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I think you should go for it. If she isnt much of a "social butterfly" always going to parties and being flirty and then here she was sitting on your lap and holding hands, I think its a good sign. Go for it!!

No I dont, but then I have had almost year to get over it. I love the memories that I have, but any love in any regard to the ex, nope. If I use your question on my first love, then yes would be the answer. I will always love him. I will be there for him if he ever needs me. I dont love the person he became after the Marines and life got to him, but I will never stop loving the soul of him that I fell in love with. I wont stop loving the part of him who could make me laugh in the darkest of times, or the part that was always there for me when I needed him the most. so is it normal? I think so, but I also think that the intensity of those feelings of love for who was will fade over time. LeAnn

It sounds like she is a conflicted woman. I think she probably does love you, but maybe she felt like her staying would only hurt you b/c of her sons. I am sorry you have to go through all of this. Maybe she just needs time to get her feelings sorted out. Do you have anyway to contact her?

I had that exact experience. My ex and I were in love or so I thought. We had a date set. (A big deal for me cause I am ceremony phobic, the commitment part I can do, ceremony no way). After we broke up the nasty, used butt wipe came out and I saw my ex in a whole new way and I felt totally used and duped. I chalk it up to my ex was youger than me, and we were 19 and 22 when we started dating, by the time we were finished we were 22 and 25. I being older was ready to settle down and at 22 my ex needed to grow up. My ex was more mature when we started dating than at the end. I am glad to hear you have moved on, more power to you! LeAnn

I forgot about that one. yes i did listen to that a lot on the radio. I should have posted these earlier. These are the lyrics to Josh Groban's Never Let Go. As I said before I am pretty spirtiual so I imagined it was God saying to me to never let go on love. That I would mend, and I would find love again. It is an amazing song, and I would love to hear what you all think. He also did a song called Broken Vow, but I couldnt listen to that for a LONG time. I will post those lyrics too. LeAnn~ Josh Groban - Never Let Go Lyrics (feat. Deep Forest) I can't understand it. The search for an answer is met with a darker day. And we've been handed these moments forever. But I'm reassured there's another way. You don't have to close your eyes. There is room for love again. Ease the pain to realize All that love can be. Forced apart by time and sand. Take a step and take my hand. And don't let it go. Never let go. Broken, once connected, We were so strong and so blessed in a simple way. So don't let me go it alone. Turn your head up to the sky. Nothing down below but me. Face the truth to realize All that we could be. Torn apart by rage and fear. Hold onto what brought you here. Don't let it go. Never let go. Turn your head up to the sky. Nothing down below. Don't let go. Josh Groban - Broken Vow Lyrics Tell me his name I want to know The way he looks And where you go I need to see his face I need to understand Why you and I came to an end Tell me again I want to hear Who broke my faith in all these years Who lays with you at night When I'm here all alone Remembering when I was your own I let you go I let you fly Why do I keep on asking why I let you go Now that I found A way to keep somehow More than a broken vow Tell me the words I never said Show me the tears you never shed Give me the touch That one you promised to be mine Or has it vanished for all time [Chorus] I close my eyes And dream of you and I And then I realize There's more to love than only bitterness and lies I close my eyes I'd give away my soul To hold you once again And never let this promise end [Chorus]

My ex and I had a hellish break up. We were together for 3 years we had a date set and everything. When we broke up my uncle was dying. She went to see him in the hospital, and then went to see her friends with out stopping by to see me. (I was 7 min down the road) b/c she didnt think I needed her to stop by. It was really crappy, esp b/c she knew we were close, & b/c I had lost my dad just a few years prior. Needless to say it was a super rough time. The song that got me through was Josh Groban's Never Let Go. I still get choked up thinking about it and it was a year ago. If you havent heard it, you should take a listen. I am a spiritual person and I imagined it was God telling me Never Let Go and that made it all the more powerful. Take care, L~

HMMMM, you would think if she was as upset as you are, you would get a bit more of her time. HMMM. I hope all goes well with your talk. It sounds like its time for you two to really make some decisions.

LOL you just have to take it one day at time and remember to breathe, that's all. I know its so easy to get swept up into a whirlwind of emotion, but I am glad to see you are stepping back and really evaluating. Bravo!!~~

I am sorry to hear about your rough patch. I dont know any offhand. My recommendation is to google your city or state and free counseling. I dont know if you are in college or school, but a lot of times you can get free counseling there. Also if you are spirtiually inclined you might try a local pastor. Take care and hang in there. If you feel the need to talk more in-depth feel free to message me.

Allie ~ A all the way. Its only fair to both of your feelings. If you are interested and he really respects you he will stick around. I am sorry to hear you got your heart broken, and I totally understand where you are coming from. I really thing honesty and communication here is your best bet. My fingers are crossed for ya!! LeAnn

You arent retarded. Emotions are natural and healthy and they need to run their course. Yes its a small strange world, but it happened. Its one of life's oopsies. You are in a great relationship now, I wouldnt worry about it. It would get to me too, like it is you, but after a bit I would just laugh it off. After all you got him, she didn't.

