Shyguy24

I totally agree with Sabena i think she has given you very good advice ; iwould just like to add that , it could be that he is afraid that he does not want to lose you so to keep you on ur toes and interested in him he is doing all the bird watching just to keep u jealous believe me when we guys know we got a good thing in a gf we dont want to lose her, it could be that he wants you to feel jealous so that u remain with him i know it sounds crazy but ive known some of my friends who have done it g luck 0X

Hmm i would like something like ; a sweater or a sweatshirt of hers with her perfume on it ; iwould keep it in my cupboard .so that whenever i would open it i would get her perfume hmm id also like a hmm something else like ..maybe her pillow so that i could hug it and go to sleep of course she could mail herself that would be the best

okay she likes you definitely; the thing to do would be to get to talk to her on the phone, besides being online hmm i would take her out to that volleyball game , but u must be sure how comfortable she would be going out , in a boys company see shy people are generall in a shell they take time to come out of it so i would say hang in there , but keep the interest going g luck

HEY MAN DONT DO IT SHE AINT WORHT IT NO ONE IS !!!! DONT DO IT !!! IVE GONE THROUGH THIS IT AINT WORTH IT !!!

Okay mate this is what i see She met a new guy; frankly i am not surprised Dont you think she breaking up with you jsut becasue she made a new guy best friend ...not in this world Buddy ill be frank ...u need to feel better about urself ..i mean dont be so dependent anyone else ... people come and they go all the time no one stays longer than they are interested i would suggest that, worl on ur self image ..u must be happy with urself before u can keep anyone else happy See when she said i dont like being treated like this ...it shows that ur hangin on to her like she was a object that made u feel good about urself but did nothing for her self image see she knew you dont trust her ..hey u are engaged to her ...dont u think its a little strange that she feels u dont trust her i am sorry man but YOU HAVE TO HELPURSELF , BELIEVE IN URSELF GOOD LUCK

Hey if its attention she wants then give it to her; make a move , no point in thinking just go and do some action now get her flowers or just go say hi i mean ask around what she like gather info about her like her likes ask ur friend , he should be able to give u good insight 0X

Hi hun, i can understand to a degree through what u are going I went through the same not so long back okay u can tell him that you guys should take a break from one another for a while ...like no sharing personal thoughts like whats up in ur life and all basically cut contact with him for say 3 mnths just think he has gone out of the country so u cant contact him; use psychology to help you in this way see if u keep talking to him you will keep wounding your emotions and that wont help you to move on THAT IS THE BOTTOM LINE YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON REMEMBER THAT HOW FAST YOU DO IT IS UP TO YOU!! GOOD LUck hey if ujust want some one to talk to or share a problem , pls feel free to pm me !! i really feel for you , as i can relate to your situation

