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    It's cheating. Totally.
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    My fiance' is nearly the same height as I am . I used to say in my dating profiles that I preferred men 6 ft and over. Guess what. That did NOT matter...what matters is that my fiance is firstly so cute I can't stop looking at him, he is sweet beyond belief, he is my best friend and unbelievably fun at times. When you meet the right person SHE might be really tall, a dang amazon ! BUT if you love each other...it just IS....you have to look at other things..and find someone else who does too. If we all try to measure each other by perfect heights and weights and income levels..forget it. I would rather live in a cardboard box with a short guy who really loved me, than in a castle with a really tall guy who was a jerkhole. There...so stop obsessing over what you do NOT think you are, and concentrate on the positive. I just wager that you are amazing and totally lovable.
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    Excommunicating....haha... I guess if my fiance' spoke to his exes...and they were not talking about sex, or their old relationship or about how much he or she missed on another...I wouldn't care...if they could just be friends. If they couldn't..then he and I would need to re-evaluate OUR relationship. Same visa-versa. I have no desire to flirt with ANY of my ex boyfriends. I love my guy. I will flirt with him.
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    Uh,..yeah, I do not think my fiance...or I, would enjoy knowing that was going on between either of us and someone else. The sexy stuff is just for US...flirting...is flirting...more of a nudge and a wink, not the explicit or suggestive mails or texts. I think you both need to have the same idea about what flirting is.
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    I have gotten into the comfort eating thing too...not even hungry but eating like I am starving...not good. I dated a man for a short bit who had this problem too..emotionally based...I think I fed into his addiction. Seemed harmless. I started going to an all womens gym a few years ago....I felt VERY comfortable there until I felt better about me. I changed to a regular gym after they closed, and I was into body-sculpting and weights. But I know how you feel.....you need a workout buddy !!! And if you do go to a regular gym, do not feel self-conscience....you are there to make things better for yourself and to be heathier...anyone who would look at you funny is an idiot. You can do it ! I need to do it too ! Got to fit into a pretty dress for my wedding ! Wish we lived closer !!!! Take care !
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    Trouble for dating a meth addict? I don't think so. But if you were with her when she is using, or is caught possessing the drug when you are with her...possibly. You are only 15.?..do you want to hang around someone who is a negative influence? Guess what, everyone you hang with influences you...no matter what your age. We all should choose to hang with people who make us better people. Your pretty girl...is choosing to do bad things to her body...her teeth will rot out and she will not be so pretty someday...and what other drugs will she try? If you are the same age as my son (15) I would be soooo wary of you having friends like her....
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    Thanks ! The wedding is to take place in July. Hoping to have a really fun, casual wedding in the mountains here in Colorado. We are both looking forward to it. We have LOTS to do in the meantime !
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    Nope sidehop. My friends havent wanted to go out with my fiance. That isnt what my post said.
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    Exactly. I know he has dated many women, he is very attractive...but no...I just don't care to know. I guess the need for constant ego bolstering could be a reddish flag. Or perhaps I am overly sensitive. Could be both.
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    My fiance and I recently have announced our engagement....and since then we both have been getting emails and phone calls...etc...from past people we have dated/had relationships with. I've had a few people even say that if it doesn't end up working out between us to give them a call....I find this weird...and wonder if my fiance is feilding offers like this too. It is just odd to me that hearing about an ex finding happiness would seem to encourage some people to try to get in there and confuse things...although I know that if something is strong and you really mean it no one can get in the middle....and that those past relationships did not work for a reason....sheesh. I trust him and believe in myself....and I told him although I know it is happening...I would rather not hear about it. And I would rather not tell him who calls or mails and everything they say...it doesn't matter to me....and why make him anxious? I guess what I am asking is, is this some kind of test? Is this why people announce engagements? Is he correct when he says he wants to let me know who mails or calls him, that he wants to be open? Or can I spare myself knowing...and visa versa and just know that we have chosen each other and no one else matters? I feel like he was just trying to see if I would become jealous if he told me....and I don't really feel like telling him who has contacted me...because it doesn't matter. Any thoughts?
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    I think it is callled....Kouros....omygosh....good stuff ! I hate polo...my brother used to bathe in it...bleah !
  12. fnlyfrei
    Wow, girlfriend drowned and mother murdered. That is a lot to deal with.
  13. fnlyfrei
    sorry...EX wife....( I hate that when someone refers to my ex as my "husband"...
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    link removed This kind of explains what a guardiam ad litem is, basically...it is supposed to be a person who takes no sides in a custody case and helps decide what is in a childs best interest. If it is determined that your ex wife is making despairaging remarks about you, or psychologically abusing your children....she may have some rights taken away. Or time with the kids. My ex completely lost custody because he kept my son away from me, purposefully, and told him horrible things....even tried to make sure I did not see him on his birthday when he went out of town on a business trip...had him stay with a family he hardly knew ! The judge saw right through that. Your wifes behavior hopefully wont come to that..but her behavior even now is damaging your kids. That makes me mad.
