Shyguy24

Hmm I agree in a relationship the balance has to be equal, its like you can be a nice person but it should not affect your ego or your selfesteem to such a extent that you become a door mat , which is a total turn off because then you cant respect the other person and his viewpoint . While you don’t have to be a jerk , but strong in your viewpoints willing to bend them but not break them , when we can take our relationship like a addition to our life an important part but not our whole life that is when we find the right balance .

Well what if you had a girlfriend , and some girl came up to you and said she wanted to go out with you , u couldn’t obviously because of ur gf, but it would feel nice to be around that person who asked you out When some one thinks we are special it adds to their self-esteem and general sense of a good feeling, then we start to think how it would be if we actually went out with that person , specially when we are also attracted to that person . So she definitely finds you attractive otherwise no need to give u attention Probably fantasies of going out with you if she didn’t have a bf . What would I do just be casual , ask her for coffee or if u go out to have one get her one stuff like that , become good friends with her , u got nuthin to lose she knows how u feel.

Forget him and his lousy ass , you don’t need him ..go out join a club or a society or something ..he aint ur buddy if he knows you want to hangout but still dosent invite you then to hell with him He sounds like a lousy guy ..u cant confront him with this but I wouldn’t its not like he dosent know ..go out and find better people , stop scraping the bottom of the barrel with a dude who dosent even give a sh*t So get out there and make friends If u need one online then I am always here , simple rule in life mate if anyone or anything gets u down it aint worth it !!

Hmm this is a very tricky situation okay the following are your options How much is he investing in this relationship I mean does he make the same effort as you or do you think you are always making the extra effort If you are making all the effort then dump him and move on for the simple reason he not really bothered. Does he know that him seeing his ex , cause s you pain and has he discussed with you what his plans are regarding her ..as does he want to be friends with her or something else This point is very important because if someone cares about you and knows that something would hurt you they would not do that thing and if they did they would not hide it. As for you talking with him and he thinking you are being insecure bullshit …if he said that to you dump his sorry ass not worth it after all If a person dosent care about the fact that you are very fond of him then he/she not worth it …look it this way how long would it last …a year 6 mnths …forget it not worth the trouble Another thing is that you have to be brave and strong enough to be realistic about a relationship , look at this way say these are my standards and this is how I want to be treated and if you cant handle that then to hell with you Hey if u want a choclate cake why settle for a cookie ..not the same thing ..u can compromise with half a cake but not a cookie. Cause that cookie will never turn into a cake Take care sweets pm me anytime ! and thanks for ur advise on my ques

Hmm okay he wants you to dye your hair and wear make up…lol sorry but you should ask him do you want me to join the circus to ! Don’t change for anyone unless they can change for you , tell him okay ill do it as long as you dye your hair orange or smthing , see how he feels about it and if he says no , then tell him why do you accept me to do this if you cant . I mean whats going to be next like u don’t smile enough or some other thing ..tell him to getlost

Well I would want to know the person, and be friends and take it from there , I don’t think you can have a relationship if you don’t know the person properly, it also depends on the other person. Some people are easier to get along with then others

Hey screw telling him how u really feel not worth it if he dosent feel the same way .. only going to make u feel bad . So sorry it turned out this way, but better to be single then with the wrong person and get hurt later on . The way I would look at is that its his loss if he dosent want to know you better , but then we cant get along with everyone in this world. Just one thing did u tell him how u felt ..i mean how did he mail u on the subject or was he just assuming too and being defensive.

