Shyguy24

Sure real easy .. like stop a distance from her and then like go HEY I never noticed (lil loud) SO she will ask what ..say u have amazingly beautiful eyes ..mind if I take a closer look (just smile when u say it ) LOOK AT A PERSON WHEN U TALK TO THEM IN THE EYES SPECIALLY A GIRL it makes the conversation more intimate .. ONCE U DO IT .. it will be easier next time .. humans are suckers for flattery ..u me everyone so dont be scared and do what i told you .. bet that will get her smiling cheers

Hey man I can relate to you, only I am 24 yrs old , well I have consciously changed the way I look at myself and tried developing more of a attitude of positive thoughts I mean if u “aint gonna go into the water how you ever gonna know how deep it is” First of all stop thinking like I don’t deserve a girl friend ..i mean why u got 3 eyes or 2 pairs of legs .. you are a normal human being who deserves a girl as much as any other normal guy. YOU CANT SAY I DON’T THINK I CAN GIVE HER WHAT SHE WOULD WANT .. HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS IF U DON’T EVER TRY TO FIND OUT .. Hey I am not trying to put you down or anything ..but trying to make u realize that there is nothing wrong with you .. AS FAR UR INTERESTS GO U CANT CHANGE THEM AND IF U DON’T LIKE CLUBBING THEN ..SO WHAT SO MANY PEOPLE DON’T GO CLUBIN BUT GET A GF. THE MAIN POINT OF GETTING A GIRLFRIEND IS TO SHARE UR SELF WITH THAT PERSON ..ITS CALLED LOVE … HEY I AM SHY AND SENSTIVE BUT I HAVE GIRLS COMIN UP TO ME ..ONCE I OPEN MY BIG MOUTH…YES WE HAVE TO COMMUNICATE AND don’t be shy ..think like I am a guy I am supposed to take the initiative about this I am also a sensitive person there is nothing wrong with that what I am saying is that THERE ARE NO STEREOTYPES IN THIS WORLD WE ARE ALL UNIQUE IN OUR ON WAY AND THERE MUST BE A FEW MILLION GIRLS WHO WOULD LIKE A SENSTIVE GUY .. FROM EXPERIENCE MY FIRST GIRLFRIEND PROPOSED TO ME , KISSED ME AND THEN LITERALLY DRAGGED ME TO BED WITH HER ..NOTHING SHY ABOUT HER ..BUT SHE LIKE ME FOR WHO I WAS AND THAT’S IT NUTHING MORE OR LESS. GET THESE THOUGHTS OUT OF UR MIND · I don’t want to be disliked …we cant please everybody not possible people will hate you and there is no reason for that. · I don’t want to say something stupid…what might sound stupid to you might not to another person and vice versa ..think about it · I lack confidence …all in your mind change your thinking ..say hey I am a interesting guy with amazing knowledge of 60s music or smthing like that ..be positive DON’T THINK OF BEING ALONE CHANGE URSELF A LITTLE GET RID OF THE GLASSES IF THEY BOTHER U ..SHAVE UR HEAD OF AND WEAR A BANDANA .TAKE A STAND SAY I WONT TAKE THIS SH** I AM THE MAN !! IF U WANT TO TALK …JUST PM ME CHEERS MATE

Hi I can understand your situation , I am a very emotional person or extremely indifferent (I am a cusp between a Aquarian and a Piscean ) well I have known this friend of mine for 20 odd years and he rarely shows his emotions , I mean he will do things that shows he cares but it’s a different way from me . I would go there and tell him how much I treasure our friendship and how we have spent so many gr8 times together. I guess what I am saying is that some people are just different when it comes to showing emotions. Maybe you should read about Your bf s sunsign it could give u some help into his traits which he is basically born with . Good luck and take care

Well I used to think like that , but I consciously changed that ..whenever a girl rejected me ..i wouldn’t think there is something wrong with me , but instead think yeah ure probably not worth it or okay ur loss or hey maybe it’s a Martian hahaha…I mean I look at the funny side and more often then not I walk away smiling or laughing and the girl is the one who has this real confused look on her face …but this attitude has helped me atleast to try asking girls out with a few successes ..which I didn’t accept so that was good., it does take a lot of rejections to get over the fear of rejection..hell but its better then being lonely..