Hey parle francais com cva ..(i know french very little..but i know 4 languages, 2 being my traditional languages hindi and punjabi) I am flattered that you want my opinion on your post .. so i will try to help you as much as i can Self esteem -- Its like a magical high .. made out of some very basic things WE MUST LEARN TO LOVE OUR SELVES BEFORE WE CAN LOVE OR DO ANYTHING TO BE HAPPY IN THIS WORLD! I lost 14 kilos ..was looking smart in anything i would wear , it added to my SELF IMAGE .. SELF ESTEEM IS EXACTLY THAT ...SELF IMAGE ..ITS NOT ABOUT ACHIEVING STUFF AND MAKING A POINT TO OTHER PEOPLE ...but more about how we see ourselves. IF YOU THINK YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE AND SMART REALLY I MEAN REALLY THINK THAT THEN IT WILL SHOW IN YOUR BODY LANGUAGE ...that is again self esteem Success is a HIGH and the only thing in life that gives u real self esteem and feeling of self worth and treasure WHEN I SAY SUCESS i MEAN TRULY SUCESS IN WHAT YOU WANT TO DO VERY IMPORTANT I MEAN U MIGHT WANT TO BE A SINGER BUT ENDED UP BEIN A LAWYER ..SO YES YOU ARE SUCCESSFUL BUT ..YOU ALWAYS SAW URSELF AS THE SINGER ..that was your mental image of success to which YOU related so you might be a success in other peoples eyes but not in your OWN RESULT ---LOW SELF IMAGE LEADING TO LOW SELF ESTEEM UR personaltiy effects ur self esteem ---i mean if u are a introvert and you force yourself to socialise then you will fail --result it will damage your image in your eyes result ---low self esteem-plus this is against how you are made so in theses situations its good to know ur pluses and minuses ..like a sense of humour , smile etc OKAY SO THINGS YOU CAN DO- First sit down and think hey this is what i want to do ..i really want to do this (for eg..i am a budding lawyer its hard work like 10+hrs a day , but WHY DO I DO IT , CAUSE I WANT TO sit on a beach drinking magaritas and hangin out with senoritas ) MOtivation plus of course i am really good at it , also i was always interested in law casue i alwasys wanted to make money so there you go see what u want and then go about achieveing it . secondly man remember you are unique in your own way likw all of us , set ur self standards and dont shift from them ( i dint drink till iwas 22 yrs , even refused my dad on my 18th bday ..becasue it was a standard i st for my self ) SEE MATE ...SELF BELIEF +HARDWORK = GOOD IMAGE = GOOD SELESTEEM= HAPPINESS Hey thats the way i see it and YES I DO HAVE REASONABLE GOOD SELF ESTEEM ...WHICH WILL IMPROVE ..CASUE I DO MEDITATION AND MY PRAYERS (I AM FROM INDIA SPIRTUAL LAND SO I GET A GOOD BALANCE) HEY U CAN ONLY TRY AS HARD AS YOU WANT ..THEN LEAVE IT TO GOD remember WHAT SHAKES PEARE SAID ...WERE JUST MERE ACTORS ..IN A DRAMA ..(smthing like that i think..) I hope i helped , if u want some specific adivice then post here and ill try my best to help you out ! merci, thank you

Hmm i can understand why she is acting like this to a degree hey she has gone through the trauma of being married to a guy for 5 weeks and then he leaving her its proably left a pschalogial scar on her ..poor thing i dont blame her hey if i had gone through a experience like that .. i would have really screwed the happiness out the next women ... its just human tendency my friend ..and its not you i think she needs serious help , and if you are her friend then you should get her some i think if u sitck with her through this , (i mean if there is a psche prob) then u guys can have a real strong relationship but i do understand her actions and do not blame her for them ..POOR GIRL i guess some people on this planet girl or guys , are just pathetic human beings so help her mate and see things through her eyes

OKay hun here is what you should do (it helped me) Go in front of a mirrior and look at urself and say i am the BEST I DESERVE THE BEST Take a piece of paper and write on it ur good points , remember them by heart , and stick the paper on the mirrior. WHAT U NEED IS POSITIVE PERSONALITY REINFORCEMENT ABOUT UR SELF IMAGE ..THE SIMPLE FACT IS that people are not going to be judgin you becasue they are to afraid that you are judgin them SEE ITS A GAME ..GO THERE MEET PEOPLE ..FOR EXAMPLE HOW MANY TIMES ARE WE WORRIED ABOUT HOW WE LOOK ..THAT WE DONT EVEN CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE.. Go there and observe this ..so many people are just like conscious about themselves ..its just they hide it SO HUN ; REMEMBER NOBODY IS BETTER THAN YOU UNLESS YOU THINK THEY ARE GO GETTEM GIRL ..I AM SURE u will be amazed how many people will want to be ur friend ..hey i am one godd luck pm if need any other advice ..c ya