Heard of the term self-destruct it happens to humans GET OUT of this mess and do it fast .. She is not the right person for you for so many reasons and you know them pretty well . AS for giving her the nice vibe screw that , hey if someone plays with u let them know that , u have feelings no one should just waltz in and out of them when they feel like. I know we all have mood swings but not like this , cant use others emotions to protect our own . Look what she is doing to you reducing to the state of a puppet in a play . As for emotions save them I mean we all get attached to things if we spend time with them .. even objects like your favourite chair or office .. I think you should tell her to hit the road or make her realize that you feel you are being used as for the hurt thing and getting out of a relationship , I mean the stuff about mailing you on Sunday and then sending you a joke …I mean hello wake up smell the roses , YOU KNOW WHATS WRONG SHE IS TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED …stop it tell her once in a while to fo and not right now watch how she comes right back ..guaranteed Your behaviiour is to predictable for your own good , she knows she has you wrapped around her finger make her realize it aint the case Shock her and see what happens I mean you got nuthin to lose let her have some of her own sh*t back ! See how she likes it … she might not be a b**ch but she is certainly acting like one.

So then like no ones had a good experience, i mean it dosent work ..i am only asking becasue i am new in this country and i thought it would be one of the ways to get to know people fast for socializing

Hey all kinds of people in the world pal , but I think most people are vegetarian because they think its more healthy. Not me though, steak anyone ..lol

Okay first of all don’t be disheartned if they don’t call back, maybe the reason they don’t call back is that they are even more casual about the whole thing . When u go out and don’t tend to be too flirty , do you think if u changed that maybe it would help. I mean personally speaking being a guy if I went out with a girl I would want to know whats on her mind I mean , what is she looking for I would rather be sure about that then go out again to figure her out . I don’t know what your interests are but say if you both like the theater or like going clubbing I mean be assertive and see how the other person takes a interest , his body language will tell you .. if u like the guy throw him hints that u might be available later in the week . I think it could just be bad luck that you might have run into similar kind of people , I think you should give it more of a go .. wait till you meet about 10-15 people if still no one calls then I would worry about it . Besides the person has to like you the way you are so don’t worry about the tom boy thingy .. You have said yourself that you haven’t dated much in your life so it’s a new area for you give it some time , I am sure things will start to roll , imagine if they all started calling then Good luck

Where do u get all the food from , I mean do you keep it stocked in your fridge or order it from outside If it’s the fridge keep healthy food in it , its all about acquiring a taste for food , I used to love mc Donald’s eat there constantly then I gave it up for a few months lost weight and I haven’t eaten there in over a year , cant stand it now . It all about craving, deny your body initially a certain kind of food and it will learn to do without it , I know its tough initially but maybe u can replace ur habit by doing other things like when u feel like eating , don’t think to hard about what u want to eat DON’T PICTURE IT IN YOUR MIND just say hmm I am really hungry ..open the fridge and hog all the healthy stuff (just a theory) Good luck

Is putting a personal add in the paper a good idea if u haven’t got any friends in a foreign country ? How much details should u give in the add do people use false names and stuff? Has any body had a successful relationship or met anyone through such adds , if yes could u tell me a little about it , I mean was it awkward. thanks

Take it easy you are very young and are going to meet so many women , take it as it comes if it works out then hooray but if it dosent then take it as experience.

Don’t do anything just let it be maybe flirt with both of them and see which one suits you better , be friends for a while till you know them better unless you feel strongly with either one of them , in that case be more forward like casually mention stuff like u have a good sense of humor compliment him and see how it goes from there. Good luck.

Hey james bond take it easy mate … I totally agree with Mar she is a human being not a prize, besides u sound infatuated with her not a good idea , go out there and find somebody else there are so many people out there 0X

Hey gr8 u did well on your project show s u guys jell together. Don’t ask her out like directly , just get involved in similar activities and keep giving her subtle hints that you like her , things like I really enjoy your company and that you have so many gr8 ideas (appreciate her intelligence) or stuff like if u work on a problem say wow I would have never seen it from that point of view … see how she reacts ..if she gives you similar compliments then the next stage Try this out and then post back what happened or pm me Good luck

Well I don’t know how this mark guy looks like but to me it just sounds she was giving u a compliment and that’s what u should take it as nothing more or less.. she probably wants to get to know you better (just my opinion)