Hi sweets you are more than welcome , well I should be clued up by now ..went through a nervous break down dropped a year lost my friends almost commited suicide… but that’s just what love does to you drives you mad ..i was ready to leave and learn another language settle in a alien country all for her just cause I loved her and held nothing back…anyway ..Happiness is a state of mind and its not comparable to anything , how happy he is with you depends on how happy you are with him …its like magic and its your magic nobody can replicate that its special …You know you are not going to hurt him so why worry , if something goes wrong tomorrow you know it aint your fault … I never hurt my x , she left me cause I cared to much too much love ..figure that out ..she told me that she would die if I was not with her ..so she had to break up because it was too special …imagine that ..what I must have felt like …and where was I to go from there …she said I was perfect and she couldn’t handle perfection …I made her feel to good ..these were her words ….and I was left with a psychological scar because I couldn’t figure what I had done … Don’t try to gain perfection …it might scare you once you achieve it …I tried it got it and look what I got ..now I am totally clueless about what girls want and I can never be like that for a long time My advise to you is that you have happiness don’t find reasons to give it up !! or you will end up like me totally lonely scared , rejected and destroyed from within … And you are not selfish for knowing him better …its only your love for him (why cant I run into people like you, wish people had signs on there heads..lol) Love is all about believing in it , faith don’t ever doubt it

How much experience have u had with women..very little as I can tell 7 years you have known she has existed but never told her how you felt..Okay lets change that go meet her call her for coffee and take her out for a movie see how u feel being with her when u actually spend some time with her .. The fact of the matter is that she might just like you as a friend and you should be ready to accept that, if you can then go with nothing to lose and everything to gain attitude then fine … I would say go ahead ask her out ,hey u have waited for 7 years … another thing let me warn you that sometimes we make a image of a person in our heads and in reality they turn out to be totally different from that image. Also if you go abroad then be careful how involved you get into the relationship because it can be hard long distance Sorry if I was a little blunt but I am just trying to keep it real so that you don’t get hurt like I did ; I hope it works for you but if it dosent don’t be too hard on yourself like I was .

Hey I came out of my one and only relationship..with only one thing on my mind that I aint getting hurt like that again ..no matter what ..its natural for me to be that way cause the brain is a very powerful thing it can alter ur prception subconsciously to guard against previous failures I was ant even aware that I had developed certain attitudes at the subconscious level , but that’s just human , I think the more u are going to thnk about this the more ur boyfriend is going to become defensive ..see In a way by saying that u wont hurt him ..he thinks about it more… while if u just ignore the subject completely and go out there and just love him and care ..his brain will soon start shedding his defensive shell. Sometimes the best approach I s not the direct approach and it may not be u that he feels or acts like that ..its just called learnt behavior psychology Prove him wrong stop doubting him , don’t let his fears become a reality ..if he thinks it was ridiculous that you thought this way then let it go …better to let things go then to analyze them ..it will totally kill ur relationship …IT KILLED MINE ….don’t make something out of nothing. AND UR SIGNATURE SAYS IT ALL!! URE HEAR FOR A GOOD TIME

hmm u went out with this girl for 3+yrs …WHY??? First of all she is NOT WORTH IT …ANY GIRL WHO BREAKS OF WITH U ON THE PHONE, SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER PERSON JUST LIKE THAT , AND DRINKS WITH UR BUDDY ….DO U SEE A PATTERN I DO …AND IT SAYS …SHE AINT WORTH IT HEY you are only 20 yrs GO OUT AND PARTY AND THANK YOUR STARS THAT YOU FOUND OUT WHAT SHES LIKE NOW AND NOT AT 28 MARRIED AND WITH KIDS. GO OUT PARTY …ITS HER LOSS THAT SHE S NOT WITH YOU !! SHES PLAYING GAMES IF SHE KEEPS MAKING AND BREAKING IT …SO DON’T TAKE HER SERIOUSLY If she acts like a tart then let her hey not your problem…we all got standards in life …don’t lower yours… Its okay to love someone and have emotions but don’t waste them on someone who aint worth it DO something ..like join a gym or smthing u could even meet other people over there ….GO OUT and meet people in general .. As for dreaming about her and thinking about her …just smile and say She aint WORTH IT I deserve better … u have to let go of trash . Call her up and tell her that if she slept with someone why is she telling you that … its not your problem ..don’t be in DENIAL …TAKE THE BULL BY THE HORNS !!!! I really want to know WHY U WENT OUT with her for 3 yrs ..was she a different person???