Hey man i think relationships are like double edged sword ; they can be gr8 , but believe me they can be a lot of trouble too i was in one about 5 mnths back it took me about 3 mnths to get back to being single but i did it i learnt french,golf and swimming in the summer also i went for a holiday and then currently i got a job in a law firm; what i am trying to say is that explore ur boundaries do what u wan to do right now rather than wasting ur time looking for someone , girls will come along and before you know it they with there cute smile will make u a insane man again heheh i would love to be with a girl but i am ready to wait to be with the right one than to risk myself with the wrong kinda person so man go there , do paragliding or bunjee jumpin something that will make u feel alive and free g luck

Hey buddy ..ur more than welcome ive become attached to this site and all you guys; its nice to see a place where all of us can help each other out ; hooray for enotalone, kamruj, swingfox and the rest of the brilliant guys who are on the administrative side thank you all for the advice on my probs and i feel honoured that i could help any of u guys out

Okay let me tell u what i think First of all if you are good looking and handsome ..it helps say 75% of the problem of meeting the opposite sex..so LOOKS DO GO A LONG WAY IN MEETING THE OPPOSITE SEX Where personality comes in is that it can captivate the other person which looks cant do .. looks only help to stimuli our eyes ..while a charmin personality ..stimulates our mental side , thereforeeee adding attractin to the person i am a ordinary looking guy at my best i have described cute ..but i have got dozens of comlpliments on my personality and my persona i have had people who have hardly known me and compliment me on my personality ...also thats what attracted my first gf to me ..she asked me out and she is really good lookin (we broke off 5 mnths back) buts thats life ..its is your charisma and your personality which makes u attractive and not your looks ive met some real hot women , but when they opened there mouths , it was such a turn off ..who you are and HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF AND MAKE OTHERS FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES IS WHAT MAKES YOU ATTRACTIVE ..LOOKS DO HELP BUT ONLY FOR A INTRODUCTION. AND THATS how the west was won folks ..

Yeah why is it that ; u cant tell and only find out like after so many years ...there has to be a way ; how much should u believe in this whatever happens happens for the best

Hey I agree but then taking your explanation into account I would say 90% of the people are infatuated I mean , in most post that you will read …my x treated me like crap and I still want him and how do I beg him to take me back.. So are all these people only infatuated, not in love?? I mean even people who have being going out for like 2 yrs+. I mean have they been only infatuated for so long?

Well if your friends are picking on you or teaseing you and stuff … here is what I would do confront them and pick on them and tease them ..don’t lie down and take the crap let them get a dose of it to . This world is for aggressive fighters not for wimps … we cant run away from our problems we have to face them and conquer them . The only way to get rid of your fear is to confront it , this way you will conquer it ..for eg they are like hey u suck at that …just say yeah I do but not half as bad as you do at blah blah Once they realize that u are gonna be dishing it back , they will respect you and stop pickin on you .. So go to war mate nobodys comin to rescue you ; tell them off Good luck fighter 0X Shy guy

Do people get infatuated with something before they fall in love with it or is it that they love something and then get infatuated by it ? If someone was say infatuated with you , how would you know and how would you deal with it ?

