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Running into him is one thing... Doing all of the things you've stated above is a different thing... He already knows you are open to getting back together and he told you no. Move on...NC That means...no sex, no bday presents partying etc...Don't tell him anything that's going on in your life. Sorry to say this but NC means you don't initiate contact and you move on... The chance that you run into him doesn't mean you need to tell him anything about where you are going or what you've been up to. You need to not answer your phone, not tell him ANYTHING...don't tell him that you are dating... It's hard if you love someone and they do not want you back. Once you realize this you can let him go and move on. If you are going to continue the casual relationship...then you must act like it's a casual relationship. It seems you can't cope with that idea. Stop sleeping with him. You are just putting yourself through more trouble... He on the other hand doesn't seem to be affected by it all...it seems he can cope with it. You said in your earlier post you want to walk away. Walk away. No sleeping with ex No telling ex anything about your personal life No answering phone if he calls...don't return his phone calls or email. No calling him for anything No celebrating bdays with ex No buying him anything You don't owe anybody anything...he is old enough to know what he wants...
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Oh yeah and think of everyone on here cheering for you! We are your personal Army!
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I stick by my comments whole-heartedly... Sometimes it takes someone to slap you in the face and tell you "Snap out of it!" You need to be happy being single...you aren't going to meet anyone new because you reek of the one that got away. Hold your head up and stop thinking about her. Think about you!
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I would have to answer Yes. I can understand certain things but if my partner said that to me I would say sure...where's the feather and I hope the mask doesn't cost a lot. Oral is so basic...it's a given that I expect it. We aren't compatible if my partner doesn't do that. It's just like any other form of compatibility. If I'm not satisfied with the sex, It's going to show...and lead to unhapiness. Some things are worth compromising for...some aren't.
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He doesn't care...why would you tell him? So he can say "I don't care" to your face?
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You still think that gal was so right? You were in the wrong relationship in the first place. Sounds like you got tangled up with someone that YOU KNEW had strong religious/family blah blah stuff going on... Admit the fact that you knew this and when it came time to do, what you led her to believe you were going to do or capable of doing for her, you didn't go through with it. YOU set youself up for this a loooong time ago. She sucks for expecting you to do something you don't want to do...but some people are SERIOUS about religion and put their faith above everything else. She also sounds like she wanted things to work out but knew they couldn't...she seems to have had issues moving on as well or was just thinking it was kind to slowly drift away..(wrong thing to do since it leads people to believe something could happen, but anyways) Stop feeling like she was nearly perfect...SHE WASN'T and ISN'T! LET HER GO!!! GOOD BYE! LATER! The next relationship try talking about religion within the first couple of dates... Get over this chick and get back out there... many great people to meet... you are being stupid
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He doesn't care...he left. You could've had the baby and put it up for adoption. He's gone. He doesn't want to know anything. Just move on.
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This is strictly business. Keep it that way. Be polite and just be normal. There's nothign to discuss...treat it as a business meeting with a client you'll never see again. Do not go for drinks or coffee afterwards. Simply say you have previous commitments and tell him have a great day. You are the new strong person. Act the part!
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I refuse to be in a relationship that isn't sexually satisfying 100% for both.
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Wear some lingerie...perfume...hot lipstick nice nails...queue up some hot songs...make him sit down with a drink and comfortable tease him by rubbing your chest down his face so he can smell your perfume...let your hair brush against his face... breathe warm air on his ears... you can get on top of him and grind him turn around and show him your back side etc... Oh get a nice boa and wrap it around his neck..pull it away... create a fantasy The whole idea is he is sitting and you are entertaining him...if he goes to touch you push his hands back down to his side... should drive him insane maybe check youtube for lapdance or something
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Sounds like he is trying to let you know we all go through bad times and he's hoping you will feel good again...and he feels for you but knows deep inside this thing is something you need to overcome or accomplish on your own.
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Stop the sex and do a NC. Move on. Forget about him.
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I would help her look into help every legal way...if she's considered a child at age 16 in her state and is then a runaway she needs to seek some sort of protection and somone who can become a legal guardian. I would call some kind of crisis line to get free information so you can assist her with getting social services involved. Otherwise, the police will just take her back to her house...I have no idea about anything but that's what i'd do. The law can't help if you don't help them help you. There needs to be a sane family that will take her in if that's the route she wants to go but social services needs to be involved. It's not like the family will be destroyed...it sounds like it already is. Don't be afraid to care.