thanks misscitygrl for ur reply So I guess what u mean by this is that I should develop a little bit of a mean streak ..even only as a act just to make sure that the girl can think hey he aint that nice so it wont be that awful went out with him and then kicked his sorry ass. Hmm so what I have to do is basically care less and reject the person once in a while (not being myself) and this will attract girls !! SWhat if I go out with a girl with this act and then later on she finds out that I am this wonderful guy …wont she feel bad then about going out with me and the fact that she could hurt me So let me get this straight Girls want a nice guy but also want there butts kicked and being to nice like me is not boyfriend material because I could be a great friend . So could u suggest some things I could do too show I am not this nice a person but I don't want to be a beep … cause see I have this thought process that for me my girl is going to mean a lot and I am never going to do to her what my other friends have done to there girlfriends ..i know I am just looking to get my butt kicked ..but I cant help it it's a attitude I have developed AFTER HAVING TO COMFORT MY FRIENDS WHO ARE GIRLS …UGHHH I THINK I MIGHT BE TURNING INTO ONE I NEED SERIOUS SUGGESTIONS ON SOME THINGS I CAN DO TO SHOW THAT I AM A REGULAR BAD ASS..SO THAT I CAN GET A GIRLFRIEND thanks all

Hi I am a genuinely nice guy who is upfront about things , but I keep finding girls who keep commenting ure a very special guy and ull find a special girl … Hey I want a normal girl ….what they mean by a special girl ..someones whose mentally retarded or something..lol I don't think being a nice guy is helping me out …I mean all the jerks are running around with the girls and they don't even care about them … I keep getting calls from my friends x gf …why dosent he call me and how can he be like that…I mean if the guys a jerk U WENT OUT WITH HIM …SO DEAL WITH IT . I mean when I asked her out she went out but became like more my friend and the nice guy thing started off …HEY I cant help it if I am soft hearted Maybe its time to go over to the Dark side or become gay or something …lol. I MEAN I AM A NORMAL GUY WHO HAS BEEN TOLD THAT HE IS CUTE AND BLAH BLAH ..then why don't I get to go out with normal women and end up making good friends with them INSTEAD I MEAN SURE OKAY U SAY I AM NICE ..THANKS ..SO GO OUT WITH ME U SAY HEY U HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR AND U DRESS SMART ..ULL GET A NICE GIRL ..AND I AM LIKE WHY U THINK URE A WITCH OR SMTHING ..GO OUT WITH ME …I WONT BITE PROMISE I THINK BEING A NICE GUY IS CRAP …ITS LIKE I AM ALWAYS DOING THE RIGHT THING …. AND NEVER GETTING WHAT I WANT …TO GO OUT AND HAVE A GOOD TIME WITH MY GIRL FRIEND NOT SOME GIRL WHOSE CONFIDING IN ME LIKE I AM HER GIRLFRIEND ..LOL

HI sid thanks for the input if anybody got any other suggestions I would love to hear them thanks guys/gals

Hi sweets i can relate to your situation so well because that’s how I used to feel ..happy with friends and girlfriend but lonely and bored when alone always looking for love and to be nutured . Well happiness is basically a state of mind , its how we perceive things our attitude toward small things in life for eg ..the glass may look half full or half empty depending on how u look at it . If u want happiness its very important to know what it means to you like being with a special person or doing something for others . I think we are happy when we see other people happy and we have Contributed to their happiness .. I would suggest do some social service join a charity …make others happy u will soon see like magic.. happiness will reflect back to you .. put a smile on somebodys face or give a depressed friend a hug and see him/her light up ..that’s happiness For me personally happiness lies in giving love and affection without expectations … just smile “It’s a cynical world but I wont give up to give is to live If u need a friend just PM me .

I totally agree with B.S u have to move on with your life, and find other people although I would suggest that u should keep away from his friends, as this will probably hurt him a great deal.

Hi my problem is that I am a overly sensitive person, I have only kissed one girl in my entire life.. its not that I am ugly or really good looking but ive been told that I am real cute. the most affection I willingly show a girl without being nervous is a warm hug. Anyway because of my inexperience with women, I am worried that I might never have a proper relationship. Another thing is that I dress smartly and get looks from women and even smiles but sigh I don’t know what to do … I am going to university in the U.K, I am foreigner in that country, so I am desperate to make friends especially of the opposite sex, another problem Is that I am going to joining University about a week later then my classmates due to a family problem I fear that this will reduce my chances of making friends as they would have already made their aquantices. So as a stranger how do I go about making friends especially with girls in a foreign country ? Also as I am a shy person I feel it compounds my problem of making friends… that’s the reason why even when a girl smiles at me … I don’t know what to do .. pls help me I don’t want to be lonely in a foreign country ?