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    I work in an elementary school clinic....I see and have seen ALOT of kids...her stomach aches are probably most likely emotional. That is a child's number one complaint when things are not right at home. Take her to a Dr. to be sure..but from what it sounds like....her mothers behavior is giving her much stress. She most likely needs to see a counselor or you should get a guardian ad litem from the courts. Sorry you are going through this...I am getting married this summer for the second time...I hope my ex doesn't flip out.
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    Yeah. Ick. My fiance' is like that too...except he thinks he is perfect and I am a but tubby...I would NEVER poke the little gut he has going on and tell him what he should do...and he knows now that I do not cotton to anyone commenting about my body...weightwise. If he doesn't like me just the way I am...there are other fishes in the sea ! I know what I need to do, and how I should eat. I am a grown up of very reasonable intelligence. Your boyfriend sounds like his insecurites are spilling onto you. He should know with his own body image issues that he has had, to know what NOT to say. Ask him how he felt when he was younger about comments? Veiled in being constructive, it still sounds like a critisizm (sp) A person should change themselves for THEMSELF...not to please everyone else.
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    Wow...heart-shaped necklaces? I will watch out for those
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    I guess he would never find out if he passed said "test"...but if he didn't...I would be the one to end it anyway. If he would meet one woman at random...who's to say she was the only one? And...wouldn't that be putting me at risk? What's the big deal if he were completely innocent? It is different than snooping in his personal things. I wouldn't be doing that. He would have complete freedom of choice in this situation. If someone messed up...it wouldnt be on me.
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    I think I might try it too...I am seriously considering this person for marriage...and I do not think it is wrong to do this...I think it would save alot of heartache later or strengthen the relationship. If some random yet appealing chick wrote to him and he wrote back and wanted to meet (her) after a few conversations....when we are planning on the big "M"...that would be IT. Over....I would set up a meeting place on the fake myspace and then hand him his ring back and just walk away. Would be much simpler than years of crying your eyes out and wondering why he comes home from work late or forgets to call on business trips....I think a persons character would clearly show. If some guy contacted me anyplace...I wouldn't even respond...I have who I want. If he wouldn't do the same..I would know something is very wrong with us. Could be a big test...or nothing. Hopefully the latter.
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    Hmm...you state yourself as "The Other Girl" and you say you can understand if his wife feels bad about seeing you...why? If it is totally above board...why the slight hint of superiority? That is I guess is what would bother me too..the fact that the other girl would feel she somehow won his attention away from me. Meh... And I think anyone can make friends. It is a personal and perhaps self-centered thing to prefer to have exes as friends. Or I guess maybe his wife might feel she is the one that "got him" and knows enough about the past relationship so that she has no worries...she was the "winner". Okay, I feel better now that I vented.
  21. fnlyfrei
    I really like your baby picture on your avatar too...CUTE !!! (Just kidding) : )
  22. fnlyfrei
    By the way, I am NOT a dipcrap. Just sometimes overly sensitive and insecure.
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    Dipcrap? I feel if you broke up there was a reason. And I also feel that you HAVE TO BURN SOME BRIDGES...if you aren't self-centered and want to maintain an honest and true relationship with your new SO...especially IF the ex dipcrap still has any feelings whatsoever, sexual or heartfelt...unless you are so narccisistic that you cannot consider how anyone else would feel but yourself !' As for me in this situation. I will push to meet her. If I get the vibes that they...either one of them are still having some kind of chemistry going on...(which I believe I am very in tune with....) I am outta there. I am done. I won't even argue or try to argue with him. Life is too short.
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    CASE IN POINT I went out to meet my best girlfriend in a local pub she sometimes plays pool in. I haven't been out alone in months...so it was nice. Guess who I bump into? The ex bf who dumped ME before I met the person I am with now. Now, most of the reason we broke up was because he had TONS of female friends....close, close female friends. Some ex girlfriends...some were almost girlfriends but it did not work out according to him. So I had a problem with this...he said I was REALLY insecure and would NEVER give up girlfriends to please me. Okay...so we broke up. This is where it gets interesting..... After him arguing endlessly that all these women were platonic friends...like "sisters" this is what happens.... He is dating someone new...cool. In our polite conversation..(we had not seen each other since the breakup) He says he still has feelings for me and if I just say the word...he is MINE. He still LOVES ME. thereforeeee shooting his "I am only true to one woman and all the others are just pals" theory. He knew full well I was dating someone else...and so is he. Makes me feel justified in my first instincts before we broke up... Needless to say, I do not talk to him. I respect my boyfriend too much to claim this other person is my friend. He isn't. Nor really is anyone else I have broken up with. I do not trust them to keep it just friends.
  25. fnlyfrei
    Okay then...doesn't it seem insecure to HAVE to be with them on their "date"..doesn't that itself show I am worried? If I go along, what is to stop me from being overly, extra, showy nice to her to impress him? That is a load of manure too. I have no other reason to meet her except that they share a history...a history that I am not a part of. I have no real desire to make this person my friend...unless it is to make HIM happy. That feels hypocrytical.
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