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Question for the Women: Leaving a guy hanging?
justme1 replied to LostInMyThoughts's topic in Relationship Advice
I didn't read all of this but skimmed it fast... Although it's rude of her to not keep in touch, you can't drive yourself crazy. There might have been a death in the family or something... It's best to be happy whatever the outcome... I've found that assuming something is wrong with little to no facts or clues you make up yourself leads to insanity and is often totally way off base. Some people choose the ignore the person..they will go away. That's immature and terrible. If she met someone new and things are better for her then so what good. You made contact. Now it's her turn. Relax and do not care about anything...discuss things if you ever talk to her again. Right now...go do something with a friend. -
I think he doesn't want you to hate him for his decisions...but you need to move on. The fact that he wants to know when you are leaving and any other fact of your life is disturbing. If you choose to tell him something, that's fine. Nod your head and smile...fade him out of your life. Move on. If that means moving away from him then do it. Most people like to keep in contact with ex's...nothing wrong with that as long as both have healed and are living their own new life.
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she seems to be not into me anymore or atleast thats what I think
justme1 replied to Massari's topic in Relationship Advice
You act like that's the only thing affecting her...but she does have her whole life going on too. Don't you see that everything reacts with everything? You are only seeing things as this one little item. It's a plethora of "things". You see the car is working just fine...just the tires need air. But she isn't a car... do ya get it? good luck...You are only 22 and into a 2 month relationship... have a fun relationship man...don't let it be your job... Do something..this relationship isn't going to solve all of your problems or bring you everything you've ever wanted in life. You need to get on with your own life and also juggle the relationship. That's what she is trying to do while it seems like you are spending all of your energy on it. Get it? relax and have a fun healthy relationship...ride the wave and have a great time...don't drive yourself crazy or her crazy...be happy with any outcome... It's all good. -
Words are very unnecessary they can only do harm -Depeche Mode
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It's hard to deal with the emotions and chemicals... It seems like you are making a lot of progress healing... Everything is the same in all break-ups...the details drive you crazy. If it's over it's over. I like to write on a post-it note and stick it on my monitor..something like "HE/SHE is gone, move on, STOP" by the time that post-it note falls off the monitor you'll be in a different state of mind and ready to move on. The best thing you can do is simply avoid all contact. Take a vacation. Go to a spa and get full treatment. Renew yourself. Take a yoga or tai chi class. Eat a cookie.
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she seems to be not into me anymore or atleast thats what I think
justme1 replied to Massari's topic in Relationship Advice
Yea she's under a lot of stress right now..and will probably end up wanting to take a break in the relationship. It's best to remain calm, and understand what is going on with her life. If you can't understand it's not you but all the things going on in her life you are going to get hurt. Give her space, it's not all about you...don't be needy...be supportive...work on your own life. -
she seems to be not into me anymore or atleast thats what I think
justme1 replied to Massari's topic in Relationship Advice
is this the first person you've ever dated? You are 22. Both of your lives are going to go in all kinds of direction. Enjoy what you have and let her know you like her and that's all you can really do. When she's tired or whatever be happy she talks to you at all. You can't focus all your energy into a relationship...there's something called "your own life" too. You need to quit being a moron and do something. ANYTHING. Go to school take some classes...How can you even afford to take her out to dinner. If she had any brains she would be telling you the same stuff everyone else is probably telling you which is DO SOMETHING WITH YOUR LIFE. So my advice is for you to just shut up and stop going crazy. I'll repeat myself and say to you once more, be happy with all you've experienced and be positive. You can't control anybody or anything so just be a happy positive person in her life...even if things go downhill remain happy...don't let things ruin your friendship. If she breaks up with you...tell her your understand and be nice. Don't be a bitter person...you never know who you'll meet next and you'll have an ex-gf that you can keep in touch with for years to come even that doesn't think your an a$$hole. In ten years, you'll either feel bad the situation ended the way it did or remember that special person in a good way and be happy you acted like an adult. Sometimes females seem cold when they breakup with you but really they felt the need to for one reason or another...people are people. You will eventually meet someone else and things will go sour for YOU and you'll want it to end. WOuld you want that person all messed up driving you crazy and farther away? or would you feel like "Wow, she was so easy to break up with" -
I've cut myself off from everyone & everything.
justme1 replied to Kokopelli's topic in Emotions and Feelings
What gives you the right not to put up with all the stuff the rest of have to. You think you are alone? Crap happens and we deal with it in our own ways and move on. You can't predict the future...it's all about doing whatever...nobody said the road would be long and straight...it has obstacles, hills, rivers, sunshine and beautiful moonlight. Sounds like you are a paycheck away from being a homeless person... Is that enough to motivate you? -
You need to be civil and mature. Not including a note is sort of dumb. When you are ready, just send the stuff back when you are comfortable writing a note that simply says " Here are some of your things that belong to you. Hope you are well. Kindest regards, blah" If you haven't been killed and are still alive, there's no reason to be upset. (Unless you survived being run over by the ex or poisoned but lived ) People are people...take the high road no matter what and move the heck on!
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brilliant^^ I like to get a large bottle of baby oil, empty it in a bowl and microwave it. (plastic will melt) and then just dip your hand in it and give my lover a full body massage. I've always wanted to try the massage oil candle...