Blucollar ~ Have you all talked about getting married? LeAnn

Wow blucollar sounds like you are having a stressful time It is much harder for single moms to have a "social life", kudos to you for recognizing that and adjusting. Not to sound harsh, but it sounds like she is not making your relationship a priority, and maybe even taking advantage of your tolerance I have been in those kind of relationships and it was never beneficial. Have you talked to her about this issue? Have you tried doing something different, maybe instead of dinner at the house, picnic in the backyard or park where her child can play? what did you say when she said she figured you would leave? and what was her response to that? Not that I am aware of.....to answer your second question, their are lots of people who have different beliefs and they are together, it just takes a lot of communication and respect. Maybe she needs to be prodded a bit more to open up and communicate her issues to you You letting her in is great, now she needs to let you in. I can understand that it all hurts, and I hope that things get better for you LeAnn

I would try practicing some of these swallowing techniques, but I wouldnt try them with your meds. I would start small, say like a tic tac, and then move up to plain M&M;s and then the last and final wouldbe peanut M&M;s or something of a similar side. If you do not manage to swallow you get a consolation prize, fresh breath or chocolate goodness!

The only thing that you want to consider is that it is not nearly as easy to go back at 22 as it is to keep going. Trust me on this. I was forced to break from getting my degree at 22 and it took awhile for me to get back to it. Now at 26, I am hoping to be done by 29.

Money God had some awesome points and I agree with them. The one quality that is missing I think from these posts is you should be a gentleman. Put her needs before your own. (OK hold on one second and here me out! I am not saying be her slave!) I am saying that notice if there is a chill in the air, offer her your coat, open doors, say please and thank you, all of that is great, and when I see that I know I think it is very attractive. Something else that is attractive to women? Listen to her. I read something earlier today that said as humans we have 2 ears and 1 mouth and we should use them in that ratio. It was very accurate to me. I hope this helps! Take care! L~

Hey chillins I can sympathize with your feelings. have you thought about moving to a new city? Get a fresh start? Sometimes its nice to go somewhere where you can start over. It might be just the thing you need. LeAnn

It has been said to that you shouldnt lose more than a pound a week. Here are a few tips I follow 1. Drink water 2. Do not skip meals 3. Snack all you want on fruit and veggies 4. At meals make sure you have lots of color on your plate e.g. instead of a baked potato go orange and have a sweet potato 5. Make your meat portion the same size or smaller than your veggies 6.At restaraunts if you want dressing/butter/ sour cream you can have (although its better if you dont) if you do though, ask for it on the side so you can monitor your portions. 7. When you order a sandwhich get it without the cheese and mayo ~ that saves a lot on calories. Plus if you order water at restaraunts you would be surprised at how much $$ you can save as most places charge almost 2.00 a glass. Its such a ripoff. I never get soda or tea out. I can but 4 liters of the stuff for what they want for one glass! I dont do a lot of hard core strenuous exercise everyday, but i just like to keep moving. I hope this helps. Good luck in your journey

I dont know if it would help or not, but I use apple cider vinegar on my hair. It takes the product goo and build up out of my hair and leaves it super soft. When I use it I dont use conditioner. The smell is a bit much at first, but it does go away, (i promise) just rinse well in cool water. My mom has baby fine hair and not much of it and even she can use it. It works just as well as expensive clarifiers and its a lot easier on the budet. I use it when I notice my hair is dull flat and limp and it gives it an awesome boost.

I totally understand where you are coming from. I felt much the same way at your age. The key is to enjoy your life as it is now. I know that sounds almost impossible, but it really is important. If you are involved in school and in activities that you love you will have more opportunity to meet more people and to meet that special someone. You just need to realize that if it doesnt happen that it, and you, are okay too. You will still have met great people and had lots of good times and memories. That part of highschool is priceless. As far as still being a virgin, you should be proud of that. Once its gone, you cant get it back, and when you decide to give that gift he should be a very special person. I look at it this way, each I have sex before I am married that is that much less of my to give to my future partner, so I wait. Just take a deep breath, and hang in there. Its a stressful bumpy ride, but it can be loads of fun! LeAnn

Hey easyguy, Its good to hear that you are doing well!! I know what you mean about a fresh start. I used to tell my mom, Sometimes I want to go where no one knows my name." I hope that you fufill all your goals, and good luck at your new school! LeAnn

You just need to take things one day at a time. If you feel like you are putting the pressure on your bf maybe it is good that you two will have some time apart. Have you thought about talking to a professional about the happenings in you life? That way you could release and vent and it might take some of the pressure off of your relationship. I hope you are feeling more OK soon

wow you deleted this just a few hours before I came on to read it. I hope things get better for you.

That is a lovely thought!