Ash

I second what shes2smart says about a chiroprator. I got this way myself and nothing I did to try and relieve the muscle pain worked because the muscles were working when they shouldn't have been due to back misalignment and swollen (and locked) joints in my back and hips. Chiro fixed me up very well.

Sounds like shows of affections to him maybe should be tempered so you can appear more "friend' like and less "girlfriend" like at first. Don't say anything negative about her mother and try not to diminish anything his daughter feels.

Christmas break. See ... this is what happens when the kids sleep in and we don't ... !!

Yes they should. And ... we are! Due in September.

Kisses can be awkward and clumsy until you get past the first few. Sometims they're great, sometimes you can't figure out which way to tilt your head and a nose collision happens. My first kiss was actually on her forehead but it was meaningful to both of us. Not sure if that qualifies as the real first kiss for some, but it did for me. I wonder if the first real hug can be just as good an indicator. I know with my SO that was the clincher for her. She knew from the hug that it was right. If you hug and feel wamr and close then it's great. If it feels like you're hugging a family member ... then perhaps not!

So .... did you go?

Act as naturally as you can, treat her like you'd treat anybody else. She likely knows more about the situation than you realize, she may very well be quite curious about you and what you do so it's okay to talk about that. Try not to come accross as a motherly type figure, particularly at first as this might cause her some difficult feelings. Be like a friend . In the future perhaps a big sister, take it from there.

You haven't commented on yoru relationship with your wife, but it sounds like it's a bit rocky at best. You may want to consider the bigger picture here as well, is there a decent relationship between you and her? If there isn't, then I'd have to think there's a pretty reasonable chance that some sort of cheating is occurring and from the sounds of things might have been for a while. In this case the matter of her cheating or not is only part of the answer. If she is, you both need to address why it's happening and whether anything can be done to save the marriage. You both have to want to fix the problems.

Is it just a mark? Is there a bump at all? Not the same thing, but I have freckles in some very odd places. The freckles can appear black. It's also common to have viens visble on your penis. Is that what the line looks like? Nothing at all unusual about that.

Variety is the spice of life! If women looked for the perfect guy, most of us would never even have a girlfriend!

I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if there were more folks pregnant.

I'm glad you see things that way. I actually have a beautiful pair of breasts as well, they happen to be situated on my SO. I try to convince her of that all the time even though she thinks she is too small. Thing is .. women who are happy with who they are have beauitful bodies and breasts regardless of actual shape. At least in my humble opinion.

Yep, there's a way to admire them and a way to leer lewdly at them. Sometimes guys seem to think it's necessary to make stupid comments, seemingly to impress there buddies. I can't really see the point in doing that myself. It all gets a bit different too when your (meaning mine in this case!) daughters get to be that age.

Ouch, that actually sounds a bit painful. I guess there's a tradeoff in appearance versus functionality? So, is the diffculty that the garment manufacturers haven't hit the right type of bra, is it because of current fashion, or is it apparently just not possible to meet all the criteria of the "perfect" bra all at the same time?

Do the sports bras do the same? They seem to take a different approach, but I'm definitely not an authority on this topic at all!

Meant to add ... if you go for option 2, can you promise yourself you'll get back to uni? Sometimes that can be a very tough thing to do.

I tend to lean the house direction myself. Houses tend to appreciate in value and don't tend to devalue because of a poor money manager handling your accounts, or because of stock market fluctuations. Once you have the house, then go for the further investments. I'm not sure about uni versus a good job. That depends on what you want out of life. A good paying job now is not always better than a degree in a few years. You may concievable se more chance for advancement with a higher education.

Now there's a British phrase I haven't heard in a while, but well applied! That's the spirit, dismiss him just like that and don't let if get you down.

Yep, there are a LOT of jerks out there particularly on those sites. And Yep, Jen is spot on describing your looks so that is about as far from the true issue as could be. This guy just figured if he can't get exactly what he wants it's perfectly okay to make himself feel like you're the insane one (very wrong) and figures he's allowed also to be rude about it (again, very wrong). FWIW, it does actually happen both ways, meaning there are women on the sites who don't always treat the guys with the respect they should. It would be nice to think people of this type, both men and women, are in the minority. Anyway, blocking him is certainly the thing to do.

Odd, was there a big power failure or some other huge event in early July that I missed???? I guess the long weekend celebrations back then are REALLY something to celebrate!

Sorry, I can't help with the specifics, but I will say in this situation you should ask and get a nice letter of recommendation from your current manager. If nothing else this should help you get your next job should you lose this one. Generally, if you're being told you may lose employment due to structural changes in the company you can ask for and expect to get a good letter of reference.

The most important thing is that you're happy with yourself with whatever shape you come in. Many men will appreciate you as long as you are comfortable regardless of your size, at least that's the way I am. The specifics aren't so important most of the time. Don't see it as a negative because you're large (or others are small or shaped slightly differently), just see it as a difference and accept that everybody is different. There's nothing at all wrong with that and it adds interest and variety to the world. Dofferent people like different things, and some people seem to like most things so there are a multitude of matches for people of every possible body type. I think it's true though, the natural motion is appealing to watch. I guess it all comes to whether you are comfortable with other people noticing this type of thing. If you're not, I understand how it can be embarrassing. If it doesn't bother you to have others think you look good in motion then it's okay. Makes us guys sound like a lecherous bunch though I guess! Part of it's the different between men and women, we enjoy things that we don't have! Another aspect of this whole motion thing to me is the difference between real breasts and silicone (or other method) augmented ones. The "fake" ones don't move the same way the real ones do and are a huge turn off. This is NOT the same as perky because perky breasts also move differently than implants as well. I think there's a whole pile of psychology here that can be tough to deal with. Also, I think the whole issue of big breastedness and small breastedness and percieved unhappiness with how we'r eput together tends to make us hide in our clothes sometimes when we don't really need to. Partly this is what an athletic supported does for a guy. If not that, then for anything else in the gym at least not wearing boxers and wearing briefs instead may be a good idea. Granted, for both men and women there are good and bad bicycle seats!

Not wanting to totally hijack the thread, but am apparently doing so anyway ... I'm sitting here for the first time in my life and it's easier to see the monitor wearing reading glasses ... I'm hoping it's just that my latest set of contacts are just a tad on the strong side since they're a different brand. Heavens, I hope so!!!

If he's apparently refusing the change his address for whatever reason, you writing "Wrong address" on the envelope and dropping it in the nearest post box will soon get him to change it. There are some actual legalities (at least where I live) that require you to inform certain places when you have had a change of address. You're not actually obligated to get his mail to him at all, although you may certainly choose to do so as a favour, but not forever.