things in life. Ask her why she goes to church, if shes not even willing to practice what they preach.

I think i need to go to one. I dont think you need to worry that the shrink is going to tell you that you are losing your mind. Even if you are, hes supposed to try and make you think otherwise. Just relax and he will probably take care of the rest. Its his job to make you feel more comfortable, so dont waste money worrying.

Dont worry, it gets a lot easier. Pretty soon the pain subsides, and someone else will come along. Someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated.

You were asking for trouble hanging out with a girl who was seeing another man. What did you expect dating a girl who has cheated on her last 2 boyfriends? Its obvious you care about her more than she cares about you. If I were you Id be prepared for a breakup at a moments notice. Start meeting new people, and making new friends. She obviously is doing the same...

Not much you can do about this one. If you try to stop her, she will push you away saying that you dont give her space to do the things she wants. However, time and time again situations like this lead to girls and guys cheating on their boy/girlfriends. Its all about trust, and if you dont have it your relationship is destined to fail anyway. If I was in your shoes, I would ask her if she would be okay with you going out with one of your exes. If shes okay with that, I would seriously think about doing it. Girls dont quite seem to understand the problems in some of their actions until it hits them right in the face. Sounds to me like your girlfriend doesnt care too much about your feelings, and thats a precursor to an ending of the relationship almost every time.

Running. Seriously though, ab excercises really dont do very much good. If you want those abs to show you need to trim off the extra fat off covering them up. Dont expect to do 1000 crunches and be ripped in the midsection if you cant keep your bf low

Could be a lot of things. Yes, he could be leading you on with no intentions. However, like you said he is such an honest/trustworthy individual. He doesnt want to hurt you, and wants you to understand. Think about this, if you were in his shoes and wanted to leave the door open for a possible future relationship, then how would you handle it? I think hes being very respectable, and leaving you alone as to not lead you on about it. Better than him screwing you over, treating you like garbage, to distance himself from you. Accept his decision, give him some space, but try to be available if he tries to contact you. Thats all i have to say.

I know you dont want to hear this, but its easier to do no contact than it is to actually speak to you. Emotions just keep coming back if you continue to leave that door open. I learned my lesson from my first real relationship. Both sides have ulterior (sp) motives, and although you may want to have that person as a friend it rarely works. Every phone call with my first ex ended with a fight...that eventually led to never speakingn to her again. My second, just wanted to brag about how good her life is. How happy she is. Yeah yeah yeah....enough with that so i said dont call anymore. I know its best to just not communicate, and when the time is right start a friendship again. Otherwise, every time we talk its just going to be a fight...which it practically is now. I dont tell her anything about what im doing, or how my life is going. Which im sure irks her to no end, but at the same time I am sure she would be pissed if i pulled what shes doing. I think shes trying to prove to herself that her actions were justified.

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Your 22 years old... and it sounds like your friends are in high school. Let me guess, the friends who treat you this way are friends that you had while you stlil were in high school? You need to put yourself before everyone else, first and foremost. If this is bothering you as much as it appears to be...then you need to take actions to resolve them. You are old enough now, that you can choose where you live, and who you are companions with. Plastic surgery eh? Why would that matter? Sounds like a jealousy issue to me. Do you receive more attention from men than they do? Plastic surgery is becoming commonplace even amongst teenagers in the US. If thats a big deal to your friends than they are shallow. You need to stick up for yourself. They will respect you more for it in the long run. What you need to do is unload on them. Next time they mention something about you, feel free to let them know how you feel. If you have to, get personal with them. Next time someone says that you had plastic surgery tell them that you didnt, but if you had a @#$ like theirs you absolutely would have some done. You need to dish out a little yourself.

Ive always been a person who can have deep conversations about anything. Religion, relationships, anything philosophical. Its rare to meet someone who actually cares to discuss things on a deeper level. Only on rare occasions do I hear people discuss things (even on personal levels) about underlying issues. I consider my desire to delve into the deeper issues to be a flaw in some respects, because i have been told on numerous occasions that I overanalyze things. That I see things that arent really there because I am trying to logically conclude why something happened. However, I am a logical person...and thats a good thing. I want to think about things...i want to discuss things. I want to understand why things happened, especially in relationships. The only way to learn and evolve is to see problems and correct them. Yet some people would rather just bury their problems and not face them. Maybe its a fear of things coming back to haunt them if they open up...I really dont know. I do know that not discussing feelings is hazardous to my health. I bottled up my emotions after a break up with my first true love. I started having chest pains just thinking about her. Thing was, I was a healthy 20 year old who was physically fit.

Dont act to make yourself fit in. If you have to act around your friends, then you're obviously not comfortable around them. If your not comfortable around your friends, of all people, then you need to make new "friends". I get along good with almost everybody, and i think a part of that is my easy going personality. I think your problem isnt so much with your friends, but maybe with yourself. You have to be comfortable with who you are before you can expect your friends to be. However, having friends that you think place certain expectations on you will certainly make you feel uncomfortable real quick. My situation is different than yours really. I think all my friends genuinely care about my well being. Problem is, they dont like to waste any of their time listening to my problems. Yet they always come to me whenever they have problems. It wasnt until very recently that I, like so many other people on this board, lost someone I loved. It isnt until then thhat you see who your true friends are. Some are there to support you, others tend to shy away.