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I am sort of going through the same thing...dating someone new, we are crazy for each other...(not 11 months like you though..yet) and there are times that we both need some space ! I actually feel better when I have a day or two on my own...and yes, there are times we both feel a bit insecure about being apart. She needs to know that when you aren't together that you still love her, and that you are coming back. And...make sure that you also give her the time to be off doing whatever she likes with her friends and you aren't acting clingy too....my boyfriend seems cool about it when HE plans time for himself..but when I do the same..or it's my choice...I can tell he isn't too excited. But it runs both ways. It's about trust.

Isn't dating the schnizzle? And yeah, I did the same thing...I was so crazy about someone I blurted out the big three just weeks into it myself...and no, he did not say it back. Yes, I felt like kicking myself too. So I just stopped saying it..I backed off a bit. A few weeks later he comes to my door for a date...(I had never asked him in before..this evening I asked him to step in) He reaches around from behind his back with two long-stem red roses and tells me that yes, he loves me too. WOW. I still have the dried roses...and yes, I am hoping that he is forever. Step back. Give her some breathing room. Relax, sounds like things are great. Male or female, when we want something that badly, we need to step back or we can smother it before it has a chance to breathe. I am happy for you. Bestest wishes !!!

Yeah, dramatic deaths ARE over rated...try a phenomenal life instead. It kicks * * * * over the dramatic death. (Besides, you will never be able to brag to your grandchildren about your death anyway. )

Not to mention, that if any man shoved, pushed, kicked, slapped or even entertained the thought...of hurting me...he would be missing whatever part of his body he extended to do me any harm. And mentally..that is even worse...its freaking poisonous! Plug your ears and don't listen to his lies ! Or better yet...invite ME over !

Um...wow. Likes you better skinnier eh? Well, my ex husband liked me better and treated me better when I was thinner...so I lost lots of weight, got into awesome shape and realized that when I lost weight and felt good about myself he suddenly did not seem good enough for me. So I left him. This guy would probably freak out if you were suddenly full of self-esteem...weight or no weight lost. He is the insecure one. If you did get into string bikini shape..he would lock you in a closet. Get away from him...he probably knows already you are too good for him. Prove him right.

In the world we live in, depression isn't very far away. There are lots of people who have gone through the same (or close) **** that you have. Let me say, it's definitely not fair. It sucks. You can either think about all that and just evaporate...and let the world win...or you can turn around and fight back....the best revenge is to succeed. To be a success is as simple as finally being happy. Don't let the bastards grind you down ! One of the people who has been an ispiration to me in this life (because my life wasn't a picnic as a child either...a club none of us want to be a part of) His name is David Pelzer. He wrote a book titled "A Child Called "IT"....I met him at a book signing too...I gave him a hug. He, for all intensive purposes, shouldn't be here...but he is a fighter. Part of your depression is that you are letting the ones who abused you and label you ,DEFINE you...if you drug yourself into a stupor or take your life...you are doing what they expected of you. The creeps will shrug and say "Yeah...we knew it all along..".... Try this. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps. Fake a smile until you actually feel like smiling...get out into the world and find someone to help. Helping someone else will help you realize that you do make a difference. And you do. And you will. There is a reason you are here. Here is a piece from the Desiderada. This part inspires me. Hang in there kid!!!!!! ((HUG)) Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a healthy discipline, Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here, and whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

I met the person I am now dating online...his profile said he was an inch taller than he actually is...we are nearly the same height....I did not like his profile really...and he was sorta cute. When we met for coffee finally....coffee lasted three hours, then we went out to eat and talked for a few more hours. I am very smitten with him as of now..(here's hopin'! )I just think that if it clicks it clicks...if it is meant to be it will happen..the essential things that need to be there ,just have to be there..online or not.

I broke up with someone who had this same issue..he had mostly female friends...by choice...which okay, I had to had to learn to deal with it..they were there before I was. BUT...I felt that these friends took my place in some ways...the place of a significant other....this was purposeful on his part because before I met him they bridged a gap and met an emotional need in his life....but after we started getting serious..that needed to change and he resisted completely. Also..he knew that I really did not want to hear about him going on and on about how he USED to spend every day with this hot chick who was just a friend...or that one...(like I was keeping him from them..ugh!) I felt he was pushing my buttons after a while...he enjoyed my pangs of jealousy. Toward the end he would break dates because he had been neglecting his chickfriends who needed him...so he could take them to coffee and talk. Um, I said "No thank you"...and cut him loose. Now he can spend inordinate amounts of time with them with no distraction from me. Maybe I am petty. We all just have our limits. I know to have friends, male and female is healthy. My problem is, male friends, unless they are gay, are hard to find. Usually men want more. I think women find it easier to be just friends...all in all, this whole subject confuses me at times. Can we all just get along? I dunno.