Well i havent got all the details i mean are u in school/college/univ MAYBE when they say i want you could it be that they only want u as a friend . maybe if u give more details a lil more specific , i could help u

Hey thanks for the advise I really appreciate it thanks sweety if I need some help ill pm u thanks

Hey mate ur more than welcome, remember if anything gets you down it aint worth it ! NO GO ON OUT THERE AND PARTY HARD

I never noticed it before but lately ive been noticing when I go out, some girls are always like staring at me . I am basically a shy guy who has started making a conscious effort to be less shy and I make it a point to dress smart , But being naturally shy I am not comfortable with girls looking at me (not always but most times) Why are they looking at me I mean I am not anything extraordinary physically that is I am only 5.8 tall okay I would say I am normal to look at, is it the new confidence that I am now consciously trying to wear actually working? I am not used to this attention cause I have always been a shy quite kind of guy but now I am trying hard to change into a more social person. Any advise on whats going on ?? these are uncharted waters for me

Whoa easy easy tiger … on the cigarettes and the thoughts , maybe he has got stuck somewhere , something came up .. I mean does he have a job ? The worst thing you can do is over-react because that’s going to cloud your judgement , STOP THINKING SO MUCH !!!! RIGHT NOW CALL HIM RIGHT NOW , I MEAN NOW !! DO IT NOO DON’T THINK ABOUT IT JUST DO IT IF SOMETHING BOTHERS YOU SO MUCH GET TO THE BOTTOM OF IT RIGHT NOW!! sorry I don’t want to be rude but I feel ur pain and I guess in a silly way I do care (hugs) “if life was perfect I would never cry, you would always be nearby, things would stay the same and nothing would ever change” (just a thought)

Animal porn saw it once just for curiosity sakes , made me puke .. I think if he is being curious then its okay I mean if it’s a one time thing , otherwise it’s a serious matter and a awful sick one .. I don’t blame you if you don’t want to be around him , but just make sure that what was the reason he was looking at it and the fact he left it so openly he probably expected you to see it. But ask him directly was he just being curious I mean you haven’t seen it before on his comp so it could be just a one off thing. If not then I think he needs serious help (just my opinion) Remember as far porn is concerned we as guys need visual data to get sexually aroused but normal porn not dogs and stuff !!

Ever heard of the saying “ if it aint broke don’t fix it” Facts of life … WE CANT DEPEND ON OTHERS all the time no matter how much they love or care for us NOT IN THE REAL WORLD . I mean who could love you more than ure mom right , but she also will get sick of you if you don’t give her space . Okay as for the salvage the relationship thingy … Go get him ..slap him accross the face if you have to but tell him in no less words .. hon I love you and I care for you so can we just talk about a few things ..look at him and tell him ur serious about it .. if he like shrugs you off or just laughs ..(I can tell you as a guy he couldn’t careless ) Throw him out of your life .. but tell him ur very serious about having this talk ..take a walk with him in the park or smthing I mean where ever you feel totally relaxed DON’T mail him ..talk to him face to face if you cant do that ..then whats the point of this relationship ..you must be able to communicate in real time . I could also suggest that take a break or something ..like join the gym or a charity ..that will take your mind of him atleast for a few hours in a day . WHEN we focus to much on something in life it changes our perception . ASK YOUR SELF Okay what is this relationship for , how did I get into it , does it have the basic ingredients trust honesty and communication ..if yes then which part is lacking . Remember a relationship is for understanding love and emotional support but sometimes if its wrong it can become a HIGH for the other person who know he/she can control you ..if this is the case GET OUT FAST ! If u feel anxious or stressed all the time then this is not good for you period .. u could be crying today but suffer from a psychological problem tomorrow Remember if anything dosent seem right go and look at the basics and then follow your instincts Good luck & be careful sweety (ur not being selfish just caring) PM if u need to talk or anything !