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fnlyfrei

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  1. Yeah...I want to know what her reaction is...and if ANY number besides 1-10 will be acceptable to you.
  2. Well, like someone stated before...if he were asking nearly a year after we started seeing each other, and his intention was to use it to judge me, label me as "Promiscuous"..and then break up with me...no...and if he were to break up with me for NOT answering...so be it. There are other fishes in the sea. You have a choice to ask and question you want to ask. The person being asked has a right NOT to answer. Cool eh?
  3. Sure. He should go ahead and ask her...but as has been stated and RE stated..he says he will not believe her answer anyway...because he states women HERE lie about their numbers anyway...(whatever) So I am thinking he just needs to break up with her. It's better than name calling, judging and mistrust.
  4. Well, he waited EIGHT MONTHS into the relationship to ask. Gimme a break.
  5. And again Grosse....they think YOU are the "**" because you are female...the guys recieving it can't help themselves because men are just pleasure oriented, opportunistic animals. They aren't accountable for themselves..they take what is offered. Only women are accountable. Works out nice for them doesn't it?
  6. In our state we have a program in our school district called "Childfind"....Registered nurses evaluate and refer children to whichever health care professionals they deem useful. They can screen for many, many different syndromes and hone in on what this baby might be dealing with...be it autism, brain injury, or behavioral issues brought on by his neglect...things like the trash and hoarding food are sure signs that the poor kid was starved. I commend you for taking this all on...you are an angel in my book. I grew up in foster care...there are good and not so good placements on both sides. You sound like one of the good ones. Have you ever read Dave Pelzers books? (A child called "It" was the first one) Or Tori Hayden...she is a former teacher who taught emotionally disturbed children in the 70's....I hope you are getting the support and breaks you need so that you can be the best and happiest person you can be. Try to remember your own needs so that you can be the happiest person...I hope you know how much of an impact you are having in those little lives....and it sounds like your heart is in it.... ((((HUGS!))))
  7. Oh my gosh...and you are only 14....this is too much for you to handle on your own kiddo....you need to talk to an adult about what to do. This is waaay past overwhelming. I am sure if your dad knew about what you know..he would DIE. Maybe that is the shock he needs.
  8. Back to the unemployed biker banging thing...what did that have to do with interpretation of a female? I guess as a female the biggest frustration would be talking for ten minutes about something...pausing for an answer from him on a relatively important subject and he finally peels his eyes off the telly long enough to grunt...."Hunh?"
  9. Yes...but it isn't talked about because they wouldn't want to be judged. Much like most women wouldn't disclose their "numbers" and be judged. And again...it's in the past...it's none of anyone's business... I was just trying to give some of the men here a relative point of reference...perhaps a different perspective to how one-sided they are being.
  10. Hmmm...and why don't some men admit that they experimented with other men in their younger years? I guess that would be a good question to ask in return. It happens more than admitted...but if everyone needs to be HONEST and TRUTHFUL....I think this would balance out the stigma scales quite a bit.
  11. [ANd it's so ridiculous how a lot of you women out there always say how "the past is the past" and how it is not important. I think those of you who do say it, are ASHAMED of your past, so it's easier to say that it isn't important. I don't want to bring this up to her, and if I did, she would probably lie about the "number" anyway. But I really want to know if she has been around or not. ....insert trashmails comment about me stigmitizing myself as a liar... So...if a female defends the right not to answer the question because....gee....he isn't going to believe you anyhow....and if you do answer honestly you WILL be judged.... it is assumed she has something to hide and she lies anyhow... I guess the whole women being stigmatized is so very wrong...especially according to these guys.
  12. No, I believe he was saying that he did not trust her to tell the truth. It had nothing to do with me personally...and I meant he probably would not trust any womans answer. Whats with your crazy amazement with "stigmas"? I believe you are getting personal here..and I do not appreciate it.
  13. And he has already stated he doesn't even trust her answer even if she does answer...he said she will probably LIE. Why is that on HER?
  14. What is wrong with that? Either he handles it or not. If he can't then it is better NOT to be with him. Yeah..he should just get it over with. Then they both can move on...either together or apart. But another question...if he asks every woman he dates...how can he be SURE they aren't lying? Hmmm...you know how women are....
  15. I can see trust an honesty at the starting point of the relationship two people have....but to want to dredge up someones past so that you can point and judge? It is clear he will judge her on it. And waiting nearly a year...after a person has fallen in love with you seems very unfair. He said that he was sure she would lie about it. Where is the trust there? She seems to be in a no-win situation with him. Some of us females just put ourselves in her place....and we think HE was lacking in honesty about what was important to him..to wait this long to bring up a dealbreaker...and then to ask a question and already know you probably will not believe the answer...HE has no trust. As above in the vagina measuring comment...how could she win? Seems she cannot in this situation.
  16. Mocking his post? Having a different opinian isn't mocking someone. It is just a different opinian. And I believe he eluded to the fact that we females were ashamed of our pasts...and Michelleth and Amber just said that they were proud of their conquests. No one was hurt. It was equal fire.
  17. I suppose if it is his business, and he did not want anyone's opinian...he wouldn't have posted the question on a public forum....he would have just asked her. Maybe...just maybe...in the back of his mind he knows asking is going to be a big issue.... A prostitute? Sure...if we were exclusive and he did that...but before I met him? None of my business.
  18. Bwah-ha ha ha....you two are awesome.( Hazey and Michelleth) My ex used to buy me sex toys and hide them when he wasn't home. I guess he was jealous. (?) He is now a fundamentalist christian. And alone. Maybe he will find a nice amish girl. This thread so reminds me of his attitudes.
  19. It's like, listen to what I mean...not always what I say.... I agree, it is hard for us to understand one another....males and females. Why do you think the divorce rate is so astronomical? Learning to communicate with these strange creatures takes much schooling. Read books.
  20. I also do not believe most people go at sex for sport. I think a great number of people HOPE that the person they are going to sleep with will be "the one"...and it just doesn't turn out. As in a 36 year olds case...she has been waiting for thirty six years to find the perfect person.... I suppose you would advocate no sex before marriage. Did you sleep with her yet? You might have been the one pushing her numbers out of your accepted range. And if sex is THAT special....and you hold it to spiritual and it defines peoples characters...why would you want an answer NOW? I thought sex was so special? And no, I am not ashamed of my past, and wouldn't be...you can't change the past. You learn from it. And should not be judged or punished for it by someone who for some reason feels superior. Stay away from those people. What did jesus say? "If any of you believe you have not sinned...cast the first stone". ?
  21. So, I guess if it is indeed a dealbreaker for you, you should ask right away and break up if need be, so that she can move on. I also feel that some men have a separate set of rules for women they just have sex with, and the women they want to marry.
  22. Well, if you are born naturally skilled at sex, with no prior experiences, the other inexperienced person would probably be happy with you. Because they don't know any better...they would not have anything to compare it to. Also...if you keep them AWAY from other men..that helps. I suggest a guarded compound in the mountains. Sorry, this is getting ridiculous. But in my opinian, even when I was very young and not even married yet...I would not have answered that question...the question is setting up a judgement...and I think it is unfair given the attitude of society. And SOME males. Perhaps they should move to Abu Dhabi after all....
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