Okay here is what I think She wants to be your friend; she feels guilty that she wants emotional support from you and feels she is using you so to comfort herself she does not want to live with the guilt of pushing you away. She is being selfish here believe me, you should lose contact with her immediately, like right now or it is going to play havoc with your mind. You wrote her the mails explaining your feelings and how you felt , what did she do not take responsibility for your emotions by saying I am sorry I didn’t want things to end up in this way ..what a load of bullshit ..if she didn’t want it this way then why did she break up with you !! okay she had problems but hey she could have dealt with them I mean they aren’t ur fault . Do not accommodate anything for this woman, if she wants to work with you tell her that she should shift to your place , why should you be doing everything and getting nothing in return (wake up buddy she is just playing with you) Okay she is seeing another guy , fine don’t let that bother you (frankly I think she is just lying about it) also that whenever you try to discuss stuff with her she, dosent want to talk to you but returns the next day ..ignore her tell her to get lost in a polite way ..you are nobodys plaything that they can come and cry on your shoulder whenever they feel like …simple thing IF U THINK U ARE THE BEST THING SINCE SLICED BREAD PEOPLE WILL TREAT YOU IN THAT WAY .. Do not let her use you in anyway like this , that she feels she can manipulate and stuff ..tell her to FO. Okay first of all this woman dosent love you at all ..plain and simple man I am sorry ..but you deserve a lot lot better but you wont get it if you keep going back to her .. Don’t send her flowers and stuff no point wasting emotions on someone that dosent give them back . You guys have no future , simple because you sound like a terrif guy and she sounds more like a nightmare no wonder she is getting divorced ..she may also suffer from psychological problems .. I think you should take things at face valve ..and pls stop making excuses for her ..she is busy on weekdays casue she got family and stuff ..how do you know she aint in the sack with someone else … Also when a woman isn’t even ready to go out for lunch with you, why are you even bothering …let her be there are so many better women out there .. I think you should stop contacting her ..don’t give her time of the day…tell her to get lost and be mad if u feel she isn’t being fair to you ..don not sacrifice your self respect ..specially for a women like this I mean if she went out of her way to meet you or to tell you how lovely your flowers were and how you were so special …then I would tell you to stick with her .. But from what I have read it’s the case of u jumping of the cliff and she giving you a push .. So please for your sake and us guys ..do not let this women destroy your life Be a man …take the bull by the horns Go for it shyguy

Hmm well if she is shy then you got to make the extra effort , I would walk up to her and say hi , be confident about it don’t let the other girls bother you, just pretend they aren’t there like , take it as a dare that ur mates asked you to do. Talk about something general like the classes or school , weather something she is comfortable with also talk to her friends , make it obvious that you like her and then I am sure if she feels even a little for you she will start to open up. gluck

Love and infatuation can anyone explain me what is the difference between them, and can someone be infatuated with someone and then fall in love with them?

Hey u see someone you are attracted to go for it , iwould still let her know that you think she is special I mean what is there to lose right ; atleast you will get experience out of the whole thing , and that’s gonna help you later Good luck

Well hmm it is very strange behaviour , all I can say is that I can understand if the girl sint comfortable in meeting him, I mean first he is so nice and stuff and then he pulls a stunt like that ..maybe he had this on his mind all the time when he spoke about oral sex , so he was just making her comfortable about it when they reached home and assumed she was okay with it . Sorry that’s all I can make out it ..

Hmm maybe have you thought of it in this way that she doesn't want to tell you and has some other guy in the background. I mean think about it .. if no one appeals to her and she isn't attracted to anyone else then why did she break up with you .. relationships are about emotional support may be she feels that she can get that from someone else .. Also I agree maybe going to college scared her because she maybe feels that it would be difficult for her to maintain the relationship But you should talk to her but don't push it Good luck

Well I could suggest that u could , try out gym programmes like BODY for Life , basically u need to get a lot of fat protein in your body, this will increase your body weight . Try eating a lot of red meat like beef and stuff as that has a lot of fat in it you will soon start to put on a lot of pounds There are also proper supplements available in the market for increasing weight they come in the form of shakes and chocolate bars. There are no of sites on the web which have detailed info on these products chk them out .. Good luck

Okay think of it like this you meet a girl who you know for a little while and then she gives u a present which you think , oh no she must think I am somebody special ..see it puts a lot of pressure on you and expectations on the other person . Well it can also get people to become awkward like when you meet her next time you meet her you are going to feel weird because of the gift ..the pressure and this will ruin whatever chances that girl had of going out with you because unknowingly she put a lot of pressure on you ..Which she didn't realize ..you cant buy love or friendship and most people think of it like that no matter how sincerely you feel you have given the gift Time is the only thing that can make good friendships My advise is that don't think about it next time you meet her don't mention it to her (the gift) just talk normally as usual and she will take a clue from you and not become normal ..if u ask her about it then she will feel really weird about it…. I am sure if you give her time she will really start to like you ..i can say that with experience